libra female/libra male..how do i attract him??

how do i attract my libra male? we work together and have flirted many times. Even text messaging a lot of the time. How do i know if he is attracted to me? How do i attract him? He goes frome seeming to be interested to not and then back again?? is this normal?

see, thats what i thought. it is weird how he is with other girls at work...kind of like he has a special kind of smile for me. he doesn't like it when he isnt getting my attention either. whats a libras girl to do. Never been attracted to a libra male before...just need some guidance..thanks

that does make sense! I know libra men don't like to be ignored. i know he doesn't. Well, what do you think i should do to steal some of his attention. I have heard that they like when girls wear dresses. anything that looks like it is easy to remove or push up! lol. but it hasnt to look classy at the same time.

Ask him yourself. We are tempters. We like it when we bring the other person to the point that they just come out with it.

I am a Libra guy with a Libra girl. We the attraction was obvious and while we were both flirty we were "different" with each other like you describe about him.

I teased her mind getting all of the feedback I needed and then moved in and she responded in kind. That is the key though, we will make a move but she needs to make it pretty clear she wants us to. We are used to girls making the first move on us. It's a gift really.

I would guess as a Libra woman you haven't had to do much of that, a Libra guy might just force your hand though.

a male libra perspective!! Now thats what i need! perfect! that is exactly what he does! I definitely don't want to scare him off though. He is the first libras male i have ever been attracted to. I don't want to do anything that is a turn off! pink seems to be a color that strikes his interest...that and dresses and skirt days...does that seem right?

My perspective: You don't have to attract him at all. It's your self they like, not some act. But all you got to do is wait for him to make the move. It can be slow or fast, but mostly slow. The cold part is the hint to back off, cos you're coming on too strong.

You beat me to it spica - I agree just be yourself and things should fall in place. If you need a pointer try and light touch on the arm or something similar. I know that's a sure sign for me and from the sounds of things he might just be looking for something that simple.

Good Luck

YEAH, SO I AM REALLY STARTING TO THINK THAT HE ISN'T INTO ME. HE IS SO HARD TO FIGURE OUT. I AM A DAMN LIBRA MYSELF SO I WOULD HAVE THOUGHT THAT HE WOULD BE EASIER TO FIGURE OUT. WE TEXT BACK AND FORTH FOR LIKE 3 HOURS LAST NIGHT AND HE TELLS ME HE WANTS TO SPEND SOME "ALONE TIME" WITH ME IF YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN AND WE GO BACK AND FORTH LIKE THAT FOR AWHILE AND THEN CLOSE TO THE END OF OUR TEXTING HE APOLOGIZES TO ME AND SAID HE WAS THINKING WITH THE WRONG HEAD AND MAYBE ITS NOT A GOOD IDEA BECAUSE THINGS COULD GO EITHER WAY...WHAT THE HECK DOES THAT MEAN!! I AM SO CONFUSED! HE WAS THINKING ABOUT THINGS AND WEIGHING THEM OUT...OVER ANALYZING IS WHAT I THINK. WE HAVE BEEN DOING THIS FOR AWHILE NOW. WE'VE BEEN FRIENDS OVER 5 YRS....WHAT THE HECK DO YOU GUYS THINK—

Yes we like dresses and skirts.

How did you respond? He is probably looking for you to say either "Yeah it's probably not a good idea" or "what are you talking about? I think it's a good idea."

What I am wondering is if it has to do with dipping his pen in company ink. I never really liked the idea of getting romantic with someone I worked with. I only did it once and kept that relationship completely under the radar. If she hadn't had the same desire to do so I probably wouldn't have gone there. I turned down a lot of interrests because they worked with me. My libra fiance is the same way, it think it could be a Libra thing in general, not sure.

Be your flirty self. "Say, I don't usually like the idea of dating someone I work with but I think this warrants an exception *dirty smile*"

We move a lot faster physically than we do emotionally. The constant risk with Libra guys is it could just end up being a wirlwind romance that lasts several weeks and then ends. There isn't really much you can do to find out if that is the case before the fact.

We take everything with a grain of salt at first, especially if we work with the other person. Where other guys would jump at the chance to get a little dirty with someone they are attracted to at work, we think twice about it. Were not trusting that if we upset the other person they won't bring the drama into where we work.

You pretty much have to seduce us. It it sucks, I know, but we need to be sure your genuinely interrested before we take a chance that could burn us. I don't know how well he knows you, but I would be wondering what my number in line regarding guys you have been intimate with at work.

Take this all with a grain of salt, I have no idea the details of your situation.

I TOTALLY SEE WHAT YOU ARE SAYING. HE WOULD BE GUY #1 AT WORK AND I HAVE BEEN HERE FOR OVER 12 YRS. THAT IS A GOOD POINT THOUGH. AND I LOVED THE DIPPING HIS PEN IN THE COMPANY INK!! LOL! TOO FUNNY! I WOULD HOPE THAT HE KNOWS ME WELL ENOUGH THAT I WOULDNT SAY ANYTHING. I JUST HATE IT BECAUSE WE TEETER BACK AND FORTH AND ALMOST GO FOR IT AND THEN HE BACKS OFF. DAMN I WISH I WAS BETTER AT SEDUCING THIS SEXY LITTLE LIBRA!! LOL

Next time you are talking to him like that just come out with it "Correct me if I am wrong, but I get the sense we have a mutual attraction thing going on, but your pretty level headed about getting involved with someone you work with?"

"I have never been "with" anyone I have worked with before, your making it hard to keep that the case."


My Libra literally showed up on my doorstep both where I lived and at my work. The mutual attraction, sexual and intillectual was already clear. I was the one that was trying to be rational about it. If I wasn't interrested in her it would have been creepy, being interrested in her it was exciting. I was explaining how I thought the circumstances surrounding us made it really important that we think it through she interrupted me by grabbing my crotch and giving me and kissing me. What we do not understand about Libra women is that when it comes to interrest in another they make up their mind much easier because Libra womens wants and needs are actually a lot more simple than the guys.

The Libra women thinks "If the shoe fits, wear it." The libra guy thinks "lots of shoes fit, which one shall I try on first".

This is what gives us our man whore reputation. We really aren't all about "tapping that ass", we are just cerebral about feelings. It makes sense to try things on before you buy it. We are a sensual sign (the most sensual of all the male signs) so we figure a lot of things out about someone in bed. That is probably why he goes back and forth between showing desire and being reasonable. We are used to women misinterpreting us as just being about the sex. A girl getting that will drive us more towards commitment.

One area we differ with the ladies of our sign is that the sexual tension is very gratifying to us. I think it translates to fear of taking the first step to a lot of people but I don't really think that is the case. We are very intune with the energy between us and another person and we like to work it. Libra females use that energy to get to the point, for us it is the point sex is just a continuation of working that tension to the point of extacy.

Make him be alone with you. Just like you we aren't the dinner and a movie type. If you have a lake near by drive to it, sit on the hood of the car and start talking, it will last all night.

I hope that provides some insight.

IT IS DEFINITELY DIFFERENT WITH HIM. I THINK THE FACT THAT WE ARE BOTH LIBRAS MAKES IT EVEN WORSE...WHICH REALLY TRANSLATES INTO IT BEING EVEN BETTER. WHEN WE ARE IN MY OFFICE ALONE TOGETHER IT FEELS LIKE THE GLASS WINDOWS ARE GOING TO BURST! WHEN WE WERE MESSAGING ABOUT SPENDING THE EVENING TOGETHER IT WAS KIND OF LIKE HE WAS CHALLENGING ME. HE KEPT SAYING THAT I WOULD CHICKEN OUT. I TOLD HIM I WOULD SHOW HIM AND HE KEPT SAYING THAT HE DIDNT THINK I WOULD. I ASKED WHY HE SAYS THAT AND HE SAID BECAUSE IF I WAS GOING TO SHOW HIM I WOULD HAVE DONE IT BEFORE NOW. I WOULD IF HE WOULD LET ME!!! GRRRR!!! SO MY LITTLE HELPFUL LIBRA FRIEND....WHAT ADVICE TO YOU HAVE FOR ME SO I CAN SEAL THE DEAL AND NOT MAKE HIM RUN WITH INSTEAD. HES BEEN VERY QUIET THE LAST 2 DAYS SINCE HE CHANGED HIS MIND. WHAT KIND OF FLIRTY MESSAGE CAN THIS FLIRTY LITTLE LIBRA GIRL SHOOT TO HIM TONIGHT VIA TEXT THAT WILL BRING HIM BACK OUT TO PLAY?? YOU ARE A GREAT HELP TO ME...EVERYTHING YOU HAVE SAID SO FAR MAKES TOTAL SENSE!!

OH AND BY THE WAY YOUR LIBRA LADY SOUNDS A LOT LIKE ME!! LOL! THE GRABBING THE CROTCH AND THE KISS THING..LOL SO ME! BUT I COULDN'T DO THAT TO HIM HERE AT WORK!

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IT IS DEFINITELY DIFFERENT WITH HIM. I THINK THE FACT THAT WE ARE BOTH LIBRAS MAKES IT EVEN WORSE...WHICH REALLY TRANSLATES INTO IT BEING EVEN BETTER. WHEN WE ARE IN MY OFFICE ALONE TOGETHER IT FEELS LIKE THE GLASS WINDOWS ARE GOING TO BURST! WHEN WE WERE MESSAGING ABOUT SPENDING THE EVENING TOGETHER IT WAS KIND OF LIKE HE WAS CHALLENGING ME. HE KEPT SAYING THAT I WOULD CHICKEN OUT. I TOLD HIM I WOULD SHOW HIM AND HE KEPT SAYING THAT HE DIDNT THINK I WOULD. I ASKED WHY HE SAYS THAT AND HE SAID BECAUSE IF I WAS GOING TO SHOW HIM I WOULD HAVE DONE IT BEFORE NOW. I WOULD IF HE WOULD LET ME!!! GRRRR!!! SO MY LITTLE HELPFUL LIBRA FRIEND....WHAT ADVICE TO YOU HAVE FOR ME SO I CAN SEAL THE DEAL AND NOT MAKE HIM RUN WITH INSTEAD. HES BEEN VERY QUIET THE LAST 2 DAYS SINCE HE CHANGED HIS MIND. WHAT KIND OF FLIRTY MESSAGE CAN THIS FLIRTY LITTLE LIBRA GIRL SHOOT TO HIM TONIGHT VIA TEXT THAT WILL BRING HIM BACK OUT TO PLAY?? YOU ARE A GREAT HELP TO ME...EVERYTHING YOU HAVE SAID SO FAR MAKES TOTAL SENSE!!

Ah, that is exactly what I am talking about.

First of all stop worrying about whether he will run or sweep you off your feet. Ultimately there is only one way to find out and the bottom line is you have to put yourself in a vulnerable situation to do so. It might end up an akward one night stand, it might end up a lifetime of happiness. You have to put yourself at his mercy to get anywhere with him, unfortunately that is just how we are. If what you are feeling about him makes it worth it to take the chance then take it.

"SAYS THAT AND HE SAID BECAUSE IF I WAS GOING TO SHOW HIM I WOULD HAVE DONE IT BEFORE NOW"

Then you say. "If you wanted me to show you you would be lying in my bed right now. Maybe you can't handle me though, I could understand that, im pretty impressive in bed."

We like to challenge, we like to be challenged back when it comes to sexual interrest. He is definately into you. The interrest might be sexually motivated but one thing that is true of Libra's of both sexes is we rarely sleep with people that we don't have some level of genuine appreciation for. The risk on his end is that we put our all into lovemaking, not to sound cocky but there is a risk that he will blow your mind and in doing so confuse your genuine thoughts and feelings. I was afraid of doing the same thing with my Libra. I think I even told her "look if you sleep

We are relcutant to make the first move, we are sensitive to the possibility that the other person will give into us rather than giving into their desire for us if that makes any sense. The last thing we want is to be the "I just kind of went along with it" sex story.

In all areas we are long fuse big bang. It takes a while to light it but once you do you better be sure you want us to go off 🙂

The part that go cut off : I think I even told her "look if you sleep with me you will fall in love with me" I was being cocky but I wasn't kidding. 😉

I was telling my Libra about this thread and "That she should post her advice since she managed to catch the uncatchable."

She said "There's no such thing."

I was going over how she was all over me, the sexual aggressor. She blushes and rolls her eyes like I am exagerating and she is all coy and proper. Lol...I love it.

"We got together because I didn't have a choice in the matter."

"You wanted it that way."


She's not supposed to know these things 🙂

Oh, and it's totally by accident that I had her wanting me to rip her clothes off every moment leading up to that. I would never utalize any magic libra powers to inspire that kind of behavior 😉

catch the uncatchable. That sounds about right! I am beginning to think mine is the uncatchable! It is our job as libra women to pretend we are all prim and proper! I do the same thing! Even though i know i am not. So i guess i am going to send him a text. Its going to be along the lines of him being afraid he cant handle me so on and so forth...lol. Hey, i see that you are from Arizona. Does your libra like wine? You can get some great wine there. I can't here because wine from arizona cant be shipped here to oklahoma but i have gotten some. any wine lover would love it!

Nic,
I sent that message to him about him probably not being able to handle me and got a response. you were right. but after that when i responded nothing else.

So is it true what they say about the explosive sexual relationship libra/libra match has?

Have you heard from him yet? Just keep on him. Now he knows he can if he wants to. Unfortunately us Libra males are impossible to feel pressured like the irish are impossible accurately psychoanalyze lol.

I'm not quite sure what they say about explosive sexual relationship so I can't confirm. I can say that once it turns into one there is a high likelyhood of a period of "lost in lust" where both are all over each other every moment for several weeks. Symptoms for her might include calling off of work because it hurts to walk after a long night between the sheets. For him, calling off work as well because he can't overcome the impulse to continue what took place the night before. Also realizing that neither have seen the outside of the house for days at a time, at which point a mutual suggestion is made to get out and do something other than stay home and get it on. At which point the getting it on while your out and doing something starts.

Oh my gosh! You crack me up! You sound just like me! I heard from him last night and then saw him at work.weird how I always know when he is looking. But no other meesages. Just have to wait it out. May need to get a few drinks in him. Lol

Ok Nic,
My Libra man is going to be gone for 2 days for training classes. This seems like a perfect time for him to think about me. Sending a few suggestive messages might help that! So Saturday at work I told him that I didn't want to seem like I was coming on too strong or being too forward and that I apologize. But that I didn't apologize for the things that were said while I was being forward like that... If that makes any sense. I told him that I was serious about the things I wanted to do with him and to him. Lol! That he needed to know so that way when I did finally get my hands on him he may be able to handle me and keep up with me. Libra men are sooo much fun to flirt with!

Ok Nic,
My Libra man is going to be gone for 2 days for training classes. This seems like a perfect time for him to think about me. Sending a few suggestive messages might help that! So Saturday at work I told him that I didn't want to seem like I was coming on too strong or being too forward and that I apologize. But that I didn't apologize for the things that were said while I was being forward like that... If that makes any sense. I told him that I was serious about the things I wanted to do with him and to him. Lol! That he needed to know so that way when I did finally get my hands on him he may be able to handle me and keep up with me. Libra men are sooo much fun to flirt with!

Reading some of Nic's comments took me way back to when I was dating my X libra....He came to me, showed interest and I had to go get him, I mean literally claim him as mine. That's so not my style but I remember putting in a little bit of effort after he revealed his real feelings, yes other women were around, not too many but I was it for him, told me he loved me early on, I mean very early into the non-existent relationship, I say non-existent because we were not a couple yet but for the most part he exposed his feelings and got on with his life, pretty much was just waiting for me to put my claim on him, this was when I was way younger, many moons ago we were both too immature to move forward with one another into marriage, I was growing up and so was he, but the experience was good....

2 air signs together...somebody gotta make it happen or the connection will fizzle out

Ok so persue him is what I am getting from everyone. I just don't want to look crazy or anything. This libra is definitely worth persuing. I'm just not use to having to go after someone. I am use to being persued. Oh well! This is different and kind of fun...but frustrating!lol

So Nic,
When does too much flirting and pursuing cross the line?

Well, I would just tell you if I wasn't interrested so my best guess is that it crosses the line when he says something to give you that hint.

He knows that he can now so there is no rush so to speak. I know, were a pain in the ass, seduce the girl into coming on to us and then take our time on it lol. Getting a drink in him probably wouldn't be a bad idea.

The trick is finding a place where you can make a move on him.

Now that he knows what you want to do to him and him to you.

Just send random texts like. "So have you been thinking about what I said?" To get him to engage you.

Just act normal with some suggestive language here and there.

We like the mental aspect of "courtship" so be descriptive, tease him with some of your actual fantasies. Sexual creativity and imagination turns us on.

Well he definitely brings the naughty out in me. I have noticed that I am very playful and suggestive with him. More so than I thought I ever could be. So I see a suggestive message coming his way tonight

Posted by 2libras
Well he definitely brings the naughty out in me. I have noticed that I am very playful and suggestive with him. More so than I thought I ever could be. So I see a suggestive message coming his way tonight

I think that is specific to the Libra connection. Angel says the same thing. She had no real practice being suggestive and dirty to seduce a guy she liked. She is gourgous, intelligent and fun to be around so all she had to do was hang out and be herself and there was no shortage of dudes coming on to her.

Even now when she goes out by herself or with friends, even when she is trying to keep to herself guys approach her with interrest, whether she is having a drink with friends or out marketing for work she just has that allure. I think she was beside herself when she met me lol.

She was a fast learner thogh 😉

Yeah it must be a libra girl thing. I have the same things happen to me when I am out and about. Not saying other females of other signs don't. As for the flirting, I have a naturally flirty personality. Always have and probably always will! This poor guy is gonna have to take a weeks vacation to rest after I finally get ahold of him! Lol...thanks Nic, you are the best!

So why is it that libra boys are so hard to read? Not complaining! This libra boy I want is going to be a fun little challenge.

Ohhhh...just noticed something, he is libra/virgo cusp. Could this make him more challenging?

He seems to have gone cold again. He knows I want him so I guess I will just have to see what he does with that information, if anything.

If what you have done hasn't motivated him than he probably isn't interrested at the moment for whatever reason. I would back off. You could always text him something like "Ok, I get the message. I won't entice you any more. I hope I didn't cause any akwardness."

If he is a push pull libra your phone will probably be going off within 10 min.

So yeah, he's a push/pull type. Sent a similar message to what you said Nic and this was before I read your post. Response came within 3 minutes. I'm backing off anyway.

Maybe not a bad idea to back off. If you really liked the guy and wanted a relationship with him it would be worth it to go in tie him up and drag him home. If your simply interrested in getting to know him better than he is probably more trouble than it is worth.

What was his reply? Did he go with your direction or did he turn it around and get hot again?

He turned it around and got hot again. Lol! I would love to tie him up and drag him home! I don't know!