Libra man back in contact after 3 months help!!

Hi I need some advice.

I met my Libra man in February online, he contacted me first, we met up got on well and started to see each other, we had both come out of long relationships and didn't want anything heavy. We met up weekly for dinner, drinks and just enjoying each other's company (we did sleep together), I was happy for things to continue and we didn't put any pressure on each other and liked to be together, then in April he had to go away, he kept in touch by text and when he got back we continued to meet regularly. Then in May he said he had to go away suddenly on business and would be back in about a week, he apologised and said he had business stuff to deal with, I told him to keep in touch and he said he would. Three weeks late, I got a text saying he had had a really rough time business wise and had been travelling to Venice, Africa and was now in Australia, his phone had been damaged so he could not contact me bu had bought another one and said he would be home in June. Since then no contact at all, I replied to his texts and sent others to him but heard nothing which was very strange, I really liked him so waited a while and then gave up, he had obviously lost interest and couldn't even be bothered to contact me, I decided to just get on with my life and put it down to experience, then yesterday I got a text he is back in London and wants to meet up as if nothing had happened, I haven't answered it yet as I thought we were finished, why contact me after all this time and expect to just pick up where we left off, what the hell do I do now? I am really confused and am not sure what to do next, any advice would be very helpful.

At least meet with him to hear him out and go with your gut on this one!

Haha, dude has other ladies on the side. He just grew bored with them and now he's back to you. That's the only reason he's back in town out of the blue. He left things hanging so they wouldn't be bad and he could come back as he pleases.

Whether you meet up is up to you. However, you should keep it void of sex and uber casual.

The phone shit was a total lie, btw. In this day and age, while cell phones are great, they're also an easy cop out for lying.

Um, what if it was totally smashed beyond repair? i've seen this happen. anyway, if they haven't established the kind of relationship they're in and since they're not married, he doesn't need to say what he's doing because he is under no obligation to explain himself. that being said Ms. janjee, you should definitely do the same thing and take a chillax stance. he can't and shouldn't expect anything of you if he's going to behave like that. It isn't fair. Neither of you owes the other anything, so if he throws a hissy fit, call him out on it.

just let him have his way with you

He's playing on ur emotions so he doesn't look like the bad guy here, plus he lied about his phone, yea right, if u believe that, than you have more to worry about than just him feeding u bs, woman have to think if this was ur daughter being treated this way would you allow that to go down

My guess is hell no, so why would you let him do that to you, grow a pair and call him on his bs, he let three freaking months go by, and nothing until now, o please


Play him like he played u and let him see how it feels

Posted by 2N3R
Um, what if it was totally smashed beyond repair? i've seen this happen. anyway, if they haven't established the kind of relationship they're in and since they're not married, he doesn't need to say what he's doing because he is under no obligation to explain himself. that being said Ms. janjee, you should definitely do the same thing and take a chillax stance. he can't and shouldn't expect anything of you if he's going to behave like that. It isn't fair. Neither of you owes the other anything, so if he throws a hissy fit, call him out on it.

It'd be believable if the dude was actually in contact with her when he said he would be... on multiple occasions. Given the scenario, It really would not be shocking that the phone bit was a lie.

"Oh, I'm so sorry, I was so BUSY. Oh my phone wasn't working. Oh work is keeping me from getting in touch with you."

Sorry, classic signs of he's not that into you. She doesn't have to ditch him or anything, but if she thinks this guy takes her seriously, she'd be sorely misled.

Like I said, it's up to her to decide what she wants to do, but she may want to recategorize this guy so she doesn't get jerked around or anything. They may not have established anything, but all this crap she just told us says a lot about where she stands with him on his side of things.

Hi everyone thanks for your messages, I still haven't answered his text he can wait on me for a change I think I will meet him but things have changed after so long, I would like an explanation from him whether I get it is another matter, I have had time to think and I am now looking for a stable relationship and I don't think it's with this man, he has treated me badly and I deserve better, he did tell me that he once had a girlfriend and he went abroad for 7 months what he didn't say is what she did when he came back. Libran men are hard work and I am not prepared to put up with his shit, pity as we had fun but I think I will just put it down to experience and move on. The next time I met someone I will make sure he is not a Libran, I don't think I will be going out with one again.

Once again thanks for your messages they really helped.

Honestly I don't think he treated you bad. He treated you exactly the way you two agreed on. To have no strings attached, yall kick it when you kick it. When your together your together when your not your not. YOU agreed to that. Which tells a man, he can do what he wants when he wants and doesn't have to answer to you. Hell that's the beauty of the whole set up for them. So if your all of a sudden not with it, then cool. Ditch him. But don't go around saying he did you wrong, when that's not the case. It's just you now want different things. Point blank.

Thanks Libra911, he needs to be told he cannot treat people this way, it's not cool, I will be very careful with him don't worry he can be very charming but I have now seen a not so nice side to him
which I do not like, thanks for the good advice it was very helpful x

Same thing to me. The way she described says to me that they agreed that they didn't want anything serious, so what does that say? Duh. SO, like I said, she agreed at the time because she had her reason for not wanting anything serious either. Now that she wants more and her feelings have changed she gets to say he's the bad guy?? I simply disagree. I think if she wants more she should just say that and tell him they could be friends and dip. But don't play the victim because she's not one.

Posted by Libra911
And at least show that u like a person enough to keep in regular contact

Its actually very simple logic, u enjoy spending time with that person, u ll make time

This.

Even if all this was "casual" the guy isn't even showing a basic level of common courtesy. Dropping off the face of the planet like he did sends across the wrong message for someone supposedly interested.

Actions always speak volumes. Always!

Posted by pinklibra
Same thing to me. The way she described says to me that they agreed that they didn't want anything serious, so what does that say? Duh. SO, like I said, she agreed at the time because she had her reason for not wanting anything serious either. Now that she wants more and her feelings have changed she gets to say he's the bad guy?? I simply disagree. I think if she wants more she should just say that and tell him they could be friends and dip. But don't play the victim because she's not one.

I don't think he's the bad guy either, but she's in a spot where she can either become the victim or see the situation for what it is and NOT be the victim.

It sounds like she went in, wanting nothing serious, but as time went on with this guy, she could see serious with him and he's still in the "lol not serious" bit, which is why he disappeared.

Posted by janjee
Hi everyone thanks for your messages, I still haven't answered his text he can wait on me for a change I think I will meet him but things have changed after so long, I would like an explanation from him whether I get it is another matter, I have had time to think and I am now looking for a stable relationship and I don't think it's with this man, he has treated me badly and I deserve better, he did tell me that he once had a girlfriend and he went abroad for 7 months what he didn't say is what she did when he came back. Libran men are hard work and I am not prepared to put up with his shit, pity as we had fun but I think I will just put it down to experience and move on. The next time I met someone I will make sure he is not a Libran, I don't think I will be going out with one again.

Once again thanks for your messages they really helped.

As hard as this may be to hear (or read) on an Astrology-esque Ask Annie Relationships board...

Try not to judge anyone based on Sun Sign. If there's any singular thing that sticks out to me in there being 12 Signs, 12 Planets, 12 Houses, and, heck, even multiple degrees within a House, and Conjunct this, Sextile that, Square THAT...

Dudes. Dudettes! Astrology answers to the age-old conundrum of Everybody-Is-Different. Just have fun with it. With every weakness is a chance to overcome. Just because someone might naturally gravitate towards something doesn't mean they actually go and DO that thing. So, that being said, just because the next guy who comes along might have his poor, indecisive, beautiful self lodged somewhere within a Libra Sun Sign, doesn't mean he's not the next amazing person for you to get to know.

Posted by Draumstafir

Posted by janjee
Hi everyone thanks for your messages, I still haven't answered his text he can wait on me for a change I think I will meet him but things have changed after so long, I would like an explanation from him whether I get it is another matter, I have had time to think and I am now looking for a stable relationship and I don't think it's with this man, he has treated me badly and I deserve better, he did tell me that he once had a girlfriend and he went abroad for 7 months what he didn't say is what she did when he came back. Libran men are hard work and I am not prepared to put up with his shit, pity as we had fun but I think I will just put it down to experience and move on. The next time I met someone I will make sure he is not a Libran, I don't think I will be going out with one again.

Once again thanks for your messages they really helped.

As hard as this may be to hear (or read) on an Astrology-esque Ask Annie Relationships board...

Try not to judge anyone based on Sun Sign. If there's any singular thing that sticks out to me in there being 12 Signs, 12 Planets, 12 Houses, and, heck, even multiple degrees within a House, and Conjunct this, Sextile that, Square THAT...

Dudes. Dudettes! Astrology answers to the age-old conundrum of Everybody-Is-Different. Just have fun with it. With every weakness is a chance to overcome. Just because someone might naturally gravitate towards something doesn't mean they actually go and DO that thing. So, that being said, just because the next guy who comes along might have his poor, indecisive, beautiful self lodged somewhere within a Libra Sun Sign, doesn't mean he's not the next amazing person for you to get to know.

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Tangent much?

rockyroadicecream has perfectly right ! They lie a lot ! DON'T MEET HIM ! RUN RUN RUN RUN RUN AWAY OF HIM ! until he will not hurt you very bad ! I know what I say... Be happy and avoid meeting with him, there are lot of men waiting for you and who treat you well and who will not lie like this !

Hi everyone

Just to give you an update, I met him and we agreed to be just friends, he said he was ready to have a more serious relationship with me but work/stress got in the way and apologised for the way he behaved, he said he was never very good at communication but I stressed how important it is and that too much time had gone by and I had moved on and gave him some advice on how he should treat the next lady he meets so hopefully he will pick up some tips. He is not a nasty guy but says when he gets stressed or has major problems he cuts himself off but doesn't seem to know why—?

I have a date with someone new this week so fingers crossed, he is a nice guy and we will see how things develop.

Once again thanks for all your advice especially Libra911 x