Will Libra male come back (Page 3)

tiki .. you're clueless ... you're the person who cannot see what has happened here ... and screams ignorance.

You have absolutely no understanding into "why" a person would behave the way they do .. you can only see on the surface, which is ..

.. this is the way he is behaving.

There's a reason .. people do things for a reason. To fix an issue in our lives, we first have to look at "why", so we can get to the root of the problem.

You're solution, and Temples .. is to just ignore the "why", because it's not worth it ... just move on to the next person and maybe he will live up to your expectations, without being human and having any issues to sort out.

But she didn't...........This is not meant to offend Michelle at all, but it seems to me that she has a lot of growing to do. She mentioned that she was in a LTR with a abusive partner, I'm curious to know how soon after that ended did she meet Matt? Taking time for yourself after any relationship I believe is important but especially after a abusive one. I'd also recommend taking even extra time to figure out what it is about YOU that allowed YOU to stay in a situation like that. I'm not judging at all but I think when you get to know yourself & understand who you are & what you want, will accept etc. You don't sweat the small things so much. Best of Luck Michelle, get to know yourself & stop fretting over knowing someone else. 🙂

Okay P Angel, I'm going to step away from my way of thinking, I have no problem with that and see what others have to say and I will be back to observe others point of view...for the record I'm not looking at him as if he's this mean guy that is using Michelle, I'm looking at his behavior towards her, his actions towards her. Even if Michelle messed up she doesn't deserve to be blew off, there is nothing wrong with a woman putting her heart out there but a man has to be willing to do the same...

"why is she focusing on what he's doing, who cares"


She cares, tiki ... you have nothing invested in this, so it's easy for you to take the position of ...

Walk away from his sorry butt, who cares ..

Because you don't, because you're not in love with him .. she is, tiki.

Only you are concerned with WHY, who cares why, thats what keeps women holding on to invisible relationships. The only why should be why am I putting up with him, why do I feel I need to keep stepping on my own toes ie hurting myself, why am i doing the same thing and getting the same result with this man, why can't i step away leave it alone and nurture myself and why can't i let him take initiative to come to me, what am i scared of? It's not Michelle's responsibility to find out why he is being a the way he is towards her. She can't fix him, she can only fix herself and for you to feel that she can fix him by being his wifey/therapist is delusional.

Great point CanTaur!

"She mentioned that she was in a LTR with a abusive partner, I'm curious to know how soon after that ended did she meet Matt?"


This is something that Michele and I have addressed in private .. and I too, was very concerned about this ... emotional baggage, if not checked and put into perspective can be very damaging, and many times is the main culprit in future relationships.

"unless all men are just jackasses and can walk away ANY DAY even after 25 years. i don't believe that to be true. if someone's actually actually into you, they will not walk away like that without a discussion."

Ditto

"It's not Michelle's responsibility to find out why he is being a the way he is towards her. She can't fix him, she can only fix herself and for you to feel that she can fix him by being his wifey/therapist is delusional."


tiki .. I'm done with you. You're too selfishly ignorant for further conversations .. you have no clue that to be in a relationship with another person constitutes assisting them in their life and would consider it "fixing", or "changing", and believe it is delusional to have any compassion or desire to aid a partner in need.

Latina .. you don't even know what you want.

Two weeks ago it was the Aries

Last week it was the ex-Pisces

Who tomorrow?

"i don't know what i want", you wouldn't stand for it. for you to never be sure of what you want in life, most people won't stand for it"


You people are amazing to me .... how do you get that by a person not being sure at this moment what it is they want constitute that they will NEVER know what they want?

Why wouldn't you stand for it? Do you know all of your answers in life right this very second?

Do you guys never have to sit back and do an internal search for what is right for you?

People are so goddamed self-centered .. and have no understanding that you all do the same fucking thing, everyday of your lives that Matt is doing right now.

We all have to "think", to make sure of what we want ... the foolish, immature thing would be to take blind leap, without being sure and just hoping like hell you land on your feet.

LOL!!

P Angel it's cool, I just don't feel the way you feel about the issue, you could have more information regarding this issue and out of respect for Michelle not put it out there, I could be seeing things in a tunnel void of nothing.

I'm very compassionate, I love being in love and I love without inhibition, I have aided and been there for a man, it's not what people think, being this way keeps a person vested in a relationship based on the womans ability to put up with his mess, she's not married to this guy, not even engaged so whats with her having to help him through his issues, if he wants her there he will let her be there, thats not the case with him.

If he needs help and aid well give it to him but be ready for the repercussions of being that woman...if he needs help in sorting out his life, sorting out his feelings with relationships and feelings well they have doctors that will help with that, he needs to go to a therapist and get some help, she doesn't have to be his medicine, his Ms.Fix it girlfriend, it never stops if she jumps on that roller coaster ride.

"WHo in the HELL is michele, and WHO CARES about MICHELE. but the truth is, we've all invested ourselves dearly over her little boring issue that can definitely be categorized and tucked away in the "why men suck" category."



I'm not angry, Latina .. more like frustrated with ignornant people. You would preach ... who wants somebody who doesn't even know what they want .. when you can't even decide if you want the Aries or not. You've been bleating on and off about him for over two months now and have the audacity to come in here and say what you did about this man?

This isn't anger .... it's trying to deal with stupidity of ignorant people. Michele is the one who fucked this up .. and the only thing you Princesses can comprehend is that Matt isn't grovelling at the foot of her throne.

Goddamit .. if you screwed up a relationship then it IS your responsibility to repair it if it's fixable .. NOT the other person.

How blind can you people be ... and then turn around and say I don't know what the fuck I'm talking about?

"WHo in the HELL is michele, and WHO CARES about MICHELE. but the truth is, we've all invested ourselves dearly over her little boring issue that can definitely be categorized and tucked away in the "why men suck" category."



Apparantly, I care about Michele ... apparantly you think her problem is boring.

The thing about it P Angel your being so set on being right and minimizing everyone else's post makes you look ignorant, your a bit older than most of us here and probably been in your marriage for years thus you have no clue what we deal with, everything seems black and white with you but it's not and this is what most of us are trying to help you see but that's fruitless, I enjoy your post none the less.

Who cares if Michelle messed up, men mess up 10x's more than women on any given day and women are much more forgiving in the end, immaturity causes a man to punish someone for being human, she's human, she made a mistake, get over it. His behavior is non-sense and immature, that alone should make her let him go on to figure it out for himself.

For him to drag this out after she reached out to him is ridiculous, he's too simple to say hey you messed up, I'm not mistake proof, I'm sure I will mess up too, lets talk this over and see if we can salvage this relationship is the only response that should come out of his mouth, all this other bs he's pulling is jus that bs..

"P-angel, please count all your blessings, just remember you are lucky you're not dating and in your mid-20s, trying to get everything settled and be successful."


What the hell is that suppose to mean?

Do you think I never dated, or was ever in my mid-20's?

Do you think that some Knight in Shining Armor came and fell into my lap, and I never had to know how to iron-out relationship differences.

I've been married for 25 years, Latina, to a man who comes home EVERY SINGLE NIGHT, and shares everything in his life with me, that is built around trust, respect and understanding .. you do honestly think that this successful marriage has taken place because I did NOT know how to settle issues within a relationship?

"He have his reasons. And - do not exactly know what it is. But he surely have one."


In absolute agreement ... he does have reasons .. we all have reasons for what we do.

Michelle,

I've read everyone's opinion and all of it assumes only to a thing we are really innocent about. The whole thing transpired exclusively between the two of you. We may have access to the situation being relayed to us, but we can never absolutely feel the feelings especially we are only looking at one side of the coin. He have his reasons. And - do not exactly know what it is. But he surely have one. We can give the best of the golden advises in the whole universe BUT - feelings are complex. It varries in manner that is beyond our reach to comprehend.

We have this head placed up above the heart. When people are trying to inflict pain we are hurt. But if we must place value to ourselves, respect the person in you, believe you are wonderful, you will realize you have much to explore and that your time is being wasted by this crap. Sorry from my heart BUT - let him go. If you do accept this it will be easier. AND - if he returns, you are already cleared from all the grudges so you will have better insights then).

Soon, weeks or months from now, after you regain your strenght, you will look back and laugh - you will say : "I have been a fool one time because of loving him (and you smile)." But then, you are actually looking back at it and not on that stage of your life anymore. TIME heals all wounds. That is one true thing. The whole thing caused you agony. Cry over it- you are a woman, it won't make you less. Once you cried it all out, pain is lesser. What's left will all be tenacity - you will soon be stronger so you gain from it after all.

Michelle- give yourself a place right for you. You have so much love. You'll get it back in time. Smile, you have all this wonderful people who are spending time and nerves to show you reality. Life is not all rosy - and life is what you make it.

You are better - way way better next time.

I feel for you. Sincerely.

Thank you P-angel

"I have been a fool one time because of loving him"


Love is never foolish .. to love somebody is what life is about, even if the person doesn't love you back.

If this is the end for her and Matt, and they never find a way to repair what has happened between them .. in her memories, should be the ones of when their relationship together was beautiful .. beautiful love isn't foolish.

Loving somebody is what keeps us alive .....

"You are better - way way better next time"


Agree with this also ... for personal growth when a relationship has ended, we must be able to carry forward what we need to make the next one better, more loving.

Yes, right LOVE is never fool - we lovers do things foolishly. That happens.

For all it's pains LOVE is what makes life meaningful...

I think what the other ladies may have been trying to say P-Angel is that, you've been married for 25 yrs & that the dating game is probably alot different now then it was when you were single. Not to say that there haven't always been jack ass men or independant women.......just that things are so different now. I was 4 when you got married so no I wouldn't know 1st hand, but I was raised in a "old school" or "old fashioned" way & It is very hard for someone like me to date! The majority of the women I know are all about game playing. I hear so much about what he can provide, financialy. I'm not like that. Men I think have become accustomed to women like that because.....well women don't really need a man now, they can provide for themselves but to "bag" a man & gain a little extra is topping on the cake. I wouldn't take it personal, I value your advice, somethings never change

"The majority of the women I know are all about game playing. I hear so much about what he can provide, financialy. I'm not like that. Men I think have become accustomed to women like that because.....well women don't really need a man now"


Yeah, I know .. thanks for elaborating, though 🙂

All the more reason for a woman to have some sensitivities to men, who are naturally emotionally handicapped compared to a woman's emotional strength, and provide him with a sense of feeling "at home" with his female, instead of always worrying about whether he will be played or not. I should think a woman who is bound to her man and doesn't play him would be more attractive to a man these days, for it's rare.

My son (26 years old) .. isn't attracted to players, and niether is any of his friends. They like and desire the kind of woman who needs their masculinity, so that they can feel secure in thier manhood. And he has a lot of friends in this age-group that talk to me often about women these days.

So, I'm more inclined to believe that, though, this is how the females are, and perhaps men are used to this ... it's not what they desire. Being a Bitch isn't attractive to men, whether females like to think this or not.

Think about this in reverse ... we (women) still like men to be strong, masculine and confident .. so, wouldn't it seem logical that men still like femininity, comfort and a women with a soothing/supportive nature?

I guess the only part that really bothers me about today's younger woman is that in her independence .. she has forgotten that men are male, and erroneously believe that men should be as emotional as she is .. and this is simply a false belief that is essentially the main culprit in all these failed relationships that are happening at an alarming rate. No matter how vibrant and independent a woman may progress into ... male is still male .. and biologically, he does NOT possess the emotional depth and capacity a woman has as it pertains to directing his life ... he is STILL incapable of being on a woman's level and cannot be expected to act like a girl when it comes to feelings.

So, though, I understand what you are saying about the modern woman, as compared to one much older, like myself and my values .. I don't believe that the males have evolved into having the emotional intensity of a woman, like women think they do, for to this day, women are bleating on about how men SHOULD display emotions on her level.

Think about that for what it really means ....

If ... IF .. a man could be on the same emotional level as the woman, then would these women be carrying on the way they do about men showing them emotionally the love these women are expecting?

No .. they wouldn't be constantly dealing with the fact that men aren't being on their emotional level .. instead ..

Alls these men WOULD be expressing themselves like girls.

They aren't ... because they can't. And the evidence in this in the fact that women have failed to find one.

A viscious circle that is incomprehensible to the modern woman .. she believes the man is error for NOT displaying to her emotions on a female level .. when in reality, it's the females in error for believing he has this capability.

I certainly agree on you there.

I set my mind that men are incapable of showing emotions because they are less in touch with it. So what I always do is test the water. Try to say something that might tap the emotion. Gently. If he feels comfortable he will soon speak up. If he isn't I wait. But almost always, I penetrated the walls of steels around their hearts by being patient. I never made a man rush to anything I wish. I invested time. I gained from it and happy with the result.

Let him go, if he truly loves you? he will come back some day - as it has been written so many times....they KNOW how to get the one they love (even if they dont know they love them yet), they know how to find you, find a way back into your heart (if you are still ready to do so). Men love to chase, let him if he wants to later down the track...enjoy your life until then.

Good old saying "let them go, if they truly love you, they'll find a way back home"...this can take a great deal of time in some instances, sometimes it will never happen, sometimes it doesnt take long. In the meantime? enjoy yoru life 🙂

Hi everyone!

Ive read through your messages and i agree with a little bit from everyones message.

Im actually 27 without boring you to death. Ive had issues throughout my life unfortunately. The mum that didnt want to know me, hated me, me desperately trying to make her friend. Then the boyfriend for a couple of years who tells you your fat, ugly, boring. And then i met another boyfriend for 4 1/2 years who hit me alot.

So yes its safe to say i have alot of baggage.

Matt is the only guy ive met that made me feel what love was. He didnt have to tell me i just knew it. And to say i was scared and could cope with it was an understatement. I dealt with it as i knew best to wait for the bad stuff to pre empt it before it happend and when i got the slightest sign of a tone etc. I was right all along. I have to get rid of him.

One thing i wasnt with matt was needy!! I guarantee. I never called him first, text him first, asked him to meet up. Didnt be all over him. He came to me. It was only after i pushed it too far i text him twice and called him once him replying but im just saying that was the first time in 4 months.

I have left things. I apologised said to make sure he stays special and he replied take care. I am over the crying stage i have forgiven myself lol.. and now im going to spend time mending myself and clearing some of this baggage. and like you all say which i totally agree if he wants me he knows where i am. Ive had enough self esteem loss for as long as i can remember.

I am becoming stronger and am maintaining my self esteem by letting this go. I think time on my own is needed. Im enjoying it. So thank you for all your messages during my time of pain.

I really believe that this thread and the one before has truly helped me. and if im truly honest if matt came back today im not sure what i would want. As i have a lot to deal with, im not ready to be hurt again and at the minute im MAKING MYSELF HAPPY! and its Great.

I love matt dearly but i realise its not the right time for us.

Im dating someone else now and im starting to actually like them and realise they are fun to be around and the person im dating is ME!

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Woah!!! ((clapping))

That's womanly acted. Kudos!

Kindest wishes dear............

Whooo Hooooo Michele..... you GOT IT !!!! Very very happy and proud of how far you have come. You ARE amazing and if MATT(or any man) cannot see that in you....why do you have to grovel for their love and respect? The answer is : You don't. That kind of logic just continues to damage your self esteem!

You're smart, talented, and on your way to TRUE happiness. Congratulations!

YaY for Michele! Your a very smart woman, your doing the best thing by giving yourself time to heal old wounds, rejection from anyone be it a mom, father, brother, loved one can cause so much havoc and miscommunication in future relationships, you taking the time to deal with your issues and heal from those issues is a very healthy step towards a healthy loving man that will accept you no matter what, fears and all. You grasped fairly quickly that you can't make Matt reach out to you no matter how many times you text or reach out to him. He knows were to find you and if he wants to rekindle the relationship he will make an effort to be closer to you.

Happy for you Michelle...Do what's right for you...

P-angel

Even though I do sometimes get offended by your posts, I do value and try to understand what you are saying..I believe you are very intelligent and do understand human nature and your posts make a lot of sense when you sit back, read them and see them objectively..
But it is hard to comprehend and see the truth when you are in the middle of all the emotional turmoil...I would not have appreciated or been willing to listen to the advise you are giving a few months ago, but now that I am past most of my emotional stuff, I can see your point of view...

After reading your posts regarding emotional manipulation this week, it struck home with me that Me and my Libra are still doing this even though we have decided to be firends only..For some reason we manipulate each other trying to stop the other person from moving on, I don't think we do it on purpose but we are doing it, now it is plain to see..

Talked to him about it and told him from now on our personal lives are not a topic for discussion..He told me recently that he was intimate with someone else and he always asks about who I'm dating..I don't ask him because I know it will hurt me to hear but he stills tell me..And sharing this information at this point is emotional manipulation because we are trying to get a reaction out of the other person...

I thank you for these posts..

Thank you...i have learned alot from the people here..I believe it would have taken me a lot longer to get past this, if I coudn't hash out my feelings here..And i'm sure this has helped Michelle tremendously as well..It is always good to get advice from others because it is so hard to see everything when you are in it..

Another lesson learned in life...

"And sharing this information at this point is emotional manipulation because we are trying to get a reaction out of the other person"


Exactly, HH ... I'm glad you can see that 🙂

Most times, it's not even on the conscious level .. we as people become accustomed to interacting with others habitually, to the point of it becoming programmed responses/reactions.

When the heart has been injured, we are programmed to retaliate because we believe this makes us feel better .. when in reality, it makes us worse for it because now MORE emotional turmoil has been created for to react to, and on and on ... never-ending.

When we break the program of reactions .. we are then able to see that we have been emotionally manipulating situations for us to subconsciously have an avenue in which to keep feeding on ...

It's like an addiction ...


Latina .. I couldn't care a less about my tone .. if my tone incites an emotional reaction out of somebody because they cannot "hear" my words for what they mean objectively then that is not my responsibility to keep in check for you ..

Michele ... happy that a new day has brought a new awareness to you. Follow what your instincts/intuition tells you and you won't be led astray.

P-angel

Even though I do sometimes get offended by your posts



HH, diplomacy is something I don't concern myself with, for it is futile to try .. so it would be safe to say that most people in here likely get offended by things I say.

I'm more of a person who is the opposing viewpoint from the general population .. and doso on purpose .. the cocktail mixer. When people are trying to hash out a situation, they get a common consensus, most people are in agreement .. this is a support system .. NOT help in a constructive fashion.

When we don't know where to turn, and everybody is saying the same thing, then what is left or new to chew on to find a different answer? With human behaviour .. we hear "loud and clear" when there is a voice in the crowd that has evoked an emotional reaction out of us. When in an emotional spike because the person has offended us .. we step back to put focus in this because it has stirred us into getting our attention. Later, once we've calmed down, we are then able to see that a door has been opened to ponder, and consider ... where with the people who's voices were in common were only standing at the door you had already opened yourself to support it.

Sorry if I offend you, but, my aim is in the right place ... my intentions are to shed light from a different perspective, but, because of my handicap, I am unable to use diplomacy .. I can only be point-blank and direct because I lack empathy .. I cannot "feel" another persons plight.

Or joy, or sadness .. any emotion.

If a person comes in here happy about something, then I cannot vicariously be sensitive to how that feels like to another person who is experiencing it ... so, my only recourse is to probe into on a psychological level to determine why a person is feeling the way they are.

..Like I said when you are in the emotional turmoil, it seems offensive, but once past the emotional turmoil, it makes sense..we tend to only accept and hear the things we want to hear when emotional...

"we tend to only accept and hear the things we want to hear when emotional..."

I know ... I mean, I don't know what that feels like, but, I acknowledge that it exists for people.

Again .. sorry about that .. but, it can't be changed.

P Angel is old school so most of us don't really dig what she's saying. I don't get offended by her wordy words because most of what she says is objective only in so far as her living in a bubble, I'm not saying older women that have been married 25 years or more can't give great advice but I do feel most of us can't relate to her because she isn't single and she doesn't have to deal with single life and all the things that come with that life style .

Women were exposed to a lot of misinformation 10 plus years ago, hold a man's hand, coddle and hold him together, make excuses for a man's inept ability to communicate, we all know that women mature faster but one thing that doesn't and hasn't changed is men knowing what they want in life, so P is speaking from a whole notha planet and I wouldn't go so far as saying she's offensive, she's clearly stuck in her way of being and communicating thus most of us can't really relate to her. Instead of her speaking in terms of TODAY so us forward thinking women can relate, most of her information is drawn from how she has been conditioned to think from her past thus some of us clash with her way thinking and communicating.

I enjoy reading what she has to say because I tend to not eliminate others points of view because I know that I can gain new perspectives even when I'm not totally in agreement, P jus eliminates everything everyone says that doesn't mesh with her way of thinking.

I dunno, forward thinking doesn't resonate with me when it comes to P, It all comes off as a mechanical response covered by what people call a facade of being out of touch ie educated fool. Nothing she says touches me but it doesn't mean I won't pick up, I guess I have to stick around a bit more.

HURT...It's amazing how when we go through things in life, we get so hurt & assume that NO ONE else could possibly feel the same hurt we're feeling & even if we hear the same stories from others, we still inside believe that no one's hurt could compare to our own hurt. I read your story & it's amazing because your story was IDENTICAL to what happened between me & my Libra years ago...Man, me & this guy were madly in love (dang near couldn't go to the bathroom without eachother)& when the break up happened, he decided to be in my life when HE wanted to be. He changed his number (made it so that if I wanted to talk to him I couldn't) but I kept my number the same (was an advantage to him because he could always contact me when he wanted to even though it wasn't the other way around). This man left me, got with another woman who lived 5 hours from him, told me she was a better woman for him after only knowing this woman for 5 months, got her name tattood right next to the tatto me & him had done as a dedication to the child we lost, & married this girl. All the while, when he was just dating this other girl, he would create fake profiles on facebook just to see my pictures & just to see if I was dating someone else. He would call at 3am & hang up. He would call me crying & make up a sob story about something that happend to someone in his family (or make up a story so that he'd have a reason to call me)...He would tell me that he thinks he made a mistake by leaving me & that the only reason he wasn't sure about coming back to me was because he didn't believe I would ever trust him again. Well I did want him back & I fell for it (thinking, it was all ME that was keeping us from being together) & when I called him, he had his girlfriend (who lived in alabama while he was living in Tennessee) call me & tell me to leave her man alone. He changed his number again & blocked me from contacting him at all through email or facebook. He did ALL of that, but yet forgot that the only reason I was calling him was because I was RETURNING HIS phone call. And the minute I started drifting away, realizing all of this was a mind game, he came back & came on to me stronger. The minute he heard I was dating someone else, he came back & told me all the things I "wanted" to hear & all the things that would've made me have hope in US. And finally, I said F-it & moved on. I made sure I changed my own dang on number, made sure I blocked his A*s

And to this day, this man is STILL creating fake profiles, trying to keep tabs on me. He can't stand the fact that I actually had the STRENGTH to walk away from him because he knows that deep down the only reason he was playing all of those "one day I'm here, the next I'm not" mindgames is because that was HIS way of "trying" or "attempting" to get over me & testing me out to see if the feeling of me being the one for him would ever come across to him. Now, looking back, I'm mad as hell because being blinded by this thing called "love" is the reason I didn't leave sooner. He wasn't meant for me then, & he's not meant for me now & I was mad at myself for a while for being so patient & for being so dang vulnerable. The good thing about all of this: NEVER AGAIN!

WOW! Thanks for sharing krysrenee7, I feel ya on this, wanting a man to change and wanting period doesn't make a man a man in the relationship, so you know first hand what it feels like to be misled, I'm very happy for you, that you were able to really see him as the person he was and not live by what you wanted him to be and let him go, I'm sure it took some time but I'm glad that you eventually moved on. It takes emotional strength to walk away from a toxic situation/toxic man.

So my libra just left me a few days ago. I was wondering can we ever have another chance at it or is it impossible, like what i expected and guessed he wasn't ready for it yet, but he changed 1 whole year for me and again i have seen a cold and mean side of him that nobody has seen before, but if i give it time and let him grow up will it work out again. We are still young and stuff, i asked if he had a good time with me he said yes, it's just that he has to pretend to be another person when he's with me and he said it's too hard. Will it ever work out in the future? I still love him a lot and he still cares about me ( i hope ) i'm still the most important person to him, if i need to write my sign it's a cancer.

I dated my best friends brother for three months, things were going great he gave me the comfort and attention i needed and sex was great to, after some time being a libra too like him,i fell hard for his charms and wondered where i stand as he would keep looking at girls and not feel ashamed to brag how beutiful they are in my face. i never spoke and gave it time, when i finally asked he said dont pinch at it hun and changes subject, he drove me crazy but didnt seem to care, i called to let him know i was gonna book a hotel for valentines just to enjoy it as he was my date, he made a lame excuss that he had a poker night and panicked, i could see it was a lie, after that we had the last night of sex and he turned cold turkey on me, i decided to let it be but i had to find out he was dateing a russian girl and didnt even tell me, now i was studying at work and he works with me, he came to refill his water next to me and didnt even talk to me but stayed braggin out lloud that he took this girl to the movies and said romantic things, i really hated him at that time it was cruel, and why would he tell his sister openly about this girl he knows she would tell me. is he trying to make me miserable? he changes moods so much i mean last time i talked to him he looked me in the eyes and got shy but eye contact had sparks in them, its been a week or two i havnt messaged nothing, but i have yet to understand if he is angry at me coz im not trying or if he is just an ass (i feel he might come back if i leave him alone) but as a libra its natural i have my doubts) i would like so much to have revenge in a way i have so much anger inside and yet im crazy about him) any help or ray of hope anyone—

Libra men disgust me as well as the women. You both deserve that for being that outta touch with reality..

no offense.

This is my first post. I was tempted to say that i'm a Leo. Recently i met a Libra...it was like magic...but soon after he pulled back completely. I now realise all the mistakes i made with that one. But I have also realised that I am a strong, independent woman and somehow, I forgot that when i was with him. I became needy and insecure in myself.

The damage is now done. I still see him everday, he works across the road so it makes it hard to let go and move on. I know i ruined it and i have never regretted anything so much in my life. I think he was a night in shinning armour, I only wish that i could have been his princess.

But i know that I and every other woman on the face of this earth is fabulous and when the time is right and we're ready for it, we'll all meet a prince who couldn't imagine his life without us as his princess. 🙂

hey everyone.
Im encountering a similar problem with my libra man. We have been on and off for the past 4 months and its always been him whos been doing the running away and coming back. Recently, he showed up at my door, drunk, and he was begging me that he needs to talk to me and cant handle it anymore. Before this, he NEVER told me the truth and he used to hide at the first sight of confrontation. For the first time, he opened up because he gets the courage to speak when hes intoxicated (well we all do)... but he told me that he got out of a bad relationship after which he decided he didnt want anything in his life because the girl he loved got married, but then i showed up in his life and he was like how is that fair? He told me that hes falling for me every minute and it scares him coz he feels i would end up doing the same thing, thats leaving him once hes all out.

He broke up with me just after a month of dating saying he had someone else in his life which was untrue as we have common friends and hang around the same areas, never saw him with anyone. And also, he admitted this a few times recently in the past one month... But after that night of confession, the next morning, he went back to being scared and ended up screwing it all over again with the whole someone else story.

I just really find it silly that hes making us both suffer for no reason, coz after that night, im positive he likes me and i like him. He even said that he loves me to which ofcourse i freaked out a little, being a sagittarius woman, but i just put him to sleep at that moment. I think hes scared even more so knowing that now his feelings are exposed to me and i didnt exactly go all goey on him.