LEOS mind games I cant take it anymore

I am beyond confused.......i tell you beyond ..one minute he calls me sweetheart but when i do no contact thing... he reaches out to me so i just answer his question and then dont really have no convo with him.. so i do my own thing .. with my own life but seem like he doesnt liek that what am i to do why is he confusing me like this

OMG i can totally feel you on this one....I too have a bf that is a LEO I'm Taurus and he is driving me crazy...i was online today typing in a question for google "why do leo take tarus love for granted" and this site came up and I read a couple of your post and was in tears.....me and my bf just had a big arguement this morning. Basically he is accusing me of talking with other men and he fear that and pretty much said he couldn't go on with our relationship. He is so insecure and it drives me nuts. I was in tears right there in front of my daughters preschool. He is bad with timing and dont too much care when he is going to be sweet one minute and a A $ $ hole the next. wow I'm so stressed out but stil love him and I know he loves me....its just he is so controlling I don't know what else to do.....I think I've been too giving and sincere and nice to him...its been a crazy 16 months with him.

but never did it ... and never told him bout it ...

since you read some of mine you will know where im comming from mine is the same way im a n aquariums and like we are not together but he treats me like we are and as soon as he sees me on fb and some guy likes my status he will like it to if he sees that im going out he would be likeoh i see you had fun and be sarcastic... im doen with this mindfucking game...so pretty much im done so now i look at his fb asn his friends tagged him in 5 photos of him passed out with my pictured in his hands

DUDE WHY ARE YOU SO FUCKING NEGATIVE ALL THE TIME .. I MEAN HOLY SHIT IF I WANTED TO LISTEN TO ANOTHER ARROGANT ASSHOLE..... I THINK I WILL CALL MY EX

Posted by GAGA
I am beyond confused.......i tell you beyond ..one minute he calls me sweetheart but when i do no contact thing... he reaches out to me so i just answer his question and then dont really have no convo with him.. so i do my own thing .. with my own life but seem like he doesnt liek that what am i to do why is he confusing me like this

He doesn't want a convo GAGA. He wants sex. You are always available.

Why is he the asshole now? He broke up with you and told you he doesn't want a relationship with you. He was up front about it. Yet you refuse to accept it and continually stalk him and ignore what we have all been telling you because you are under the misguided hope that your FWB will turn into something of substance.

Now you're calling eee an asshole for telling you the truth about your plan to steal or trash the guy's car and place a fake ad on craigslist with his phone number. Do you really not see this dark and ugly place you are in?

GaGa you need to distance yourself from your ex so YOU can move on. Find something else to focus your energy on like a hobby. Or even go volunteer or something.

He broke up with you and yes he may still have feelings for you, but he doesn't want a relationship. You need to understand and accept that.

you all right.. i have not been having sex with him..at all after that one time .. i do not text him first he does... so i dont know what to do with that .. but i have been doing everything you guys told me

i do understand that but why does he keep telling me he does want one he just needs to think about it .. and then he will contact me first .. or if i go out on dates he will say sarcastic things to me .. such as oh did you have funn yeah i bet stuff like that

Because he may still have feelings for you. However, don't confuse that with him wanting or thinking about getting back together with you.

If most of these "sarcastic" messages have been sent through text or fb (basically they were not said verbally) you could be misunderstanding the tone. Meaning he may not have meant for them to be sarcastic. Or, even though he doesn't want a relationship, he may not want someone else to have you either.

What it comes down to is that you are still too emotionally involved with this situation to even make a "just friends" relationship go smoothly. My suggestion would be to tell out right that you are having a hard time and you need space. And by space I mean no contact between you two for at least a month or two. Say whatever you want to say, but it is going to be more difficult and take longer to get over him if you stay in constant contact with him than if you give yourself a break from him.

I can't remember how long you said you were together, but typically it takes six months for every year you were together to fully move on. However, that's only if you aren't holdin onto a misguided hope that the two of you will get back together and everything will be fine.

YEAH .. YOU ARE SO RIGHT HE HAS BEEN DOING ALL THIS ... I THINK HE IS JUST FEELING MY HEAD WITH HOPES ... AND I CANT DO IT ANYMORE....he does get on facebook and like all the things other man liked .... but never has he asked to go out or anything ...I get confusing signals with him texting me stuff like hiiii how are you .. or anything like that... I feel like i will be so rude by ignoring him . we were together for 6 months... And i think you are right he dont want anyone to have me Like for example on my fb i will say ..going out . about to have fun ...and some guy would like it ... then my ex would like it cuz he liked it and then .. he will send me a text saying oh so did you have playing pool its like mindfucking .. its annoying ..i really dont know where to turn ... but when i tell him its best if we dont talk .. for a while he goes if thats what you want but i will be hurt ..and thats where he confuses me

At this point what he feels doesn't matter. Yes that sounds cold, but its at the point where you need to be selfish and focus on your own (emotional) well being.

No matter what he says, you need to tell him you need a couple months to focus on YOU and during that time you don't want to have ANY contact with him. I've been through this and it got to the point where I had to block the guy on fb and even block his phone number. He then started contacting my friends and I told them I just didn't want to hear about it. Once I moved on I realized I didn't even want to be friends with someone who couldn't respect my simple wish to be left alone (there were other reasons too).

YES,YOU ARE RIGHT ... I JUST CHECKED HIS PG AND THE PIC THAT HIS FRIENDS TOOK OF HIM WITH HIM HOLDING MY PIC HE UNTAGGED HIM SELF... I JUST PRETTY MUCH JUST THINK WHAT IM GOING TO DO IS NOT REALLY HANG ON FB THAT MUCH THERE FOR HE WONT KNOW WHATS GOING ON WITH ME ..IF HE TEXTS ME I WILL IGNORE HIM .. BUT I DONT KNOW IF IGNORING IS THE GOOD THING BUT THEN AGAIN HE IS DOING THE SAME THING... I DO CARE ABOUT HIM AND SOMETHING IN MY HEAD TELLS ME THAT MAYBE I SHOULD BE NICE TO HIM AND NOT RUDE AND HE MIGHT GIVE ME A CHANCE HE SAID HE IS THINKING BOUT IF I AM THE RIGHT ONE FOR HIM ... BUT YET WHEN I DID THE NO CONTACT THING FROM FRIDAY -MONDAY IT DROVE HIM CRAZY .. I KNOW IT DID CUZ HE CALLED ME TO SEE ME

Ok. No offense, but its really annoying to read something in all caps. I know most people don't use punctuation or proper grammar on this site; however, when you mix that with having everything in caps...well it just gets plain annoying.

I would let him know that you are going to cut contact. At least that's what I would do, but what you decide to do is up to you.


The biggest thing is, don't cave. Stick to your guns.

Whatever you do ...be upfront and honest ... They will respect that and will respect you. Ithink most people would ..not just leo's. The mind games will never go away if you keep the mentality ... you can NOT play them. You may just be thinking too much.

sorry yeah i know i do that alot .. i guess i like it that way nothing to make my self clear but i just do it sorry

well he just called me today and i really didnt have much to say to him .. he just wanted to know what i was up to i said nothign ..he said what u doing to night(he hasto know all the time )so i said idk .. its like he is not entitled to know anything anymore

i DID... I SAID I think we shouldnt talk or have anycontact for a while .. ... I DELETED HIM OF MY FRIENDS LIST .. .. BUT HE KEEPS TURINGIN IT AROUND SAYING ... I CHEATED ON HIM AND SHIT LIKE THAT SHOULD I IGNORE THOSE COMMENTS ... NOT REPLY TO NOTHING

Posted by GAGA
since you read some of mine you will know where im comming from mine is the same way im a n aquariums and like we are not together but he treats me like we are and as soon as he sees me on fb and some guy likes my status he will like it to if he sees that im going out he would be likeoh i see you had fun and be sarcastic... im doen with this mindfucking game...so pretty much im done so now i look at his fb asn his friends tagged him in 5 photos of him passed out with my pictured in his hands

Leos will do that too you. He likes you...prob even loves you, but his pride gets in the way. This was the same thing I dealt with with my leo for years. I finally pulled away and then we decided to try again now that things are stable. So far so good.

I think I've said this before. You can either hold on or let go and hope you don't get reeled in again because it sucks when they are calling you sweetheart one second and then being cold the next. Hopefully you won't have to deal with it for as long as I did.

Posted by GAGA
i DID... I SAID I think we shouldnt talk or have anycontact for a while .. ... I DELETED HIM OF MY FRIENDS LIST .. .. BUT HE KEEPS TURINGIN IT AROUND SAYING ... I CHEATED ON HIM AND SHIT LIKE THAT SHOULD I IGNORE THOSE COMMENTS ... NOT REPLY TO NOTHING

Lol ok my leo never did this to me. At this point it gets childish and I would have gotten pissed and blocked him and laughed at how delusional he was. What a joke

Long story short ... he asked for me to be back with him ... he said he will delete the dating website... he will change his number..and .. all he took me to the beach and we talked and he opened up more then ever .. he grabbed my hand first which he never did... and he said he is sorry so i said why made u want me back and were u going to ask me or wait for me to tell u to leave me alone for good he said no i was going to ask you over dinner....and i went over there for 2 nights we didnt argue he has been very nice ... but he knows im not dealing with bullshit anymore... so i dont know if he will change or not...

Posted by GAGA
he said he will delete the dating website...

You told us you were stalking him, but this screams your desperation.

Posted by GAGA
but he knows im not dealing with bullshit anymore... so i dont know if he will change or not...

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The only thing you are not dealing with is something called: "Reality".

Why should he change? He has exactly what he wants.....FWB. And he didn't lie to you to get it.

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"but he knows im not dealing with bullbutter anymore... so i dont know if he will change or not..."

Really happy for u guys GAGA.. However u have some changing to do aswell. Not only HIM.. Ur insecurities, winning all the time, yelling for nothing and acusing him of always lying.. So yes he has his share to do but u have urs !!

Good luck

all of you guys are right in some way .... but I do play alot of parts in this relationship that can be blamed... and i told him that ... while i was with him for 4 day when his phone would get a text i didnt move or try to reach it i just kept positive thought and said its nothing and went to sleep .. also he has not been getting texts late at night... he has been more sweet... he actually texts me first now.. i try to give him time to miss me ...

I was actually in the same situation. From the begging my Leo was very upfront and honest with me that all he wanted was sex. (He got screwed over a couple of years ago and he's never fully recovered.) He said I was part of the reason he started going to therapy for trying to fix his relationship issue but I have yet to see any improvement. We've been doing the same song and dance for over a year now and I still have not given in and had sex with him. He knows if there's no commitment then there will be no screwing either. You have to be a beast sometimes, that's the only way they'll respect you.

while we was broken up i did have sex with him only once then i realized why would he buy a cow if he get the milk for free and i stopped.... now we are back together .. and he has been texting call me first so im yet to see more improvement

Posted by GAGA
while we was broken up i did have sex with him only once then i realized why would he buy a cow if he get the milk for free and i stopped.... now we are back together .. and he has been texting call me first so im yet to see more improvement

Interesting...this happened to me with my leo. I mean where he came back and started texting me first and got all sweet and stuff. I think I shared a lil of that on the forums, but recently he's just had even more of a softness about him. It's like the time we had apart for a year made all the difference.

Wonder if this is a leo thing...this almost sudden change from cold to sweet.

I only been apart from him for 3 weeks .. sad i know .lol but ask soon as i said i am done iam leaving .. he said he will do what ever i wish .. even if it means me leaving.. thenthe other day he said me talking to him changed his mind .. that he missed me etc... but now that we are bakc we are trying to gain the turst back .. but like today i heard from him around 6 and thats it (and i had to text him first)and then on fb ..

I swaer, Aquas are braindead. BRAINDEAD i tell you. They seem smart and they are better at math than most, yet emotionally the lights are on but there's no one at home.

I think Tamara on page one had a good point. Read it, live it.

Posted by Rae91
I was actually in the same situation. From the begging my Leo was very upfront and honest with me that all he wanted was sex. (He got screwed over a couple of years ago and he's never fully recovered.) He said I was part of the reason he started going to therapy for trying to fix his relationship issue but I have yet to see any improvement. We've been doing the same song and dance for over a year now and I still have not given in and had sex with him. He knows if there's no commitment then there will be no screwing either. You have to be a beast sometimes, that's the only way they'll respect you.

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Is this true with Leo's?