Things I've Learned... (Page 2)

So I guess you need to play more aloof than he is and see how it goes.

If you stop texting he'll think you're upset with him. And he'll check you out with an indirect question etc. It's great, very transparent.

The picture of the woman is something that I once experienced and made me jealous. Jalousy is a realisation of longing.

Not mean!!! Witchcraft, make him want you, be your sweetest self then you coldest self. Draw him out without being mean...

aloofness definitely works and they always come back but who wants to keep playing these games— sheesh LOL

Hmmmmm stupid question really coz we are playing them!!

HP...I'd hate to mess with the bull literally!!!

Girls, I nreally eed to sleep. Be back soon.

Love to you
Libra

I had stopped texting him. I just texted him today after not responding to him for a few days. But yeah, I told him I'm going out of town and he quickly replied with "Personal or Business?" I didn't reply yet. He sent a follow up message that said "HOpe you have a good time in Atlanta"...I finally replied letting him know it's a personal trip to Georgia.

I think this Libra has experienced jealousy with me...not sure though.

Libra that is exactly what I am doing.....but in the meantime I intend to see others as friends only but its the only way I can be aloof....if I sit at home I will dwell/think/wonder/worry, blah, blah, blah.....oh and work helps too - keeps me somewhat sane - as difficult as that might be LOL. Also if Im not home every night he can miss me 🙂

That's if he will of course - this is to be seen

sleep tight little Libra....sweet dreams - mwah!!!

HP - you need to make him feel that he's winning ground but not as fast as he would like e.g. two steps up, one step back.

Chatz - don't formally confess to dating others, that won't go down well. Him finding out is fantastic though. He'll up the stakes.

perhaps he has HP....they are very inquisitive and like to know what you're up to....then they can analyze things over the next few days....it wears them out you know? LOL. I would have just left it at the first text though and make him wonder if it was personal or not...would have made him go crazy!!

Had to respond one final time. Goodnight girls.

Be unpredictable HP - you seem to be that with him anyway.

Don't confess to dating others? Hmmm...I did that. I told him last week that I was going to start seeing other people and he said "I can't tell you not to see other people if that's what you want to do"...since that comment it seems he's been more reactive to me.

Crap, I seriously hate analyzing.

Oh there is NO way I would actually tell him that - he can use his guydar like he did last time LOL.....but I do need to get out and stop thinking so much about him 🙂

Now go to sleep!! and thanks for your invaluable advice once again. goodnight even though its only midday here!!! LOL

its doing my head in too LOL.

HP - if it worked then that's cool. Risky but effective nonetheless.

Just be feminine overall. We're suckers for good looks, manners etc.

I am gone!

oh he likes the way i dress and he made a comment once that he likes the fact that I want to look good when I go to the grocery store. lol

nite

oh so you mean we should eat with a knife and fork and all that stuff rather than gnaw on bones, etc— hmmm now I know where Im going wrong *laffs*

heehee....

I guess I should give the water bowl back to my cat.

well one has to look their best at all times HP...you just never know when the papparazzi will be there hehehehe.....I don't understand how some go out looking like they've only just woken up!! I just couldn't not make an effort even if just shopping for groceries.

I've done it....Believe me, I've had the "screw it" attitude and have gone to the grocery store in my lounge pants and a tank top before. Of course, it was on vacation in a town where noone knew me.

yes give your cat the bowl back.......Im not sure as to what to think but I'll leave it alone 🙂

I still dont think i could go out in lounge pants (we call the tracky pants here) and Im not sure if you know what ugg boots (slippers made of sheepskin...some short and some long) but seeing women dressed like that in the shops makes me cringe!!! OK I won't go into picking now....tis not nice *slaps wrist*

🙂

It's too hot for Uggs here.

hot now? I thought it was winter over there??....even in 42 degree heat people wear them here!!

Its a nice 24 today though - ahhhh yes relief 🙂 We've had 4 seasons in one day on Xmas....hot/snow/rain/hurricane winds....strange!!

Chatz.. Okay.. I get so confused so many posts and threads.. I would never tell you off and I know you would only be loving towards your libra.. It must have come across wrong.. All I was trying to relay was my experience. The only thing that has changed btwn me and my libra was my attitude. I am grateful now instead of disappointed. There has been a shift and the shift has made it easier for me to accept him as he is. With all his flaws and inabilities to call.. doesn't matter, because I just want to love him, as a friend for as long as I can, and secretly be in love with him in my heart. It is a secret that only I know.. and maybe all of you fine folk.. whoever reads this stuff on the internet.. but anyway 😉 ya'll are okay people, and I luv chatting with you.. hope to be here for a long time... and maybe actually help someone a time or two..

oh Brats you didn't tell me off really 🙂....and I NEED to be told off LOL......and you have already helped some of us so there ya go....and yep, I feel a lot better for having read your stuff so thanks and now get back to being drunk - you were a lot more out there LOL 😉

oooh ooooh ooooh my patience has paid off....he's called, we're doing dinner tomorrow night...Im trapped again LOL....woooooohoooooo!!!!! until next time eh— LOL

hmmmm its nice for now anyhooooooo!!!

yay, CHatz. The libra did his wake up call to me this morning....after 2 weeks of being off, I get a wake up call. Little did he know that I planned on sleeping in this morning. lol

Chatz and HP!! See yeah!! What to do... what to do..Ya'll read that my libra called last night too...I think I posted it somewhere last night.. it is all a fog.. so this year may be starting off right for us gals.. gotta love it!

it's still 2006 for me.

me too.. just meant after next week.. things may be lookin' up!!

Libra.. where are you?? This post was a few pages back but I had to comment..

"The other thing I sometimes found myself do with an object of affection (not necessarily Libra), is I would say 'I have to tell you something', then they think some great confession is going to come and it kinda scares the hell out of them, and then I would serve up some irrelevant line - that would always bring great joy (to me)"

I love this.. this sounds like an aqua thing to do..You sure you're a libra? Anyway.. will try this the next time we speak.

What's been up with you??

Aquabrat

I'm here. Going through the Christmas motions e.g. sit up straight and talk the talk. It'll be over soon...

Yep, I am all Libra with no fire, 1x water, 5x earth and 6x air YET I am very fiery in my dealings with people at work - I don't get it all sometimes. But I have found myself doing what I described upthere, but only when the other person will play along and gets 'scared' for a moment.

When I have achieved what I want to achieve in my love life I will tell all (he's not really mine and may or may never be but a la Libra - I cannot share that). Until then I am all witchcraft but lately in a more open way. From writing here I am also reasling my shortcomings e.g. never talk about feelings, and I am trying to change that.

How are you today?

Good.. I too am releasing a lot here. Helps to deaden the anxiousness from the Libra's.. You have not released anything here.. We know very little about you and your situation.. I'm miss blabbermouth.. diarrhea of the mouth.. or hands.. which really wouldn't make sense.. so anyway... Yup.. Doin'..

lol brats!! Ummm wow...must be something to do with the stars that they all came to their senses huh?? strange creatures and here we go again on the rollercoaster ride!!

Libra you're right, it'll soon be over and then there's New years Eve!!! more boozing hehehehehe 😉...can't knock that LOL

Actually I will be so glad when its all over and I probably won't go out for a few weekends - bit tired of meeting up with peoples....nice to take a break 🙂

lol HP...sleepin? what's that— Typical isn't it though?

But Im sure you're glad nevertheless.

I am on the verge of releasing Libra male back into society as a single man - 10 years, and one child later. Very heavy because I am a softie and hurting people is something I am not good at...

Oh Libra!! Im sorry things aren't going that great but you have to do what is right for you and what's in your heart in the long run....Librans just aren't good at hurting people so you are normal there lol. 10 years? you get less for murder - sorry, just trying to bring a little humour.

How old is the child?

Yes, I am very Libra and very true to type! Child is nearly four years old.

well you have to be true to yourself as I said before....Im sure you have weighed up all the sides and thought long and hard and know the best outcome for your particular situation.

and both of you being Libran would possibly make it a very amicable separation and you will still be good friends and therefore your child will not suffer as many others do from splits??

I know a few Librans although not close except for my special one and they are all still close to their exes and ensure their children are well taken care of emotionally/financially, etc, etc....they will go out of their way to make sure the child still feels a part of a family unit in every possible way....just my observation.

Chatz/Libra .. my ex is a Libra.. on the cusp of Scorpio though.. but I noticed the same thing for the most part.. he will be bitter for a while if you are the one doing the breaking and may not come around at first because seeing you will be hard for him, but he will always long for you.. and having a child in common does not help, bc you pretty much will have to cross paths one day. It is hard.. I hope you are okay Libra. We are here if you need to vent.. Goodness knows you have taken enough from us..

Libra, I know this might sound like a repeat to what Chatz and Aqua said. As you know, I am also divorced from my Libra ex, whom I loved more than any other man in my life... We went through initial hard times initially (him not excepting this wouldn't work) we separated 3 times before. So, yes I did really try to hang in there, until the union became too detrimental for us and our 3 year old child... We are still friends and try to keep things kinda normal for our daughter.

However, it is hard and it will be hard, especially when the time comes when either of you/or both end up in another relationship and maybe have more children. I try hard to make sure my ex and I are basically on a smooth road for our daughter's sake. Children feel the strain more than the adults involved.

I know too well where you are coming from and it can hurt even when it is over. We are here.....

Good luck and no Libra sulking :-)

Grrr, I just stumbled across a yahoo profile of Mr. Libra's that is not that "innocent". Ladies, let me ask you something. Many of you have yahoo messenger or some type of messenger. I have a combination of male and female buddies on my list. What would you think if a male friend of yours had NOTHING BUT female buddies on his list?

Gosh girls, thank you all for your messages of support. Don't know what to say.

It's tough because he does not take No for an answer. And I am a softie. So everything takes twice as long.

And I am very scared...

HP, I must admit it is true that most of my Libra friends, including my ex and the Libra friend who just reunited with his ex actually have an abundance of female friends (i think without the bene's) however they have male friends as well.

They just seem to have a lot of female friends. Libra males are very understanding of the female... I know a lot of my Libra friends female friends call on him for all kinds of advice. He has told me and most of the ones he told me about have never been intimate with him, except one, again, that he told me about. I love getting advice from them, especially when it has something to do with other males...

But, NO other males... That might be suspect.

Libra.. why are you scared? you need to be a little more specific, you can send me a personal message if it is too much to put on here.. My EX libra was very mean to me and you must be careful when trying to leave someone who has anger issues.. I know it is hard for one to take, but NO means NO. I don't care how persuasive he is.. there are obviously some major issues or you would not want to leave.. Focus on the truth and facts not how you feel.. feeling/emotions can be deceptive at times.

OK, girls yesterday I came to realization that I am really lonely. It could be the holiday season or something... I have been a little down... I am thinking about being in a relationship again -- OK I just got goose bumps after writing that... I dunno, just lonely all of a sudden. No prospects, just started feeling like I wanted to actually be with someone - yesterday.... Weird, any advice— I dunno if I would be good in a relationship right now though. You girls have seen my posts... Whatcha think? I have no idea of who. Not intensely interested in any of the ones who are interested in me right now. Maybe I am just interested in the idea of being in a relationship...

Confused and lonely Scorp...

HP....my Libran has ALL females on his messenger listing....he just loves chatting with them (most are from overseas) and he gives them advice and vice versa...he just loves it LOL. He has met 3 in real life and had a r/ship with one which lasted a few months and the other 2 as friends but otherwise he keeps it just to general chit chat....It doesnt bother me in the slightest as he is honest about it all - if he was shifty and said he doesnt go online and chat to women and I know differently, I would walk away now but like I've mentioned before he is TOO honest and I like it that way - I kinda know what he's doing.....that's if one can work these guys out LOL. I imagine the libra you are talking about is probably the same way inclined...loves to give advice...you just have to look at nic and thelibran - they are GREAT at it 🙂

As far as chatting online every night goes? he's going to start football training again soon so that will lessen the time spent on there and perhaps we can spend more time together too - slowly he is coming out of his shell 🙂 Man its been a slow evolution LOL....almost 3 months now....not sure if that's the norm but it seems like 9 months!!