signs that a Libra is ready to commit ?

Hi , Sorry for boring you with a cliche yet I m very curious 🙂

LOL that's a fabulous question...Im all eyes!!! I'll never see it personally but this will be interesting! 😛

lol branh!!! Possibly a good answer too *giggles*

hello branch0913 , no game is playing here , please! I dont like playing games in love and I dont play ! Of course , when a man wanna commit , he will say it loud and clear but what re the signs indicate that he is gonna say it ? Sorry if my question offended you 🙂

branh is just a grumble bum!!! But that's ok so am I....its Monday freaking morning and back at work!!!

I guess exam, that him WANTING to spend more time with you is an awesome indication 🙂

libra start talking about marriage and finance.

Finance— then mine would be married 20 x over to me by now LOL

My Libra has already done the hypothetical scenarios of marriage, family, and finances. Men do it just as much as women: they envision if you would make a good wife, a good mother to their children, etc.

I think Chatz is right about him wanting to spend more time with you. My Libra and I were apart from one another almost all weekend and the first thing he did (he claims) was call me when he got back into town. He cooked me dinner and gave me a full body massage and the whole time I could tell he enjoyed it.

Something else I think is important in having a man willing to commit is him knowing he can trust you and be himself around you. He's not going to give his heart to someone whom he can't trust.

My Libra and I have not had the full blown committment talk, but I feel it's coming. I've actually have learned a lot from this guy compared to the others. I know what it's like and how it feels for someone to pursue me with gusto rather than me wondering if I'm wasting my time. I know at this point I'm not wasting my time because he's letting me know by his actions and words how he feels.

I think another key thing to remember is let him bring up the talk of committment and yes, even, "love". Remember, they're indecisive, but once their mind is made up and they're confident in their decision, they have no problem saying it out loud.

***I think another key thing to remember is let him bring up the talk of committment and yes, even, "love". Remember, they're indecisive, but once their mind is made up and they're confident in their decision, they have no problem saying it out loud***

This in my experience with Libras, is absolutely correct!

* Which is why such questions normally substandize game playing.

This makes absolutely NO SENSE what so ever. Women usually ask these questions when they have feelings for men who are ambivalent but again, thanks for playing.

wow! Thanks! alot of patience too ! He is usually worried about something I'd call trivial things and I tried hard to calm him , slightly "obsessed" sometimes !🙂 Then again I m not perfect myself! However , I dont think he s the one for me ...maybe it's time to call it quit because I m tired of his way , back and forth , slow and fast ...Feel like a puppet ...

LS, I don't see it as game playing. These guys are notoriousy indecisive. It also depends on how long the relationship has been in existence. A few months? Let him express his feelings. Women are naturallly more emotional than men, so when the man is ready and does express his feelings, then the women is much more secure in those feelings.

Maybe that's not what you shot down with the "NO SENSE" comment, but that's my 2 cents...but probably is worth much less because of inflation.

"However , I dont think he s the one for me ...maybe it's time to call it quit because I m tired of his way , back and forth , slow and fast ...Feel like a puppet ... "

YOu have to have patience with these guys. If you're already having doubts, chances are they won't go away...maybe it is time to call it quits.

yes I think so, when a person sincerely like you, he/she would never say "I dont want to get too deep with you" 🙂

Then the next day , seems like they wanna be with you forever ..🙂

I was commenting on Brahn saying she was playing a game because she wanted to know where the relationship stood or was heading. How she is playing a game by wanting to know is beyond me.

Exam, the back and forth indecisiveness comes with the territory. Until they are secure about their decision, so either wait it out or walk away.

ah gotcha LS.

How's the Leo?

I really hate being stamped as indecisive. We are not indecisive people. If we don't act out immediately on choices we have to make, it's not that we can't decide, we just ponder a little longer to make the right choice. I personally think any common sense human being should do this.

Just my 7 quarters and 4 nickels.

Sorry for offending. I should have conditionalized my statement with "From my experience with Libras, ...."

I think it's all in the "look" as well. The look they give you when they see you, when you leave for the night, evening, morning....almost lingering.

It's almost like they want to say something, but they express it in their stares and looks for the time being.

HP you're on to something. Have you been surveilling us?

LP, I'm dating one of you!!!

🙂

HP.. I am with you. Are you not clawing your eyes out worrying about the "committment" talk? I want to have the "talk" and I know he does too, but I can not bring myself to say anything. It's better when I let him bring things up, but I am dying here... and my libra does do the lingering thing too.. when I am getting ready to leave him he says.. "this is the hardest part" and gets all sad. It is so cute.

HP.. how are you handling things? Is your libra still being elusive, hanging with his family a lot etc? Mine is being slightly distant, but swears he is not and it is driving me mad.

I'ts never trivial when someone is genuinly worried about something weather it is big or small. Whenever someone is worried, no matter their sign, about a handful of "small" things as you said, there is alwayse an underlying theme, a big thing that they are worried about that is being communicated through the small stuff. I can't tell you what this is because I don't know what the little things are.

In my experience with Libra male/Scorp female, the guy is always both intrigued and comforted and at the same time suspiciously curious about the girls matter of fact handle on her feelings for the guy. The when the two get together the scorp is almost immediately sure she wants the guy in a serious way and he can sense it. He thinks it is beautiful but at the same time it is so strong that it makes us take a step back in our heads.

If I remember correctly your relationship is a little taboo and I'll bet your in it, have been from the start, he is to or at least wants to be but he is the one worrying about the bigger picture because...this is what we do, analyse the big picture. He is trying to communicate that he is always concious of the bigger scheme of things which in the end should comfort you that he is capable and willing to work his magic in his enviroment to make something work that maybe shouldn't be normally persued from a professional/societal standpoint but he needs to be sure your sure because he is going to put his ass on the line and take whatever it is on for you. We all will....that you can count on.

Keep in mind that we alwayse think several steps ahead of where we are going. This is why people pin us as "indecisive", were not, were analyzing and calculating. 9 times out of 10 we see where the problems lie down the road that most other people don't and we deviate our path accordingly....either in small navigational adjustments or by taking or paving a completely new one.

He is looking several steps ahead, analyzing your relationship and that is why he seems hot/cold. He is cold when he realizes a problem down the road that you haven't considered, he is hot when he has figured it out...this is why people sometimes describe us as being great speculators, because as soon as we see a result we know the cause and vice versa. It's not as much intuitive as it is analytical. It comes across as indecisiveness or aloofness because we don't do it out loud most of the time, it is all in our head.

Hey brat, I've been dating someone else for the last 2 months. I drop kicked the lying Libra. He still text messages me and I don't answer them.

The current Libra is awesome. I am giddy over him, you can ask QueenScorpio or Little Sparrow as they've dealt with my questions through email.

well said nic, well said.

Yeah bratz, HP has a keeper now!!! Yay!!!

"well said nic, well said."

Thank you.

Thanks everyone for your advices and comments ,especially Nic-very insightful I dare say 🙂 And LS , I 'm not sure I understand what you mean about "game" here ? I dont play game ! Not in love ! This is the 1st time I feel this way strongly about someone and I honestly , sincerely told him that - I dont care how the others judge me or how the world looks at me , I wanna be with him and stay with him as long as he still wanna be with me.However, it 's just the way he behaves made me feel insecured often , even I tried my best to understand and compromise . One week , he wanna treat me like his girlfriend , next week , he told me maybe we should slow down and be very good friends !? That cycle just continued and I m very tired ,wounded ...

Not that I wanna rush into any "stuff" , the "slow dance" is good but it must be continuous , not suddenly change to "cha-cha-cha" ! I m not a dancer 🙂

You two are going to realize the intensity of your emotions when you have do have sex. It is an unavoidable reality between Libra guy and Scorp girl...he knows it too, that is part of why he wants to take it slow...he knows once he experiences that with you there is no turning back.

When we see a runway ahead and think of landing, we try to align our flight to see how perfectly we can land. Sometimes this process takes a bit longer since we dont have any ATC support or clearence. And when this runway keeps moving around(like how it happens in human beings cases), we have to keep repeating the aligning process. Sometimes we land. Sometimes we apply full throttle and climb up when we are about to touchdown sensing something missing on the runway. We dont want to crashland and go up in flames. 😉

Now that's an interesting way of putting it

Sorry guys.. i have been a little behind.. Thanks all who responded to me..

It appears my libra is fading away.. maybe my "big picture" is not pretty enough for him. I dunno. I would just think after 7 years.. he would at least talk to me about what he is feeling and what is going on instead of just walking away. He said the other day.. I question him too much and he can tell I get emotionally attached quickly... it took us 6 1/2 years just to KISS so whatha—? And I told him the questions are because we talk for at least 5 hours a day and I am trying to keep the conversation going.. I dunno.. maybe that is the "little things" Nic, you are referring to.

Its all a bit much right now. Last night he did not return my call or my text message. I can not get to the bottom of the problem if he wont talk to me.

Oh.. his friends are going through a lot with their girls right now.. bad stuff.. one got stabbed by his girl and I think this is making him a bit nervous.. plus the chic he was seeing before me is just about stalking him.. still... But none of that has anything to do with me..

Maybe with all the things happening lately, between the two of you and elsewhere, he is just taking a chance to reassess his feelings. It may not necessarily be a bad thing, he may just need a mental grasp of what he is feeling about those things and what that means to him. A breather to find his footing again...

And, if he is assessing his feelings, it may explain why his non-comunicative. He said that you ask lots of questions. He may be worried you are going to press him for answers he cannot provide right now, and doesn't want to be pushed into providing.

Most Libras spend the first part of their relationships (or so it seems from the forum) doing this very thing, when things come up that the Libra did not anticipate or fully account for, perhaps the same thing can / will happen. Zebras don't lose their stripes...

I don't know... I don't exactly have a lot of Libra experience to back it up, so take it with seeral grains of salt. But, if that is the case, I wouldn't worry too much, you passed the initial assessment last time, this time should only cover the new material... Unless of course you went willy-nilly nutso and forgot to mention it, like mentioning it was obviously the guy's fault that he got stabbed by his girlfriend cause he didn't return her call for 10 minutes... 🙂

Oh, and, girl... You need to be starting new threads for this stuff so you can ensure you get the proper Libra feedback instead of hiding it in the guts of another thread.

Come on, people... Haven't you noticed?!? Libras are easily distracted. Work with them here...

LOL@al's "Work with them here. . ."

Alcheme.."Unless of course you went willy-nilly nutso and forgot to mention it"

LOL!! You are too funny! Thanks for the words of encouragement!
and..yeah.. I forgot about the destraction thingy.. I should have started a new post!

or thread.. ya know what im talkin about!

Hey its not just Librans that get distracted!!!

Right!!