taking some time vs. brush off (Page 3)

This was his message to "me".

"hello... and welcome back to Houston 🙂. what part of Houston are you in now? and when is the best time to chat? 🙂 "

Clearly anxious to know who I am....

OK, just look after yourself...

I'm in combat mode now...not sure if you can tell.

It's on!

oh please, there's no relationship.

Libra...
This chic and the distance. I don't have control over either. He is very loyal when he is in a relationship, even though he says to me he is not in a relationship with her. I kind of sent him an email yesterday saying "I desired him" in so many words... Then I got sarcastic at the end, so that might make him mad, but oh well. I wrote about it in this post earlier today...

I have not heard from him since I wrote it, but that does not mean anything. He doesn't read his email everyday.

When we first became friends I did not know he had a girlfriend and when I found out I told him I did not want to be friends anymore because I knew it was going to be too complex. I told him to lose my number. He called the next day and asked if I would please consider being his friend and we would see what happens... I could not turn him down even though I wanted to because I knew I was going to fall in love with him.

About 1 year later after flirting and talking EVERYDAY for hours I could not take it anymore and I told him I wanted to be with him and I did not care if he had a girl. She was cheating on him, he was sad all the time and I wanted him. He told me he was not going to leave her no matter how bad the relationship was and we were not like that. I told him never to flirt with me again or say anything out of the way to me or I would end the friendship (straight blew up) we did not talk for weeks but eventually we got back to normal after I apologized and cried a bit.

That was about 5-years ago, and every time I mention the fact that I tried to tell him how I felt back then and he burned me, he says I should have tried harder or he will say "I was an idiot back then". This is why I am timid about stating my feelings again when he is seeing someone. When he and this chic are on the outs..he is calling me everyday. The bad thing is his relationships last for years. It may be a long winter?.

Yes, you are gathering ammo...

Brat, when did he say he is not in a relationship with her?

aqi...i'm hurt right now. i'm hurt and this is who i am and what i do. i defend myself from turning the tables. there is no relationship to sabotage.

what is there to be sorry about tomorrow? the damage is done.

you're right. i'm going shopping.

Libra..
He says this every time we talk and I ask him if he spoke with his girlfriend. Or when I was up there she called and I asked if that was his girl, he said I don't have a girl, we are just friends just like you and me. I said you and her are having sex, he said how do you know that. I said because you told me! Then he said something, but I just walked away like I was mad and couldn't hear him.

HP74

You are crazy and way too cleaver. What number are you going to give him and isn't he going to recognize your voice?

HP74

Crazy in a good way 🙂

HP....When the going gets tough, the tough go shopping!!! RETAIL THERAPY YAHOO!!!!!

Oh and Im in Australia - hence it being sooooooooooooo hot lately..and lots of bushfires and little water 😢 😢

Glad to see LIbrans aren't consumed with jealousy but they seem to have this radar where they know they SHOULD call coz things might be cooling down......this one does anyway....sheesh did he make a HUGE effort last night and steamy - mmm mmm!!!

Just hope that it isn't another 2-4 days before I hear from him again......he seemed keen to catch up soon but again soon can mean anything with him LOL

Shopping Therapy..Sounds like something I need too. Right now. I will catch up with you all in a bit..

Brat, you may not understand any of the following but...

He could be married to her but if he says he is not in a relationship with her then he is not - EMOTIONALLY. He is not there. You have to understand this. You may consider it a relationship because of all the facts. However, if he does not then he is not.

It's about feelings in this case, or lack of.

He might leave her altogether if he had a good reason :-)

Australia... What time is it there?

Really I gotta go..

Its 10 past 11.00 in the morning and yes, lets all go shopping!!!! oh bugger, Im at work LOL

I'd have to agree....go out with other people - you needn't do anything to confuse yourself but you deserve to go out and have FUN 🙂 🙂

Libra..

You're good. I hope he gets the message I sent (in more ways than one) ....

I tried to tell him to think about it. I mean he will always be my best friend first because he loves me so honestly and openly and that is so irresistablly attractive to me... I just have never had a guy be as patient and understanding with me, all the while loving me exactly the same for years. I just feel hopelessly in love..

Thank you. You are awesome. Just reaffirming for me why I love libras.

Now I must wait on him. He is worth it, so I will be patient.

Thanks guys..

I have tried the "go out and have fun thing", "keep busy to get your mind off of him"... and where am I?? right back online chatting with you fine people about this nucklehead...

It's fun though.. It is diverting my attention bc I really want to pick up the phone, but instead "Libra" is giving me therapy to help me get through this emotional trauma.

Man, I am so glad I found this site!🙂

OK. Keep reinforcing that you think he is great. Give attention. He needs it, make him cross that bridge and come to you. What you're doing at the moment sounds fine. Create a world between the two of you where no one can go, where no chics are discussed. Think for him, he does not have an opinion half the time anyway (Libras in general don't.)

aguaai..

LOL! Lovin' it!!

I am ridiculously bored, and I know that what you're saying is exactly true. Aquarius = Analysis. all day everyday. No matter what I am doing. Unless I am totally engrossed in something, which is rare, I am bored. So what do I do to keep from dying of boredom... start analyzing this situation again.

I know what you may say... get a hobby. I have like 12, can't do them bc I have to sit and analyze this situation some more🙂

See hopeless... And I was doing okay for a while, until he called. Then I started spiraling down again into "the analysis abyss"....

I hope you guys are having fun with this, because it actually is quite comical if I sit and think about it.

Music is a way to a Libra's heart.

oh yeah they certainly LOVE music!!

Libra does the analysis thing, too, allday every day

Libra..

I'm lovin' that too...

Okay. I am going to do it. All your advice will NOT go to waist. Promise.

I am planning to send him something small but special and memorial of the last time I we were together..this book he liked, with some cookies and a sweet card for Christmas.. how does that sound to a Libra?? Not too much but still enough to let him know I am thinking of him.

Okay.. he is a DJ. I already peeped the music thing. Sent him a CD with all this music telling him how I feel. I told him it was a CD I made a long time ago that I thought he would like. It took him 2 weeks to listen to it and he told me he loved it. But never made mention to it's contents. While I was up there 2 weeks ago, he let me play all my CD's in his truck, all day. I said, "We can listen to your CD's or something you want to hear", he said "No, keeping playing yours it's okay", LOVE IT!!! I made a bunch of CD's from Limewire. Like 12 to be exact, (one of my other hobbies)....

I know when he is thinking about me, like he will be after reading my email (because it will confuse him) he will probably pop the CD I made him in the CD player. I hope anyway.

Why wouldn't he have picked up the message I was sending him in the CD?? He is very brite?

Sounds very nice, Bratgirl.

Do throw him off a bit sometimes, so he won't get complacent. And throw in a mysterious line sometimes - the analysis will keep him going for days. We love the pondering and the longing.

Don't blame or judge. Just be sweet but have your rules clear e.g. no discussing of chics - when he's with you he's only with you.

Libra is all about deserving e.g. he wants to deserve you and for you to deserve him...

Is he a virgo-cuspy one? If so, there is an element of feeling caged. I have that - I have a lot of virgo. I want to but something pulls me back, my reputation has to be spotless and claims the situation. Afraid of ridicule...

aguaaqi..."It's certainly killing my boredom"

LOL!!!

Aqua men...

Already done that... about died trying to keep up. We were both too analytical. All night debates and constant friendly competition... It was fun, but exhausting... well kind of like this...

Brat, regarding the CD...

He hopes but does not want to find out that he's got it wrong e.g. that you did not mean anything by it after all. Because then the bubble would burst and right now this feels so good.

Are we complicated?

Libra.. "Is he a virgo-cuspy one?"

Not sure. 9/25 Can you tell? I am ignorant when it comes to the details of astrology. I just know he is a Libra. That's about it.

Ok, I'm home. They were sold out of what I wanted to buy. Me wonders if he'll log in at 8 pm hoping to talk to "me".

Oh and someone asked what number I'm giving out. What I plan to do is "chat" with him long enough to gather ammo and then either when I decide it's time or he does, I'll give him my real number...at that point, he should be saying "Oh Shit"

Brat, yes cuspy enough...

This might be a wine night....haven't had one of those in a while.

lol

Libra is that a trick question— Are we complicated— you really need an answer— LOL

You Librans have us banging our heads against the wall, we stay up at night wondering if it was something we said and/or did or didn't do....we wait and ponder and hope and ummmm...yeah, do I need to go on—

All of this though must be good as we keep coming back for MORE!!!

Thanks, Chatz. No trick question.

One just does not know sometimes. For instance, I've investigated a lot of time understanding the Capricorn and we're all different but boy, do the people within the signs have a lot in common...

It amazes me. The CEO of my company (huge), I was looking at a picture of her and I thought, she is a 'February Aquarius'. Well she turned out to be a January one. But not too bad on my part.

Okay.. I was supposed to go Shopping but it didn't happen!! Got engrossed with you people...

Anyway.

Chatz..."All of this though must be good as we keep coming back for MORE!!!"

So true.. I thought the same thing. It is like a mystery almost.. we gotta see how it is going to end.. or unfold, hopefully not end.

Libra.. "Brat, yes cuspy enough"

So what is the meaning?

HP74..

Keep us posted.. I want to know what happens. This can not be more suspenseful. "Reality Messageboard" ... The new fall series..

"Is he a virgo-cuspy one? If so, there is an element of feeling caged. I have that - I have a lot of virgo. I want to reach out but something pulls me back, my reputation has to be spotless and claims the situation. Afraid of ridicule..."

Brat, I think it means that he is quite reserved in his approach to life.

Girls

It's 2am here and I need to be at work at 9. Speak again soon...

Love to you all

he's online now...the secrets' been revealed

aguaaqi..

aawwwww! Tankya!

Libra...

Get some rest... We will chat tomorrow, hopefully! Thank you for all your help!

LUVYABACK!

HP74..

What's up girl? What secret—??

who wants to see his IM's for analyzation?

ME!!

I think I am the only one here. What did he say?

Maygirl may get pissed.. we totally took over her post. I wonder if she got her question answered...

i'm posting everything because i don't feel like editing it (other than removing our scrennames)...plus you'll see everything and you all (guys included) can tell me if you see "Player" and "Bullshit" written over this or if he's sincere.