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@EtherealTraveler
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Did I fuck up already? Halp plz
Agree with Shadowcat, also, you haven't fucked up anything, you don't have to fight for someone and stand her rejections. If she's interested she'd have let you know (even with hints), if not, leave her alone.
You'll find someone with whom things come naturally.
You'll find someone with whom things come naturally.
Posted by ShadowcatI'm 17 but dxp doesn't allow me to choose 2000 as my birth year, only 1999 ?
Also, if the age on your profile is to be believed----->you're too old for her. Three years make a hell of a difference at 15. Move on.
But I gotcha
Posted by BlackburnIt's not due to her aloofness then, but genuine uninterest?
Agree with Shadowcat, also, you haven't fucked up anything, you don't have to fight for someone and stand her rejections. If she's interested she'd have let you know (even with hints), if not, leave her alone.
You'll find someone with whom things come naturally.
Posted by EtherealTravelerPosted by BlackburnIt's not due to her aloofness then, but genuine uninterest?
Agree with Shadowcat, also, you haven't fucked up anything, you don't have to fight for someone and stand her rejections. If she's interested she'd have let you know (even with hints), if not, leave her alone.
You'll find someone with whom things come naturally.click to expand
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I think is uninterest - mainly because of her reactions and her aggressive friend, but I don't know her to be sure-, what makes things easier because if someone who has interest in you treats you like that, she isn't worth of your attention. Imagine how would she treat you during the relationship.
I think pride is necessary. The right dose.
Posted by LushI tried but she ignores me when around her friends, and she's ALWAYS AROUND her friends. Which is why social media's good because she's always isolated there.
You talk a lot about social media. Make sure you are making real connections in person. Try flirting in person and not only online. If you like a photo refrain from "liking" it online and hold out to compliment them in person and then later like their photos after you've established a real social connection. It's better to make your impressions in person. If you're not in good standing with someone socially then don't do your business online, meaning don't be passive aggressive or try to resolve problems online, it's better to communicate in person.
Posted by Shadowcat... No, but I expected much more because she's always so warm and kind around her friends.Posted by EtherealTravelerMost likely yes. Even if she is actually interested, would you be satisfied with this behavior?Posted by BlackburnIt's not due to her aloofness then, but genuine uninterest?
Agree with Shadowcat, also, you haven't fucked up anything, you don't have to fight for someone and stand her rejections. If she's interested she'd have let you know (even with hints), if not, leave her alone.
You'll find someone with whom things come naturally.click to expand
Just read the title only.
If you have to ask, then the answer is yes.
If you have to ask, then the answer is yes.
Posted by BlackburnMaybe my Pisces moon/mars is too used to abuse like this and decided to live with it 😢 I don't know anymore, she seems so nice around her friends and I have possibility in her, that one day all my sacrifices will not come to waste and she will be that radiant person I see.Posted by EtherealTravelerPosted by BlackburnIt's not due to her aloofness then, but genuine uninterest?
Agree with Shadowcat, also, you haven't fucked up anything, you don't have to fight for someone and stand her rejections. If she's interested she'd have let you know (even with hints), if not, leave her alone.
You'll find someone with whom things come naturally.
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I think is uninterest - mainly because of her reactions and her aggressive friend, but I don't know her to be sure-, what makes things easier because if someone who has interest in you treats you like that, she isn't worth of your attention. Imagine how would she treat you during the relationship.
I think pride is necessary. The right dose.click to expand
But I guess the brain trumps over the heart again. Damn it all.
Posted by ShadowcatHer in my case, but okay. I'm just jealous of how well she treats all her friends, some she knew less time than me. And thus I believed in change.Posted by EtherealTravelerNever go into a romantic interaction hoping for him to change.Posted by Shadowcat... No, but I expected much more because she's always so warm and kind around her friends.Posted by EtherealTravelerMost likely yes. Even if she is actually interested, would you be satisfied with this behavior?Posted by BlackburnIt's not due to her aloofness then, but genuine uninterest?
Agree with Shadowcat, also, you haven't fucked up anything, you don't have to fight for someone and stand her rejections. If she's interested she'd have let you know (even with hints), if not, leave her alone.
You'll find someone with whom things come naturally.click to expand
Posted by ShadowcatMy life is sad by itself.Posted by EtherealTravelerFind someone else.Posted by ShadowcatHer in my case, but okay. I'm just jealous of how well she treats all her friends, some she knew less time than me. And thus I believed in change.Posted by EtherealTravelerNever go into a romantic interaction hoping for him to change.Posted by Shadowcat... No, but I expected much more because she's always so warm and kind around her friends.Posted by EtherealTravelerMost likely yes. Even if she is actually interested, would you be satisfied with this behavior?Posted by BlackburnIt's not due to her aloofness then, but genuine uninterest?
Agree with Shadowcat, also, you haven't fucked up anything, you don't have to fight for someone and stand her rejections. If she's interested she'd have let you know (even with hints), if not, leave her alone.
You'll find someone with whom things come naturally.click to expand
Because so far, she's the only normal person I met and not party girls whom I think I won't get along with because of my iron discipline on certain rules. And she's restricted by her mom who's a teacher as well, so discipline for her too right?
But nope, Saturn has to shit on my love life again.
Posted by EtherealTravelerPosted by BlackburnMaybe my Pisces moon/mars is too used to abuse like this and decided to live with it 😢 I don't know anymore, she seems so nice around her friends and I have possibility in her, that one day all my sacrifices will not come to waste and she will be that radiant person I see.Posted by EtherealTravelerPosted by BlackburnIt's not due to her aloofness then, but genuine uninterest?
Agree with Shadowcat, also, you haven't fucked up anything, you don't have to fight for someone and stand her rejections. If she's interested she'd have let you know (even with hints), if not, leave her alone.
You'll find someone with whom things come naturally.
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I think is uninterest - mainly because of her reactions and her aggressive friend, but I don't know her to be sure-, what makes things easier because if someone who has interest in you treats you like that, she isn't worth of your attention. Imagine how would she treat you during the relationship.
I think pride is necessary. The right dose.
But I guess the brain trumps over the heart again. Damn it all.click to expand
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Then use your strong Cap, know your worth. She "could be", but basing a choice in a possibility is quite risky. Is normal to be nice to friends, a good person treats everyone with respect.
Sacrifizing is fine when both do it, always ask to yourself (humbly) if that person is worth of your time. You don't choose loving someone but you can chose saving time and tears. Pisces is a very special sign, with time you'll balance things out.
Posted by Lushhttps://postimg.org/image/e6wgvphyb/
Can you post your chart? (Sidereal / krishnamurti or lahiri with equal house system)
You are a young man. Don't give up on your loving/dreamy side! There is a young woman out there for you, but it takes time. Don't change who you are to attract someone. Try to find comfort in yourself.
And, just remember that your brain isn't fully developed in the reasoning area of the brain--the same goes for your peers. Also, the male brain doesn't fully develop until age 25. You have some time to figure things out. Try giving other women a shot, even if you aren't fully interested, it's good to experience and date around, even if it's just friendship based and not intimate.
Posted by BlackburnWhich I have a 1st house there and thus I find myself constantly overconsidering my worth. My rules for myself frequently restrict myself from going for everyone else, since I don't approve of party girls, our personalities would definitely clash and I would be restricting most likely.Posted by EtherealTravelerPosted by BlackburnMaybe my Pisces moon/mars is too used to abuse like this and decided to live with it 😢 I don't know anymore, she seems so nice around her friends and I have possibility in her, that one day all my sacrifices will not come to waste and she will be that radiant person I see.Posted by EtherealTravelerPosted by BlackburnIt's not due to her aloofness then, but genuine uninterest?
Agree with Shadowcat, also, you haven't fucked up anything, you don't have to fight for someone and stand her rejections. If she's interested she'd have let you know (even with hints), if not, leave her alone.
You'll find someone with whom things come naturally.
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I think is uninterest - mainly because of her reactions and her aggressive friend, but I don't know her to be sure-, what makes things easier because if someone who has interest in you treats you like that, she isn't worth of your attention. Imagine how would she treat you during the relationship.
I think pride is necessary. The right dose.
But I guess the brain trumps over the heart again. Damn it all.
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Then use your strong Cap, know your worth. She "could be", but basing a choice in a possibility is quite risky. Is normal to be nice to friends, a good person treats everyone with respect.
Sacrifizing is fine when both do it, always ask to yourself (humbly) if that person is worth of your time. You don't choose loving someone but you can chose saving time and tears. Pisces is a very special sign, with time you'll balance things out.click to expand
Therefore I might have placed too much faith on a teacher's daughter. I expect discipline and manners from her, not treating me like crap. I hoped it would change, but it seems like it wouldn't.
I often fall in love with love itself, and I can't distinguish whether that person is worth my time because I'm always blinded with lust, blinded by the fact that my potential partner can just be there so there would be no more envy towards my classmates and I would have finished a huge milestone in my life. I hope I can balance things out in the future though, Pisces is the oldest sign of all and contains knowledge from the ethereal state.
Posted by Shadowcat4thPosted by EtherealTravelerPosted by ShadowcatMy life is sad by itself.Posted by EtherealTravelerFind someone else.Posted by ShadowcatHer in my case, but okay. I'm just jealous of how well she treats all her friends, some she knew less time than me. And thus I believed in change.Posted by EtherealTravelerNever go into a romantic interaction hoping for him to change.Posted by Shadowcat... No, but I expected much more because she's always so warm and kind around her friends.Posted by EtherealTravelerMost likely yes. Even if she is actually interested, would you be satisfied with this behavior?Posted by BlackburnIt's not due to her aloofness then, but genuine uninterest?
Agree with Shadowcat, also, you haven't fucked up anything, you don't have to fight for someone and stand her rejections. If she's interested she'd have let you know (even with hints), if not, leave her alone.
You'll find someone with whom things come naturally.
Because so far, she's the only normal person I met and not party girls whom I think I won't get along with because of my iron discipline on certain rules. And she's restricted by her mom who's a teacher as well, so discipline for her too right?
But nope, Saturn has to shit on my love life again.
Do you have saturn in your 7th?
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Posted by EtherealTravelerPosted by BlackburnWhich I have a 1st house there and thus I find myself constantly overconsidering my worth. My rules for myself frequently restrict myself from going for everyone else, since I don't approve of party girls, our personalities would definitely clash and I would be restricting most likely.Posted by EtherealTravelerPosted by BlackburnMaybe my Pisces moon/mars is too used to abuse like this and decided to live with it 😢 I don't know anymore, she seems so nice around her friends and I have possibility in her, that one day all my sacrifices will not come to waste and she will be that radiant person I see.Posted by EtherealTravelerPosted by BlackburnIt's not due to her aloofness then, but genuine uninterest?
Agree with Shadowcat, also, you haven't fucked up anything, you don't have to fight for someone and stand her rejections. If she's interested she'd have let you know (even with hints), if not, leave her alone.
You'll find someone with whom things come naturally.
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I think is uninterest - mainly because of her reactions and her aggressive friend, but I don't know her to be sure-, what makes things easier because if someone who has interest in you treats you like that, she isn't worth of your attention. Imagine how would she treat you during the relationship.
I think pride is necessary. The right dose.
But I guess the brain trumps over the heart again. Damn it all.
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Then use your strong Cap, know your worth. She "could be", but basing a choice in a possibility is quite risky. Is normal to be nice to friends, a good person treats everyone with respect.
Sacrifizing is fine when both do it, always ask to yourself (humbly) if that person is worth of your time. You don't choose loving someone but you can chose saving time and tears. Pisces is a very special sign, with time you'll balance things out.
Therefore I might have placed too much faith on a teacher's daughter. I expect discipline and manners from her, not treating me like crap. I hoped it would change, but it seems like it wouldn't.
I often fall in love with love itself, and I can't distinguish whether that person is worth my time because I'm always blinded with lust, blinded by the fact that my potential partner can just be there so there would be no more envy towards my classmates and I would have finished a huge milestone in my life. I hope I can balance things out in the future though, Pisces is the oldest sign of all and contains knowledge from the ethereal state.click to expand
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I think you rely too much on titles, "a teacher's daughter", one feature doesn't define a person. I'd tell you to put aside previous judgements, I'm Saturnian and I am/was very picky but many people have surprised me.
Well, envy doesn't go away achieving things, you must fight it. Yes, that's Pisces' struggle. Good luck!
Posted by LushSo basically I have little chance to date while most of my peers get to date because Chiron is just sitting right in the middle of Venus and Pluto?Posted by EtherealTravelerOne thing I've noticed is your Saturn is stationary, which makes it a stronger influence. The second placement I noticed was that Chiron conjuncts your Venus. Your Chiron is in the middle of Venus and Pluto. That placement will be hard for relationships in your younger years, but it will give you the insight and wisdom you need in your later relationships. Your mercury in 1H is good, a lot of people who are intelligent have this placement.Posted by Lushhttps://postimg.org/image/e6wgvphyb/
Can you post your chart? (Sidereal / krishnamurti or lahiri with equal house system)
You are a young man. Don't give up on your loving/dreamy side! There is a young woman out there for you, but it takes time. Don't change who you are to attract someone. Try to find comfort in yourself.
And, just remember that your brain isn't fully developed in the reasoning area of the brain--the same goes for your peers. Also, the male brain doesn't fully develop until age 25. You have some time to figure things out. Try giving other women a shot, even if you aren't fully interested, it's good to experience and date around, even if it's just friendship based and not intimate.
I think the takeaway is you're overly emotional and you're afraid of rejection. The problem is that you need these experiences to grow, so just put yourself out there. The sooner the better, you'll grow up fast this way. Just be wary of being a victim of abuse, whether it's emotional or physical, I am only saying this because you may choose relationships where you don't have a lot of power.click to expand
Also yes, I agree. I play to win so to speak, due to the high competitiveness of 1st house and Cap placements, but even then my standards remain high because I want the first relationship to be good for me, therefore I couldn't allow myself to be too vulnerable. I hate being a laughing stock. And as for the abuse part, I'm fine. Mars square Pluto mean that I'm a violent person full of power, and my Pluto aspects allow me to compete for absolute power even in relationships. My dominant side doesn't show unless its needed as I see it.
Posted by ShadowcatI just want a decent girlfriend, why is it so hard ?Posted by EtherealTravelerEither way you're probably going to feel blocked. But ultimately you'll be fine. It'll get better as you get older.Posted by Shadowcat4thPosted by EtherealTravelerPosted by ShadowcatMy life is sad by itself.Posted by EtherealTravelerFind someone else.Posted by ShadowcatHer in my case, but okay. I'm just jealous of how well she treats all her friends, some she knew less time than me. And thus I believed in change.Posted by EtherealTravelerNever go into a romantic interaction hoping for him to change.Posted by Shadowcat... No, but I expected much more because she's always so warm and kind around her friends.Posted by EtherealTravelerMost likely yes. Even if she is actually interested, would you be satisfied with this behavior?Posted by BlackburnIt's not due to her aloofness then, but genuine uninterest?
Agree with Shadowcat, also, you haven't fucked up anything, you don't have to fight for someone and stand her rejections. If she's interested she'd have let you know (even with hints), if not, leave her alone.
You'll find someone with whom things come naturally.
Because so far, she's the only normal person I met and not party girls whom I think I won't get along with because of my iron discipline on certain rules. And she's restricted by her mom who's a teacher as well, so discipline for her too right?
But nope, Saturn has to shit on my love life again.
Do you have saturn in your 7th?
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Posted by BlackburnI believe titles serve some form of purpose. Because as they say, like mother/father like daughter/son, so I assume this person must be rather disciplined especially with her placements which involve Mars being in her 4th house, conjuncting Moon and Imun Coeli or however you spell it. But I'll try. I'm Mercurian but Saturn stands at a close 4th most dominant planet for me, and I wish to be surprised just like you did. 🙂Posted by EtherealTravelerPosted by BlackburnWhich I have a 1st house there and thus I find myself constantly overconsidering my worth. My rules for myself frequently restrict myself from going for everyone else, since I don't approve of party girls, our personalities would definitely clash and I would be restricting most likely.Posted by EtherealTravelerPosted by BlackburnMaybe my Pisces moon/mars is too used to abuse like this and decided to live with it 😢 I don't know anymore, she seems so nice around her friends and I have possibility in her, that one day all my sacrifices will not come to waste and she will be that radiant person I see.Posted by EtherealTravelerPosted by BlackburnIt's not due to her aloofness then, but genuine uninterest?
Agree with Shadowcat, also, you haven't fucked up anything, you don't have to fight for someone and stand her rejections. If she's interested she'd have let you know (even with hints), if not, leave her alone.
You'll find someone with whom things come naturally.
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I think is uninterest - mainly because of her reactions and her aggressive friend, but I don't know her to be sure-, what makes things easier because if someone who has interest in you treats you like that, she isn't worth of your attention. Imagine how would she treat you during the relationship.
I think pride is necessary. The right dose.
But I guess the brain trumps over the heart again. Damn it all.
----
Then use your strong Cap, know your worth. She "could be", but basing a choice in a possibility is quite risky. Is normal to be nice to friends, a good person treats everyone with respect.
Sacrifizing is fine when both do it, always ask to yourself (humbly) if that person is worth of your time. You don't choose loving someone but you can chose saving time and tears. Pisces is a very special sign, with time you'll balance things out.
Therefore I might have placed too much faith on a teacher's daughter. I expect discipline and manners from her, not treating me like crap. I hoped it would change, but it seems like it wouldn't.
I often fall in love with love itself, and I can't distinguish whether that person is worth my time because I'm always blinded with lust, blinded by the fact that my potential partner can just be there so there would be no more envy towards my classmates and I would have finished a huge milestone in my life. I hope I can balance things out in the future though, Pisces is the oldest sign of all and contains knowledge from the ethereal state.
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I think you rely too much on titles, "a teacher's daughter", one feature doesn't define a person. I'd tell you to put aside previous judgements, I'm Saturnian and I am/was very picky but many people have surprised me.
Well, envy doesn't go away achieving things, you must fight it. Yes, that's Pisces' struggle. Good luck!
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When envy is present, my pluto energy as a result of mars squaring it leaps into action and I start being aggressive and hasty when it comes to decision making, maybe that's the reason of my downfall as well. I'm trying to fight it though, also thank you again 🙂
Posted by Fun4LifeGod damn it guys there's like a TL;DR at the end of the paragraphPosted by rockyroadicecreamYah - who has time to read the rest? LOL
Just read the title only.
If you have to ask, then the answer is yes.
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Posted by BlackburnI meant she has Mars conjunct IC in the 4th house, not me :XPosted by EtherealTravelerPosted by BlackburnI believe titles serve some form of purpose. Because as they say, like mother/father like daughter/son, so I assume this person must be rather disciplined especially with her placements which involve Mars being in her 4th house, conjuncting Moon and Imun Coeli or however you spell it. But I'll try. I'm Mercurian but Saturn stands at a close 4th most dominant planet for me, and I wish to be surprised just like you did. 🙂Posted by EtherealTravelerPosted by BlackburnWhich I have a 1st house there and thus I find myself constantly overconsidering my worth. My rules for myself frequently restrict myself from going for everyone else, since I don't approve of party girls, our personalities would definitely clash and I would be restricting most likely.Posted by EtherealTravelerPosted by BlackburnMaybe my Pisces moon/mars is too used to abuse like this and decided to live with it 😢 I don't know anymore, she seems so nice around her friends and I have possibility in her, that one day all my sacrifices will not come to waste and she will be that radiant person I see.Posted by EtherealTravelerPosted by BlackburnIt's not due to her aloofness then, but genuine uninterest?
Agree with Shadowcat, also, you haven't fucked up anything, you don't have to fight for someone and stand her rejections. If she's interested she'd have let you know (even with hints), if not, leave her alone.
You'll find someone with whom things come naturally.
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I think is uninterest - mainly because of her reactions and her aggressive friend, but I don't know her to be sure-, what makes things easier because if someone who has interest in you treats you like that, she isn't worth of your attention. Imagine how would she treat you during the relationship.
I think pride is necessary. The right dose.
But I guess the brain trumps over the heart again. Damn it all.
----
Then use your strong Cap, know your worth. She "could be", but basing a choice in a possibility is quite risky. Is normal to be nice to friends, a good person treats everyone with respect.
Sacrifizing is fine when both do it, always ask to yourself (humbly) if that person is worth of your time. You don't choose loving someone but you can chose saving time and tears. Pisces is a very special sign, with time you'll balance things out.
Therefore I might have placed too much faith on a teacher's daughter. I expect discipline and manners from her, not treating me like crap. I hoped it would change, but it seems like it wouldn't.
I often fall in love with love itself, and I can't distinguish whether that person is worth my time because I'm always blinded with lust, blinded by the fact that my potential partner can just be there so there would be no more envy towards my classmates and I would have finished a huge milestone in my life. I hope I can balance things out in the future though, Pisces is the oldest sign of all and contains knowledge from the ethereal state.
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I think you rely too much on titles, "a teacher's daughter", one feature doesn't define a person. I'd tell you to put aside previous judgements, I'm Saturnian and I am/was very picky but many people have surprised me.
Well, envy doesn't go away achieving things, you must fight it. Yes, that's Pisces' struggle. Good luck!
When envy is present, my pluto energy as a result of mars squaring it leaps into action and I start being aggressive and hasty when it comes to decision making, maybe that's the reason of my downfall as well. I'm trying to fight it though, also thank you again 🙂
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I have that placement (Mars conjunct IC) and if something, it makes me shy and protective, Tiziani told me the 4th house also means survival. You'll be, life is surprising.
You are welcome : )
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Posted by LushSo it's probably gonna hurt. Okay. I get that. But so far, I haven't even got past the basic small talk stage. I get really fidgety and nervous and awkward around girls, it's as if all the courage I have as a Capricorn suddenly disappeared into thin air. Although its rare, I would still like it to be the best one, since it's the first things that count; first kisses, first year anniversaries, first fights, first tears, everything. It's beautiful and thus it's extremely important to make it the best to my abilities. But I get your point.Posted by EtherealTravelerYou have plenty of chances. It just requires you to accept the possibility of failure and rejection and putting yourself out there. You will have to forget your ego and just date. It's the only way you'll gain experience and grow. It's rare that people see that the 1st relationship was a good one. It usually ends with unresolved issues. People don't realize the growth and rewards that occurred until some time after the relationship and for some people they never realize it.Posted by LushSo basically I have little chance to date while most of my peers get to date because Chiron is just sitting right in the middle of Venus and Pluto?Posted by EtherealTravelerOne thing I've noticed is your Saturn is stationary, which makes it a stronger influence. The second placement I noticed was that Chiron conjuncts your Venus. Your Chiron is in the middle of Venus and Pluto. That placement will be hard for relationships in your younger years, but it will give you the insight and wisdom you need in your later relationships. Your mercury in 1H is good, a lot of people who are intelligent have this placement.Posted by Lushhttps://postimg.org/image/e6wgvphyb/
Can you post your chart? (Sidereal / krishnamurti or lahiri with equal house system)
You are a young man. Don't give up on your loving/dreamy side! There is a young woman out there for you, but it takes time. Don't change who you are to attract someone. Try to find comfort in yourself.
And, just remember that your brain isn't fully developed in the reasoning area of the brain--the same goes for your peers. Also, the male brain doesn't fully develop until age 25. You have some time to figure things out. Try giving other women a shot, even if you aren't fully interested, it's good to experience and date around, even if it's just friendship based and not intimate.
I think the takeaway is you're overly emotional and you're afraid of rejection. The problem is that you need these experiences to grow, so just put yourself out there. The sooner the better, you'll grow up fast this way. Just be wary of being a victim of abuse, whether it's emotional or physical, I am only saying this because you may choose relationships where you don't have a lot of power.
Also yes, I agree. I play to win so to speak, due to the high competitiveness of 1st house and Cap placements, but even then my standards remain high because I want the first relationship to be good for me, therefore I couldn't allow myself to be too vulnerable. I hate being a laughing stock. And as for the abuse part, I'm fine. Mars square Pluto mean that I'm a violent person full of power, and my Pluto aspects allow me to compete for absolute power even in relationships. My dominant side doesn't show unless its needed as I see it.
Also, planets just influence us they don't control us. You have free will and choice. Just because the stars say 1 thing doesn't mean that it's final or completely true.
Btw, I like your outlook on relationships. Being serious and wanting to have a good relationship is good for long term partners. It's probably not helpful in your younger years, but don't change your outlook. It'll help you in the long run.
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I find myself attracted to people accordingly to what astrology suggests, people that are in sextile, trine, conjunct or opposite my sun and moon are people I usually connect to, which gives me a really fuzzy feeling and letting me believe that believing in destiny and fate really works, as that's what stars do, guiding our destiny and fate.
Thank you 🙂 It means a lot when I'm the one who, despite never dated anyone yet, has a better outlook and ambition towards relationships unlike my peers who don't even know what commitment is because none of them even went to that stage or heard of it. I'm still waiting for my soulmate to come by, who is probably singing to the stars, silently believing that there is someone as perfect as the person in her dreams, and vice versa on my side.
Posted by EtherealTravelerPosted by LushI tried but she ignores me when around her friends, and she's ALWAYS AROUND her friends. Which is why social media's good because she's always isolated there.
You talk a lot about social media. Make sure you are making real connections in person. Try flirting in person and not only online. If you like a photo refrain from "liking" it online and hold out to compliment them in person and then later like their photos after you've established a real social connection. It's better to make your impressions in person. If you're not in good standing with someone socially then don't do your business online, meaning don't be passive aggressive or try to resolve problems online, it's better to communicate in person.
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I try to put myself in other people's shoes when I leave comments as of recently. I know that if I like somebody and other people are telling me that that person isn't interested it's really disheartening. It sucks to have affections that are unrequited. Sometimes writing out or typing out a question or situation on this forum helps to gain your own Clarity and to adopt a perspective that seems clear. Did you come up with your own Clarity after writing out the situation that seems conducive for you?
Posted by Blue_FroggieIf sweetness is rewarded with easy flirts, I would have already got a bunch of girlfriends. But it doesn't. 😢Posted by EtherealTravelerPosted by LushSo it's probably gonna hurt. Okay. I get that. But so far, I haven't even got past the basic small talk stage. I get really fidgety and nervous and awkward around girls, it's as if all the courage I have as a Capricorn suddenly disappeared into thin air. Although its rare, I would still like it to be the best one, since it's the first things that count; first kisses, first year anniversaries, first fights, first tears, everything. It's beautiful and thus it's extremely important to make it the best to my abilities. But I get your point.Posted by EtherealTravelerYou have plenty of chances. It just requires you to accept the possibility of failure and rejection and putting yourself out there. You will have to forget your ego and just date. It's the only way you'll gain experience and grow. It's rare that people see that the 1st relationship was a good one. It usually ends with unresolved issues. People don't realize the growth and rewards that occurred until some time after the relationship and for some people they never realize it.Posted by LushSo basically I have little chance to date while most of my peers get to date because Chiron is just sitting right in the middle of Venus and Pluto?Posted by EtherealTravelerOne thing I've noticed is your Saturn is stationary, which makes it a stronger influence. The second placement I noticed was that Chiron conjuncts your Venus. Your Chiron is in the middle of Venus and Pluto. That placement will be hard for relationships in your younger years, but it will give you the insight and wisdom you need in your later relationships. Your mercury in 1H is good, a lot of people who are intelligent have this placement.Posted by Lushhttps://postimg.org/image/e6wgvphyb/
Can you post your chart? (Sidereal / krishnamurti or lahiri with equal house system)
You are a young man. Don't give up on your loving/dreamy side! There is a young woman out there for you, but it takes time. Don't change who you are to attract someone. Try to find comfort in yourself.
And, just remember that your brain isn't fully developed in the reasoning area of the brain--the same goes for your peers. Also, the male brain doesn't fully develop until age 25. You have some time to figure things out. Try giving other women a shot, even if you aren't fully interested, it's good to experience and date around, even if it's just friendship based and not intimate.
I think the takeaway is you're overly emotional and you're afraid of rejection. The problem is that you need these experiences to grow, so just put yourself out there. The sooner the better, you'll grow up fast this way. Just be wary of being a victim of abuse, whether it's emotional or physical, I am only saying this because you may choose relationships where you don't have a lot of power.
Also yes, I agree. I play to win so to speak, due to the high competitiveness of 1st house and Cap placements, but even then my standards remain high because I want the first relationship to be good for me, therefore I couldn't allow myself to be too vulnerable. I hate being a laughing stock. And as for the abuse part, I'm fine. Mars square Pluto mean that I'm a violent person full of power, and my Pluto aspects allow me to compete for absolute power even in relationships. My dominant side doesn't show unless its needed as I see it.
Also, planets just influence us they don't control us. You have free will and choice. Just because the stars say 1 thing doesn't mean that it's final or completely true.
Btw, I like your outlook on relationships. Being serious and wanting to have a good relationship is good for long term partners. It's probably not helpful in your younger years, but don't change your outlook. It'll help you in the long run.
I find myself attracted to people accordingly to what astrology suggests, people that are in sextile, trine, conjunct or opposite my sun and moon are people I usually connect to, which gives me a really fuzzy feeling and letting me believe that believing in destiny and fate really works, as that's what stars do, guiding our destiny and fate.
Thank you 🙂 It means a lot when I'm the one who, despite never dated anyone yet, has a better outlook and ambition towards relationships unlike my peers who don't even know what commitment is because none of them even went to that stage or heard of it. I'm still waiting for my soulmate to come by, who is probably singing to the stars, silently believing that there is someone as perfect as the person in her dreams, and vice versa on my side.
Awww
That's the sweetest thing ever, reminded me of someone?
I agree with Lush... Don't force it to happen. But don't give up your core values.
I will text you later. I'm about to sleep. I haven't read most of my PMs that require time to reply.
Will get to you soon
*hugs*
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It's sometimes disheartening to wait, you know? I want to stop failing and just succeed, but I can't.
I'll wait 🙂
Posted by ShrewdsharpSag Venus really helps reducing the pain of rejection, but everything has a limit.Posted by EtherealTravelerPosted by LushI tried but she ignores me when around her friends, and she's ALWAYS AROUND her friends. Which is why social media's good because she's always isolated there.
You talk a lot about social media. Make sure you are making real connections in person. Try flirting in person and not only online. If you like a photo refrain from "liking" it online and hold out to compliment them in person and then later like their photos after you've established a real social connection. It's better to make your impressions in person. If you're not in good standing with someone socially then don't do your business online, meaning don't be passive aggressive or try to resolve problems online, it's better to communicate in person.
I try to put myself in other people's shoes when I leave comments as of recently. I know that if I like somebody and other people are telling me that that person isn't interested it's really disheartening. It sucks to have affections that are unrequited. Sometimes writing out or typing out a question or situation on this forum helps to gain your own Clarity and to adopt a perspective that seems clear. Did you come up with your own Clarity after writing out the situation that seems conducive for you?click to expand
I give up on her to be honest for now, I don't know what to do otherwise since she shows no interest, is always around her friends, and I know, although I didn't have hard evidence yet, that her two best friends detested me and wanted me to stay away.
And I'll do so for now.
Posted by EtherealTravelerPosted by ShrewdsharpSag Venus really helps reducing the pain of rejection, but everything has a limit.Posted by EtherealTravelerPosted by LushI tried but she ignores me when around her friends, and she's ALWAYS AROUND her friends. Which is why social media's good because she's always isolated there.
You talk a lot about social media. Make sure you are making real connections in person. Try flirting in person and not only online. If you like a photo refrain from "liking" it online and hold out to compliment them in person and then later like their photos after you've established a real social connection. It's better to make your impressions in person. If you're not in good standing with someone socially then don't do your business online, meaning don't be passive aggressive or try to resolve problems online, it's better to communicate in person.
I try to put myself in other people's shoes when I leave comments as of recently. I know that if I like somebody and other people are telling me that that person isn't interested it's really disheartening. It sucks to have affections that are unrequited. Sometimes writing out or typing out a question or situation on this forum helps to gain your own Clarity and to adopt a perspective that seems clear. Did you come up with your own Clarity after writing out the situation that seems conducive for you?
I give up on her to be honest for now, I don't know what to do otherwise since she shows no interest, is always around her friends, and I know, although I didn't have hard evidence yet, that her two best friends detested me and wanted me to stay away.
And I'll do so for now.click to expand
oh okay.
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