@Leobaby89
9 Years
Too caring
Why Leos Often Care Too Much About Others
Leos are naturally generous and caring, which can lead them to overextend themselves for others. They seek recognition and appreciation but may feel unappreciated when their efforts go unnoticed. Understanding boundaries helps Leos balance their compassion with self-care to avoid burnout.
Yes and they feel like crap when I stop talking to them and stop doing things for them...but that's the Leo heart for ya...
Posted by MoonshineLeo
Yes and they feel like crap when I stop talking to them and stop doing things for them...but that's the Leo heart for ya...
Yes! I find myself caring about people so much. I tend to take on their issues, trying to fix them. I am always the one everyone can go to. I swear this big Leo heart is the devil! Lol.
Posted by MoonshineLeo
Yes and they feel like crap when I stop talking to them and stop doing things for them...but that's the Leo heart for ya...Yes! I find myself caring about people so much. I tend to take on their issues, trying to fix them. I am always the one everyone can go to. I swear this big Leo heart is the devil! Lol.
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There's nothing wrong with being like that. But some people do NOT deserve this side of us. I repeat some DO NOT deserve this. You already know how much we hurt when it isn't reciprocated. Don't go above and beyond for someone who won't for you.
Posted by MoonshineLeo
Yes and they feel like crap when I stop talking to them and stop doing things for them...but that's the Leo heart for ya...Yes! I find myself caring about people so much. I tend to take on their issues, trying to fix them. I am always the one everyone can go to. I swear this big Leo heart is the devil! Lol.
There's nothing wrong with being like that. But some people do NOT deserve this side of us. I repeat some DO NOT deserve this. You already know how much we hurt when it isn't reciprocated. Don't go above and beyond for someone who won't for you.
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I struggle with this. I am always doing things for people even if they do not deserve it. You're absolutely right though.
Posted by MoonshineLeo
Yes and they feel like crap when I stop talking to them and stop doing things for them...but that's the Leo heart for ya...Yes! I find myself caring about people so much. I tend to take on their issues, trying to fix them. I am always the one everyone can go to. I swear this big Leo heart is the devil! Lol.
There's nothing wrong with being like that. But some people do NOT deserve this side of us. I repeat some DO NOT deserve this. You already know how much we hurt when it isn't reciprocated. Don't go above and beyond for someone who won't for you.
I struggle with this. I am always doing things for people even if they do not deserve it. You're absolutely right though.
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I know the feeling. And then people like us too late once our feelings are completely gone and we do nothing for them anymore. If it's a guy you're going above and beyond for just don't. If he's not doing things for you like he should just stop yourself before you start to resent the fact that you give and give. I swear our big hearts get us heartbroken so many times.
Posted by nightowl
yeah can relate😂why do we take things so seriously and end up in this pitiful state more than a hundred times
but can still forgive every single time
But yeah. no more of being a pushover. we got to ice them out, bad treatment= we're done. Us treating you coldly means we're done. No more positive energy, smiles, laughter all warmth is gone from our hearts
I know! I'm so quick to forgive someone! I don't even ask questions I'm just like ok you're sorry? Cool let's move on. And then we get stuck in the same situation AGAIN. then you're like can I even get mad? I'm mad at myself for letting this happen more than once. Maybe I shouldn't forgive so easily and throw in some punishment. But at the end of the day we are not like that and we just want peace. Smh 😹
When I was much younger (20s), I always helped others in whatever it was they needed. Rides, help moving, help with homework, or whatever. Then it got to the point where I was too busy helping others succeed and not helping myself. So yeah, over the last 10 or so years I've switched that up, and I'm a little more selfish these days.
When I was younger, but then I matured and realized that you can't fix people or their issues. It's important to respect yourself and the energy you put out as well. That means I no longer spend much energy on those who don't appreciate what my efforts.
Posted by nightowl
yeah can relate😂why do we take things so seriously and end up in this pitiful state more than a hundred times
but can still forgive every single time
But yeah. no more of being a pushover. we got to ice them out, bad treatment= we're done. Us treating you coldly means we're done. No more positive energy, smiles, laughter all warmth is gone from our hearts
I know! I'm so quick to forgive someone! I don't even ask questions I'm just like ok you're sorry? Cool let's move on. And then we get stuck in the same situation AGAIN. then you're like can I even get mad? I'm mad at myself for letting this happen more than once. Maybe I shouldn't forgive so easily and throw in some punishment. But at the end of the day we are not like that and we just want peace. Smh 😹
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I forgive and forgive and forgive. I get angry with myself all.the time for allowing those toxic individuals back in. The saying if you know better you'd do better obviously does not apply to me here, lol. smh.
Posted by Chuckcem
When I was younger, but then I matured and realized that you can't fix people or their issues. It's important to respect yourself and the energy you put out as well. That means I no longer spend much energy on those who don't appreciate what my efforts.
Hopefully I will be there soon.
Posted by LoudLeo
When I was much younger (20s), I always helped others in whatever it was they needed. Rides, help moving, help with homework, or whatever. Then it got to the point where I was too busy helping others succeed and not helping myself. So yeah, over the last 10 or so years I've switched that up, and I'm a little more selfish these days.
I need to work on being more selfish with me. I was just telling someone that I feel like a trashcan. Where people dump their insecurities, self hate and drama into my life and I take on their issues on personallu and care way more than they do. I hold on to people all the time because I want to help and care. After writing this post last night someone called me and asked for a listening ear and a favor without asking anything about me and I am actually going through so much right now. This is our conversation all the time. He (no romantic interest at all) will call tell me about his situation and then off the phone we go. It's never "hey how are you" and this is just an example of many. I guess I have to start some place so I am putting my foot down. wish me luck, lol. @moonshineleo
Posted by LoudLeo
When I was much younger (20s), I always helped others in whatever it was they needed. Rides, help moving, help with homework, or whatever. Then it got to the point where I was too busy helping others succeed and not helping myself. So yeah, over the last 10 or so years I've switched that up, and I'm a little more selfish these days.I need to work on being more selfish with me. I was just telling someone that I feel like a trashcan. Where people dump their insecurities, self hate and drama into my life and I take on their issues on personallu and care way more than they do. I hold on to people all the time because I want to help and care. After writing this post last night someone called me and asked for a listening ear and a favor without asking anything about me and I am actually going through so much right now. This is our conversation all the time. He (no romantic interest at all) will call tell me about his situation and then off the phone we go. It's never "hey how are you" and this is just an example of many. I guess I have to start some place so I am putting my foot down. wish me luck, lol. @moonshineleo
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what are your personal planets?
because i knew a couple of leo young women and they were very very selfish, me me me me.
in the past. but i also knew some leo women (including our aunty who is selfless) so it would depend.
leo aunty married a Pisces sun, mercury venus and mars in pisces stellium, with libra moon...
and they lived out in a big countryside farm with surrounding beautiful trees and lots of acres of land.
her neighbors were super far away .....cause you know farmland... but she was always there for everyone.
but i also knew some young leo women in my teens and at work in the past who were really only me me me. and crafty girls too.
When ppl "go out of their way to help others" it's usually about them and not the other person. Ax yourself why you need to feel needed. Control?
@lidabethur8 and @oxSunQueenxo how do I find out what my planets are? My moon sign is a cancer I believe. My birthday is July 30, 89 if that helps.
Posted by enfant_terrible
When ppl "go out of their way to help others" it's usually about them and not the other person. Ax yourself why you need to feel needed. Control?
I've always been like that and the line of work that I do I deal with a lot of people and they come in with their issues all day long but more so since the death of my grandma
Posted by LoudLeo
When I was much younger (20s), I always helped others in whatever it was they needed. Rides, help moving, help with homework, or whatever. Then it got to the point where I was too busy helping others succeed and not helping myself. So yeah, over the last 10 or so years I've switched that up, and I'm a little more selfish these days.I need to work on being more selfish with me. I was just telling someone that I feel like a trashcan. Where people dump their insecurities, self hate and drama into my life and I take on their issues on personallu and care way more than they do. I hold on to people all the time because I want to help and care. After writing this post last night someone called me and asked for a listening ear and a favor without asking anything about me and I am actually going through so much right now. This is our conversation all the time. He (no romantic interest at all) will call tell me about his situation and then off the phone we go. It's never "hey how are you" and this is just an example of many. I guess I have to start some place so I am putting my foot down. wish me luck, lol. @moonshineleo
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Be "assertive" Leo. I am an admin at work. Peps come up to my desk and say, "Eva, I need help with DTS". I will look up at them smile, and say, "Good morning!". Their expression changes in a nano second! They will say, "Oh, sorry, good morning!" (then I'll help them).
On the phone you can do the same. "blah, blah, blah, I need help," You: "Hi! How was your day? I am doing fine thank you for asking!" (don't say a word!). If the caller doesn't get it there is your answer.
I do the same via email. When they send me their certificate of completion for training without a 'Hi, Eva" or "Good morning Eva" I send them back an email with just their name and "credit" given to them. They will tend to "get it" if not, then I KNOW they don't care about me and vice versa (rude, crude, dude) or I like to say "dudettes" 😡
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
Posted by LoudLeo
When I was much younger (20s), I always helped others in whatever it was they needed. Rides, help moving, help with homework, or whatever. Then it got to the point where I was too busy helping others succeed and not helping myself. So yeah, over the last 10 or so years I've switched that up, and I'm a little more selfish these days.I need to work on being more selfish with me. I was just telling someone that I feel like a trashcan. Where people dump their insecurities, self hate and drama into my life and I take on their issues on personallu and care way more than they do. I hold on to people all the time because I want to help and care. After writing this post last night someone called me and asked for a listening ear and a favor without asking anything about me and I am actually going through so much right now. This is our conversation all the time. He (no romantic interest at all) will call tell me about his situation and then off the phone we go. It's never "hey how are you" and this is just an example of many. I guess I have to start some place so I am putting my foot down. wish me luck, lol. @moonshineleo
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Maybe this friend really likes your advice. I am always listening to my friends problems. They call me and they talk for hours and I don't even say a word. Some people just want someone to listen to them and I don't mind being that person for my closest friends. When something is on my mind I reach out to them. I don't do it often so when I do they are quick to help me out too. Maybe when your friend calls you again you can be like "can I talk to you about something too? I need your opinion". It's ok to ask for help, don't let your Leo pride get to you like that. Then you get lost in your head and things don't make sense anymore so it's good to have someone to talk to.
I do think Leo's are going through something major right now. Even my other Leo friend has been feeling stuck or in a rut. I think a lot of positive changes are gonna take place and we need to finallyyyyy put our foot down.
Posted by oxSunQueenxo
I don't know if everyone who has commented on this thread is following it, but what are your Moon signs?
My moon is in Aries. Weird cause I'm actually very emotional deeeeeeeeeep down.
Posted by enfant_terrible
When ppl "go out of their way to help others" it's usually about them and not the other person. Ax yourself why you need to feel needed. Control?
THIS! I've noticed this. I do things for other cause I want to be liked. I feel in control. But it's all wrong...some people won't like you either way.
Posted by oxSunQueenxo
I don't know if everyone who has commented on this thread is following it, but what are your Moon signs?My moon is in Aries. Weird cause I'm actually very emotional deeeeeeeeeep down.
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All the Aries I know are emotional but have a tough exterior so this makes sense to me.
Posted by oxSunQueenxo
I don't know if everyone who has commented on this thread is following it, but what are your Moon signs?
That's a great question, and one that I currently don't know. How does one determine their Moon sign?
Posted by enfant_terrible
When ppl "go out of their way to help others" it's usually about them and not the other person. Ax yourself why you need to feel needed. Control?THIS! I've noticed this. I do things for other cause I want to be liked. I feel in control. But it's all wrong...some people won't like you either way.
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It's not just Leos, I noticed the same with Aquas, but also my Capricorn grandma and my Aries mom.. It's only my mom who doesn't 'keep tabs' so to say, she simply feels sad and neglected, like a child would. She has lovely primary emotions so to say. But she has learned to set boundaries for herself but I don't think she fully understands that doing a lot of good can put a lot of pressure on the other. The same way as too much emotion can. It is just how we are wired I guess. Sometimes it's hard to reciprocate but not because other people/signs don't want to be there for you. They just can't. : ) So you guys have to learn how to tone it down a bit and others have to learn how to step up. Then meet half way. 🙂
Posted by enfant_terrible
When ppl "go out of their way to help others" it's usually about them and not the other person. Ax yourself why you need to feel needed. Control?THIS! I've noticed this. I do things for other cause I want to be liked. I feel in control. But it's all wrong...some people won't like you either way.
It's not just Leos, I noticed the same with Aquas, but also my Capricorn grandma and my Aries mom.. It's only my mom who doesn't 'keep tabs' so to say, she simply feels sad and neglected, like a child would. She has lovely primary emotions so to say. But she has learned to set boundaries for herself but I don't think she fully understands that doing a lot of good can put a lot of pressure on the other. The same way as too much emotion can. It is just how we are wired I guess. Sometimes it's hard to reciprocate but not because other people/signs don't want to be there for you. They just can't. : ) So you guys have to learn how to tone it down a bit and others have to learn how to step up. Then meet half way. 🙂
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Awww thank you for that (:
Posted by oxSunQueenxo
I don't know if everyone who has commented on this thread is following it, but what are your Moon signs?That's a great question, and one that I currently don't know. How does one determine their Moon sign?
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Look up your birth chart
I did. Sun is Leo, moon is cancer, mercury Leo, Venus virgo, mars leo, Jupiter gem, Saturn cap. Anything else you need? Idk what any of this means, lol. @moonshineleo
I tend to forgive a lot, i can't help it i just have a forgiving nature. I care the most and will do my absolute best for my family and friends around me.
Posted by sugarwitted
I tend to forgive a lot, i can't help it i just have a forgiving nature. I care the most and will do my absolute best for my family and friends around me.
I am the same way. I am also that person will give her last to a stranger. I just live by "how can you say you love God if you don't love his people " so I try to help everyone whether it is a listening ear or helping them solve the problem. It just sucks that I am always the one extending the hand and it is never given in return. I think because I have this everything is great facade so they may think not to ask if I am okay because I always appear to be
Posted by oxSunQueenxo
I don't know if everyone who has commented on this thread is following it, but what are your Moon signs?
So, Sagittarius Moon. And I have NO idea what that means in relation to Leo Sun. 😂
Posted by LoudLeo
When I was much younger (20s), I always helped others in whatever it was they needed. Rides, help moving, help with homework, or whatever. Then it got to the point where I was too busy helping others succeed and not helping myself. So yeah, over the last 10 or so years I've switched that up, and I'm a little more selfish these days.because i knew a couple of leo young women and they were very very selfish, me me me me.
but i also knew some young leo women in my teens and at work in the past who were really only me me me. and crafty girls too.
I have met some Leo's like this but you know what I realized? A lot of them were on the Cancer-leo cusp. An old friend of mine, she is a cancer on the Leo cusps but you would think she was a Leo. She's is very me me me. Then the Leo's on cancer cusps. Last one of those i met stole something from me. Oh yeah. They tend to be thieves too. Hmm. I dunno what it is about that cusps. The 2 different energies mixed together.
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Posted by oxSunQueenxo
I don't know if everyone who has commented on this thread is following it, but what are your Moon signs?So, Sagittarius Moon. And I have NO idea what that means in relation to Leo Sun. 😂
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Lol, I have no clue what mine means either
Posted by oxSunQueenxo
I don't know if everyone who has commented on this thread is following it, but what are your Moon signs?
Virgo Moon.
Posted by oxSunQueenxo
I don't know if everyone who has commented on this thread is following it, but what are your Moon signs?So, Sagittarius Moon. And I have NO idea what that means in relation to Leo Sun. 😂
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http://universal-tao-eproducts.com/mp/files/sun-moon_leo-sagittarius.pdf
Posted by oxSunQueenxo
I don't know if everyone who has commented on this thread is following it, but what are your Moon signs?So, Sagittarius Moon. And I have NO idea what that means in relation to Leo Sun. 😂
Lol, I have no clue what mine means either
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http://universal-tao-eproducts.com/mp/files/sun-moon_leo-cancer.pdf
Yes, all the time . I’ve recently developed the attitude that I am putting myself first & the main people who took me for granted can’t handle it.
Posted by oxSunQueenxo
I don't know if everyone who has commented on this thread is following it, but what are your Moon signs?So, Sagittarius Moon. And I have NO idea what that means in relation to Leo Sun. 😂
Lol, I have no clue what mine means either
http://universal-tao-eproducts.com/mp/files/sun-moon_leo-cancer.pdf
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Thank you
Yes, Im trying to figure out how to not care so much as well.
I get Leo's care about others'..........but they CARE about themselves MORE!!!
Posted by airsign
I get Leo's care about others'..........but they CARE about themselves MORE!!!
I disagree with that. Of course there's some self-centeredness with Leos. We're all aware of that. But if I really care about you, then I'll do whatever I can for you.
Case and point: a friend of mine hit me up in the middle of the night a few days ago, and asked me if I would drive them to a destination 3 hours away. This friend was on her way to pick up a teen that she's taking into her home. Without hesitation I told her "yes", drove an hour to go get her, then made the 3 hour trip to meet up with someone else to take her the rest of the way.
Now I didn't do that because I wanted some sort of congratulatory pat on the back. I did it because this was a friend of mine who NEVER asks me for favors. On top of that, it wasn't like I was driving her 3 hours for some kind of booty call. That's what Leos do for those they care for. We don't ask questions. We just go.
As a Leo moon, I’m going describe this “too caring” phenomenon in direct and realistic terms because it is a blind spot buried deep in the subconscious. Now, it may hurt your pride but if it’s something you want to correct, then hear me out. I’ve had this chat with a few of my Leo friends because this often the biggest complaint I hear from them and something I myself came to grips with long ago.
The truth is, as warm hearted and sincere as Leos can be, often times I see their caring and giving as a means to subtlely(and overtly) obligate people...even if it’s for acknowledgement which can be equated to need of attention. This is a Leo’s biggest weakness and why they often easily get played by...takers. Look at it this way, if it was about purely caring to help someone then one wouldn’t cut people off for being “selfish” and not reciprocating. The truth is that Leos do this because they need that reciprocation but rather than drop their pride and ego, they “care” in the hopes that it will be returned but never say what they truly feel up front. The reason being is that they can’t let themselves be vulnerable. Ironically this is exactly what makes them vulnerable and susceptible to getting hurt.
The only way to alleviate this is to one, drop the pride and ego. While the sun illuminates our solar system...it’s is not the solar system and would have no purpose if the universe did not exist. By realizing this, one is humbled and therefore is able to demonstrate true strength and ask for what they need instead of going without because of pride. Therefore , instead of being “too caring” why not just simply express how you feel and what you need from a person early on instead of trying to be the savior via Superman/woman? If you need reciprocation simply say so. You can’t blame people for being who they are. You can only blame yourself for what you allow. Better to find out if one is selfish early on, them to drag it out longer than it has to be then get mad at someone when they don’t reciprocate but you didn’t require them to. Just my take.
I'm not a leo sun but I have mercury and venus in leo and can relate to the giving nature. I also have a pisces jupiter as my dominant sign and planet. It has been taking me a while to acknowledged that giving needs to be reciprocate. Not because you should give expecting something back (never), but because personal relationships should be reciprocate and should be a two way channel.
I feel like I invest too much emotional energy into failed projects, because I care too much. I am often trying to help someone out, for next to no return 😓. Its common for people who truly know me to say I have a big heart.
Posted by Gob_Shite
My, my... All you Leos, in this thread, have such well-buffed fingernails...
Mine are chewed on. The hell are you talking about? Ha!
Posted by Gob_Shite
My, my... All you Leos, in this thread, have such well-buffed fingernails...Mine are chewed on. The hell are you talking about? Ha!
You know, constantly patting yourselves on the back and all... 😄
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@MoonshineLeo come get your boy. He's outta control 😂😂😂😂
I notice for myself as a Leo I have exaggerated faith in people and feel super dumb when I realize nobody could ever care for me the way I care for them.
Posted by PayMeek_NoMind
I notice for myself as a Leo I have exaggerated faith in people and feel super dumb when I realize nobody could ever care for me the way I care for them.
This is so true!
Well... yes. I am not as selfish as astrology shows it 🙂
I am an empath for one so add that onto the Leo heart yes I have done a TON for others in the past, but this for me goes into more than just being a leo. My family unit, etc...big people pleaser putting everyones needs in front of my own and not doing what is best for me. Thats changed after 20 years now and now i take care of myself and dont do stuff for peple like i use too.
Posted by Chuckcem
When I was younger, but then I matured and realized that you can't fix people or their issues. It's important to respect yourself and the energy you put out as well. That means I no longer spend much energy on those who don't appreciate what my efforts.
LOVE this! Yes because if we put all that energy in what happens to use? The Leo sun burns out!
Posted by aquarius_man
leo is amongst the most selfish signs of the zodiac - they care about themselves more than anything. but im guessing this is just one of those topics where leos kiss each other's asses.lay low, leos. you re not too caring. pisces, cancer, scorpio - thats too caring.
not you, beasts.
😂😂😂😂😂😂
Someone sounds rather jaded with this type of response.
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Do any of you Leos find yourself caring too much about others? You're always going out of your way to help but people take it for granted?