Understanding the Libra Man (Page 4)

Posted by pinklibra
Crabbie cakes, this is my old account.lol. I was so shocked to see my post. I'm like hey thats me? lol. Anyway i dont know the password for my "ALIBRA" account anymore, so i will respond shortly either in your inbox or on here. lol. I'm sure lots of women that brouse this forum will be happy you brought this thread up lol.

I love this thread! I think this was not just your best thread, but best thread in general on the libra board!

I agree, the best thread

Pinklibra, I read through this whole thread to hope to understand my
Libra man better lol.
I guess I just don't know the right words. And usually I'm a very good communicator.
But if he wants space, I have to honor that. But I also need to take action if I want to maintain anything. That I can almost handle - but what do I say? "Hi"? I don't want to say the wrong thing to him.
I've texted him on occasion "I hope your week is going well" during this space time, to show I care but relieve pressure. But I wanted to step it up a notch to grab his attention again.
I have a TON of libra girl friends and they're similar in behavior, but not as moody (at least platonically w me). Should I just treat him as I would them?
What is the right thing to say to
Libras? Seems like if you say the wrong thing, they're running for the hills.

Ha. Well yes, sometimes we are guilty of running instead of talking, however the only time we —run?? or disappear like that is if we don't feel a conversation would help, or if we thought it might create conflict. We hate conflict.

Anyway, in your situation I would suggest you just continue to keep things light. What you texted him is perfect. If you want to step it up you can offer to go for lunch or drinks to catch up, or invite him over for movies and popcorn to relax and catch up. However when you ask, do it with no expectations because he's liable to really want to but if he's preoccupied you may have to accept that he might not show.
If he doesn't show then in my opinion I would back off completely. If he was really into you then he??ll be back. I know because Libra??s like the idea of partnership and love, and when they finally come up for air and realize that area of their life is empty they will start to think of possible candidates, or they may just go out and start dating. I know with me, I often start out thinking of guys I kicked it with recently and I wonder what happen with us, or why they didn't keep my attention this will cause me to resurface and I might contact them. However once I'm reminding of why they didn't hold my attention I'm gone again, sounds bad but that's the truth.

In your situation I don't want that to happen to you or any woman going after a Libra man that's why I always warn, that if he has not made you his official girlfriend, or at least a priority in his life you??d do best to check on him when you can but keep it pushing with your options open. Normally when a Libra really truly likes someone, they are pegging that person for the long haul. The Libra women are only waiting for him to say the word and she's all his, and the Libra male well lets just say you wouldn't have to search this thread if he was really into you like that.
I would warn you not to try to force his attention in your direction, it will only make things worse if he's asked for space. So as I stated keep it light, no expectations, and start pegging other prospects, because I could easily generally analyze his every move based off of my Libra male expertise, but the bottom line is when a MAN truly wants you they won't stop until they get you, and he will make you his. Anything that happens in between, where you notice hot and cold behavior, him asking for space, him dating others or flirting with others, givi

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Anything that happens in between, where you notice hot and cold behavior, him asking for space, him dating others or flirting with others, giving you the run around about a solid relationship, all that in my opinion is signs that he either wants to do his own thing still, or he's just not that into you yet.

hey ALibra please help me am so confused and sad i have met that libra guy online after him stucking me on socialmedia we talked i gave him my number and two days after we met there was a great chemistry between me and him we kissed at out first date I invited him over but we didn't sleep together we only kissed and did some foreplay i know i was too easy and I don't know what i was thinking it just happened too fast between us he invited me over few times and i felt like everything was going ok between us he even talked to me few times about us and he feel like we are gonna end up a girlfriend and a boyfriend and he really is relaxed around me then oneday when everything started to fall apart it was us texting and as a joke hesaid i love u and i was dumb and said that i have feelings for him then he just clicked and was like what do u mean and i felt like he freaked out i said that i was joking but he never believed me then the day after i was texting him again and as ajoke he call me a whore i had a huge argument with him then he apologised but I didn't relpy and went that night out with my friends he texted later that night after seeing my pictures on snap chat that he didn't mean it and he hope that am having a nice time I replied that i was only messing with him and i know that he doesn't mean it then he said that he hope that am not fooling around with other guys i was like why would u say that do u think am a slut he said things happened between us too fast and he doesn't trust me we talked for a while that night and i said that i liked him alot thats why things happened fast but am not like that i was supposed to sleep at his the next day he rang me and begged me to go to a party with his friends before we head home I wasn't in the mood but went anyway when i got there he was sevely drunk and didn't treat me good and i acted the same way with him we went home wnd when we were having sex he said that he had feelings for me too the next morning he asked me to stay but I couldn't i had to go to uni he disappeared for few days which was strange coz we talked everyday ever since we have met i rang him asked him to meet he said fine on we were supposed to meet on a Friday evening but he never contacted i was upset and my friends invited me out so i went out with them without contacting him he text that night saying that he can't make it i never replied then the next day he saw my pictures that i was out he texted and he sarted having a go at me he said that he doesn't trust me and he think am seeing other guys i said I didn't and am only with him then he disappeared again and contacted again saying that he want to see me but never made it its been like that for over two month of him being hurtfull and then lastweek again was his last chance we talked things out and we cleared the air and he said i like u and he promised he is not seeing anyone else and i said the same we were meant to meet the next day he didn't answer my text which i said what

In regards to the original post...what if he is the one pushing for a more serious relationship and you're blindsided.

For those deeply into astrology I'm:

Aqua Sun
Aries Moon
Venus Sagittarius
(I've done my natal chart so I can give other aspects if needed)

Libra Male is...(according to his self reported birth time lol):

Libra Sun
Gemini Moon
Venus Scorpio

Community dick.


Libra men are for everybody.

Hi Pink Libra

I realise this is an old topic but hopefully you're still following it and are able to help me.

I've recently been seeing a Libra man. We know each other in person through mutual friends and we bummed into each other in a comic book store a few weeks back. That evening he started pursuing me on social media. He said he was very attracted to me and he was acting like he was all in, asking me on a date, inviting me over to stay at his place for a few days, saying he was looking for a meaningful relationship over just a hook up.

We met at his place for our first date and hung out but wound up sleeping together. Gemini/Libra sexual attraction like no other. We then made plans to meet up again but we couldn't make them happen as I left to go on vacation for 2 weeks. He promised that we would see each other when I returned.

Since being on vacation I have only heard from him once. I understand that Libs need space which I completely support as I need space myself however, I do find myself worrying that since he's being so quiet perhaps he was just looking for a quick hookup and was just saying things to get me to sleep with him.

In your opinion do you think Libra men are insincere? Or do you think he's just taking time out and is being true to his word when he said we'll meet up when I get back?

I've been dating a libra man since valentine's day. We generally have good communication, and went on 1 date a week consistently, 5 times. During the 5th date, he was really tired, and we stayed in - watched a movie both of us loved when we were growing up. Passion runs deep, but he's been distant since I last saw him - a week ago. We texted briefly over the weekend both days, but he has yet to ask to see me again. What do I do here I don't want to scare him off...He typically initiates the dates, but the last one was me initiating. Maybe this turned him off? Maybe I'm being a girl and need to chill the hell out?

Help!

My opposite!

Posted by ALibra
SPICA you have brightened my whole day. LOL. Thanks. I wish I would've read what you wrote sooner. Anytime someone sheds a light of hope over my Aries situation im like "Now what, what was that?" LOL. But as I wrote, you are right, I do think I explain the men better. Im what Steve Harvey calls "A woman that THINKS like A MAN and ACTS like A WOMAN" lol

Been dating a Libra for a year now and he fits your write-ups in many ways - thank you - I am still learning ... he is Libra Sun, Taurus Moon, Scorpio Rising, Venus in Libra. I am very independent and he said I'm a gladiator 😛 ... I think this is a lot of my Venus in Aries which goes along with your saga ... he said I think like a man which I think was a good thing because he doesn't like a flakey woman. He appreciates that I can take care of myself. He does the disappearing thing but told me about that right up front so I knew what I was getting into. I just keep busy when he's out and about doing his thing. Then we get back to talking and it's all good. We trust each other without even discussing it. I know where he is most times because he tells me up front and I love that about him. So thoughtful. Like he answers any questions ahead of time in anticipation. And he knows when I need him, he can tell by the tone in my text and he calls me asap - just to let me know he's right there and that nothing has changed ... one thing we enjoy is that we are both constant. We are like the two halves of a whole ... he calls us old fartsmellers - sitting on the front porch sipping tea and watching the grass grow ... the old couple still holding hands and going everywhere together ... he's the one that told me that he loves that kind of thing and I pamper him when we get together and he loves it - of course I feed us well I'm Taurus - but he gets oil massages, nails cut, scrubbed with soft good smelling soaps in the shower, etc. 🙂

If he says he likes you but it's best for you not to stay together. That he never looks back, that he knows it's unfair. What does that mean? Can he comeback? What should I do?

The best advice I can give women dating or wanting more with a Libra man is to have your own life, be independent and it helps to be just as much of a chatter box as he is. Let HIM come to you most times not the other way around. You'll know they like you by their actions (changing your tires, fixing and doing little mundane things some men wouldn't do), sense of humor and ability to start talking about personal things and asking your advice. They are normally the type to handle situations on their own so for them to even consider your advice or listening ear is a plus. The more water in his chart the more he will like his space, be possessive but try to hide it it, need to be authoritative and a desire for a woman who doesn't take his crap but understands he is the head of the household. The more nonchalant you are about his fickle ways in the beginning the more he will want to spend time with you and become less of that. In my opinion older Libra men tend to be a little more grounded and having sowed most of their wild oats less likely to stray and tend to look for partners that have more to offer than just a pretty face someone who can can comfort him when he is sick etc. I have more advice but too lazy to finish..

What happens when he breaks up with you but you have to see him the following week? Like he was wishy washy about our relationship but decided to put an end to it to get some space but added he never looks back. What should I do?

Posted by Lola95
What happens when he breaks up with you but you have to see him the following week? Like he was wishy washy about our relationship but decided to put an end to it to get some space but added he never looks back. What should I do?

What do you mean by you have to see him the following week?

We got to pick our std tests and he wants me to see him face to face to get his shit back !

Sorry shit back*

Clothes back*! They don't allow cussing here i guess

😐

It's not sad. I don't know. He was wishy washy and I rushed into the relationship so I guess this week off is important. Now he said he likes me and loved being with me but he needed time alone. however he did not want to be back with me because he wanted to be on his own. I don't know. He introduced me to his friends and family. My mom knows him. It's the second time we have such a convo but this time was the most sad. He even was a bit surprised when I left the apartment. I don't know it's still fresh so I don't know. Next Friday, we have to get our STD/preggo test in a hospital and I guess I should give him his clothes at that time. He a libra and I don't know how they behave so what should I do?

Posted by Lola95
We got to pick our std tests and he wants me to see him face to face to get his shit back !

If a man tells you he doesn't look back take him at his word. If he wants his things back drop them off with a family member or friend. I think you should cut off all contact with him because that situation isn't healthy.

Yeah you are right. I will give him his things back and get it over with. I mean it hurts but yeah I got to get used to it

Posted by Lola95
Yeah you are right. I will give him his things back and get it over with. I mean it hurts but yeah I got to get used to it

You will one day realize that you are better off without him. Right now it is more of a bruise to your ego than anything else. He is not worth the pain he is causing you.

Posted by ALibra
SourPatchSag: You are a sagg and he is a libra. 2 words fire+air =FIREWORKS!! From start to finish might I add. Think about it, what happens when air hits fire,

Hi I read all of your posts about the nice cute intelligent libra man and I just want to say that you helped me a lot with my questions about my boyfriends actions a possible way of thinking but I still got doubts about him lately.

We're a gay couple and I'm a Sagittarius. He's the first Libra man I've known so far but he truly messed me up in a good way that on ever did. We've being dating for almost 5 months now and we're in a distance relationship for about 3 weeks. We started out really ok and nice. He always came across as really educated, well behaved, neat, calm and gentle to me. Around 1-2 weeks of dates (we met almost everyday in the beginning) once we were at his house I asked him whether he liked me just to see how he would face the question: he told me that he didn't like me.. he thought that me might already felt in love ❤️ with me. I asked how he knew that he said that he's simply feeling it because he was constantly thinking about me everyday and that he's happy when he's around me. I was unprepared for that, I showed astonished but deeply inside I literally was full of joy and appreciation towards him. I didn't expect that kind of reaction but I was honestly touched and was willing to keep the relationship first from that moment on.

The story went well, we kept seeing each other, text each other everyday asking about our day, I keep filling him with compliments and love presents, dining out ecc and he seemed to appreciate all of my efforts. The thing is he never repeats what he says to me not once. That "I ❤️ U" was the only time I reckon he expressively told me on his own will. He never told me the 3 words again and the maximum that I could get from him is a simple "Me too". Of course now it's me that constantly tells him that I love him.

At the beginning of our relationship we accidentally bumped into his mum once during a dinner out and she asked him about me, looking really enthusiastic cause I'm Asian. She seemed really happy about our friendship. Then at that moment he decided finally to do the coming out with her parents because he thought that it was the time, especially with his mum's reaction and partly because of knowing me. But one day he told me that his mum acted cold once she started to notice that he was always doing out late with me and asked him whether he was actually spending all of his time with me. He said yes and she stopped taking to him for about an hour. He always thought his mum would be openmined about the gay community but because of that reaction he retrieved himself once again and told me that it's better to wait for a while. Since that time he never accepted the idea to introduce me to his family. He heard that his dad and sis wasn't really quite feeling the Asian community in town either and his grandmother, with whom he has a strong bound, hates literally Chinese people because of past confrontations with them. He felt like he wasn't sure to ever introduce me to his family anymore, even kept his relationship status secret from his friends (they don't even know about me). When I asked him why he would not introduce me to people in his life he simple replied that that wasn't necessary at the moment. I tried to convince him going out with my circle of friends but he seems to refuse it too saying that he doesn't want to disappoint my friends.

A few months later we kept the relationship going and continued to know each other more and more. I joined him in Barcelona where later last December where he was doing a class to become flight attendant and we passed the new year together and few days in Barcelona. Everything seems to be fine even though he NEVER went too far on the sex aspect of you know what I mean. He always seemed to be so uncomfortable when it comes to that thing. He told me it's because he's insecure about himself even thought I always told him that I love me for the way he is and that's it.

January is the month when things started to get a little bit insipide. We were all texting each other everyday, multiple times a day and he replied always right sways. Once we got back from Spain he become kind of distant. Partly because of his university exams and the new job that he's starting to do at the beginning of February but partly I think is because he's questioning about our future together. He always seemed to have an excuse for meeting up.

Hey what's up want to hang out? Mmh I'm busy today can we do it tomorrow because this that..

He seemed to always be so busy. And I can understand that but since he's going to stay always for 6 or more months in Barcelona and I'm here in Italy, the least he could do is to understand that I needed to spend as much time as possible before his departure.

When he was still here I asked him whether he knows how difficult a distance relationship would be for such a fresh story he told me that he and I would both try and see. I told him that I wasn't going to see anyone else when he's away and so he told me the same. I asked him whether he would be mad if I went out with some other guy he said that he would be understandable because of our situation. That I might have felt to need to experience someone else. That hurt me a lot. It seemed like he didn't really much care of possibly losing me. He told me he would not have to time to meet any other guy when he was there but he expressively told me that he would be pleased to meet other guys if the opportunity comes not necessary as love interest just knowing. He thinks I'm immature my actions are results of my impulsive personality. He's unsure whether I really know what I feel for him he says and he asked me whether would be so bad in case we remained friend afterwards. I told him I was not planning to do that at all and he understood that.

We met up the night before he left and now it's already been 3 week apart from him. The first day there he wrote me that he found out a new apartment that he liked really a lot and it's shared with another guy of the same age working at the airport too. He seemed really pleased by the thing and didn't hesitate to tell it to me. He made couple compliments about the guy saying that he was the kind of guy he liked to get along with. It almost seemed like he didn't care if I would be jealous and he knows that I'm extremely possessive towards him.

He started to text me less and less. He always justified this with his new job and he need to accustom to this new way of living. First time was the job, he didn't have time to text me and that was explainable but now he didn't even have the time to text me little things like good morning or anything. We barely speak on the phone if it was not me that initiate the thing. He doesn't seemed to have time for me even when I know it were his day offs. I tried to expressively tell him that I need to feel his presence always and that it doesn't bother me at all (as he thinks he does) if he texts me all the time. He could text me whenever he has the chance during the day cause that would only please me and make my day better, but even that said he keeps disappearing. He doesn't barely reply text my messages even when I see him online. He doesn't even visualize the mess and go off.

When I asked him with whom he's chatting with every time I see him online instead of me he gets nervous and always tries to avoid the confrontation or even trying to have a diplomatic conversation about the reasons behind he having time for sending text to others and not me. Me that I'm his boyfriend. The least that I can expect is a how you doing? He says that he hates when people start to mind his own business and tells me that his tired of this and wants to end the call.

I know it may caused by me being too clingy and that pushes him away for whatever other reason. But he clearly knows my feelings towards him and he simply looked that he doesn't care anymore.

He's acting so distant and I don't know what's on his mind. Is he trying to look for someone else?

I honestly don't know what do to right now. I hope this is just a feeling and that I could find a way to safe this relationship while I'm still in time. So I need some advices from people with similar experiences with Libra men and guide me on what to do in order to keep him interested. I need explanations of his behavior. Maybe you already have an answer to how to act in these kind of situations. Should I text him? Should I leave him alone for a while and wait for him to show up? How am I going to know if he is ever going to show up again.

Thanks a lot really!

If your libra man has disappeared he has most likely done it for a couple of different reason, and if you are not his girl yet then this wont be the last time. Reason number one: You became clingy. They hate it. Even if you are their woman, they do not want to be up under you all day everyday.

Sooo not true for this Libra man. I love clingy women.

Posted by Goodtimes
If your libra man has disappeared he has most likely done it for a couple of different reason, and if you are not his girl yet then this wont be the last time. Reason number one: You became clingy. They hate it. Even if you are their woman, they do not want to be up under you all day everyday.

Sooo not true for this Libra man. I love clingy women.

Good

Great feedback.

But how do they reach out after the breakup?And what do they do if you don't respond their casual texts after the breakup?

My Libra disappeared then a couple of weeks texted happy month, I didn't respond then 2 weeks later have a nice week so told him to call me if he wants to see how Im and tell me why he vanished.of course he didn't and didn't pick up my calls too.Then a month later he sent me a Snoopy sticker to which I didn't reply.

Is this their way of reaching out?

Wow this is old.. But awesome. She rules.

Father of my kids (which is also the ex) 7 years together was a libra...

He charmed and charmed and courted and charmed even years after we were together. You say they don't like clingy but I was too busy in the beginning to even realize if I was or not so I guess that's true. But when you are in, you're in...

I didn't like the indecisiveness though it started to weigh on me. And they don't like to pick sides, I want someone to defend me. Also, they can't carry a convo for too long it's like their brain shuts off (intellectually) which was irritating for me. TAURUS WOMAN - LIBRA MAN IS A NO.. lol

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Posted by boxcarmirnta
Wow this is old.. But awesome. She rules.

One of the all-time GOAT Libra threads.

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GOAT?

some Libras are really funny'

but i could never go GaGa crazy over one

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Posted by boxcarmirnta
Wow this is old.. But awesome. She rules.

One of the all-time GOAT Libra threads.

GOAT?

Greatest Of All Time

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Learned something new today...

Now I think I know what happened lol

Posted by ALibra

Some of us do need a complete.opposite. Heck I'm crazy in love with an aries we couldn't be more opposite. Like night and day emotionally n how we love. But yet its a challenge for me everyday.to try to understand him. Sometimes I like it other times it drives me nuts

I know. What is it about Aries men that makes our blood boil?

Posted by DonnaLibra

Posted by ALibra

Some of us do need a complete.opposite. Heck I'm crazy in love with an aries we couldn't be more opposite. Like night and day emotionally n how we love. But yet its a challenge for me everyday.to try to understand him. Sometimes I like it other times it drives me nuts

I know. What is it about Aries men that makes our blood boil?

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Likewise with Aries women. They will run through a wall for you. Seriously