I'm feeling I'm not getting a fair chance from a Libra woman

I'm an Aries man (Leo rising, Aquarius moon) and she's a Libra (Cancer rising, Cancer moon) we both met in college and after that more or less kept in contact.

We even went out on a couple of "dates" but nothing came out of it, recently we've been talking a lot more (I had a first row seat to the end of her last relationship) and now she's taking a break from dating.

I get that and respect that but in the grey period where she wasn't sure she wanted to end it with her ex or not we had a couple of talks where we both thought the other was interested.

From those talks I realized she is still seeing me as I was in college and right after college which is very fat, out of shape and with an unhealthy life style , which doesn't describe me anymore as I've gotten more fit, more physically active etc.

This is despite both of us sending pictures of us to another (facebook and whatsapp) but she outright told me that she doesn't trust any pictures on facebook and etc (messing with the angles, etc, and even photoshop she would know as she works with photoshop for a living)

I really don't like that a large part of her decision is based on faults I no longer have, but I don't know how to open her eyes as it were.

Right now we're leaving in different towns but she will soon move to the city where I live for her job this autumn.

Bruh....first row seat to the end of the relationship = useful shoulder

Being judged by vain standards = idk libra standard?

Youre not where you think you are.

2 cents

Run

Posted by Mr_Pinchy

Bruh....first row seat to the end of the relationship = useful shoulder

Being judged by vain standards = idk libra standard?

Youre not where you think you are.

2 cents

Yeah that usefull shoulder bit is very clear to me 😄, idk I wanted to post more I wanted to post less that's what I ended up writting out as to not turn it into a whole novel.

The vain thing is also something I know and she acknowledges we joke about it together, thing is I accept the vain criteria but you would be annoyed about being judged by a previous lesser state as well, no ?

Like if I met you on your worst day and from then on no matter how you act or etc I still judge you by that worst day, that's not fair by any definition.

Posted by CodeKnight

I'm an Aries man (Leo rising, Aquarius moon) and she's a Libra (Cancer rising, Cancer moon) we both met in college and after that more or less kept in contact.

We even went out on a couple of "dates" but nothing came out of it, recently we've been talking a lot more (I had a first row seat to the end of her last relationship) and now she's taking a break from dating.

I get that and respect that but in the grey period where she wasn't sure she wanted to end it with her ex or not we had a couple of talks where we both thought the other was interested.

From those talks I realized she is still seeing me as I was in college and right after college which is very fat, out of shape and with an unhealthy life style , which doesn't describe me anymore as I've gotten more fit, more physically active etc.

This is despite both of us sending pictures of us to another (facebook and whatsapp) but she outright told me that she doesn't trust any pictures on facebook and etc (messing with the angles, etc, and even photoshop she would know as she works with photoshop for a living)

I really don't like that a large part of her decision is based on faults I no longer have, but I don't know how to open her eyes as it were.

Right now we're leaving in different towns but she will soon move to the city where I live for her job this autumn.

How did you have a front row seat if you live in different cities?

you open her eyes by you continuing to be you. if she can't see it through her own superficial veneer then that's her problem.

you don't need to prove yourself to anyone.

He meant he thought he was next in line after she ended her relationship with her ex.

OP, most Libra women love, love, love Aries men and are hopelessly lost in the passion they raise in us. You aren't sounding like an Aries. Me thinks you need to find your Aries power and show it to her. We do love beautiful things but passion can turn a stone into a diamond for us.

Shallow reasons or not your not entitled to her pussy. That’s her choice to make.

She told you she’s not ready to date cause she just got out of a relationship and your making it out like she’s not wanting to date you cause you used to be pudge.

Posted by CodeKnight

she's taking a break from dating.

I get that and respect that but

But I still feel entitled to a ‘fair chance’.

Posted by DonnaLibra

He meant he thought he was next in line after she ended her relationship with her ex.

OP, most Libra women love, love, love Aries men and are hopelessly lost in the passion they raise in us. You aren't sounding like an Aries. Me thinks you need to find your Aries power and show it to her. We do love beautiful things but passion can turn a stone into a diamond for us.

Nah huh... love, hate, love, hate love lol

Some people are judgmental, and for good reason. Who knows when you’ll revert back to those qualities. She will see that you have changed on her time, not on yours.

Posted by LadyNeptune

Shallow reasons or not your not entitled to her pussy.

Twist those words bb

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Posted by CodeKnight

she's taking a break from dating.

I get that and respect that but

But I still feel entitled to a ‘fair chance’.

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Twist those words bb

Wait? So did she actually SAY I don’t want to date you because you probably look the same as before? Or that you are the same, like in personality also? Or are you just assuming that’s why she doesn’t want to be with you because of your own insecurities? I know you said you both joke about how you looked before, but how straightforward was she about that being the reason she doesn’t want to DATE you? If someone said they didn’t want to date me because I was bigger before, I’d say bye real quick! 😂😂

If she just doesn’t want to date in general because she just got out of a relationship then let it go, and just let her get to know you as a friend. Maybe once she is ready she’ll talk more about dating.

🤦🏻‍♀️ And people say Libras move on quickly. Stop chasing and let her breathe. 😂

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Posted by LadyNeptune

Posted by CodeKnight

she's taking a break from dating.

I get that and respect that but

But I still feel entitled to a ‘fair chance’.

Twist those words bb

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I'm learning from you 😘

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Posted by _Dazed

Posted by LadyNeptune

Posted by CodeKnight

she's taking a break from dating.

I get that and respect that but

But I still feel entitled to a ‘fair chance’.

Twist those words bb

I'm learning from you 😘

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Is this you finally admitting your hypocrisy?

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Posted by LadyNeptune

Posted by _Dazed

Posted by LadyNeptune

Posted by CodeKnight

she's taking a break from dating.

I get that and respect that but

But I still feel entitled to a ‘fair chance’.

Twist those words bb

I'm learning from you 😘

Is this you finally admitting your hypocrisy?

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Is that what your after? An admission

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Posted by LadyNeptune

Shallow reasons or not your not entitled to her pussy.

Twist those words bb

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How do you find the energy to do this day in and day out?

Posted by tiziani

Just meet up. That's common sense.

Yeah that's what we'll do, a lot of replies here are making me or her seem worse than we are I think, this is just my side of the story she would tell it differently for sure.

We're just people after all, a lot of the criticism I see here of me is certainly warranted but even more seem to just be people taking a side based on their own grievances and fighting over those based on who (me or her) they identify with more.

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Posted by _Dazed

Posted by LadyNeptune

Shallow reasons or not your not entitled to her pussy.

Twist those words bb

How do you find the energy to do this day in and day out?

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Astrological reason? All of my personal planets are fixed and in fixed houses.

Non Astro reason? I have to keep my mind occupied and dxp helps me do that (multi-tasking).

Just let her be. If she'll get interested in you, she will. But it'll be on her time, not yours.