Libra female - I am really confused (Page 2)

"lol, I am more obsessed with decoding her behaviors more than her, as of this point. But like I said in the previous post, I gave up decoding her already. I just want to keep you guys and gals updated as someone has asked me to do so"

Well, you're not interested in decoding anyone else's moves, are you? What made her so interesting? hmm... 🙂

"From this point on, no more asking her out. We are just gonna be racquetball pals!"

That's one of the best starts to have!

"Well, you're not interested in decoding anyone else's moves, are you? What made her so interesting? hmm..."

-- if you know us, aquarians, then you should know that we are very curious creatures. We are attracted to things that are different, things that we have yet to encounter. Well, this is the first time in my life that I've seen a girl behaving this way. But this girl's behaviors are so confusing (at least to me) that I have given up trying to figure her out 🙂 There are other mysteries to investigate, *winks*

"From this point on, no more asking her out. We are just gonna be racquetball pals!" That's one of the best starts to have!

-- Thanks 🙂, but it's not a start, it's more like a pause/stop. I am the kind of guys that only date one girl at a time. I felt guilty (i.e. dishonest) otherwise. By establishing that she is only my racquetball pal (and based on her behaviors, I think I can justly do so), I can check out other mysteries (i.e. girls, lol) that I have put in the wait list, without feeling guilty. Yeah, strange, but we aquarians have our own codes that we live and die by 🙂

I read your posts again, more carefully this time (usually I just skim through). Okay, she just broke up with her boyfriend, and she might still be holding some feelings for him, and not to disrespect that memory, she's taking it really slow for now.
It is obvious she likes you, and going the friend way is a good bet.
But she will probably still send signals your way, because, hey, who doesn't like an admirer?
Well, if you date someone else, and she shows some form of displeasure or jealousy (I'm sure your aquarian analytical radar can pick up on that), then she probably likes you and is thinking of furthering it. But of course, you have the option then to choose because she didn't respond as favorably the first try.

"But this girl's behaviors are so confusing (at least to me) that I have given up trying to figure her out"

Probably a mixture of her recent breakup, apprehension in getting to know you, if you just met, and the impressions of guys her last relationship left her to mull about.

"I read your posts again, more carefully this time (usually I just skim through). Okay, she just broke up with her boyfriend, and she might still be holding some feelings for him, and not to disrespect that memory, she's taking it really slow for now."

-- It's not her speed that confuses me. It's the inconsistency in her speed that left me puzzled. Feel like I am riding a roller coaster blindfolded, no fun!

"But she will probably still send signals your way, because, hey, who doesn't like an admirer?"

-- ya, possibly

"Well, if you date someone else, and she shows some form of displeasure or jealousy (I'm sure your aquarian analytical radar can pick up on that), then she probably likes you and is thinking of furthering it. But of course, you have the option then to choose because she didn't respond as favorably the first try."

-- Once I stop or pause, it may take a little while for me to get back to playing. Also, if the next mystery is more responsive/interesting, I may never come back. I don't dwell in the past. The future is much more exciting.

"Probably a mixture of her recent breakup, apprehension in getting to know you, if you just met, and the impressions of guys her last relationship left her to mull about."

-- Good guess, but really, only God knows what she is thinking! lol

"DECODE, there is no way."

-- lol, tell me about it!

"I am married to a Scorpio who loves puzzles and looks at things for the most part in black and white, gray does not exist for him until he met me."

-- funny you said that. This girl was born on Scorpio/Libra cusp, and she is into puzzles as well (sudoku).

"Point is, if you feel for this woman.... you have felt the breeze on your back , the fire in your heart, the mud of the earth between your toes and the ocean wave over your soul."

-- lol, that's pretty intense, not sure I can handle all that feelings!

"Proceed with your mind in full mode and your body not so much. Libra's are all mental and when we do unveil the physical aspect to you we want to capture you."

-- I am not asking for a kiss on the first date, hold hands on 3rd date, or sex on the 5th date. A slight touch on the arm should do (funny she touched me more before). If what you said is true, then I think I am doing pretty well. I will keep you all posted, 🙂

Ya, aqua_guy, she sounds like my guy, except he's a male, lol!

"It's not her speed that confuses me. It's the inconsistency in her speed that left me puzzled. Feel like I am riding a roller coaster blindfolded, no fun!"

Well you tell me about that too! Lol.. isn't that what love is? I assume she's quite young, (she sounds so), so without alot of experience or maturity under her belt, this would prolly be the way she acts, because she just doesn't know how to .. move forward or backward.. she sounds like a really shy girl, and yes, she is shy because she may not know how to handle her fragile feelings.
Unfortunately, this causes ruckus for the straightforward partner, trying to "decode" the actions.

You sound like a pretty decent guy, best of luck to you, and don't move on so fast! I bet she'll give you years of decoding to do to keep you interested 🙂

"assume she's quite young, (she sounds so), so without alot of experience or maturity under her belt, this would prolly be the way she acts, because she just doesn't know how to .. move forward or backward.."

-- wow, you are so right, she is young.

"she sounds like a really shy girl, and yes, she is shy because she may not know how to handle her fragile feelings."

-- she told me that she is shy and was not the popular kid when she was in high school.

"Unfortunately, this causes ruckus for the straightforward partner, trying to "decode" the actions."

-- ha ha ha, you are right on.

"You sound like a pretty decent guy, best of luck to you, and don't move on so fast! I bet she'll give you years of decoding to do to keep you interested"

-- thanks for you kind thoughts! I think we are moving at snail space so hopefully that is slow enough for her 🙂

"Maybe she needed some lotion, or her palms were sweaty. Don't worry about the hands thing. She was probably just nervous! That chick needed a manicure!"

-- Virgo Libra, you are funny 🙂. No, I am sure her hands were okay, lol. By the way, why hide your post?

Aqua_guy, you didn't state how young is young.. but I'm assuming probably around 25?
If she has saturn in libra you can be sure she's waiting for the durable one.. that means she's waiting to see if you'll stick around or if you'll bolt without looking back at the first sign of disinterest or trouble. I think if you stick around through all the good and bad times, and help her grow inside herself, with benefits to you too, you can potentially learn heaps about yourself (and her, or women) from this relationship, and finally decide on mutual grounds if you're truly compatible.
And the snail pace is the normal pace for a saturn/sun conjunct; they are very slow to open up, very cautious, and need alot of security before they commit. Something like a capricorn I guess. (She will have saturn in libra if she is between 24-27 yrs)

spica:

thanks for your analysis. what you said makes sense. but I think this girl has scorpio influence as well. I don't really know her sun sign, since I don't know exactly where and when she was born.

For now, I will just take it that she only wants to be friends. Will see how things go when I get back to town from my Christmas vacation.