Libra man and gemini woman.Need help please!

After two and a half years great relationship with my libra, something terrible happened and I don't know how to deal with it,how to act and react. We used to be great together ,I had all affection and unselfishly was giving mine. A lot of laugh, talk, understanding.Once in a while he used to say "You don't know how much I love you", but generally he never liked to talk about feelings. If I said the love word,he would say "don't love me,we are friends,I respect you a lot,you are the best I've ever had". But I felt like I was loved and everything was great. Until couple months ago,his first love called him after 30 years.At that time she was 16 and he was 20.He told me they were in love but she married other guy (her parents made her to).
He hasn't been in touch with her since,but she was always on his mind.When she called,I was present and I saw all the pain he carried,he was literally crying on the phone,begging her to stay just one more day so he can see her.(she was visiting,she lives in Europe). She didn't accept,and left. Couple of weeks later he went to visit her.Even though it broke my heart( you can just imagine,because I love him deeply),I tried to be understanding and let him see her and get some closure after all these years. After he came back,he was fine,telling me that all he wanted to know was how she was doing and that he is very much satisfied now. He also told me that he doesn't feel the same way anymore about her.But I noticed that he was on the phone almost every day with her,and it bothered me a lot. So I started conversation which ended up as an argument. He said that they are friends now,but for me it was too much.Friends don't talk about feelings,sending each other sad love songs,and in this case I would be fine if they talked once in a while,but not every day.He got mad,told me I was too pushy,that he is in healing process,and I should stick with him until he goes through this.Anyway the next day he changed completely.Became quiet,just sighing,watery eyes.Each attempt to make him talk was unsuccessful.I decided to apologize for maybe being too pushy,and explained my hurt feelings,how all this affects me... He improved a lot since,he is more talkative,more affectionate,but it's not like before. Please anybody,what should I do? Be patient,give him some more time,or just let it go (I love him too much,so many great memories).Just last night he said "you are so consistent,and you finally got it. You deserve to be loved,it's my mistak

Posted by BelovedAssata
No gemini, you are supposed to wait for him.....

Apparently to Spica and some other libra men, this dynamic is supposed to be more romantic, and in the end you'll have a longer lasting and meaningful relationship.

Because good things come to though who wait, even if you're waiting in shit, for shit.

He's a libra male, he is kind of slow on the uptake, this is natural for his sign you have to forgive him for this shortcoming...because even though he says he wants that other girl, at least you'll be his safety, his rock..you'll be able to keep his bed warm while he goes after his love and wait till he realizes he's with someone who loves him all along. And in that moment he'll love you forever, yah until that other girl comes back because she changes your mind, and then you'll be alone again, but in the meantime, totally will love you forever. Because he's a libra man, and he's slow and he deserves to have the best of both worlds. A girl to love (the other one) and another to warm his bed (you)

Libra men seem to be sentimental about their first loves. I think Gemini70 has nothing to worry about. It's just a reliving of his past, which is, clearly, his past.

Assata, it is obvious your thinking is the ego-centred type which all of those manuals subscribe to. Not that it is wrong, but the Libra is very different from the Taurus or even Aries in the dating style .

So, I don't want to give advice to the OP, but.. just to let her know wait a few days.. she is just emotional right now. People act up when they're emotional.. which is what the Libra guy did.

Posted by BelovedAssata
No gemini, you are supposed to wait for him.....

Apparently to Spica and some other libra men, this dynamic is supposed to be more romantic, and in the end you'll have a longer lasting and meaningful relationship.

Because good things come to though who wait, even if you're waiting in shit, for shit.

He's a libra male, he is kind of slow on the uptake, this is natural for his sign you have to forgive him for this shortcoming...because even though he says he wants that other girl, at least you'll be his safety, his rock..you'll be able to keep his bed warm while he goes after his love and wait till he realizes he's with someone who loves him all along. And in that moment he'll love you forever, yah until that other girl comes back because she changes your mind, and then you'll be alone again, but in the meantime, totally will love you forever. Because he's a libra man, and he's slow and he deserves to have the best of both worlds. A girl to love (the other one) and another to warm his bed (you)

..if you don't wish to wait, don't. Find someone else.. like a Tauro for instance!

^You made a stark generalisation on your other thread, disguised as public service announcements.. what you think.. it's a one sized fits all? Obviously she has the right to be emotional; I just told her to wait a few days more.

Now again, I know you are married to a Taurus. My brother is a Taurus; I know how he operates. And me and my Lib.. we are different in how we operate. So, that service announcement was more of a textbook interp actually. But it worked for you.

By the way, Libras are all about rhythm and sync. I have an inkling on when me and my Lib will be together eventually. To rush is really distasteful. I don't think hard and fast rules work. People are not objects. You can't lose someone who is meant to be with you.. so why not take it easy, and move forward in the same direction. When a Libra is ready, you will know. Forcing them defeats the purpose.

Forcing a Taurus.. on the other hand, is different. You see, Taurus and Libra work on different principles. The emotion of Libra is effusive and diffusive. Taurus man is like a boxing schtick. He is likely to do things the textbook way because he is all proper and sets foundations in the correct manner.

And.. Gemini70 is getting all worked up and emotional because she's afraid she will lose him. That is about it. Relationships are undefinable. It is a mental process. Not even a concrete milestone. The ultimate, which is marriage. So, by waiting, it is a meditation on your relationship - a test of your faith and devotion in each other. That is basically how I see it, and it works for me.

^Because your original assumption of women as stupid and helpless helps things?
I mean, if they choose to wait, they have to live with the consequences of their actions. You telling them helps things how?

"everyone understood the point I was trying to articulate except you..."

Now THAT is a grandoise claim without any backing. You wouldn't use the word "everyone" now, would you - unless you'd like an illusion of strength in numbers, which is what most people utilise to give their stand more weight.

"This is what's really annoying me about you..how is that you interpret my post or any other post as me advocating that someone should RUSH into a relationship? So, Aries and Saggitarrians or Scorpios who feel committed to someone after a year are somehow wrong, or distasteful becasue they view dating differently...That is offensive that you would take MY argument and change it to something so ridiculous."

You can argue, but don't be personal. I can say you're starting to annoy me too, but I don't give a butter.

"You saw how the Libra man in this thread reacted to that woman he hadn't seen in years?? The Gemini isn't just hurt because of what happened, she's probably wondering what the hell did all that passion and love come from? And why the hell isn't it directed at me? "

Because that is how relationships fail. If Gemini keeps thinking how it affects HER and Libra keeps thinking how it affects HIM, it's not gonna work. Obviously you're emphatising with the Gemini bout of emotion here. Again, that self-centred thinking detrimental to a relationship anyway. True, he should have kept his composure and not threw her to the side, but at that point the ex meant more to him - NOTE: At that POINT IN TIME. So, OP can do all she wants. I'm just here to illuminate, not to take sides.

And I'm done with this butter! Look, I'm seldom personal in my debates - it defeats the purpose. So if you want to get personal (as most Aries women do) go ahead.. I'm not going to entertain this anymore.

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^Because your original assumption of women as stupid and helpless helps things?
I mean, if they choose to wait, they have to live with the consequences of their actions. You telling them helps things how?

Now you're imagining things, wonderful. Not let's stop ruining this poor woman's thread.

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And you're insane because you started namedropping me to take a shot first. Now stop this crap and goodbye!

Posted by BelovedAssata
LOL...you think I'm an aries, that's cute.

I get it now..you were getting salty at the prospect of waiting..and you thought I was making a presumption of you that you are somehow less of a woman for wanting to wait for a man. I get it, and just so you know, I have nothing really against you personally, but I do get upset and take it personal when my words are misunderstood.

Because I'm a Libra with a Mercury in Libra.

So let's try this again...

My original post was directed at woman who choose to wait for men who aren't interested in them...or that are interested in them but not in the intensity that would show that someone who was interested in them. There are men that do this, that are ethier entertaining more than one woman, not sure of what they want, or are enjoying being single. There is nothing wrong with these men, and there is nothing wrong with those men who don't desire women who want them. THe problem isn't a "moral" issue, it's an issue of differing expectations. They(men and women) want different things.


My post was NOT directed to women who are taking it slow in a relationship and are in communication with their man and are enjoying the dating process.

It was NOT advocating to forget dating an earth sign or air sign. (And if you don't already know..I've dated earth signs and air signs.)

It was NOT a male bashing post nor was it implying that all dating situations are the same.

Okay I get it. You were just expressing yourself from your experiences. I can explain further how my "misinterpretation" encompasses all that you intended, but I wouldn't, because you're entitled to your opinion. Now, things are shaded in grey, is all I can say. And no, you're a Libra (what with that scale earrings and hangin on the libra board) but you get personal aries- style . PErsonal attack Aries- style .. get what I'm sayin. Because I'd hate to debate an aries woman.
And, carry on.

Posted by BelovedAssata
I named drop cuz I wanted you on this thread sweety. Because I wanted you to see what "situation" I was talking about...and how this is completely different from what you thought that I was saying.

But I got it, you can go now....I'm apologizing for derailing this thread.

I also just wanted you to know that some things are meant to be, some aren't. And there's a whole lot of grey in between. Communication is never smooth. So why sweat it.. unless you want to gain enlghtenment (after teteering on insanity for thinking too many erroneous thoughts).

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Traditionalism at it's finest.

I can think of 5 implications that go with this picture. Not sure which fits.

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Okay I get it. You were just expressing yourself from your experiences. I can explain further how my "misinterpretation" encompasses all that you intended, but I wouldn't, because you're entitled to your opinion. Now, things are shaded in grey, is all I can say. And no, you're a Libra (what with that scale earrings and hangin on the libra board) but you get personal aries- style . PErsonal attack Aries- style .. get what I'm sayin. Because I'd hate to debate an aries woman.
And, carry on.

Not really, I didn't call you an idiot or said something about your mother...but I will ridicule an argument and make a sarcastic/joke remark to illustrate a point..maybe that's my sag- style .

No worries though...still its a shame you'd take my post advocating women to enjoy dating and turn it into a male-bashing hate post is still pretty upsetting. But whatever, like you said "you're entitled to your opinion".

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Ok then, you win. Game over.

"I whole-heartedly agree with that..except the last part if that's supposed to be a shot at me.."

No, it's not a shot at you.. it's a shot at people who think too much. Now I have done so, and I thought I'd go to an asylum, but I let go and understood *HIS* side of the story.. which would never have happened if I kept thinking how it affected *ME*.. so usually I read the same things over and over and I ignore them because I figure the person would figure it ut for themselves after overthinking things. Insanity is the other option. So, people get tired of it, and accept things as they ARE..

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Ok then, you win. Game over.

No it's cool, I do have a tendency of being very abrasive when it comes to articulating my points..i think alot of my humor is lost, or its misinterpreted as an attack...that sucks.

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And sorry if I came across as attacking your opinion as well. Oh well.
Now your humor in the first para - that was great!

*first para in this thread.

"AM I the only one that finds that kitchen to be awesome?"

It is nicely furnished.

"You're just saying that...or being sarcastic."

I'm not being sarcastic. I read your first para to me and found it funny.

"I reread your posts and I could see from my end that there was a disconnect on what I was trying to convey and what you were saying because if I took my words out of it, there is nothing wrong with what you were implying..just that it wasn't matching up with what I was saying...and etc. etc. etc. "

Ya, you're right. Different situations, different interpretations. I admit I saw it through my eyes and not yours.. and you mentioned it was specific..

Okay enough 😄

Gee Gemini70 the guy is just an idiot really. He has no respect for you by continuing to show you that he is obviously still in love with the long ago girlfriend why else would he be all teary eyed and continue to speak to her on the phone all of the time——— 😢

I love Libra/Libra debates 🙂

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that is very intelligent!!!

*sigh*

The most disturbing part is that Aquabag is probably serious...

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TasteOfChaos what sanitarium did they let you out of??_??_you have to be second in the realm of stupid things that you say compaired with KOL??_??_??_??_Go get a significant other or are you as ugly as KOL that you always have to come here day after day saying the nasty things about others that you do in order to boost your self esteem because it is so low that it is like sludge from a sewer? WOW, but, then again I have only to look at your aviator and see that you are as nasty as you sound??_??_..You are one ugly person can't even tell if you are a bitch or an asire lol doesn't matter —dog none the less?? and an ugly one to say the very least??_..😉

Who is she calling ugly as well—?

Post up your pic homegirl

Haha "beautifulscorp" is like

Hottie911
Beachbabecutie
Ilikefatcocksinmyasshole?

There's a personality disorder that goes along with that you know?

"You saw how the Libra man in this thread reacted to that woman he hadn't seen in years?? The Gemini isn't just hurt because of what happened, she's probably wondering what the hell did all that passion and love come from? And why the hell isn't it directed at me? "

Well said indeed. That's exactly how I feel.And yes, we were exclusive,he is my boyfriend.Actually I can't remember me being jealous or possessive (telling the truth,never had the reason).He was the one becoming suspicious once in a while,must admit too needy (could't stand being apart from me even for a couple of hours),wanted to know where I'm at any time etc.
The most confusing part for me is why I felt so loved,and really believed in his true feelings? Usually I would sense if something was missing and wasn't right.I'm not so inexperienced or naive at all.Is it possible that he was such a good player all this time? I don't want to think of him as a hypocrit.But you were right.I don't want to be his second choice either.If I was sure that he would choose her over me if he had a chance most likely I would leave this relationship.What keeps me there is my feelings and him begging me not to leave.I don't know for how long I'll be able to survive there...

Thanks to all of you for sharing your thoughts... You are helping me a lot through this process,and it seems like I'm not going through it alone.I appreciate your support.

It's ok BelovedAssata. I don't mind you asking questions. The situation itself is very confusing I understand.

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That guy is a totally baby. I'd laugh in his face

Posted by aquagirl24
@norcalman. that was ur case though... that must have been ur real love. but not everyones 1st love is at 15... i can say 15 is too young.

Yeah seriously wtf— I wasn't in love in those ages so what I am just screwed because I didn't have a high school sweetheart? Grow up and get real.

Posted by aquagirl24
its less boring if u try enjoy ur time with the person u are with instead of growing bollocks and thinking of other shortcuts (cheating). i hate ppo like that. fuck it i just wanna be left alone in the everest and become zarathustra.

Right?

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its less boring if u try enjoy ur time with the person u are with instead of growing bollocks and thinking of other shortcuts (cheating). i hate ppo like that. fuck it i just wanna be left alone in the everest and become zarathustra.

Right?

zarathustra was a sagittarius, lolz. 🙂 i think saggi is an impulsive aqua lolz.

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🙂

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@norcalman. that was ur case though... that must have been ur real love. but not everyones 1st love is at 15... i can say 15 is too young.

Yeah seriously wtf— I wasn't in love in those ages so what I am just screwed because I didn't have a high school sweetheart? Grow up and get real.

same i was an uninterested person, high school was therefore a school not a brothel, so... by definition cant be lolz. 😛

i cant say he found the right person, i think gemini who finds love is a miracle. i think geminis best match is another gemini who doesnt know what they want. but i like them as friends/family members etc. not as partners though.

ive never tried sagittarius unfortunately there was this brad pitt sagittarius version, oh shit brad pitt is also sagittarius, who asked me to marry him, he was handsome and wealthy, but i dont know why i wasnt interested. why— i was too young. sagittarius is the only fire sign i respect. leo and aries suck oh yeah.

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Yeah, I wasn't ready for all that at that age either. I wasn't ready for sex either. It took me a long time to be ready for that. I think all that shit is pointless in high school. Yet the world wants you to believe different.

Aw well I feel honored it's sags 🙂 haha

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@norcalman. that was ur case though... that must have been ur real love. but not everyones 1st love is at 15... i can say 15 is too young. & i think geminis best match is another gemini who doesnt know what they want.

Yes, 15 was way too young. Heck at 20 I was way too young. And yes, this is not everyone's experience. The Rekindled Love Relationships are strong. That's way I said that "IF" your are in a relationship do NOT see an old flame.

Regarding a Gem needing to marry another Gem,...I think your right. Not because we are indecisive, fickle, or flighty...we just flat love change and excitement!!

To Sagittarius89 who wrote: "That guy is a totally baby. I'd laugh in his face" & "Yeah seriously wtf— I wasn't in love in those ages so what I am just screwed because I didn't have a high school sweetheart? Grow up and get real."

All I can say is you may want to educated yourself on the phenomenon. It goes across all ethnic boundaries, genders and both gay & heterosexual relationships. Do some research on the subject. You might be enlightened.

That & the advice was for gemini70 who originally asked the heartfelt question.

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No thank you

I have to agree with NorCalMan. I too had my first love at 15 and he was 19 (I'm Gemin and he's Libra). We parted but I could never get him out of my mind. In fact I tried to find him before I got married the first time but I couldn't. Honestly I assumed it was unrequited love and was shocked if he even remembered me. Flash forward 22 years and he finds me on Facebook and says he's been in love with me for 22 years etc. We tried to have a relationship but it didn't work out this time either due to me living in a different state. But he told me he will never marry again unless it is to me and that he will wait another 20 years if that's what it takes for me to be with him. Now I have no way of knowing if he's telling the truth or just blowing smoke but I can tell you this -- he remembered every detail of when we first met including the very spot we were standing and what I was wearing. He's hurting right now from our split and he's still sending me emails with love songs and one liners saying "I will come for you the moment you say the word".

Its so hard to explain how one can be so in love with someone that it lasts 20+ years and the love is present even when the person is not in your life. It sounds absurd that those strong of feelings could hit me at 15 but they did. When he and I first saw each other we were in a crowded store. Literally we made eye contact and weren't able to break it for the longest time. I felt electricity run through my entire body and I was drawn to him but I was 15 and completely innocent and didn't know what I was feeling. He found me again later that day and we exchanged phone numbers. I had to sneak out on a date with him because I wasn't allowed to date lol. When he found out how much younger I was than him he never did anything other than kiss me. We broke up after I caught him having sex with another girl. It was traumatic for me and hurt to let him go. At 15 the extreme feelings I had for him scared me more than anything. I remember thinking 'these feelings are too strong, I have to get away from him'. 4 years later I am about to marry and all I can think of is I cannot get married without seeing him again. I tried to find him but this was before the days of everyone having internet access. So I married and kept my thoughts of him to myself. When he found me on facebook and poured his heart out I told my mom all about him. She confirmed what he said was true that he too had tried to find me and came by my parents house looking for me when I was 19, but I had just gotten married. Without me saying anything he described the feelings that ran through him exactly like i had felt that day we first met. We can't be together still because of distance. He wanted me to give everything up I have in my sate and move back home and marry him. I can't, I have a daughter and I can't do that to her. He is furious with me because he feels rejected and gave me an all or nothing ultimatum. I wished I would have never seen him again now. He's hurting and has turned to alcohol. The feelings are still strong but I have to put my daughter first.

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Posted by GeminiDahl
he never did anything other than kiss me. We broke up after I caught him having sex with another girl

Whaaat. Get the fuck outa here. That shit is hilarious. Probably the same guy 'beautifulscorpio' was banging 😄

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You little beast first off I didn't bang the guy when I was young that is why he broke up with me, but you may be right that it could be the same guy now............The man got kicked to the curb and went crawling back to his ex and she moved out and didn't want him either......We know how hard it is for you Libra's to be alone and when you are around one needs to use a clingfree sheet to get you off of us -- totally annoying ~x(

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Posted by GeminiDahl
he never did anything other than kiss me. We broke up after I caught him having sex with another girl

Whaaat. Get the fuck outa here. That shit is hilarious. Probably the same guy 'beautifulscorpio' was banging 😄

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That whole night was stupid. I went to his apartment and his roomate let me in, a bunch of guys were watching some sport on TV but when I came in they all just kinda stared at me. I asked where boyfriend was and they pointed to his room. Still they just sat there and kinda swiveled around in their chairs to watch as I went to his room. I wished I would have had a great reaction but instead I just stood there with my mouth hanging wide open while boyfriend jumped up off the bed and grabbed a towel to cover up. He came over to me and tried to get me to leave with him and talk. I couldn't move, just stared at the girl in his room. Finally I looked in boyfriends eyes and he later said he had never seen such raw emotion. He left his own apartment while still wearing a towel and called his roomate an asshole on his way out as if it was roomates fault. I told the gal in his bed that he was all hers and I was done. She actually got up and came over to me and said it was just sex and all he ever does is talk about me but I was too young. I walked out and saw him only once after that when he took me to lunch a week later and wanted to get back together.

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Posted by GeminiDahl
he never did anything other than kiss me. We broke up after I caught him having sex with another girl

Whaaat. Get the fuck outa here. That shit is hilarious. Probably the same guy 'beautifulscorpio' was banging 😄

You little beast first off I didn't bang the guy when I was young that is why he broke up with me, but you may be right that it could be the same guy now............The man got kicked to the curb and went crawling back to his ex and she moved out and didn't want him either......We know how hard it is for you Libra's to be alone and when you are around one needs to use a clingfree sheet to get you off of us -- totally annoying ~x(

Thanks. I can always count on you to be my sideshow.

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Yeah OK whatever KOL

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Posted by GeminiDahl
he never did anything other than kiss me. We broke up after I caught him having sex with another girl

Whaaat. Get the fuck outa here. That shit is hilarious. Probably the same guy 'beautifulscorpio' was banging 😄

You little beast first off I didn't bang the guy when I was young that is why he broke up with me, but you may be right that it could be the same guy now............The man got kicked to the curb and went crawling back to his ex and she moved out and didn't want him either......We know how hard it is for you Libra's to be alone and when you are around one needs to use a clingfree sheet to get you off of us -- totally annoying ~x(

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Nothing would surprise me...is your Libra ex 41 years old now?

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Posted by GeminiDahl
he never did anything other than kiss me. We broke up after I caught him having sex with another girl

Whaaat. Get the fuck outa here. That shit is hilarious. Probably the same guy 'beautifulscorpio' was banging 😄

You little beast first off I didn't bang the guy when I was young that is why he broke up with me, but you may be right that it could be the same guy now............The man got kicked to the curb and went crawling back to his ex and she moved out and didn't want him either......We know how hard it is for you Libra's to be alone and when you are around one needs to use a clingfree sheet to get you off of us -- totally annoying ~x(

Nothing would surprise me...is your Libra ex 41 years old now?

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No he is 54.......poor guy I actually feel bad for him NOT!!!!! lol

I do feel bad for my ex. I'm not saying cheating on me was ok but he was 19 and I was 15. I am thankful he didn't pressure me for sex when I was that young although I probably would have resisted no matter what. Even now he will ask me how much longer will he be punished for that night and says 22 years is long enough. I tried telling him it wasn't about that but he doesn't get it.

What a shocker it was when I met his son last year. The guy was gorgous and almost my exes age when we first met. I had to keep myself from staring at him hahahaha. My ex noticed and laughed. What's even weirder is his son showed me a picture of his girlfriend and she looked almost identical to me when I was their age. Dark hair, big blue eyes, pale skin and short. I looked at my ex and raised my eyebrows at him and he says 'yeah I know she looks just like you'.

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I do feel bad for my ex. I'm not saying cheating on me was ok but he was 19 and I was 15. I am thankful he didn't pressure me for sex when I was that young although I probably would have resisted no matter what. Even now he will ask me how much longer will he be punished for that night and says 22 years is long enough. I tried telling him it wasn't about that but he doesn't get it.

What a shocker it was when I met his son last year. The guy was gorgous and almost my exes age when we first met. I had to keep myself from staring at him hahahaha. My ex noticed and laughed. What's even weirder is his son showed me a picture of his girlfriend and she looked almost identical to me when I was their age. Dark hair, big blue eyes, pale skin and short. I looked at my ex and raised my eyebrows at him and he says 'yeah I know she looks just like you'.

lol that is kind of cool that they both have the same taste. My ex libra decided not to have any children because he claims he is too stingy and actually the man is right although I would say he is more cheap then stingy.

Hmmm my Libra ex is cheap too although he prefers to call it frugal. He only had one child and that wasnt planned but he married her and they lasted 12 years.

Posted by GeminiDahl
Its so hard to explain how one can be so in love with someone that it lasts 20+ years and the love is present even when the person is not in your life. It sounds absurd that those strong of feelings could hit me at 15 but they did. When he and I first saw each other we were in a crowded store. Literally we made eye contact and weren't able to break it for the longest time. I felt electricity run through my entire body and I was drawn to him but I was 15 and completely innocent and didn't know what I was feeling. He found me again later that day and we exchanged phone numbers. I had to sneak out on a date with him because I wasn't allowed to date lol. When he found out how much younger I was than him he never did anything other than kiss me.

Funny thing,sounds.... exactly identical to me. I was 14 when I met him almost two years ago. A freshman in high school. He was a senior.. I was walking down the main hallway of my high school for the first time in my life when there he was.... Different from everybody else. Plain white T-Shirt, blue jeans and some type of shoes(Tims I believe..)He was standing against a locker with his hands clasped behind his back, looking straight forward. On the fateful moment that I laid eyes on him I couldn't look away. Everything seemed to slow down...I really dont want to say love at first sight because that sounds silly but by-god it was something close. It wasnt his looks, wasn't the way he was dressed.... But it was something. What? idk.... Like you, my libra later approached me and gave me his number. He was extremely shy and me... lol well shy isnt even the word for what I was. And also like you, I wasn't allowed to date so we snuck against his mom, my mom and our school's

Hi everyone,

I finally decided to walk away from the relationship,because it was obviously unhealthy for me. And I did. Ten days ago.I've always had clear mind,until now,when I started mirroring his confusion,his behavior.It's not that I didn't like him,I didn't like ME. I've been never like that. And it bothered me.I wanted my own self back. Unfortunately we work together which meant we had to see each other every day. So I got another job. It helps me to stay busy,and gives me an opportunity to leave early the other job and not meet him.This Thursday he came earlier,and we met briefly,exchanged couple of words,and he gave me one of those "puppy" looks.I am determined when it comes to my decision.I just hope he stays like this. I am moving,but I haven't moved on yet. It's still too fresh,I'm not that strong yet.But I'm getting there slowly.

Thanks to all of you for your opinions,they helped a lot. Each and every one of them.

And something for Norcalman.
I am happy for you and I do understand what you are talking about.Your story is a little bit different.At least you were single. In this case he was in a 2 and a half years relationship,and she is married with 5 kids. He lives in US,and she lives
in UK.We are talking about seeing each other maybe once a year for a couple of days. Both with businesses to take care about as only source of income. Ok I understand in war and love there are no rules or fair play. But this seems just too much for my Gemini/Pisces taste.I've seen it before.It happened to people that I know. (at least they lived in the same country).
None of them lasted more than 2 years in marriage with what supposed to be love of their life.
As I said before. Your story is different. And I wish you all the happiness in the world.

Thanks again to all of you!

I'm sorry Gemini70. It sounds like you made the right decision for yourself. This whole reconnecting with a love from your teen years is so strong. In my case, I was even willing to overlook things with him that I never would have for any one else. It is almost as if their is something pulling the two together. My view of him was as he was at 19 not as he is now at 41. It makes absolutely no sense and I know that. He isn't as good looking or as good at intimate things as others and even though the relationship has ended with the Libra, it is very hard for me to break myself from thinking about him.