Broke up with my libra

I did the breaking up, but it hurt me terribly to do. ...

Unfortunately, it never felt comfortable and after a longgg discussion realized we are one two different paths in life. I want marriage and kids (traditional). He has 8 years of school ahead of him and that has always been his priority. I don't want to wait until I'm 38 for a family, and he agreed it isn't fair to me.

I had such high hopes for the relationship, and we cared about each other a lot and we're two good people, just not meant for each other sadly.

Very heartbreaking, wish the outcome was different.

sorry to hear that boots. it sounds like the right decision. doesn't make it hurt less tho.

Posted by jeane
sorry to hear that boots. it sounds like the right decision. doesn't make it hurt less tho.

Thanks for the kind words jeane. I realize now how hard libraa are to get over. Time heals all wounds, as my grandmother would say.

It's so hard to just let go of a good person...for no other real reason other then we just couldn't make it work.

Posted by Boots1313

Posted by jeane
sorry to hear that boots. it sounds like the right decision. doesn't make it hurt less tho.

Thanks for the kind words jeane. I realize now how hard libraa are to get over. Time heals all wounds, as my grandmother would say.

It's so hard to just let go of a good person...for no other real reason other then we just couldn't make it work.

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yes, understandable.

however there are lot of good people out there. the bottom line is you're just not compatible with this guy. just like you wouldn't be compatible for someone with different views about the role of women, or money or how to raise children. it's hard to find the right fit and you can't and shouldn't settle for something not quite right. after all, this is your life partner. for life. you can't spend your life only being mildly satisfied.

you had no option than to do what you did. you can't force him to change his mind. he'd resent you for taking his focus away from study to deal with babies and bill paying. he'd either have to let go of his plans or continue them, leaving you to everything yourself. leaves for a lonely relationship for both of you.

or you could give up your dream. you'd feel second best to his career and one day, realise that you've relinquished your wants for that of another and if it doesn't work out (for whatever reason), you would have wasted the precious time you have now. waiting another day or month or year, is another day you could have spent working on building a life you want.

but you know all of this already. you did the right thing.

Posted by tiziani
That sucks.

Yup. Indeed.