Libra gone cold

Well I think I scared my Libra male off. Just when I thought I was close to getting him he seems to have done a u-turn. Now what?

Lol! yeah I might have to ask him!

^^ is that a question you are asking yourself Coorkie? If not, it should be.

what did you do that makes you think you scared him off?

Pretty much told him I wanted him. Nothing that he hasn't really said to me. One day he thinks its a good idea if we start hanging out and then he thinks and then he changes his mind. Grrrr!!!

Sounds like a true libra to me 😛

okay, so if you saying that wasn't out of the blue, if it was actually based on positive signals like you describe...there are basically two options. one, he could be a jerk. or he could be doing the thing libras do where they pull away to gauge how sincere the other person really is. some will disappear altogether. some will be around a little bit but busy and standoffish. usually they've got other stressful things going on and are busy and can't/don't want to deal with the stress of trying to date somebody. so they'll just put that on hold until they can handle it.

^^^^It's a lot different when you are really in love with someone and you consider the stresses in a relationship as a small price to pay for the privilage of being in a relationship with that person.

In a way our frustrating aspects regarding relationships work as a filter for us in finding the best match.

IMO Libra men are bi-polar. Whenever I come on this site's home page and I see headings such as 'I cant work him out', 'go cold', 'what did I do', I know for certain the sun sign is regarding a Libra; man.

My experience with the Libra man is pretty much the same as many of the ones that feature on the Libra forum and whenever I read them I shake my head and thank Almight God that I escaped the mental torture these men dish out onto unsuspecting women. These dudes are nutters when dealing with them on a relationship level, it's not even funny.

They lure you in with all the things a woman wants and without warning (just at the point you are really falling for them) they run like the wind.... What's up with that nonsense!!!!

My lil ol advice...









Run for your life once he announces he's a Libra ;-/

Thats the thing about peoples talk about there personal problem about libra males here, did you guys really give us the full detail or jus blame everything on the libra guy? who knows right?

It's always fun to hear only one side of a story. No offense to anyone intended just a generic thought on most of these subjects about how this libra male did this and this.

Just remember it takes two to tango. I've had relationships with women who did the same things with me and once they were over I took the best of those relationships and moved on. The way I see it it's the only way to grow.

Fox

Posted by amethyst2002
^ Trufax. That was part of the reason my ex gave me when he broke up. Yeah, it could be a cop out, but I'd believe it with him. He didn't seem to be the type to handle lots of stress and it could be felt in the relationship when things were getting tough in both our schedules.

Maybe this guy really was just being friendly and flirty and split once he realized it'd gotten the wrong response?

However, what I cannot get is that if they're too stressed to handle stressful + relationship, then how the hell are they going to manage a long term relationship when life throws shit their way, or when they get married and shit happens? Or is that when they just sort of withdraw and become distant to sort themselves out?

libras take commitment very seriously. which is why we don't make them unless we completely believe ourselves capable of handling them, of sacrificing to maintain them, of dealing with the unpleasant moments that will come along.

if a libra gets stressed before they've committed to something, well, they don't have to sacrifice shit.

Posted by xxxLeogalxxx
IMO Libra men are bi-polar. Whenever I come on this site's home page and I see headings such as 'I cant work him out', 'go cold', 'what did I do', I know for certain the sun sign is regarding a Libra; man.

My experience with the Libra man is pretty much the same as many of the ones that feature on the Libra forum and whenever I read them I shake my head and thank Almight God that I escaped the mental torture these men dish out onto unsuspecting women. These dudes are nutters when dealing with them on a relationship level, it's not even funny.

They lure you in with all the things a woman wants and without warning (just at the point you are really falling for them) they run like the wind.... What's up with that nonsense!!!!

My lil ol advice...









Run for your life once he announces he's a Libra ;-/

Hahaha...so funny! But soooo TRUE! Why on earth do libras do that? Say YES or NO, dont run away!!

Well so I left my libra male that I have interest in alone after he seemed to have gone cold. Well this this whole entire week he has really hot again. He has been a lot of fun again. The whole reason I started to like him in the first place. Lots of flirting again. Comments that make me want to jump his bones and from what he is saying him jumping mine as well. Don't know what to think.

Posted by xxxLeogalxxx
IMO Libra men are bi-polar. Whenever I come on this site's home page and I see headings such as 'I cant work him out', 'go cold', 'what did I do', I know for certain the sun sign is regarding a Libra; man.

My experience with the Libra man is pretty much the same as many of the ones that feature on the Libra forum and whenever I read them I shake my head and thank Almight God that I escaped the mental torture these men dish out onto unsuspecting women. These dudes are nutters when dealing with them on a relationship level, it's not even funny.

They lure you in with all the things a woman wants and without warning (just at the point you are really falling for them) they run like the wind.... What's up with that nonsense!!!!

My lil ol advice...









Run for your life once he announces he's a Libra ;-/

I know not all libra men are probably like this, but sadly the one I have been with is just like this and it was frustrating to no end... I've never met anyone more confusing than him. He led me on and I foolishly let him string me along through our relationship and put up with more from him than I should have. He wanted me and he wanted me bad, until he finally got me and then he changed completely... now I can't even get him to TALK to me and I just wanted to work things out... past tense, WANTED to work things out but hes so immature that I don't really care to work it out anymore. Everythings gotta be about him and when he wants it. My needs were never important to him.

I know there are some good libra men out there though. I just happened to get this one :/

Posted by 2libras
Well so I left my libra male that I have interest in alone after he seemed to have gone cold. Well this this whole entire week he has really hot again. He has been a lot of fun again. The whole reason I started to like him in the first place. Lots of flirting again. Comments that make me want to jump his bones and from what he is saying him jumping mine as well. Don't know what to think.

is he worth the roller coaster ride? I thought mine was worth it, and that I can work through it... but I couldn't. I want someone that I KNOW wants to be with me. I needed to feel secure. and I never got that with mine.

Yeah I think he is worth it. I guess I am gonna have to wait and see. Seems like when we get going he freaks and then shuts down for a few days. then when i leave him alone he comes back. Who knows. I am pretty patient so i guess i will just sit back and see what he wants to do about it.

I met my Libra male 3 months ago and he is driving me nuts, at first it was great we spent lots of time together and went out to dinner, had loads of things in common, then in April he got busy, said he had problems with his business and had to go away, he sent me a few text and kept in touch, then he came back and we saw each other less, about 3 weeks ago I contacted him and it took ages for him to reply, we arranged to meet one day but I couldn't make it and arranged to meet another day, then he sent me a text and apologised and said he had some urgent problems and had to go away for approx a week,
that was 2 weeks ago, I sent him two texts which he did not reply to now I don't know what to do, I thought he needed space but how long am I supposed to wait, I think it is rude for him to just ignore me like that, he has never done that before,
help, I am not sure what to do next, does he want to break up if so why not tell me and not keep me hanging on waiting to hear from him, it is really depressing me, I am so upset.

...You seriously couldn't make your own thread and had to dig up a 3 year old thread just to post about YOUR problems? :/

Also, stop giving a shit. He's not giving a shit about you or how he's treating you, so back off and go do you for awhile.

I had the same problem with the one that I was seeing. I finally got to 'not giving a shit" and it's made life a lot easier.

xxxLeogalxxx

I agree with everything u said

Libras are the most really crazy creatures I think... To run , but to still keep a contact somehow ( example keep me in his messenger QQ and did not deleted me , but he does not talk anymore) and come back when he think it's "turn on" ... if you know this saying.. it is reallt crazy ! And they just make others to be disappointed by them. Someone say here, yes, why they don't say Yes or No ? Is more simple and faint-hearted to disappear, right ? I am already tired of Libras , I don't want to hear about them anymore in my life ! The single thing good in them is they look good, handsome, but their character is horrible . Acting as a mental ill, he lies me he is grave ill when he feels I will leave him and after I also told him that I will leave him... Do you think this is a normal action — To lie " I am ill.. I have a aheart dissease, I have spondylosis resulting in brain.. etc.." just to do what ? just to make me feel sorry and to still stay with him ? I consider this is a faint-hearted action ! If he wants me , then why he treat me like this idiot way and always disappear , come and go ? I am tired of him ! He never knows what he wants ! Oh, I forgot, and when I told him I will go to see him and see how he is feeling, he power off his phone and make it out of service , more nice ! and simple, disappeared ! Of course... I posted also a post add about this. I am really tired of him ! So I suggest you just run away of him because he will take all your life energy with this kind of actions , stupid actions ... imature actions ..

Everybody here , almost everybody say the excatly same story.... about Libras.. As JennGem say too, when you think everything should be ok and you come around him, he just show his back to you.... and don;t talk, and ignore you and so on... Sorry, but I think is not only my opinion this, they are really crazy or they was born with something absent in their brain............ They hurt someone all of the time, this is like their food and air.... to hurt, to disappear and to ignore. Empty brain !

And yes, I heard so many times this words from him " I miss you" , but when I was just there, he ignored me and so on..... horrible character ! and I repeat again, EMPTY BRAIN ! OR MENTAL SICK SINCE THEY WAS BORN they are...

You can only keep him for yourself, if you play the same game as he plays with you. Do exactly the same as he do, you will see he will find this attractive in a woman....... But in the same time, just think, it is just a game and you have to play it all of your life if you want to have him for you , for marriage and future and you will arrive at a time when you will no have the same energy as now to play only his game... you will need a father for your kids, and he will not be the best one , he will continue play his game and if you will don't play still, he will end up the game and leave you forever maybe, and maybe in a moment when you will need him so much in your life... So think again what do you want ! a Libra and a game, or a serious man to love you and offer love to you ?
PS. : his game I mean, disappearing act, cut off contacts, looking after other man as he do all of the time ( even you don;t know this) , etc..
Good luck in your choice !