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Posted by venusianbull
Wait a Mc-second... did I miss something here? Does he actually want the kitty or not? And I mean the actual c-a-t. The one that meows and hisses and leaves things in a litter pan.




yes, he DOES.

I said: I think I need to find a home for my cat. I have too many things on my plate. (cat, dog, two kids, work, and now my fabulous single life in the making)
and he said: I'll take her, she loves me, I wanted to get a cat.
and I said: yes, she does love you, bugger (and it's true - they adore each other)
and he said: yes, seriously, I'll take her, she will have a good home (and I know she will)
and I said: ok. (while I screamed EUREKA in my head at the thought of my cat there, and it's implications 😄)
and I said: ok, she can be shipped by fedex or an airline as cargo in a crate
and he said: I'll split the cost
and I'm like: you want ME to PAY for YOUR cat? not happening, lol
and he said: yeah, I know, silly, ok, find out everything and I'll take her
and I said: ok, I'll get you the health certificate and update her shots
and he saidL great, let's do it
and I'm like: seriously? you want my cat? you want to have my cat?
and he said: yes, I do, she's great and she loves me
and I'm like: ok, fine, we will do it, but on the condition that if you are deployed she comes lives with me for the duration of depoloyment
and he's like: yes, that's a great idea, thank you, I will be deployed again.
and I'm like: I know...but...not yet, not yet...
and he's like: yeah...not yet
and than we started talking about other stuff


so, yes - the CAT, FELINE, Meeeooowwwwwwww


the cat in question:
http://s5.photobucket.com/albums/y183/emi-mommy/cat/
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Posted by venusianbull
That's where I came to my conclusion as well. 😄 As to the other well ahhhhh Ms. Roaming holds the keys to the Fun Fair ( and don't you ever forget DAT business Roaming..😄 ).



Posted by LibraLuv
Precisely!
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I won't.
The trust is gone. 😢
He broke it 😢
and I'm a trust and commitment phobic 😢...
he broke it. I don't have the path and nor am I searching for it to get back on that yellow brick road...

😢


bugger!


but, my cat he will have and while he may have some occasional kitty there...my cat will stare him in they eye and he will think of me...
brilliant.

Lady Luck - I thank you
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Posted by roamingfree
Posted by venusianbull
Wait a Mc-second... did I miss something here? Does he actually want the kitty or not? And I mean the actual c-a-t. The one that meows and hisses and leaves things in a litter pan.




yes, he DOES.

I said: I think I need to find a home for my cat. I have too many things on my plate. (cat, dog, two kids, work, and now my fabulous single life in the making)
and he said: I'll take her, she loves me, I wanted to get a cat.
and I said: yes, she does love you, bugger (and it's true - they adore each other)
and he said: yes, seriously, I'll take her, she will have a good home (and I know she will)
and I said: ok. (while I screamed EUREKA in my head at the thought of my cat there, and it's implications 😄)
and I said: ok, she can be shipped by fedex or an airline as cargo in a crate
and he said: I'll split the cost
and I'm like: you want ME to PAY for YOUR cat? not happening, lol
and he said: yeah, I know, silly, ok, find out everything and I'll take her
and I said: ok, I'll get you the health certificate and update her shots
and he saidL great, let's do it
and I'm like: seriously? you want my cat? you want to have my cat?
and he said: yes, I do, she's great and she loves me
and I'm like: ok, fine, we will do it, but on the condition that if you are deployed she comes lives with me for the duration of depoloyment
and he's like: yes, that's a great idea, thank you, I will be deployed again.
and I'm like: I know...but...not yet, not yet...
and he's like: yeah...not yet
and than we started talking about other stuff


so, yes - the CAT, FELINE, Meeeooowwwwwwww


the cat in question:
http://s5.photobucket.com/albums/y183/emi-mommy/cat/



Ya my kitty lives at my exs house with his kitty. They are friends.

I get to see her every week at least tho.

But I can't wait till I live in a place where I am allowed to have cats. I want her back full time😢
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it means he can have my cat and miss me all he wants. And no, it's not a free cat. lol. He could get a free cat from a local shelter...he wants MY cat...that's the point. lol
The cat will be his conscience lol in a pussy sort of a way, and if nothing ever happens, he will know that he had something great and messed it up himself. I'm ok with that. He does have some conscience, he is a Libra after all...he will try to make it fair and right.

It's a cute outcome. Don't over analyze it, KoL - I already did, I excel at that... 🙂
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Posted by roamingfree
Posted by venusianbull


Ya my kitty lives at my exs house with his kitty. They are friends.

I get to see her every week at least tho.

But I can't wait till I live in a place where I am allowed to have cats. I want her back full time😢
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yeah, I'm ok with the kitty going away. I'll see the kitty again...it's ok.
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Posted by amethyst2002
I'll never understand the chicks who come here and then throw out the whole "onoes, I can't control myself. Whatever will I dooo??" Why ask for advice if this is going to be your response to what you're told? You already know what you're going to do... *sigh* Specifically when you know the guy is a douche and know you should stay away, yet you tell everyone you won't practice self control and then go back anyway. :/




awww...but I haven't decided what I will do in the short or long term with this.
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this is true. However in his case he needs to go through his reintegration period post deployment. Deployments mess peoples heads up, and so right now, I do my own thing, and do not plan on getting back into a relationship that right now I cannot trust. It took months for me to trust him in the first place, just because I do not commit and I did not want a relationship. Him and I will remain friends, because we had that, what may become of it one day no one knows. Right now I already made some plans of things I want to achieve and are in the fore front. He would have to bend pretty much backwards for me to learn to trust again. I don't know even right now what it would take for him to do, for me to entertain the idea of him and I being together. Things shifted. I want him to get his bearings post deployment, he is physically and emotionally drained right now. They all go through this. I come from a military family, I know what this is and what it takes and when the person is through this adjustment.
We will see.
I'm not being emotional about it.
These guys who put their lives on the line are not average Joes, and all circumstances are different - relationships are the hardest in military, because it drains you and it affects your perceptions. If he was some dude who just works 9-5 I would not even given him a second chance.
He is going through post deployment depression. It's normal. They all do. He needs to heal before he is ready to continue with me. I need him to heal.