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How do I know if this Libra is into me? I think he is, but maybe its just him...being a libra.
Kinda similar to how me and my libra met and got together...it was also at work. At first he would just casually be in the room with me and everyone else and generally chat to the crew. Then the intense staring began...from across the room or hallway. I'd be in the staff room making a cup of tea or opening my locker and as I looked up, BAM, there he was. He would always complement me when I arrived to work and at that point I had an inkling he liked me but still weren't sure. He would always seek me out wherever I would be and find ways to talk to me.
I knew what was up when one day we had a gathering and as he was leaving and saying bye to me, he gently, ever-so-slightly touched my arm. Very subtle and only noticed by the both of us. We became friends and then we got together a few months after that. It was challenging because the other colleagues liked him and were jealous of our bond but we managed to keep it a secret and remained professional for work. I left a year later.
We're still together; he's my best friend and I love him dearly.
I knew what was up when one day we had a gathering and as he was leaving and saying bye to me, he gently, ever-so-slightly touched my arm. Very subtle and only noticed by the both of us. We became friends and then we got together a few months after that. It was challenging because the other colleagues liked him and were jealous of our bond but we managed to keep it a secret and remained professional for work. I left a year later.
We're still together; he's my best friend and I love him dearly.
I am a female second decan Libra, so I may not be the best person to address this, but...
He is stalking you. I recognize myself in that. I am a big time stalker. I am more subtle than your crush (maybe because I have less testosterone and because women tend to be sneakier), but I am just as relentless. Stalking people usually makes me look like an idiot and I manage to make crushes flee me rather than attract them, but I can't help stalking. 😄
You are right that Libras are indecisive, but if he has been relentlessly stalking you, it means he has managed to make up his mind. I think his behavior has more to do with the fact that Libras abhor rejection. He will probably never directly ask you out until you reciprocate. He is likely hoping you picked up on the stalking and know what it means. He probably figures that If you are okay with the stalking and if you like him, you will react, getting him off the hook for making an overt move.
You might have to be the one to make the first overt move. I think what he does is plain to see, he believes it is plain to see, and if you don't react, he will either give up, thinking you are not interested (more likely) or thinking you are dumb for not noticing or not catching his drift (less likely).
If you do react, do something subtle, not bold. If you are bold, he could feel intimidated, get nervous and it all goes downhill from there. Sit next to him at lunch. Compliment him on something, but make sure you mean it. You might ask if he ever considered voice acting. Don't be fake. If you are daring, break or lose something and borrow his, then forget to give it back. 😄 Lots of different ways to go on from there. If you are really daring and a good actress, get "accidentally" injured in his vicinity and let him tend to your injury.
Once you get physically close while colleagues are at a safe distance, show unmistakable but subtle signs of interest. Stare at him and bat your lashes. Give him your best smile and deep eye contact. He will react and take it up a notch. He might respond with an overt move right there, or need an extra round of feeling you out.
It would matter to him not only that you are interested but also in what way. If he is serious and not just looking for a fling, he will want to be sure it is not purely sexual on your end.
Good luck!
He is stalking you. I recognize myself in that. I am a big time stalker. I am more subtle than your crush (maybe because I have less testosterone and because women tend to be sneakier), but I am just as relentless. Stalking people usually makes me look like an idiot and I manage to make crushes flee me rather than attract them, but I can't help stalking. 😄
You are right that Libras are indecisive, but if he has been relentlessly stalking you, it means he has managed to make up his mind. I think his behavior has more to do with the fact that Libras abhor rejection. He will probably never directly ask you out until you reciprocate. He is likely hoping you picked up on the stalking and know what it means. He probably figures that If you are okay with the stalking and if you like him, you will react, getting him off the hook for making an overt move.
You might have to be the one to make the first overt move. I think what he does is plain to see, he believes it is plain to see, and if you don't react, he will either give up, thinking you are not interested (more likely) or thinking you are dumb for not noticing or not catching his drift (less likely).
If you do react, do something subtle, not bold. If you are bold, he could feel intimidated, get nervous and it all goes downhill from there. Sit next to him at lunch. Compliment him on something, but make sure you mean it. You might ask if he ever considered voice acting. Don't be fake. If you are daring, break or lose something and borrow his, then forget to give it back. 😄 Lots of different ways to go on from there. If you are really daring and a good actress, get "accidentally" injured in his vicinity and let him tend to your injury.
Once you get physically close while colleagues are at a safe distance, show unmistakable but subtle signs of interest. Stare at him and bat your lashes. Give him your best smile and deep eye contact. He will react and take it up a notch. He might respond with an overt move right there, or need an extra round of feeling you out.
It would matter to him not only that you are interested but also in what way. If he is serious and not just looking for a fling, he will want to be sure it is not purely sexual on your end.
Good luck!
Posted by Gombolom
I am a female second decan Libra, so I may not be the best person to address this, but...
He is stalking you. I recognize myself in that. I am a big time stalker. I am more subtle than your crush (maybe because I have less testosterone and because women tend to be sneakier), but I am just as relentless. Stalking people usually makes me look like an idiot and I manage to make crushes flee me rather than attract them, but I can't help stalking. 😄
This is me to a tee. Do you have Venus in Scorpio?
Anyway, I agree that he's definitely interested in you, and subtly trying to seduce you. With my Taurus ex, I wasn't bold enough to sit next to him all the time, but I would always try to sit near him and strategically anchor myself in a way that made it easy for us to make eye-contact. lol Whether he sees you as a fling or otherwise is too early to say, considering you two rarely even know each other.
I don't know how Libra men are, but as a Libra woman, I can get very easily discouraged if I am dropping (what I perceive to be) obvious hints on the regular and you are not showing much reaction in return. Even the more extroverted Libras are quite sensitive on the inside.
I'd take Gombolom's advice and start making it known that you like him, but keep it in moderation. We don't like a hopeless cause, but we do appreciate a little challenge. 🙂
Because you're a Scorpio Rising, his Sun is going to be in your twelfth house. This feeling of not knowing whether he likes you or not, not being able to guess at his motives, will not go away if you are in a relationship with him.
Usually we are attracted to Suns in our H12 because they seem mysterious to us. There could be good aspects and synastry between you but this placement won't go away. I would keep that in mind.
Usually we are attracted to Suns in our H12 because they seem mysterious to us. There could be good aspects and synastry between you but this placement won't go away. I would keep that in mind.
Wow, another sag-libra pairing.
Let's ask @Noni05
Let's ask @Noni05
Posted by alicesparklykat
Because you're a Scorpio Rising, his Sun is going to be in your twelfth house. This feeling of not knowing whether he likes you or not, not being able to guess at his motives, will not go away if you are in a relationship with him.
Usually we are attracted to Suns in our H12 because they seem mysterious to us. There could be good aspects and synastry between you but this placement won't go away. I would keep that in mind.
Any advice? Does that mean I'm always going to find libra males to be a mystery? I didn't know that about rising signs and our 12th house. I wish I knew his whole chart..
Posted by Fleshpot
This is me to a tee. Do you have Venus in Scorpio?
Totally! ? Merry meet!
New question... do libras always kind of like you, even if they get distracted by someone new? Or do their feelings disappear when something new and shiny is in front of them?
I saw him walking with a girl at work that's I've never seen before, and it broke my heart a little bit. I'm sure they were in a meeting or something, but I feel like me being clueless to his attempts and our lack of being in the same area together except once a week is going to force him to loose interest.
I just feel bad for only now picking up on his hints... and afraid it might be too late.
😢
I saw him walking with a girl at work that's I've never seen before, and it broke my heart a little bit. I'm sure they were in a meeting or something, but I feel like me being clueless to his attempts and our lack of being in the same area together except once a week is going to force him to loose interest.
I just feel bad for only now picking up on his hints... and afraid it might be too late.
😢
Unless only interested in a fling, Libras are not easily distracted. But yes, the feeling fades over time if it is not somehow reciprocated.
Good news is it can be rekindled as long as he is not actively into someone else. You will just have to work a bit harder.
In short, it is now up to you to pursue him. But only if he really has stopped pursuing you.
Don't let him get away!
Good news is it can be rekindled as long as he is not actively into someone else. You will just have to work a bit harder.
In short, it is now up to you to pursue him. But only if he really has stopped pursuing you.
Don't let him get away!
Posted by alicesparklykatLibra man here: damn I love a smart woman. Can we get married? LOL
Because you're a Scorpio Rising, his Sun is going to be in your twelfth house. This feeling of not knowing whether he likes you or not, not being able to guess at his motives, will not go away if you are in a relationship with him.
Usually we are attracted to Suns in our H12 because they seem mysterious to us. There could be good aspects and synastry between you but this placement won't go away. I would keep that in mind.
As a Libra male ready to settle down - I would waste no time with a woman I was deeply into. I would get her number, take her to lunch get it up and going with no bullshit.
It sounds like he is flirting with you which is not the same as being really "into" someone. But Sag-Lib have a natural vibe that makes connection easy and effortless. However a Libra is a masculine sign pretty straightforward and direct.
It sounds like he is flirting with you which is not the same as being really "into" someone. But Sag-Lib have a natural vibe that makes connection easy and effortless. However a Libra is a masculine sign pretty straightforward and direct.
update:
so I decided to make an effort to be in his presence. Made up some reason to be in his office, and the first part was to have him check some work I did because I purposefully made an error. He of course was nice to try and solve the issue for me - although I already knew what I did. lol
The next day I went and visited him to tell him that I fixed the problem, and he was genuinely interested in the information. then as I was leaving he pays me compliment (loudly) , in front of 3 other coworkers not even carrying that they heard. telling me what I was wearing was "very pretty". (gush and instant red face)
I could not think for the rest of the day. I felt like the luckiest freaking girl in the world.
I wish I knew him better to determine if his compliments are just nice compliments or something more..
I still don't know..
I'm just glad i did something as far as reciprocating trying to be in his space as he was doing so with me the week prior. Hopefully, maybe that may give him some sort of indication... but who knows... lol
so I decided to make an effort to be in his presence. Made up some reason to be in his office, and the first part was to have him check some work I did because I purposefully made an error. He of course was nice to try and solve the issue for me - although I already knew what I did. lol
The next day I went and visited him to tell him that I fixed the problem, and he was genuinely interested in the information. then as I was leaving he pays me compliment (loudly) , in front of 3 other coworkers not even carrying that they heard. telling me what I was wearing was "very pretty". (gush and instant red face)
I could not think for the rest of the day. I felt like the luckiest freaking girl in the world.
I wish I knew him better to determine if his compliments are just nice compliments or something more..
I still don't know..
I'm just glad i did something as far as reciprocating trying to be in his space as he was doing so with me the week prior. Hopefully, maybe that may give him some sort of indication... but who knows... lol
Honestly? It sounds like he is just being a libra.
Aww. I'm a sag. My first real love was a Libra. I remember him being skiddish at first. ( We were so young!) He would rush after the last bell to walk next to me nonchalantly to the buses. I would wait if he were running late, pretending to be chatting with someone. Then we'd walk together, without even discussing it. It took us forever to even speak! Such tension! We both knew, but were too shy.
Lol in class, we'd pass notes back and forth. I probably instigated that one. We were so darn cute! Thanks for reminding me.
But he was so adorable, and the way he treated me once we got together was nothing short of kind with old fashioned courting rituals from classic books. But In the end, I needed wilder than that.
Lol in class, we'd pass notes back and forth. I probably instigated that one. We were so darn cute! Thanks for reminding me.
But he was so adorable, and the way he treated me once we got together was nothing short of kind with old fashioned courting rituals from classic books. But In the end, I needed wilder than that.
Posted by jeaneI think youre right... I think I've come to the conclusion that I need to stop misinterpreting his kindness for flirting. ? Although I'd give anything for it to mean something more, I need to let it go. I've worked myself up over this, that at this point, I need to be realistic and stop romanticizing something that's not there. ?
Honestly? It sounds like he is just being a libra.
Thanks for the insight.
Posted by seacloversIt's not to say something couldn't develop between you in the future so in the meantime, keep your options open, get to know him (you might discover that he is a giant arsehole) and keep being your usual happy self. You've lost nothing then.Posted by jeaneI think youre right... I think I've come to the conclusion that I need to stop misinterpreting his kindness for flirting. ? Although I'd give anything for it to mean something more, I need to let it go. I've worked myself up over this, that at this point, I need to be realistic and stop romanticizing something that's not there. ?
Honestly? It sounds like he is just being a libra.
Thanks for the insight.click to expand
Posted by AtcrossroadsOMG, that is so adowable!
Aww. I'm a sag. My first real love was a Libra. I remember him being skiddish at first. ( We were so young!) He would rush after the last bell to walk next to me nonchalantly to the buses. I would wait if he were running late, pretending to be chatting with someone. Then we'd walk together, without even discussing it. It took us forever to even speak! Such tension! We both knew, but were too shy.
Lol in class, we'd pass notes back and forth. I probably instigated that one. We were so darn cute! Thanks for reminding me.
But he was so adorable, and the way he treated me once we got together was nothing short of kind with old fashioned courting rituals from classic books. But In the end, I needed wilder than that.
I can see how you can outgrow such a puppy love but I think you are lucky for having had the experience! It is exactly how most little girls wish their first experience were like, but it seldom turns out to be that way in the end.
That's it? One person suggests he is just being a Libra and you give up? What if that one person is mistaken? It seems to me you were really excited about recent developments a day ago. Your own impression weighs less in the balance (no pun intended) than one online stranger's personal experience? That's treetrunked up...
Posted by GombolomIt's not that... I tend to do this a lot... get super excited, over analyze and make up stupid scenarios in my head of some whirlwind romance... and as much as I want to think this could be amazing, I know I'm setting my feelings up for failure. And I've also experienced being on the other side when my interactions with another person are misinterpreted as flirting... I'm not going to fully give up, I'm just toning down my "addiction" to the rush -if you will. If he does something that is a dead give away then I'll definitely go for it. But right not it's too new and I don't know him hardly at all. I just need to not get so worked up when someone I actually like pays me an ounce of attention. I feel like I'm starving for the attention, and the tiny amounts given are making me crazy. (Not literally haha but thinking and over analyzing every tiny detail every second of the day) I'll keep you posted if things change ❤
That's it? One person suggests he is just being a Libra and you give up? What if that one person is mistaken? It seems to me you were really excited about recent developments a day ago. Your own impression weighs less in the balance (no pun intended) than one online stranger's personal experience? That's treetrunked up...
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When I first moved to his building, the moment I saw him I liked him, but I'm naturally shy. Then the first lunch meeting we had (with about 70 other coworkers) He chose to sit next to me and we chatted for a bit before he went to socialize. I was so taken aback that out of all the people in the room, he chose to sit next to me... I thought maybe he was just curious because I was new, but then every department meeting after (about 40 people; every friday for the last 3 months) He always chooses to sit next to me. Sometimes not talking to me, or other times hes asked simple work questions...questions I know he could easily email someone else about, but he asks them anyways...
He also just recently has started showing up more frequently where I work in our building (we work on different floors); goes out of his way to say hi, even if he's in mid conversation with someone, and a few days ago actually stopped at my desk where he realized as he was about to talk to me (or at least I think thats what he was doing since my name was the first thing out of his mouth) that our whole team also sits, so he played it cool and went around to everyone saying hi, giving hi-fives etc but quickly went to the last two desks and chatted with my teammates.
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It was such a strange thing to do, to divulge that kind of personal stuff with people he never speaks to and very casually at that, but I secretly think he was saying all of those things in earshot of me knowing I could hear him. Because obviously I was listening.. 🙂
I do really like him, he's incredibly well groomed, has this amazingly deep voice, Everyone loves him at work, and he's incredibly intelligent.
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