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This Leo guy I've been talking to on and off is finally coming into town. But wasn't directly asking me to hang out. He was more hinting and being passive aggressive about it. Saying "I'm gonna be there for a while. I have to work one day but the other days I'm free. Im gonna be a loner when I'm there". I thought Leo's are more direct? Does he just not really wanna hang out? Is he trying to see if I wanna hang out? Lol
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This Leo guy I've been talking to on and off is finally coming into town. But wasn't directly asking me to hang out. He was more hinting and being passive aggressive about it. Saying "I'm gonna be there for a while. I have to work one day but the other days I'm free. Im gonna be a loner when I'm there". I thought Leo's are more direct? Does he just not really wanna hang out? Is he trying to see if I wanna hang out? Lol

We're direct when we are sure! If we don't know if you like us we putbthe feelers out first so we don't get rejected and end up witha bruised ego. Give the boy the green light.

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Ok that's what I figured. I told him to hit me up if he has time to hang out since he's on a business trip so hopefully that was obvious enough lol
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This Leo guy I've been talking to on and off is finally coming into town. But wasn't directly asking me to hang out. He was more hinting and being passive aggressive about it. Saying "I'm gonna be there for a while. I have to work one day but the other days I'm free. Im gonna be a loner when I'm there". I thought Leo's are more direct? Does he just not really wanna hang out? Is he trying to see if I wanna hang out? Lol

We're direct when we are sure! If we don't know if you like us we putbthe feelers out first so we don't get rejected and end up witha bruised ego. Give the boy the green light.

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This^. If the Leo isn't being direct with you, it means that he's not sure about you. Again Leo's don't go sprinting after an invisible target. We need to know our energy will yield positive results. If you've been talking to this guy on and off, that means (in his mind) there's nothing actually solid there. So he's testing the waters to see if there is any interest on your end. If there doesn't appear to be enough interest from you, then you may not see him.
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This Leo guy I've been talking to on and off is finally coming into town. But wasn't directly asking me to hang out. He was more hinting and being passive aggressive about it. Saying "I'm gonna be there for a while. I have to work one day but the other days I'm free. Im gonna be a loner when I'm there". I thought Leo's are more direct? Does he just not really wanna hang out? Is he trying to see if I wanna hang out? Lol

We're direct when we are sure! If we don't know if you like us we putbthe feelers out first so we don't get rejected and end up witha bruised ego. Give the boy the green light.


This^. If the Leo isn't being direct with you, it means that he's not sure about you. Again Leo's don't go sprinting after an invisible target. We need to know our energy will yield positive results. If you've been talking to this guy on and off, that means (in his mind) there's nothing actually solid there. So he's testing the waters to see if there is any interest on your end. If there doesn't appear to be enough interest from you, then you may not see him.
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Hmmm ok that all makes sense. I'm gonna try to make it reeeeeally obvious that I'm interested lol that's so hard for me 😖 But I'm going to try!
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This Leo guy I've been talking to on and off is finally coming into town. But wasn't directly asking me to hang out. He was more hinting and being passive aggressive about it. Saying "I'm gonna be there for a while. I have to work one day but the other days I'm free. Im gonna be a loner when I'm there". I thought Leo's are more direct? Does he just not really wanna hang out? Is he trying to see if I wanna hang out? Lol

We're direct when we are sure! If we don't know if you like us we putbthe feelers out first so we don't get rejected and end up witha bruised ego. Give the boy the green light.


This^. If the Leo isn't being direct with you, it means that he's not sure about you. Again Leo's don't go sprinting after an invisible target. We need to know our energy will yield positive results. If you've been talking to this guy on and off, that means (in his mind) there's nothing actually solid there. So he's testing the waters to see if there is any interest on your end. If there doesn't appear to be enough interest from you, then you may not see him.
Hmmm ok that all makes sense. I'm gonna try to make it reeeeeally obvious that I'm interested lol that's so hard for me 😖 But I'm going to try!
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My advice is just to say, "Great! We should get a drink."
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This Leo guy I've been talking to on and off is finally coming into town. But wasn't directly asking me to hang out. He was more hinting and being passive aggressive about it. Saying "I'm gonna be there for a while. I have to work one day but the other days I'm free. Im gonna be a loner when I'm there". I thought Leo's are more direct? Does he just not really wanna hang out? Is he trying to see if I wanna hang out? Lol

We're direct when we are sure! If we don't know if you like us we putbthe feelers out first so we don't get rejected and end up witha bruised ego. Give the boy the green light.


This^. If the Leo isn't being direct with you, it means that he's not sure about you. Again Leo's don't go sprinting after an invisible target. We need to know our energy will yield positive results. If you've been talking to this guy on and off, that means (in his mind) there's nothing actually solid there. So he's testing the waters to see if there is any interest on your end. If there doesn't appear to be enough interest from you, then you may not see him.
Hmmm ok that all makes sense. I'm gonna try to make it reeeeeally obvious that I'm interested lol that's so hard for me 😖 But I'm going to try!
My advice is just to say, "Great! We should get a drink."
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I told him to hit me up when he's free since he's there for a business trip. I feel like just straight up saying YOU'RE GONNA COME SEE ME IDC WHAT YOU SAY. 😂😂Lmao
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This Leo guy I've been talking to on and off is finally coming into town. But wasn't directly asking me to hang out. He was more hinting and being passive aggressive about it. Saying "I'm gonna be there for a while. I have to work one day but the other days I'm free. Im gonna be a loner when I'm there". I thought Leo's are more direct? Does he just not really wanna hang out? Is he trying to see if I wanna hang out? Lol

We're direct when we are sure! If we don't know if you like us we putbthe feelers out first so we don't get rejected and end up witha bruised ego. Give the boy the green light.


This^. If the Leo isn't being direct with you, it means that he's not sure about you. Again Leo's don't go sprinting after an invisible target. We need to know our energy will yield positive results. If you've been talking to this guy on and off, that means (in his mind) there's nothing actually solid there. So he's testing the waters to see if there is any interest on your end. If there doesn't appear to be enough interest from you, then you may not see him.
Hmmm ok that all makes sense. I'm gonna try to make it reeeeeally obvious that I'm interested lol that's so hard for me 😖 But I'm going to try!
My advice is just to say, "Great! We should get a drink."
I told him to hit me up when he's free since he's there for a business trip. I feel like just straight up saying YOU'RE GONNA COME SEE ME IDC WHAT YOU SAY. 😂😂Lmao
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Then say that. That kind of thing goes a long way. Leos always prefer someone who is direct and confident over someone who isnt.
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This Leo guy I've been talking to on and off is finally coming into town. But wasn't directly asking me to hang out. He was more hinting and being passive aggressive about it. Saying "I'm gonna be there for a while. I have to work one day but the other days I'm free. Im gonna be a loner when I'm there". I thought Leo's are more direct? Does he just not really wanna hang out? Is he trying to see if I wanna hang out? Lol

We're direct when we are sure! If we don't know if you like us we putbthe feelers out first so we don't get rejected and end up witha bruised ego. Give the boy the green light.


This^. If the Leo isn't being direct with you, it means that he's not sure about you. Again Leo's don't go sprinting after an invisible target. We need to know our energy will yield positive results. If you've been talking to this guy on and off, that means (in his mind) there's nothing actually solid there. So he's testing the waters to see if there is any interest on your end. If there doesn't appear to be enough interest from you, then you may not see him.
Hmmm ok that all makes sense. I'm gonna try to make it reeeeeally obvious that I'm interested lol that's so hard for me 😖 But I'm going to try!
My advice is just to say, "Great! We should get a drink."
I told him to hit me up when he's free since he's there for a business trip. I feel like just straight up saying YOU'RE GONNA COME SEE ME IDC WHAT YOU SAY. 😂😂Lmao
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Then say that. That kind of thing goes a long way. Leos always prefer someone who is direct and confident over someone who isn't.
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This Leo guy I've been talking to on and off is finally coming into town. But wasn't directly asking me to hang out. He was more hinting and being passive aggressive about it. Saying "I'm gonna be there for a while. I have to work one day but the other days I'm free. Im gonna be a loner when I'm there". I thought Leo's are more direct? Does he just not really wanna hang out? Is he trying to see if I wanna hang out? Lol

We're direct when we are sure! If we don't know if you like us we putbthe feelers out first so we don't get rejected and end up witha bruised ego. Give the boy the green light.


This^. If the Leo isn't being direct with you, it means that he's not sure about you. Again Leo's don't go sprinting after an invisible target. We need to know our energy will yield positive results. If you've been talking to this guy on and off, that means (in his mind) there's nothing actually solid there. So he's testing the waters to see if there is any interest on your end. If there doesn't appear to be enough interest from you, then you may not see him.
Hmmm ok that all makes sense. I'm gonna try to make it reeeeeally obvious that I'm interested lol that's so hard for me 😖 But I'm going to try!
My advice is just to say, "Great! We should get a drink."
I told him to hit me up when he's free since he's there for a business trip. I feel like just straight up saying YOU'RE GONNA COME SEE ME IDC WHAT YOU SAY. 😂😂Lmao
Then say that. That kind of thing goes a long way. Leos always prefer someone who is direct and confident over someone who isn't.
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Ok I'll try to grow some balls and be direct lol
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What are his Moon and Mars placements?
Leo sun and venus

Virgo moon and Mercury

Taurus Mars
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I smell it each time when a Leo has Virgo placements.

I guess you'll be more analyzed than contacted with Virgo Mercury involved. Make a random mix of aloofness and showing determination. Or find excuses to get helped.

If you're weak at fight in triangles, leave already.
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What are his Moon and Mars placements?
Leo sun and venus

Virgo moon and Mercury

Taurus Mars

I smell it each time when a Leo has Virgo placements.

I guess you'll be more analyzed than contacted with Virgo Mercury involved. Make a random mix of aloofness and showing determination. Or find excuses to get helped.

If you're weak at fight in triangles, leave already.
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Lol makes sense. I even jokingly called him out on overanalyzing once.
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This Leo guy I've been talking to on and off is finally coming into town. But wasn't directly asking me to hang out. He was more hinting and being passive aggressive about it. Saying "I'm gonna be there for a while. I have to work one day but the other days I'm free. Im gonna be a loner when I'm there". I thought Leo's are more direct? Does he just not really wanna hang out? Is he trying to see if I wanna hang out? Lol

We're direct when we are sure! If we don't know if you like us we putbthe feelers out first so we don't get rejected and end up witha bruised ego. Give the boy the green light.


This^. If the Leo isn't being direct with you, it means that he's not sure about you. Again Leo's don't go sprinting after an invisible target. We need to know our energy will yield positive results. If you've been talking to this guy on and off, that means (in his mind) there's nothing actually solid there. So he's testing the waters to see if there is any interest on your end. If there doesn't appear to be enough interest from you, then you may not see him.
Hmmm ok that all makes sense. I'm gonna try to make it reeeeeally obvious that I'm interested lol that's so hard for me 😖 But I'm going to try!
My advice is just to say, "Great! We should get a drink."
I told him to hit me up when he's free since he's there for a business trip. I feel like just straight up saying YOU'RE GONNA COME SEE ME IDC WHAT YOU SAY. 😂😂Lmao
Then say that. That kind of thing goes a long way. Leos always prefer someone who is direct and confident over someone who isn't.
Ok I'll try to grow some balls and be direct lol

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Thank you for your advice @Chuckcem! It worked out well 😁 Now I know that he really wants to hang out while he's there and he's gonna book his hotel in my city 😍 So excited
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This Leo guy I've been talking to on and off is finally coming into town. But wasn't directly asking me to hang out. He was more hinting and being passive aggressive about it. Saying "I'm gonna be there for a while. I have to work one day but the other days I'm free. Im gonna be a loner when I'm there". I thought Leo's are more direct? Does he just not really wanna hang out? Is he trying to see if I wanna hang out? Lol

We're direct when we are sure! If we don't know if you like us we putbthe feelers out first so we don't get rejected and end up witha bruised ego. Give the boy the green light.


This^. If the Leo isn't being direct with you, it means that he's not sure about you. Again Leo's don't go sprinting after an invisible target. We need to know our energy will yield positive results. If you've been talking to this guy on and off, that means (in his mind) there's nothing actually solid there. So he's testing the waters to see if there is any interest on your end. If there doesn't appear to be enough interest from you, then you may not see him.
Hmmm ok that all makes sense. I'm gonna try to make it reeeeeally obvious that I'm interested lol that's so hard for me 😖 But I'm going to try!
My advice is just to say, "Great! We should get a drink."
I told him to hit me up when he's free since he's there for a business trip. I feel like just straight up saying YOU'RE GONNA COME SEE ME IDC WHAT YOU SAY. 😂😂Lmao
Then say that. That kind of thing goes a long way. Leos always prefer someone who is direct and confident over someone who isn't.
Ok I'll try to grow some balls and be direct lol


Thank you for your advice @Chuckcem! It worked out well 😁 Now I know that he really wants to hang out while he's there and he's gonna book his hotel in my city 😍 So excited
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Well done, glad to help. Nothing better than a direct person when it comes to dealing with Leo.
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This Leo guy I've been talking to on and off is finally coming into town. But wasn't directly asking me to hang out. He was more hinting and being passive aggressive about it. Saying "I'm gonna be there for a while. I have to work one day but the other days I'm free. Im gonna be a loner when I'm there". I thought Leo's are more direct? Does he just not really wanna hang out? Is he trying to see if I wanna hang out? Lol

We're direct when we are sure! If we don't know if you like us we putbthe feelers out first so we don't get rejected and end up witha bruised ego. Give the boy the green light.


This^. If the Leo isn't being direct with you, it means that he's not sure about you. Again Leo's don't go sprinting after an invisible target. We need to know our energy will yield positive results. If you've been talking to this guy on and off, that means (in his mind) there's nothing actually solid there. So he's testing the waters to see if there is any interest on your end. If there doesn't appear to be enough interest from you, then you may not see him.
Hmmm ok that all makes sense. I'm gonna try to make it reeeeeally obvious that I'm interested lol that's so hard for me 😖 But I'm going to try!
My advice is just to say, "Great! We should get a drink."
I told him to hit me up when he's free since he's there for a business trip. I feel like just straight up saying YOU'RE GONNA COME SEE ME IDC WHAT YOU SAY. 😂😂Lmao
Then say that. That kind of thing goes a long way. Leos always prefer someone who is direct and confident over someone who isn't.
Ok I'll try to grow some balls and be direct lol


Thank you for your advice @Chuckcem! It worked out well 😁 Now I know that he really wants to hang out while he's there and he's gonna book his hotel in my city 😍 So excited
Well done, glad to help. Nothing better than a direct person when it comes to dealing with Leo.
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It made SUCH a difference! He just opened up so much more and now I know where I stand
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This Leo guy I've been talking to on and off is finally coming into town. But wasn't directly asking me to hang out. He was more hinting and being passive aggressive about it. Saying "I'm gonna be there for a while. I have to work one day but the other days I'm free. Im gonna be a loner when I'm there". I thought Leo's are more direct? Does he just not really wanna hang out? Is he trying to see if I wanna hang out? Lol

We're direct when we are sure! If we don't know if you like us we putbthe feelers out first so we don't get rejected and end up witha bruised ego. Give the boy the green light.


This^. If the Leo isn't being direct with you, it means that he's not sure about you. Again Leo's don't go sprinting after an invisible target. We need to know our energy will yield positive results. If you've been talking to this guy on and off, that means (in his mind) there's nothing actually solid there. So he's testing the waters to see if there is any interest on your end. If there doesn't appear to be enough interest from you, then you may not see him.
Hmmm ok that all makes sense. I'm gonna try to make it reeeeeally obvious that I'm interested lol that's so hard for me 😖 But I'm going to try!
My advice is just to say, "Great! We should get a drink."
I told him to hit me up when he's free since he's there for a business trip. I feel like just straight up saying YOU'RE GONNA COME SEE ME IDC WHAT YOU SAY. 😂😂Lmao
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I like this. 😄
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I'm so confused. So the Leo was supposed to come to my city last Wednesday. I hit him up a day before and he said he was gonna be outside of my city for a couple days and said he'd be here on the 14th. Now he just messaged and said he's not coming down, and will come down next month if I'm free.

I feel like he made the whole thing up. But why? Do you think he just did it to test the waters to see how I'd react so he can plan to actually come later on?
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I'm so confused. So the Leo was supposed to come to my city last Wednesday. I hit him up a day before and he said he was gonna be outside of my city for a couple days and said he'd be here on the 14th. Now he just messaged and said he's not coming down, and will come down next month if I'm free.

I feel like he made the whole thing up. But why? Do you think he just did it to test the waters to see how I'd react so he can plan to actually come later on?
You're way overthinking this. It's more likely that he can't make it to your city or got so busy there is no time to actually see you when he's there. Have you met this guy in person before?
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I'm so confused. So the Leo was supposed to come to my city last Wednesday. I hit him up a day before and he said he was gonna be outside of my city for a couple days and said he'd be here on the 14th. Now he just messaged and said he's not coming down, and will come down next month if I'm free.

I feel like he made the whole thing up. But why? Do you think he just did it to test the waters to see how I'd react so he can plan to actually come later on?
You're way overthinking this. It's more likely that he can't make it to your city or got so busy there is no time to actually see you when he's there. Have you met this guy in person before?
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I wouldn't mind if he got busy and all, but he specifically said he was going for work. So it was a business trip with a bit of free time. And he said he had everything booked already then all of a sudden he can't come. It's just a bit weird to me because I feel like businesses wouldn't suddenly cancel your trip. No, I haven't met him yet
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I'm so confused. So the Leo was supposed to come to my city last Wednesday. I hit him up a day before and he said he was gonna be outside of my city for a couple days and said he'd be here on the 14th. Now he just messaged and said he's not coming down, and will come down next month if I'm free.

I feel like he made the whole thing up. But why? Do you think he just did it to test the waters to see how I'd react so he can plan to actually come later on?
You're way overthinking this. It's more likely that he can't make it to your city or got so busy there is no time to actually see you when he's there. Have you met this guy in person before?
I wouldn't mind if he got busy and all, but he specifically said he was going for work. So it was a business trip with a bit of free time. And he said he had everything booked already then all of a sudden he can't come. It's just a bit weird to me because I feel like businesses wouldn't suddenly cancel your trip. No, I haven't met him yet
Don’t invest so much in someone you haven’t met in person yet. Reality can be quite different. I wouldn’t bother unless he tells you something like, hey I’m here, let’s meet now. Anything less will seem like stringing along
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Yeah, I'm trying to just back off a bit. If he really wants to come see me he will eventually. I guess I'm more overthinking it because I don't wanna start anything with someone who lied to me this early on. Been there, done that 🙄 I don't 100% know he lied, but I just have a feeling he did.
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I'm so confused. So the Leo was supposed to come to my city last Wednesday. I hit him up a day before and he said he was gonna be outside of my city for a couple days and said he'd be here on the 14th. Now he just messaged and said he's not coming down, and will come down next month if I'm free.

I feel like he made the whole thing up. But why? Do you think he just did it to test the waters to see how I'd react so he can plan to actually come later on?
You're way overthinking this. It's more likely that he can't make it to your city or got so busy there is no time to actually see you when he's there. Have you met this guy in person before?
I wouldn't mind if he got busy and all, but he specifically said he was going for work. So it was a business trip with a bit of free time. And he said he had everything booked already then all of a sudden he can't come. It's just a bit weird to me because I feel like businesses wouldn't suddenly cancel your trip. No, I haven't met him yet
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Business trips get canceled now and then. However it's also possible that he'll be in your city, but won't be able to see you. It happens, so don't let it bother you too much. On the other hand since he hasn't actually met you, he may not want the added pressure of meeting up for the first time on Valentine's Day. In his mind, that could send the wrong signals if he wants to keep things casual.

Also know that for Leos a situation isn't a priority to us until we've met the other person in the flesh. I'm pretty sure this is why so many people get confused when they first meet Leos online. We Leos are great flirts, but in order for a serious bond to form, there needs to be a face-to-face connection first. Since the Leo doesn't really know you, he's not prioritizing seeing you over his other plans. That's not to say that he isn't interested though, but he isn't be fully invested yet.
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You are all overthinking this.

The reason he was not direct was that he was hoping you would OFFER to see him

so that there was a greater chance you would not FLAKE / Cancel at the last minute

when he was in town and lost the time he would have spent with you, not having

planned anything else. We are well aware of the f-tardery and games women play.

We know many of you actually value "just winning" by getting asked out/attention

and either

- have absolutely no regard for the time spent to plan a date event scheduled

- actually have a personality disorder or repressed hatred of men which causes you to enjoy cancelling and hurting guys

- have such low self esteem that you freak out at last minute about your hair,

make-up, bloating, or whatever self-destructive thoughts in your mind last-minute

...that you won't actually go on the date scheduled.

If you actually wanted to see him, you would have made an offer to see him.

Simple as that.

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Imo when I don't want to see someone I beat around the bush, then ghost. Obviously you made this like a month ago, so you already know what happened.

An Aries would likely tell you the truth. A Leo doesn't want to hurt you so they say a bunch of passive aggressive bs then ghosts like A cap would.
What I'm trying to understand is why even bring up the topic of coming to visit if you're not gonna follow thru? Or why lie about coming to town in the first place? I don't really get the point in all that.
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Imo when I don't want to see someone I beat around the bush, then ghost. Obviously you made this like a month ago, so you already know what happened.

An Aries would likely tell you the truth. A Leo doesn't want to hurt you so they say a bunch of passive aggressive bs then ghosts like A cap would.
are you serious??

that's BAD!!!

i respect a man more if he is straight up!!! tell me straight dude.

and you're a leo? that's sooooo mean!!!

what is it in your chart that is ghosting people and not telling them the truth you dont want them like that?

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Imo when I don't want to see someone I beat around the bush, then ghost. Obviously you made this like a month ago, so you already know what happened.

An Aries would likely tell you the truth. A Leo doesn't want to hurt you so they say a bunch of passive aggressive bs then ghosts like A cap would.
What I'm trying to understand is why even bring up the topic of coming to visit if you're not gonna follow thru? Or why lie about coming to town in the first place? I don't really get the point in all that.
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gurlllll you got your instincts...this guy is not a good guy.

he is not honest with you.
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What are his Moon and Mars placements?
Leo sun and venus

Virgo moon and Mercury

Taurus Mars


could it be his taurus mars?? that's in the detriment or fall placement.

virgo mercury is analyzing and thinking.



i never experienced that with virgo moon though.

maybe it's just him.



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Maybe all of the above? My ex had a Virgo moon and was flakey... but only when he was hiding shit from me.
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Posted by Soul
Imo when I don't want to see someone I beat around the bush, then ghost. Obviously you made this like a month ago, so you already know what happened.

An Aries would likely tell you the truth. A Leo doesn't want to hurt you so they say a bunch of passive aggressive bs then ghosts like A cap would.
What I'm trying to understand is why even bring up the topic of coming to visit if you're not gonna follow thru? Or why lie about coming to town in the first place? I don't really get the point in all that.
gurlllll you got your instincts...this guy is not a good guy.

he is not honest with you.
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Yeah I've already backed off. Haven't spoken to him since last week
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What are his Moon and Mars placements?
Leo sun and venus

Virgo moon and Mercury

Taurus Mars


could it be his taurus mars?? that's in the detriment or fall placement.

virgo mercury is analyzing and thinking.



i never experienced that with virgo moon though.

maybe it's just him.




Maybe all of the above? My ex had a Virgo moon and was flakey... but only when he was hiding shit from me.
Virgo moon is overwhelmed with too much information so they retreat often. They work better with Air.
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Ahh that makes sense. Never thought of that
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Imo when I don't want to see someone I beat around the bush, then ghost. Obviously you made this like a month ago, so you already know what happened.

An Aries would likely tell you the truth. A Leo doesn't want to hurt you so they say a bunch of passive aggressive bs then ghosts like A cap would.
are you serious??

that's BAD!!!

i respect a man more if he is straight up!!! tell me straight dude.

and you're a leo? that's sooooo mean!!!

what is it in your chart that is ghosting people and not telling them the truth you dont want them like that?

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The thing is I do tell them. Once I've made the decision I don't want to be around someone it's obvious and final. The issue is months later when they hit me up acting nice and like i still matter to them blinds me from my previous decisions. Majority of the time I'm single, so I don't have my life focused into someone else. It makes a sucker for that quick ego fill. Then I don't feel like going through the exact same shit again so I blow them off, stop talking, give reasons why it won't work, and let them move on on their own without me forcing them.

I don't like forcing people away from me, but some of the people I let into my life had more issues then I do. So till I meet someone I can stand it's much easier being solo.

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Imo when I don't want to see someone I beat around the bush, then ghost. Obviously you made this like a month ago, so you already know what happened.

An Aries would likely tell you the truth. A Leo doesn't want to hurt you so they say a bunch of passive aggressive bs then ghosts like A cap would.
What I'm trying to understand is why even bring up the topic of coming to visit if you're not gonna follow thru? Or why lie about coming to town in the first place? I don't really get the point in all that.
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I must have misread your post a bit. I'll admit I was a bit drunk last night lol.

There could be a few reasons. He could be testing you like some people mentioned. He could also be tossing feelings around in his head, and being indecisive about which one to chose. His mind could be like "Do I want a relationship, or do I not want one? Maybe I should set a clear path to her just in case I chose I do." But then for some random reason that came to his mind on the fly he decided that he didn't. He also could just be messing with you. Views you as a quick ego fill and nothing more. To the point he still feels full of himself even when keeping you at a distance. Those are the worst type of Leo men. Lastly maybe something came up in his life which changed his path. He may have felt bad telling you he couldn't make it, or maybe he got caught up in other things and forgot. This is just me trying to spare the guy as much as little as possible, but in the end there is no excuse. He should have told you the truth rather then keep you waiting.