ohh, how lovely...I got a call to break up (Page 7)

I read it last night, and doodled on back ( minus coffee ) earlier LL. I wanted to make sure I had all my facts straight. ( I know, such a stickler..ah well. )

I should hope one never leaves things in a litter pan KOL.

That's where I came to my conclusion as well. 😄 As to the other well ahhhhh Ms. Roaming holds the keys to the Fun Fair ( and don't you ever forget DAT business Roaming..😄 ).

Posted by venusianbull
Wait a Mc-second... did I miss something here? Does he actually want the kitty or not? And I mean the actual c-a-t. The one that meows and hisses and leaves things in a litter pan.

yes, he DOES.

I said: I think I need to find a home for my cat. I have too many things on my plate. (cat, dog, two kids, work, and now my fabulous single life in the making)
and he said: I'll take her, she loves me, I wanted to get a cat.
and I said: yes, she does love you, bugger (and it's true - they adore each other)
and he said: yes, seriously, I'll take her, she will have a good home (and I know she will)
and I said: ok. (while I screamed EUREKA in my head at the thought of my cat there, and it's implications 😄)
and I said: ok, she can be shipped by fedex or an airline as cargo in a crate
and he said: I'll split the cost
and I'm like: you want ME to PAY for YOUR cat? not happening, lol
and he said: yeah, I know, silly, ok, find out everything and I'll take her
and I said: ok, I'll get you the health certificate and update her shots
and he saidL great, let's do it
and I'm like: seriously? you want my cat? you want to have my cat?
and he said: yes, I do, she's great and she loves me
and I'm like: ok, fine, we will do it, but on the condition that if you are deployed she comes lives with me for the duration of depoloyment
and he's like: yes, that's a great idea, thank you, I will be deployed again.
and I'm like: I know...but...not yet, not yet...
and he's like: yeah...not yet
and than we started talking about other stuff

so, yes - the CAT, FELINE, Meeeooowwwwwwww

the cat in question:
http://s5.photobucket.com/albums/y183/emi-mommy/cat/

Posted by venusianbull
That's where I came to my conclusion as well. 😄 As to the other well ahhhhh Ms. Roaming holds the keys to the Fun Fair ( and don't you ever forget DAT business Roaming..😄 ).

Posted by LibraLuv
Precisely!

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I won't.
The trust is gone. 😢
He broke it 😢
and I'm a trust and commitment phobic 😢...
he broke it. I don't have the path and nor am I searching for it to get back on that yellow brick road...

😢

bugger!

but, my cat he will have and while he may have some occasional kitty there...my cat will stare him in they eye and he will think of me...
brilliant.

Lady Luck - I thank you

Posted by roamingfree

Posted by venusianbull
Wait a Mc-second... did I miss something here? Does he actually want the kitty or not? And I mean the actual c-a-t. The one that meows and hisses and leaves things in a litter pan.

yes, he DOES.

I said: I think I need to find a home for my cat. I have too many things on my plate. (cat, dog, two kids, work, and now my fabulous single life in the making)
and he said: I'll take her, she loves me, I wanted to get a cat.
and I said: yes, she does love you, bugger (and it's true - they adore each other)
and he said: yes, seriously, I'll take her, she will have a good home (and I know she will)
and I said: ok. (while I screamed EUREKA in my head at the thought of my cat there, and it's implications 😄)
and I said: ok, she can be shipped by fedex or an airline as cargo in a crate
and he said: I'll split the cost
and I'm like: you want ME to PAY for YOUR cat? not happening, lol
and he said: yeah, I know, silly, ok, find out everything and I'll take her
and I said: ok, I'll get you the health certificate and update her shots
and he saidL great, let's do it
and I'm like: seriously? you want my cat? you want to have my cat?
and he said: yes, I do, she's great and she loves me
and I'm like: ok, fine, we will do it, but on the condition that if you are deployed she comes lives with me for the duration of depoloyment
and he's like: yes, that's a great idea, thank you, I will be deployed again.
and I'm like: I know...but...not yet, not yet...
and he's like: yeah...not yet
and than we started talking about other stuff

so, yes - the CAT, FELINE, Meeeooowwwwwwww

the cat in question:
http://s5.photobucket.com/albums/y183/emi-mommy/cat/

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Ya my kitty lives at my exs house with his kitty. They are friends.

I get to see her every week at least tho.

But I can't wait till I live in a place where I am allowed to have cats. I want her back full time😢

it means he can have my cat and miss me all he wants. And no, it's not a free cat. lol. He could get a free cat from a local shelter...he wants MY cat...that's the point. lol
The cat will be his conscience lol in a pussy sort of a way, and if nothing ever happens, he will know that he had something great and messed it up himself. I'm ok with that. He does have some conscience, he is a Libra after all...he will try to make it fair and right.

It's a cute outcome. Don't over analyze it, KoL - I already did, I excel at that... 🙂

Posted by Sagittarius89

Posted by roamingfree

Posted by venusianbull

Ya my kitty lives at my exs house with his kitty. They are friends.

I get to see her every week at least tho.

But I can't wait till I live in a place where I am allowed to have cats. I want her back full time😢

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yeah, I'm ok with the kitty going away. I'll see the kitty again...it's ok.

*thumbs up* Crystal now.

gaaawwddd....I finally put him past me 2 days ago, I finally came to terms with this nonsense and now he's calling leaving messages that he's missing me and thinking about me and asking how things are and to call him and all that nonsense...

now what do I do.

gawd!

I should let him wait now.

bugger.

thanks KoL...you know I always love your to the point opinion - another Libra bugger 😛

amethyst - I know...I need it.

trouble is if I don't call him back - he will know I'm playing, and if I do call him back he knows he still has my attention...and I'm not into boosting his ego, even if I love the sucker.

now, what do I do? lol

he can wait till Monday for me to call back - I'm going to baseball game tonight and Sat and Sun are already booked - I don't have time to talk to boys who don't have their shit together and keep me on the back burner...I don't do well standing in line with his other priorities 😛

well, darn I should have him all figured out by Monday with your help 😛 and than you can decide what I should wear 😛

Joo know...one should never feel like an afterthought, EVER. Something misplaced to be picked up again. "Oh hey now, that's where I left it..." Never understood that crap. If you want something ( someone ) say it. If you feel something, express it. If you've a thought lay it down. But FFS, waffling. GAHHHHHHHHHHH! Off the fence, NOW.

this guy is not winning any fans, lol...geezzzz...someone justify my madness...

Posted by amethyst2002
I'll never understand the chicks who come here and then throw out the whole "onoes, I can't control myself. Whatever will I dooo??" Why ask for advice if this is going to be your response to what you're told? You already know what you're going to do... *sigh* Specifically when you know the guy is a douche and know you should stay away, yet you tell everyone you won't practice self control and then go back anyway. :/

awww...but I haven't decided what I will do in the short or long term with this.

Posted by LibraLuv
VB you are always on the money honey!!! Say it again... Oh better yet, I'll just quote it so it can be heard! 🙂 Hey Babies! Love ya'll... I still — — — this thread... Nana Nana boo boo... I know how to make my hearts. 😛

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this is true. However in his case he needs to go through his reintegration period post deployment. Deployments mess peoples heads up, and so right now, I do my own thing, and do not plan on getting back into a relationship that right now I cannot trust. It took months for me to trust him in the first place, just because I do not commit and I did not want a relationship. Him and I will remain friends, because we had that, what may become of it one day no one knows. Right now I already made some plans of things I want to achieve and are in the fore front. He would have to bend pretty much backwards for me to learn to trust again. I don't know even right now what it would take for him to do, for me to entertain the idea of him and I being together. Things shifted. I want him to get his bearings post deployment, he is physically and emotionally drained right now. They all go through this. I come from a military family, I know what this is and what it takes and when the person is through this adjustment.
We will see.
I'm not being emotional about it.
These guys who put their lives on the line are not average Joes, and all circumstances are different - relationships are the hardest in military, because it drains you and it affects your perceptions. If he was some dude who just works 9-5 I would not even given him a second chance.
He is going through post deployment depression. It's normal. They all do. He needs to heal before he is ready to continue with me. I need him to heal.