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LOL....the love is somewhere between here and there or in the Librans' thinking zone.....could be anywhere really.

Just thought id pop on and see if my darling might be on his singles sites and damn he is!!! What the?? Now Im grrrrrrrrring again!!! What intrigues me (and he is honest about going on there and I know he's a social butterfly and all) is that he never meets anybody from there...he's always home - always available...I don't get it. obviously he doesnt see me as a long term venture and that's his loss LOL but I just don't get it......he takes between 2 days to a week to contact me and when he feels I may be losing interest he's back with avengeance!!! What the— I am making myself unavailable to him until Xmas day anyway so I don't care as such (well I do but Im acting tough LOL).....I cannot work him out, not one little bit.

Perhaps if he keeps looking for the perfect one on these sites he might just miss out on the real deal in real life.....I am not going to wait around forever.....I think when I hit the 4 month mark I will start walking if nothing has been achieved....I aint getting any younger unfortunately LOL.

Hmmmm anyway that's my news - not happy Jan but come on Xmas parties!!!!
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Chatz, I would totally back off - do your own thing. When he comes chasing you, maybe you'll just have to let him know, matter of fact, that if he continues to look for others on a singles site, this will not work for you.

If you don't set your boundaries or limits, he won't have a chance to decide whether he can follow them or not. If he is at that point unwilling to stop the on-line thing, even if he knows it bothers you, he is not worth the wait. BUT, he might just alter his behavior for your needs.
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yeah I know its make or break time. I think its just a terrible habit he has fallen into since he broke up with his ex (18 odd months) but yeah...I am getting a little fed up with seeing him on there (and yes I know I shouldn't check)...he is honest about it and we've made no commitment to one another as such. Actually come to think of it he is VERY honest about everything...tells me where he goes, when he gets home, yada yada yada, however, I do deserve better than to wonder constantly and when he gets worried I may have moved on he comes on really strong....I can't continue that way into the new year - but yeah ammorocks I am going to do my own thing....already declined way too many invitations in the hope he'd wanna hook up....gotta live 🙂

Oh and I will keep hoping for a while longer but like I said, its make or break time coming up 🙂

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Something I learned recently, Chatz .. and it goes as such..

Men in general need to oscillate between their ?time? and us. Their "time" may be whatever it is.. football, hanging with the guys, family stuff, obsessive working, time alone or online chat. Whatever their release is they need it as much as they need us. Allow him his time and you take yours too. Know that in any male/female relationship this is a battle because women do not understand a man's need to have his time. He will come back towards you and you two will be hot and heavy, then he will oscillate away from you again.. this process never stops.. It is evident in marriages of many years. The key is for us women NOT to fight when he is oscillating away from us, but to give in and let him.. knowing or hoping the time he spent was good and thus allowed him time to regroup, miss us and decide to dive in again...
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oh brat that was so sweet....I know he cares for me and he isn't doing anything wrong online and if he was he wouldn't be home every night and he certainly wouldn't be telling me what he got up to - at least he's not a sneak 🙂.....I know he'll be back and I do understand, honestly I do understand he needs his own time as do I and man I am glad that I broke up with my gemini man 6 months ago - life is great without him and I can do things I couldn't possibly have done had he still been in my life (he was a little twisted but aren't we all LOL).

I do look forward to seeing him at Xmas but like I said, I will keep myself very busy in the meantime as I will just go insane coz I know what Im missing in between but I won't go into detail coz if you could I know you could hit me one or 3 LOL....thanks again you are a sweetie....why do you all live so far away? we need to go out and party 🙂

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P.S. I have also come to realise that my Libran is not Gods gift to women and he's not THAT attractive nor as young as he'd like to be LOL.....if he can't see me as somebody to enjoy more time with and appreciate me for who I am, well pfffftttt I say....maybe HE doesn't deserve me rather than me not deserving him coz he's so great?? LOL.....

Nah that was a bit brave hehehee....really like him a LOT but like I said....maybe he needs to be without me a LOT more before he realises a good thing doesnt come THAT often—

I know he really likes me and blah blah blah but he's not showing it very well and everybody says you're just way too patient (which Im not - just stupid and madly in love/lust) and they'd have kicked him to the curb by now.....duh I am too loyal as it is....sheesh.

Stay tuned my little treasures - I will be on cloud 9 soon enough when I see him next - Xmas day - gawd that's forever away!!!! mwah to you all 🙂
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No not all libra's are crazy. I dated one that was normal, he was just too energetic.. I mean I like a man to have a little energy and spunk.. but he had way too much. It was overwhelming. I felt like I was always watching a movie.. and I was in it but I couldn't say anything, because he was doing all the parts.. mine, his and everybody elses. He was a genius though. I was thinking about him today.. he was a huge flirt too and I did not like that.. even though we were not exclusive and never was physical we dated and he would flirt with other women in front of me... Soooo.. okay maybe they all are crazy.. (kidding)

My libra best-friend is not crazy.. cute, sweet, nice to me, sensitive, simple, honest, easy-going.. all the things any woman could want.. *sigh* it's hopeless...

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this is where i go when i feel this emotional/mental turmoil...lol

this is where i put out all my hurtigs and questions and love and sheesh...wait! that's Chatz' expression, i'm like here everyday i've acquired your expressn hahhaha..

anyway i don't know if this is the libra pull out or forever pull out, but i am confused and miss him, he wouldn't talk to me, he saw me online and he ignored me! sure I was cold the other day but..what does that mean? why wouldn't he talk to me? I didn't want to intrude or anything so i didn't start the conversation, is this like a chicken game: who is the last to blink? GOD! or sheesh! 😉 I miss him...;(

what if i hurt him though, telling him that i will be busy for like a month whe we last talked and it was sort of a joke but, he mirrored me and said he will be too, becasue of this and that, kinda like what i said and stopped talking to me from there after we said goodbye...but we see each other still, coz we only both pretended to be bus? but what is he thinking now? If only i could jump in a libran mind pool, i would explore and drown in it! lol
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Libra.. Have not heard a thing since Sunday.. Sent 2 emails since then. One was a poem.. the one QS posted.. I sent that to him because I thought it was cute.. NOTHING. His boy was having some relationshipi issues when I spoke to him Sun. so I sent him some advise to give him. NOTHING. Then last night I emailed him and asked if the dead silence treatment was his way of saying **ck you... He knows I am waiting for answers.. but he gives me nothing.. he knows I am sending him an xmas gift.. yet he doesn't call or write or anything... This is NOT like him at all and the last convo we had was GOOD. So either he found me here and is PISSED or he is in complete distress over what to say to me.. those are my only two options. I know my libra.. he is being really really strange right now. He should get the gift today or tomorrow. If he does not call me by Christmas.. then he is probably through with me and I will know he discovered DXP.

Even if he doesn't want to be with me, he would call. He has never been this quiet after I ask him something this important and I know it did not scare him bc he called me right after he got the email. If it scared him, he would not call me that quickly, he would have sent an email instead.. probably.

I have to give him his space either way. I'm not going to call him until he gives me something. I think I have done enough for now.
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Gem..

Okay... I've been here and I listen to what my libra says about women. They think we are soooo predictable to whatever move they make. They know we are thinking about them.. he knows you see him online.. and he see's you. He is playing with you. It is up to you to do the uncoventional.. whatever that is for your guy. Whatever, other women would do in a situation, do the opposite! Whatever, he expects you to say... say the opposite or ask a question... Libra's are way way smarter and more clever than we are giving them credit for.. maybe they are SHY or whatever, but that mind is working overtime... They are almost too clever.

Read lots of books on men and relationships... this has helped me understand men better and be less anxious.
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Aqua, funny that poem was sent to me by my Libra friend, who is not on my good friend list right now...

I think you went a little overboard with the emails and calls. THEY HATE IT WHEN THEY FEEL BADGERED... For one, it makes them feel they have the control so they lay back and for two, they are analyzing why you are calling so much and once they sense you are angry, may be trying to see what is the best way to respond to you. So, yest give it a week at least and if he doesn't call by then, which I am almost sure he will, then just give him a call and say, "Hey you what's up witcha" or something light like that...

He will probably act like nothing ever happened. This is what they do... It will be hard, but wait.
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QS.. I never badger him, and I rarely email or call. So he has to know something is different. I don't know.. We are friends first. If he ever needed anything from me, ANYTHING, I would work tirelessly day and night until I delivered it to him... you don't tell someone you love them and when they need you, you back out. I just don't believe in that. But I am going to be okay with it, because I have to. I'm not mad just a little hurt. I guess we will see.

Thank you for your words of encouragement though.. I need to go back to the itube and view those clips LS sent again and get some positive energy back into my life... I am in one of my rebellious moods..
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I have to hand it to theLibran, he explains us pretty freakin well.

Oh, and Chatz don't get offended, I know exactly what he means about the Gems'. There is a universal attraction there, but also it's just the only sign that makes full use of the Libran brain power. The only thing that ever works in seducing me is a delicate combination of suggestivenss and subtlety. Be coy but show your desire ever so slightly.

I was really entertained with the whole analyzing every little detail from expression, to manerism, tone of voice, what was said, what was implied, eye contact....everything. That is why girls tend to feel like we know them better than they know themselves. Unfortunately there is no way to pin us down.
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Grammar's kinda bad, but it's good enough to make sense of it:

She is a patient person, but always need new excitement. She can be in love
with you today, and one day she could act as if she has never loved
you before. She has patient with what she wants to do and will never
give up until she gets there. She will be very persistent in what she
is doing till she has reasons for stopping her project, then she will
quit.

She will be honest to her love one, but at the same time seems distant. You will have a good relationship with her, if you allow her freedom. She is a public figure but belongs to no one.She will not stay with you, if she thinks you are not sincere. She likes you to have personality, but better not to compete with her. Loves her, but not too much for she afraid it will limiting her freedom.

She is not a jealous type because she has to know you thoroughly before accepting you in her life. She has more curiosity in life than wondering if right now you are flirting with someone else. If you keep a distant from her, or go away for a few days, she will miss you more. Even when she is dating you, she also able to fond of someone
else, if you do not have something she is looking for. She will never disappoint you or hide behind your back to make you loose face, but she is the type who just going to tell you to your face that ? We're better off breaking up?.

She likes to learn about your dreams and your thought. She has fun
teasing you and making jokes. If she did something wrong, she won't
hide it from you, but do not ask when she is not in the mood to talk
about it. If you want to make it with Taurus woman, then do not be jealous or
possessive, do not be narrow minded, do not criticize about nonsense
or small and insignificant matters.

I suppose this does describe me to a degree. Maybe this is why I'm feeling "blah" about Mr. Libra these days, especially the part that says that I can be in love with someone one day and not in love the next. 😉
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Libra With Taurus:
Venus, the love goddess, rules both these and it does shine on the two lovebirds, that is, until one of them steps out of line. Then the feathers will fly. However there are common interests, and a meeting of the mind and body, making this a very good marital combination. As boyfriends and girlfriends these two get along well, but tend to be a tad bit possessive. This is the biggest thing to be careful of, tendencies will be there to test the limits of the relationships, probing to see what can be gotten away with.

when they say they "tend to ge a bit possessive, are they referring to both Libra and Taurus? I didn't think Libra were possessive. I'm not much of a possessive person myself, unless it has to do with my family, whom I protect

The success of this relationship will require Libra's sense of diplomacy and Taurus's patience. Libra an air sign loves to roam and Taurus an earth sign loves to sit and smell the roses. With understanding it could be a harmonic relationship.

Oh yay...there's hope for us yet LOL

I really need to lay off the booze.
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lol no the booze helps us get through. Well HP things are certainly hopeful for you....however as far as this Leo and her Libran go? I just can't work him out so Im gonna sit quietly and get on with life....if somebody comes along who wants to snap me up then so be it - his loss....if he wants to sit at home every night chatting on some singles site to women across the other side of the world so be it. Maybe he'll realise one day but Im thinking I should move on but again, I'll hang around here coz its fun 🙂

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My brain hurts. I just found out our moon compatibility....Leo(me) and Cap(him)....we're given a 5 out of 10. Taurus are persistent; I shall hang in there and get that rating up..😛

Yes, get on with life! Enjoy it so you can't look back and regret waiting for him to join you. I will stay on this site too.

I had drinks tonight with a guy that is a "friend of a friend". I asked his birthday. He said October 4th. Oh and he fit the bill: dressed nice, smelled nice, groomed, talking to EVERYONE at the bar, trying to make me fit in, but not paying too much attention to me so as not to appear too interested. I stayed for about an hour. He walked me to my car and did the "I'll call you later" bit. I laughed and he asked what I was laughing at and I just said som ething silly .

So yeah, chances are I'll still peruse the Libra site. I now have 3 Libras in my life. It's just that one primarily soaks up the topics o nher.

ok, no more alcholo fo rme