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Off the subject a little but did anyone know a twin flame and not have an actual relationship with them?

I haven't even had a relationship with this person but I wonder if I will ever get over him. I know we are not meant to be so I try to stay away for fear of getting hurt or hurting.

I just wonder if I'll grow old and run into him again (literally avoiding all places I could see him on purpose) and get these feeling or will they go away. I guess time will only tell and who will be in my future might hold a bigger tug on my heart that will make *this* go away. One can only hope:
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I don't believe you can get over your fraud flame (that's how I refer to them now 😄) unless you've made the decision to postpone them to another lifetime, to stop reading articles on the FF mindfuckery, to keep on discussing it with people who can relate .. where intention and attention go energy flows and it must apply to this as well
Fraud Flame. Cute. LOL. TBH, I agree that it's absolutely impossible to get over them. You can try every possible trick in the book, then all of a sudden, something comes along to remind you of one of those incredible moments shared with your TF. When that happens, all the feelings come flooding back and you're back to square one. Who agrees with me?
I'm cured, SpiceNSugar .. I'M DELIVERED !!! I invested less and less energy in this fuckery and it worked

*does a back flip*
*sticks tongue out at you, Impulsv and the rest of the twin flame gang*

(ok that's not very nice)
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Curious, why do u say fraud flame? 🙂
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Posted by aNEWday
Off the subject a little but did anyone know a twin flame and not have an actual relationship with them?

I haven't even had a relationship with this person but I wonder if I will ever get over him. I know we are not meant to be so I try to stay away for fear of getting hurt or hurting.

I just wonder if I'll grow old and run into him again (literally avoiding all places I could see him on purpose) and get these feeling or will they go away. I guess time will only tell and who will be in my future might hold a bigger tug on my heart that will make *this* go away. One can only hope:
I think I have, but it's almost embarrassing to admit because I'm in a good, long term relationship already with a man I'm convinced is a soulmate. That relationship is the ONLY reason I didn't go further than be flirty friends with who I think is my TF. I did really consider ending it to be with that guy, but too many circumstances prevented it. It would've been a stupid thing to do.

I've never in all the years of my relationship (23 years) been attracted to or so compelled to want to be with someone else as much as I did with him. We have some really interesting synastry and composite aspects that make me think it's some kind of karmic meeting. There seemed to be some really telepathic type stuff between us, and while he is 10 years younger than me (I am normally not at all attracted to younger guys), our current personal lives are very similar.

I worked with him for a year, and for my sanity I left the job a couple of months ago. We had no contact until he texted me last week (about compliments I was getting on a project I worked on before I left). The feelings just came flooding back. I had been doing well, and the thoughts had almost completely faded. I wasn't working and was spending a lot of great, quality time with my guy. Then the text came. I was so happy to hear from him!

I don't know if he feels it too, but why would someone contact an ex-coworker who really didn't do much more than light flirting if something wasn't happening in his head? For now, I'm taking it as a friendly update from a nice guy. Better to look at it that way, because I don't think anything will come of thinking otherwise.
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Yes it's better to brush little messages off like that. But it is what it is and only you can know the truth. That*feeling* is enough.

Good for you for keeping your relationship and moving away from this guy. I thinks that's the best you can do.

Life is funny, I am starting to realize that everything really does have a meaning and destiny is a strange thing.

THanks for sharing. Sometimes i wonder too much and feel crazy. I haven't really shared my thoughts with anyone because my life is starting to feel strange and unreal lol.
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Yes it's better to brush little messages off like that. But it is what it is and only you can know the truth. That*feeling* is enough.

Good for you for keeping your relationship and moving away from this guy. I thinks that's the best you can do.

Life is funny, I am starting to realize that everything really does have a meaning and destiny is a strange thing.

THanks for sharing. Sometimes i wonder too much and feel crazy. I haven't really shared my thoughts with anyone because my life is starting to feel strange and unreal lol.
Yeah, the whole time I was working with this guy, it felt like I was in an alternate reality. Seriously. He would vibe me baaad. He knows how I feel about him, and he gave it right back, without anything physical happening. We would wear the same clothing combos at least 3x a week (looked like twins). Always on the same page. Weirdest and most intense thing I've ever experienced.
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Off the subject a little but did anyone know a twin flame and not have an actual relationship with them?

I haven't even had a relationship with this person but I wonder if I will ever get over him. I know we are not meant to be so I try to stay away for fear of getting hurt or hurting.

I just wonder if I'll grow old and run into him again (literally avoiding all places I could see him on purpose) and get these feeling or will they go away. I guess time will only tell and who will be in my future might hold a bigger tug on my heart that will make *this* go away. One can only hope:
awww .. I didn't have an actual relationship with the FF either
I knew she was my FF/TF because of the feeling of certainty you've met this person before, feeling at home when you're in their presence and all the rest of the lovey-dovey stuff

the less wonderful side: crossing paths with my TF brought a lot of my insecurities, some that I wasn't even aware of, to the surface .. I had no choice but to face them .. lastly, I had to accept my TF was simply a hell of a trigger for growth to be able to let go

I referred to them as fraud flame because the whole vibe can really trick you into believing they are your soulmate
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Yeah for me I can't say that I feel at home. More like the recognition of knowing this is a good a souls, but that u need to get away. And that's why I run, but then feel confused.

Wow, the part of insecurities surfacing and need to let go. Those are two things I've been dealing with since I ran into him this year. I feel slightly insecure around him for sure which also tells me something is not right.I've let go finally a week ago because it's been enough time and when I ran into him AGAIN last week it feel like the connection is breaking. It's so weird.

Ha! I see what you mean about the fraud flame. I guess no one is really meant to stay with their twin flame then? It's more for growing and learning? Hmm
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Part of me wishes to know he is in a relationship so that I can be "free" in a way. I don't know?

I can relate to this, mine is seeing someone now and as hard as it was at first, I can FINALLY focus on myself now without the need to go back to the painful, chasing and running, magic then he'll.... I can finally be ME and be FREE again.. not sure for how long but I feel like I'm finally out of rehab....
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Part of me wishes to know he is in a relationship so that I can be "free" in a way. I don't know?

I can relate to this, mine is seeing someone now and as hard as it was at first, I can FINALLY focus on myself now without the need to go back to the painful, chasing and running, magic then he'll.... I can finally be ME and be FREE again.. not sure for how long but I feel like I'm finally out of rehab....
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Yes.. Like a sting at first then maybe some relief. Glad I'm not the only one who thinks this
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Part of me wishes to know he is in a relationship so that I can be "free" in a way. I don't know?

I can relate to this, mine is seeing someone now and as hard as it was at first, I can FINALLY focus on myself now without the need to go back to the painful, chasing and running, magic then he'll.... I can finally be ME and be FREE again.. not sure for how long but I feel like I'm finally out of rehab....
Yes.. Like a sting at first then maybe some relief. Glad I'm not the only one who thinks this
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Indeed... No doubt, i was the runner... Day and night praying for him to be with someone else because i can no longer handle the intensity and pain i go crazy... It was really a sacrifice for good...
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Part of me wishes to know he is in a relationship so that I can be "free" in a way. I don't know?

I can relate to this, mine is seeing someone now and as hard as it was at first, I can FINALLY focus on myself now without the need to go back to the painful, chasing and running, magic then he'll.... I can finally be ME and be FREE again.. not sure for how long but I feel like I'm finally out of rehab....
Yes.. Like a sting at first then maybe some relief. Glad I'm not the only one who thinks this
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That didn't last long, as soon as I said I wanna move on and getting some professional help to get rid of this crazy intense addiction I have for him, he comes running back saying he wants me and want to end it with her!!!!! man... Do u think that Will really help?...
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Part of me wishes to know he is in a relationship so that I can be "free" in a way. I don't know?

I can relate to this, mine is seeing someone now and as hard as it was at first, I can FINALLY focus on myself now without the need to go back to the painful, chasing and running, magic then he'll.... I can finally be ME and be FREE again.. not sure for how long but I feel like I'm finally out of rehab....
Yes.. Like a sting at first then maybe some relief. Glad I'm not the only one who thinks this
Indeed... No doubt, i was the runner... Day and night praying for him to be with someone else because i can no longer handle the intensity and pain i go crazy... It was really a sacrifice for good...
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Mayb that explains the him ( runner ) tell me to go n find someone else... n he finds someone else after everytime we have a huge fight.. then as soon as I'm so hurt he's with someone else n wanna move on.. He wanna come bak saying he wants me.. Wthhhhhhh what a ride!!! we r such a mess lol
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She sent u the email with flights. Book it!!!
Booked the flight and a spacious loft dowtown too.

Feeling good.

🙂 I love love. Try to have a good time while you're there. When do you leave?
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End of November.

She'll be surprised I actually rent the whole appartament, besides she definitely won't be expecting that I'll cook her dinner 🙂
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my twin is a mirror of me. I'm the more spiritual one, I understand more about this bond we have and I have to be stronger for the both of us.

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What do you and others mean when they say this? I hear it a lot. But surely if you understood the bond then it would defeat the essence of a twin flame connection, as I've read is meant to be the kind of connection that both people submit to as beyond their understanding.
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The idea is that both individuals have life lessons to learn from one another, however one is generally more "enlightened or spiritual" (often the "chaser") whereas the other is "less enlightened" (often the "runner"). Nevertheless, the 2 persons often.mirror eachother with similar family histories, similar emotional weaknesses, similar insecurities, etc
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this from Linda Goodman's love signs:

quote: "Why is lasting, mutual love so elusive? To reach a complete and permanent union with the other half (the Twin Soul) man and woman must learn the lessons of the twelve Sun Signs. They must master the wisdom of these Twelve Mysteries of Love before they can achieve a final, perfect harmony between their mental, physical, emotional and spiritual natures. As we make the trip around the astrological or karmic wheel of life, through the rebirth under the influence of the various Sun Signs, sometimes progressing swiftly, sometimes lingering, many times returning to a certain Sun Sign experience to relearn old lessons - we evolve, each at his or her own speed."


sounds like an OLD soul who has gone through the 12 signs over and over again will finally find their soulmate and stay with them. It's like a reward.

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this may play into your houses too. Your filled houses are what an individual concentrates on, what's important for them.

it's your path in life.

if you dont get to meet your soulmate this life, (check your houses) then it's your next life, or NOT, if not maybe another 30 lifetimes. It sounds horrible right—

but it's ok, because you wont remember.

it's like a rebirth, reborn.
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although, in all honesty, my husband does feel like a soul i knew in the past.

if you feel like that with your beloved, that's how it should feel. Like a connection, someone very very close (he could be your father, your son, your lover, your brother --someone you couldn't live without) i know that sounds gross -- the relation blood part, but it doesn't matter when you are reborn into the next life. it's the SOUL connection.
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Couple of days ago, I got into a huge fight with the person who I believe is my TF. Haven't spoken to him since. Without going into details, I was pondering the argument today and realized something:

I was blaming him for something that he does. Yet, he does this out of deep-rooted insecurity.

Why was I blaming him for this? Because of my own deep-rooted insecurity.


Once again the TF mirror-image comes back to slap me in the face. With anyone else, I would've walked away LONG ago. However, with this person, I just can't get myself to do that try as I might. Hence, I think it really is impossible to cut-off a TF. You can cut contact yes, but you can't cut-off the lessons that they will teach you about yourself.

So many people mistake TF's with SoulMates, but it's really a whole different ballgame. With a SoulMate there's a strong bond of mutual understanding and relative tranquility. For the most part, you're both "on the same wavelength".

With a TF, the bond is even stronger but the push/pull, arguing/forgiving, and learning about the other and the self is literally exhausting. You want to walk away but you can't. Because the reality is that you can't walk away from your own self no matter how hard you try and no matter how much you want to do so.

This is hitting the nail in the head. We been on, fighting, forgiving, fighting , forgiving, loving, hating , loving , hating and now real hating? I don't know .. I'm trying hard to move on from him now.. but I'm holding his child and he's still running. I explain this in details to my psychologist and all she said was , I need to b patience and he needs time and that he will come bak if the connection is intense.. but do I want him back? It's like I want him bak but I don't but living without him in my life and knowing he hates me for real hurts so bad.... I wanna get out of this rutt... I can't even kiss someone else Coz it will ache my heart and soul even more Coz it's just not the same.. He says the same thing about sexing with anyone else... 😢 it's awful
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Do you get irritated when your tf give to much attention towards you? I get irritated during our strong connection. Not with him, but i get irritated because of the intensity, nervousness and flesh are shaking. I don't hate him, but i hate me because i am out of control of those feelings. I pulled away and stopped communicating with him to gathered more strength so that i can face him and talk to him in a normal way. but when we are back in contact again, those feelings are there instantly. I wanted to be nice with him but i become so mean and rude towards him because of fear. There are so many things that are unsaid from my part. How to talk or speak if if my tongue twisted , how to type a message if my fingers are shaking? I'd messed up a lot during our connection. I made him a good person ( at least he confessed that to me) while i become the evil one... 😢 I feel his pain every time I ignored him, but it reflected back at me 2x 😢

I condemned my self already for what i had done wrong. I shouldered all the karma between us. I confessed to him how i felt one time but he become silent/quite i took that as a rejection so i pulled away and become more aloof. The last encountered with him was really bad because he forced to bring out those issues that burst out that are not good from both of us. the result are embarrassment. it was exhausting and draining. Now i start all over again to heal but this is a huge process this time a long process for healing because this connections touches every core of who we are....

It sounds like u just described my relationship with this man.. So hard 😢
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meeting him made me question myself for the first time " WHO AM I?", Him, lead him to believe that God really exist.. I become more closer to god with him, but when the connection become stronger it stirred up everything.. maybe i am the weak between us coz i don't have much strength to handle this? He thought that i was just playing with him but that is not true.. all his doubt lead him to punished me and all he had done reflected back at him as well.. 😢

hope that you can get an idea from my side Not to judge your tf quickly... you may be the one who is more stronger than them. They need and crave your understanding , they don't need to ask that from you, you must know and give it without a doubt.

do i sound odd or dramatic? well, i dont like drama before thats all i can say...

Again, u explained that to me... before I cause stupid fights I shud have read over this thread again and again😢. Arghhhhh he who wanted the most understanding from me got the complete opposite from me.. this is awful
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Some days I feel strong. Some days I feel like I'm gonna break.

Have any of you lost other friends during tough times coping with the loss of your TF?

no one gets it.. not even my closest friends.. I wish I meet someone in person who I can connect to and udnedstand the twin flame connection. They think I'm insane, crazy . None of them understand what it is I am going through. so now I'm trying to refocus on building my friendship while keeping the love I have for him in silence but it's tearing me apart... 😢
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Couple of days ago, I got into a huge fight with the person who I believe is my TF. Haven't spoken to him since. Without going into details, I was pondering the argument today and realized something:

I was blaming him for something that he does. Yet, he does this out of deep-rooted insecurity.

Why was I blaming him for this? Because of my own deep-rooted insecurity.


Once again the TF mirror-image comes back to slap me in the face. With anyone else, I would've walked away LONG ago. However, with this person, I just can't get myself to do that try as I might. Hence, I think it really is impossible to cut-off a TF. You can cut contact yes, but you can't cut-off the lessons that they will teach you about yourself.

So many people mistake TF's with SoulMates, but it's really a whole different ballgame. With a SoulMate there's a strong bond of mutual understanding and relative tranquility. For the most part, you're both "on the same wavelength".

With a TF, the bond is even stronger but the push/pull, arguing/forgiving, and learning about the other and the self is literally exhausting. You want to walk away but you can't. Because the reality is that you can't walk away from your own self no matter how hard you try and no matter how much you want to do so.
It occurs to me that I wrote this one year ago. I am no longer in contact with this person. The choice was not mine. Time has passed yet I still think of him each and every day. I still miss him just as much. Some call it obsession. Some call it mourning. Some would call it down right crazy. Personally, I don't know what to call it.
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I'm so sorry... 😢 I'm secretly scared but ready to truly let the contact thing go for real but I know I will always love him.... 😢 crazy, obsession, intense love... A gift and a curse 😢
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Saweetz,

I can totally relate to 99% of what you're saying. It's really hard to let go and to let the universe "do its thing". In fact, it's the hardest things you'll ever have to do. So many people here have provided me with words of advice and comfort. Most people in this thread have been through situations very similar to what you describe.

You need to remember and internalize the saying:

"If you love someone, set them free. If they come back they're yours; if they don't they never were."
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Some days I feel strong. Some days I feel like I'm gonna break.

Have any of you lost other friends during tough times coping with the loss of your TF?

no one gets it.. not even my closest friends.. I wish I meet someone in person who I can connect to and udnedstand the twin flame connection. They think I'm insane, crazy . None of them understand what it is I am going through. so now I'm trying to refocus on building my friendship while keeping the love I have for him in silence but it's tearing me apart... 😢
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The vast majority of your entourage can never and will never understand what you're going through. Been there, lived that 😢((((((
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Saweetz,

I can totally relate to 99% of what you're saying. It's really hard to let go and to let the universe "do its thing". In fact, it's the hardest things you'll ever have to do. So many people here have provided me with words of advice and comfort. Most people in this thread have been through situations very similar to what you describe.

You need to remember and internalize the saying:

"If you love someone, set them free. If they come back they're yours; if they don't they never were."

Yeb. I am trying my hardest.... I have my days and you can probably relate true well 🙂
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Honestly, I really think if you find yourself in lower vibrational state due to a connection that is intense it's because you forgot or are ignoring the biggest lesson and that is to *raise* your vibration to LOVE. The point isn't whether or not someone is running or chasing or whatever *basic* human interaction is happening. The point is to find and keep the loving vibration, accept what is happening gracefully and with loving thoughts and to work on yourself to be able to maintain yourself in a constant state of LOVE.

Is it easy? No. Because the EGO (which is an earthly manesfestation) wants to keep you attached to the earth and all the basic misery and pride and fear that arises on this plane. It is very hard to rid yourself of those shackles. It takes courage to let those go because at then end of the day you may find yourself giving up a feeling you've been living with for so long its become a habit. The challenge is to let all that go and move yourself into LOVE. Universal and non-conditional LOVE. Love the person through their own experience and what they are going through. Accept and LOVE yourself as you go through your own experience. Wish the very best for you and your loved ones. Practice compassion always.

Once you wrangle yourself from the fog of whatever *slight* or *negative energy* you PERCEIVE has happened and practice healing through loving energy, you will find your peace. It really is that simple at the end of the day.
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Came to this crazy realization why my tf doesn't trust me atm, it's because I was trying to hook up with his friend. His friend didn't tell him. But he just knew, even while he's far away at school. He just had a feeling he couldn't trust me. Because the tf connection is so strong, it's like intuition or gut feeling. I was doing bad things behind his back and just knew without confirmation. That's scary. I can't hide anything from him. The only way for him to trust me is for me to be trust worthy but behind his back, most importantly. I' need to be more careful. Wow, I'm blown away. Everything just came back in my face. I thought I could get away with it, YEAH RIGHT
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What kind of sexual attraction do you feel towards your tf.... ours is unbearable. Never experienced this before in my life. Even after my first boyfriend and I broke up, we were able to hang and not sleep with each other. But my tf and I, we can never hang and not have sex. It's literally wicked. Something on another level. It's uncontrollable. Even when we disagree or argue, we HAVE to have sex. It's like we don't have a choice. It's magnetic.