@VirgoHero
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Oh there's nothing wrong with buying a gal a drink. All I'm saying is "What then?". The drink part is the easiest.
Working on seduction by overcoming approach anxiety, inner confidence, kino escalation, closing. That's where the challenge is.
Posted by feby16aqua
Rocky...different strokes for different folks. Its all good!!! 😄
Dur.
But I really wish you'd learn to grasp the entire picture as opposed to this snippet.
Knowing a lot of this fantasy shit happens in real life, forcibly to women around the world, I find it incredibly hard to relate any sort of protection or sympathy to those into this shit.
To each their own, sure. I'm not about to defend them, but as long as they aren't hurting everyone and it's all consensual, eh.
Unfortunately, those pornos you all speak of aren't necessarily targeted to those who are into the consensual form.
Posted by SirenSting
I hate the straight up approach...naww you smell! 😛
Haha! I'm shy... That straight up approach kinda makes "my bubble" feel cramped. Scorpio moon problems 😛
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Aww that's cute.
Posted by SirenSting
I hate the straight up approach...naww you smell! 😛
Haha! I'm shy... That straight up approach kinda makes "my bubble" feel cramped. Scorpio moon problems 😛
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That's cool too 😄! Definitely a different demographic, some people focus on meeting people at pubs or clubs or similar places. I'm going to admit exercising my evil side to see how pick up works when I'm working!
Anything serious it's always been a slow steady building sort of relationship.
Posted by VirgoHero
Oh there's nothing wrong with buying a gal a drink.
Absolutely.
...As long as there aren't roofies involved, of course.
Why oh why do creepos have to go and ruin everything for the nice guy??
Posted by feby16aqua
No guys buy me drinks lol 😢
Try not drinking.
I'm not a big drinker and I always have people forcing alcohol at me. Just tell them you don't drink, and they'll magically appear!!
Posted by SirenSting
I hate the straight up approach...naww you smell! 😛
Haha! I'm shy... That straight up approach kinda makes "my bubble" feel cramped. Scorpio moon problems 😛
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Siren, lets revisit this actually.
So RANDOM GUY-X comes up to you in a bar...
Yes you're a little shy and your bubble starts feeling cramped...
But given the right circumstances, a comforting smile, perhaps getting you to laugh a little...
Could you see yourself warming a little for a least further conversation?
I like where VH is taking this 😄
Posted by Libra911
If I would get a drink, I would make sure I grab it straight from the bar. I have heard some horror stories with roofies
triple yes to this. This is also the reason I wouldn't buy someone a drink. If I do I'd invite them over to the bar and see it being poured or made. Even for my own drink unless I trust the person buying it for me lol.
*paranoia activate*
Posted by feby16aqua
No guys buy me drinks lol 😢
Honestly Feby, a lot of this is purely approach anxiety.
Depending on the gal, it can be tough. Most guys come into the knowing they cant close at 9 or 10 so they don't even bother trying.
Posted by VirgoHero
Oh there's nothing wrong with buying a gal a drink. All I'm saying is "What then?". The drink part is the easiest.Working on seduction by overcoming approach anxiety, inner confidence, kino escalation, closing. That's where the challenge is.
From my experience in the club and bar scene, when you buy a woman a drink, they will generally come over and chat with you. At that point it's up to you, but at least you got the hardest part out of the way, starting a conversation. I find that once you get to talking, it's easy from there, but people don't realize how hard it is to start conversations with strangers, especially ones from the opposite sex.
Though this comes from me with a more "assertive" mindset when talking to women. Some guys have an aggressive mindset, and could care less about how the woman feels about what they're saying. They're just trying to say their lines. A lot of these guys, from my experience, aren't the greatest conversationalist. Some guys are good at approaches and conversationalist, but I think that is more rare than people are lead to believe.
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Also, a lot of guys just don't realize it's just a numbers game. So you get rejected by the first gal? Big deal. Talk to 10 different gals, the odds are one WILL want to have a real conversation with you as long as you're not doing something stupid.
Posted by Libra911
If I would get a drink, I would make sure I grab it straight from the bar. I have heard some horror stories with roofiestriple yes to this. This is also the reason I wouldn't buy someone a drink. If I do I'd invite them over to the bar and see it being poured or made. Even for my own drink unless I trust the person buying it for me lol.
*paranoia activate*
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Again, thank all the creepers out there who go and ruin it for everyone.
@Rocky: Yeah it sucks big time. I grew up in a relatively nice, small quiet town. After having started working in the worst part of the city I seriously don't think I could ever be too careful :\
@Febby: I get that too, people won't often approach me either but they warm up rather nicely. I'll go with 911 you're too hot 😉
Posted by SirenSting
I hate the straight up approach...naww you smell! 😛
Haha! I'm shy... That straight up approach kinda makes "my bubble" feel cramped. Scorpio moon problems 😛
Siren, lets revisit this actually.
So RANDOM GUY-X comes up to you in a bar...
Yes you're a little shy and your bubble starts feeling cramped...But given the right circumstances, a comforting smile, perhaps getting you to laugh a little...
Could you see yourself warming a little for a least further conversation?you'd be surprised how "shyness" come across as awkwardness to women. Any conversation that starts off awkward generally isn't going anywhere. Some women are nice enough to kind to "guide" you, but most women are harsh and will dismiss you right off the bat.
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Oh AGREED but also practice builds your confidence and helps you overcome any shyness. I don't accept that someone can't improve themselves when it comes to interacting with women.
For example, I remember the story about how you picked up that asian gal in Santa Ana on a trip of yours. You GETTING to that point of approaching her, interacting and talking with her, and then eventually closing her for the night....
That wasn't something you we're born with, right? Through your past experiences and attempts, you found what worked for you and the sum of all you learned has developed your current skill set, ya?
DIMPS!
How'd your date go with Cancer guy on the weekend? Please say you hit it off.
Were actually having a great conversation regarding interacting with men and women at bars, etc.
I'm trying not to get to PUA'ish lol
Lol well I'm not drinking too too much. Just on the weekends really but I do like beer...a lot lol.
You're funny rocky. I miss the big aries influences in my life. My ex aries said the same things to me...big picture. Ive noticed that my laissez faire attitude perplexes the aries I've been around...
Unfortunately, it's hard to take some of these little things with a grain of salt when you know some of the big, bad, real info behind of why things are the way they are.
Sure, life is fun and fluffy when your view of life doesn't extend a radius beyond yourself and limited experiences/knowledge. But once you see beyond that radius, life isn't always fun and fluffy. To think it always will be or to even approach it as such with some matters is just pure ignorance.
"Dur, you're always doom and gloom! lol"
No bitch, I'm just fully aware of just about all that could possibly happen, good or bad. So when reality slaps you in the face and you go cry in the corner emo style , I'll be prepared for any scenario because I anticipated good and bad.
I dunno how you drink beer. I really can't touch the stuff. I'm okay with sweet wines though. I think I have too much of a sweet tooth to bother with drinking.
Posted by aquasnoz
@Rocky: Yeah it sucks big time. I grew up in a relatively nice, small quiet town. After having started working in the worst part of the city I seriously don't think I could ever be too careful :\@Febby: I get that too, people won't often approach me either but they warm up rather nicely. I'll go with 911 you're too hot 😉
The types that ruined it just need to be pushed off a cliff. Problem solved.
Posted by xdimplez
halllooooo guys. what i miss? and how you lovelies?whos scorpio sting?
did leoliza and libracusp come back yet?
You missed a lot, before there was a brief discussion on BDSM, cock and now picking up women (technique of the men involved, including what we prefer). Peaches have departed and left us for the summer solstice or so we like to think it as.
Everyone seems fair enough, rocky's mother just went through surgery again. We wished her and her mother well.
SS will reveal herself when the time comes and she is more comfortable with the idea.
LL and LCS has yet to return.
That is your entire update fierce dimpz 🙂
I don't think being 'social' is a natural talent 😛 As for shyness I think it correlates to the fear of rejection. As VH said, so what if that first girl turns you down. Also wouldn't it depend on the mindset of some women? Why does an approach have to mean I'm trying to sleep with you?
I use to be really shy. After promoting for the University bar where talking and flirting was a must lol and after a lot of experimenting. What you notice is if you are genuinely you and genuinely interested in finding out about them it WILL flow naturally, if it doesn't then there's no point pushing it further.
Even the hottest girls in the end are just girls, they suffer if not equally on a different set of problems.
Off to avoid traffic.
Hope the doc comes back with good news about the biopsy. My mom could use it. This surgery essentially left her disabled permanently (not the surgery in itself, but what had to happen during surgery). Eff that noise.
@Rocky: I sends you positive mojo — hope all will be well.
Posted by rockyroadicecream
Off to avoid traffic.Hope the doc comes back with good news about the biopsy. My mom could use it. This surgery essentially left her disabled permanently (not the surgery in itself, but what had to happen during surgery). Eff that noise.
Good luck, Rocky!
Posted by SirenSting
I'm a sucker for a funny guy. If he doesn't come on too strong, like most do, I do feel comfortable enough to continue the conversation.
DING DING DING!
(*Mental Note: See Siren in a bar, make football jokes and you're in✨)
Posted by Libra911
Just a couple of weeks ago in a bar two guys who look like 16 and wasted came over and asked my g/f and I to have shots. I just asked them to show me their ID cuz they look underage and I didn't want to go to prison for drinking with kids. They just left the table lol 🙂.
YOU CARDED THEM?!?!? HAHAHAH
That's AWESOME hahahahahah
Posted by xdimplez
i know who siren sting is. subtle ques that i have encountered in my researchwelcome back beautiful 🙂
😄 😄 😄 😄
Posted by Mr. Defense
Also approaching a group of women generally never turns out well. I could go into details about this later.You're at their mercy and it' sometimes total carnage?
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It kind of is. The only thing I've noticed that can SLIGHTLY improve your odds is just interacting with the entire group but even that can get awkward.
Posted by Mr. Defense
Also approaching a group of women generally never turns out well. I could go into details about this later.You're at their mercy and it' sometimes total carnage?
It kind of is. The only thing I've noticed that can SLIGHTLY improve your odds is just interacting with the entire group but even that can get awkward.
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It takes just one of them to plant seeds into the others heads 😉
Aww LadyScorp I'm going have to come pester you in the dark corner now haha! But I agree I need to work on my leave me alone vibe a lot more.
the date went well..it was actually our second date. we had a last minute first date on wed, which i had planned to show up in my scrubs and be all like "how you like me now mofo?!?" but then after the responses i got from my coworkers and the choice of restaurant, i decided to change.
sat night he took to the highest building in boston and had dinner there. it was sweet, i wish i could say i thoroughly enjoyed it, but i didnt. it was very packed...there was a live band playing very close to our table which made it hard for conversation, and the waiter kept arguing about my wine choice. i wanted to punch the waiter in the face...it was like listen dude...i know what i got, and thats what i want...stop arguing with me!..if it had only happened once, it wouldve been fine...but the mofo kept arguing with me every signle god damn time he checked up on us! and then when he noticed that we didnt eat that much, he blamed it on my wine choice! it was like...you gotta be fucking kidding me. i was soo annoyed. but he was an absolute sweetheart..dude even massaged my feet under the table. i know thats not proper dating ettiquete, but the table cloth was long and i wasnt going to stop him 🙂 he also got me this book, because he knew i liked astrology, and he also knew that i didnt know how it all started. its called "a history of horoscopic astrology" and in the cover he quoted a poem i really liked. it was very sweet.
WELL PLAYED, MR. CANCER GUY.
Good for you dimps. You deserve a good guy to make you happy 🙂
Posted by SirenSting
I'm a sucker for a funny guy. If he doesn't come on too strong, like most do, I do feel comfortable enough to continue the conversation.DING DING DING!
(*Mental Note: See Siren in a bar, make football jokes and you're in✨)
Haha! Don't be making me look like an easy catch, VH! I'm a complicated woman. 😛
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Ahh but I love the complicates ones 🙂
Dimpz - He has not proposed you yet right? You know them Crabs, very eager but so sweet all at once. It sounded like it did not turn out that bad despite the environment 🙂 Are you feeling a good rapport and chemistry with him?
Posted by rockyroadicecream
Off to avoid traffic.Hope the doc comes back with good news about the biopsy. My mom could use it. This surgery essentially left her disabled permanently (not the surgery in itself, but what had to happen during surgery). Eff that noise.
Wishing only good news your way rocky and hope you mom shall be doing well.
Posted by aquasnoz
Aww LadyScorp I'm going have to come pester you in the dark corner now haha! But I agree I need to work on my leave me alone vibe a lot more.
Oh, my "leave me alone" vibe can be felt all the way to the exit door if one allows it 😛
Though if and if, an irresistible, water sign or water dominant man were to tease me up, somehow knowing how to break up my nuclear barricades without being sleezy (being intelligent and witty instead), getting a few laughs out. Maybe, he might have scored enough points for me to leave my "leave me alone" sign at the door.
But then again Snozzy, you have an exceptions certification with you, you could join me any time in my dark corner, bring on the rest of them lot too, so it becomes The Corner 😄
"Latina" complicated probably isn't a sexy thing though haha.
Okay I have to ask, what is LATINA complicated?
Posted by xdimplez
latina complicated sounds exotic. i wouldnt mind handling that kind of complications in my life :p
I know, right? ARIBA!
Posted by aquasnoz
Aww LadyScorp I'm going have to come pester you in the dark corner now haha! But I agree I need to work on my leave me alone vibe a lot more.Oh, my "leave me alone" vibe can be felt all the way to the exit door if one allows it 😛
Though if and if, an irresistible, water sign or water dominant man were to tease me up, somehow knowing how to break up my nuclear barricades without being sleezy (being intelligent and witty instead), getting a few laughs out. Maybe, he might have scored enough points for me to leave my "leave me alone" sign at the door.
But then again Snozzy, you have an exceptions certification with you, you could join me any time in my dark corner, bring on the rest of them lot too, so it becomes The Corner 😄click to expand
You and your damn dark corners! Suppose I brought a couple of candles over and a flashlight...
Posted by Libra911
Latina complicated - lol. I know exactly what that is 🙂
Do tell, Leebs 🙂
Posted by Libra911
Latina complicated - lol. I know exactly what that is 🙂
Do tell, Leebs 🙂
Posted by TheLadyScorpio
Dimpz - He has not proposed you yet right? You know them Crabs, very eager but so sweet all at once. It sounded like it did not turn out that bad despite the environment 🙂 Are you feeling a good rapport and chemistry with him?no he hasn't, but he has already talked about marriage, or eluded to it. which part of me likes, and the other half wants to run as far as i can. i know he is joking, but i have had to reprimand him a couple of times when he makes comments like that.
our chemistry is great. i have an instant connection with him. we have a lot of things in common, some of them kind of freak me out how similar they are
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Is it not both endearing yet at the same time frightening that they could express themselves in regards to marriage, children and so forth, with such ease. Even with my feminine energy as you have with your chart as well, it is unnerving yet nice. It is good you are at least letting him know where you stand comfortable or not, they can really go way off the deep end if you do not set out clear boundaries early on, yes even on a second date because they move fast, if they like what they have!
Very happy to hear your chemistry is great, excited. Aww, can not wait to hear more great news, to come. Put the "freaking out right now" voice to rest, let it breathe for now and enjoy the ride dimpz, allow the lioness seductress to enjoy her time 🙂
Posted by aquasnoz
Aww LadyScorp I'm going have to come pester you in the dark corner now haha! But I agree I need to work on my leave me alone vibe a lot more.Oh, my "leave me alone" vibe can be felt all the way to the exit door if one allows it 😛
Though if and if, an irresistible, water sign or water dominant man were to tease me up, somehow knowing how to break up my nuclear barricades without being sleezy (being intelligent and witty instead), getting a few laughs out. Maybe, he might have scored enough points for me to leave my "leave me alone" sign at the door.
But then again Snozzy, you have an exceptions certification with you, you could join me any time in my dark corner, bring on the rest of them lot too, so it becomes The Corner 😄You and your damn dark corners! Suppose I brought a couple of candles over and a flashlight...
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We hunt much better in the dark!
Bring on the candles, I adore them, leave the flashlight at the door though 🙂
Posted by aquasnoz
Aww LadyScorp I'm going have to come pester you in the dark corner now haha! But I agree I need to work on my leave me alone vibe a lot more.Oh, my "leave me alone" vibe can be felt all the way to the exit door if one allows it 😛
Though if and if, an irresistible, water sign or water dominant man were to tease me up, somehow knowing how to break up my nuclear barricades without being sleezy (being intelligent and witty instead), getting a few laughs out. Maybe, he might have scored enough points for me to leave my "leave me alone" sign at the door.
But then again Snozzy, you have an exceptions certification with you, you could join me any time in my dark corner, bring on the rest of them lot too, so it becomes The Corner 😄You and your damn dark corners! Suppose I brought a couple of candles over and a flashlight...
fill her corner with flood lights, make the cop siren sound, get on the walkie and be all like " lady scorp you are under arrest for being tooo sexxayyyy"
:: que genuwine- pony to play in the background ::
vh starts stripping and cameras start rolling
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Posted by aquasnoz
Aww LadyScorp I'm going have to come pester you in the dark corner now haha! But I agree I need to work on my leave me alone vibe a lot more.Oh, my "leave me alone" vibe can be felt all the way to the exit door if one allows it 😛
Though if and if, an irresistible, water sign or water dominant man were to tease me up, somehow knowing how to break up my nuclear barricades without being sleezy (being intelligent and witty instead), getting a few laughs out. Maybe, he might have scored enough points for me to leave my "leave me alone" sign at the door.
But then again Snozzy, you have an exceptions certification with you, you could join me any time in my dark corner, bring on the rest of them lot too, so it becomes The Corner 😄You and your damn dark corners! Suppose I brought a couple of candles over and a flashlight...
fill her corner with flood lights, make the cop siren sound, get on the walkie and be all like " lady scorp you are under arrest for being tooo sexxayyyy"
:: que genuwine- pony to play in the background ::
vh starts stripping and cameras start rolling
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/thinkingjesuschrist
/someone.SAVE.ME!!!
*frantically searches the entire place for another dark space, now*
/slidesacrossthewall
/closes.my.eyes
*if I will hard enough, no one can see me if I can not see them*
Posted by xdimplez
latina complicated sounds exotic. i wouldnt mind handling that kind of complications in my life :pHaha! Thank you, dimpz. I'm Irish and Spanish. I love hard and fight hard. I think it's sexy on men but some men can't handle a hand full of a woman like that.
This V, she explained quite well
I have latin friends, so I know exactly what she means by "latina drama"
I know men who are daring or were dating latinas and were part of "latin drama" also
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So what you're saying is, its like a real life novella. Nice 😄
Posted by xdimplez
meh...quote failtake 2
but see they never go the rico suave route of having the bartender inform me that mr mysterious is buying me a drink. instead they come up to me half drunk with a drink already in their hand, slurring their words, and saying ..."yo girl, i got you a drink" ...gtfo here. i bet he uses that same drink to pick up other girls.
That is disgusting.
Posted by xdimplez
NO NO NO LADYSCORP you are doing it all WRONGyou are suppose to close your eyes, click your heels three times, and say
"there is no place like home, there is no place like home"
You see, the problem being - I forgot my red shoes, toto took them away
Posted by Mr. Defense
Also approaching a group of women generally never turns out well. I could go into details about this later.You're at their mercy and it' sometimes total carnage?
It kind of is. The only thing I've noticed that can SLIGHTLY improve your odds is just interacting with the entire group but even that can get awkward.
Because there's there's the possibility of at least one bitchy friend? 🙂
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ahahha
@LadyScorp: YAY! water dominant check! So long as you don't mind the airy side poking a bit of fun and being inquisitive 😉
Posted by Mr. Defense
Also approaching a group of women generally never turns out well. I could go into details about this later.You're at their mercy and it' sometimes total carnage?
It kind of is. The only thing I've noticed that can SLIGHTLY improve your odds is just interacting with the entire group but even that can get awkward.
Because there's there's the possibility of at least one bitchy friend? 🙂
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Would you gentlemen not refer them as - cockblocks?
Feby, response from Peaches.
"Awww
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Exactly. When it feels right, it just FLOWS.