
aNEWday
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Posted by backtokemetCurious, why do u say fraud flame? 🙂Posted by SpiceNSugarI'm cured, SpiceNSugar .. I'M DELIVERED !!! I invested less and less energy in this fuckery and it workedPosted by backtokemetFraud Flame. Cute. LOL. TBH, I agree that it's absolutely impossible to get over them. You can try every possible trick in the book, then all of a sudden, something comes along to remind you of one of those incredible moments shared with your TF. When that happens, all the feelings come flooding back and you're back to square one. Who agrees with me?
I don't believe you can get over your fraud flame (that's how I refer to them now 😄) unless you've made the decision to postpone them to another lifetime, to stop reading articles on the FF mindfuckery, to keep on discussing it with people who can relate .. where intention and attention go energy flows and it must apply to this as well
*does a back flip*
*sticks tongue out at you, Impulsv and the rest of the twin flame gang*
(ok that's not very nice)click to expand

Posted by aNEWdayI think I have, but it's almost embarrassing to admit because I'm in a good, long term relationship already with a man I'm convinced is a soulmate. That relationship is the ONLY reason I didn't go further than be flirty friends with who I think is my TF. I did really consider ending it to be with that guy, but too many circumstances prevented it. It would've been a stupid thing to do.
Off the subject a little but did anyone know a twin flame and not have an actual relationship with them?
I haven't even had a relationship with this person but I wonder if I will ever get over him. I know we are not meant to be so I try to stay away for fear of getting hurt or hurting.
I just wonder if I'll grow old and run into him again (literally avoiding all places I could see him on purpose) and get these feeling or will they go away. I guess time will only tell and who will be in my future might hold a bigger tug on my heart that will make *this* go away. One can only hope:



Posted by ImpulsvYou are the Queen Bee!
Haha I'm glad to see I'm leading the gang


Posted by aNEWdayYeah, the whole time I was working with this guy, it felt like I was in an alternate reality. Seriously. He would vibe me baaad. He knows how I feel about him, and he gave it right back, without anything physical happening. We would wear the same clothing combos at least 3x a week (looked like twins). Always on the same page. Weirdest and most intense thing I've ever experienced.
@sultrykitten
Yes it's better to brush little messages off like that. But it is what it is and only you can know the truth. That*feeling* is enough.
Good for you for keeping your relationship and moving away from this guy. I thinks that's the best you can do.
Life is funny, I am starting to realize that everything really does have a meaning and destiny is a strange thing.
THanks for sharing. Sometimes i wonder too much and feel crazy. I haven't really shared my thoughts with anyone because my life is starting to feel strange and unreal lol.

Posted by backtokemetYeah for me I can't say that I feel at home. More like the recognition of knowing this is a good a souls, but that u need to get away. And that's why I run, but then feel confused.Posted by aNEWdayawww .. I didn't have an actual relationship with the FF either
Off the subject a little but did anyone know a twin flame and not have an actual relationship with them?
I haven't even had a relationship with this person but I wonder if I will ever get over him. I know we are not meant to be so I try to stay away for fear of getting hurt or hurting.
I just wonder if I'll grow old and run into him again (literally avoiding all places I could see him on purpose) and get these feeling or will they go away. I guess time will only tell and who will be in my future might hold a bigger tug on my heart that will make *this* go away. One can only hope:
I knew she was my FF/TF because of the feeling of certainty you've met this person before, feeling at home when you're in their presence and all the rest of the lovey-dovey stuff
the less wonderful side: crossing paths with my TF brought a lot of my insecurities, some that I wasn't even aware of, to the surface .. I had no choice but to face them .. lastly, I had to accept my TF was simply a hell of a trigger for growth to be able to let go
I referred to them as fraud flame because the whole vibe can really trick you into believing they are your soulmateclick to expand


Posted by aNEWday
Part of me wishes to know he is in a relationship so that I can be "free" in a way. I don't know?

Posted by Impulsv
After all the pain is gone ur are left with this

Posted by saweetz1988Yes.. Like a sting at first then maybe some relief. Glad I'm not the only one who thinks thisPosted by aNEWday
Part of me wishes to know he is in a relationship so that I can be "free" in a way. I don't know?
I can relate to this, mine is seeing someone now and as hard as it was at first, I can FINALLY focus on myself now without the need to go back to the painful, chasing and running, magic then he'll.... I can finally be ME and be FREE again.. not sure for how long but I feel like I'm finally out of rehab....click to expand

Posted by aNEWdayIndeed... No doubt, i was the runner... Day and night praying for him to be with someone else because i can no longer handle the intensity and pain i go crazy... It was really a sacrifice for good...Posted by saweetz1988Yes.. Like a sting at first then maybe some relief. Glad I'm not the only one who thinks thisPosted by aNEWday
Part of me wishes to know he is in a relationship so that I can be "free" in a way. I don't know?
I can relate to this, mine is seeing someone now and as hard as it was at first, I can FINALLY focus on myself now without the need to go back to the painful, chasing and running, magic then he'll.... I can finally be ME and be FREE again.. not sure for how long but I feel like I'm finally out of rehab....click to expand

Posted by aNEWdayPosted by saweetz1988Yes.. Like a sting at first then maybe some relief. Glad I'm not the only one who thinks thisPosted by aNEWday
Part of me wishes to know he is in a relationship so that I can be "free" in a way. I don't know?
I can relate to this, mine is seeing someone now and as hard as it was at first, I can FINALLY focus on myself now without the need to go back to the painful, chasing and running, magic then he'll.... I can finally be ME and be FREE again.. not sure for how long but I feel like I'm finally out of rehab....click to expand

Posted by username78Posted by aNEWdayIndeed... No doubt, i was the runner... Day and night praying for him to be with someone else because i can no longer handle the intensity and pain i go crazy... It was really a sacrifice for good...Posted by saweetz1988Yes.. Like a sting at first then maybe some relief. Glad I'm not the only one who thinks thisPosted by aNEWday
Part of me wishes to know he is in a relationship so that I can be "free" in a way. I don't know?
I can relate to this, mine is seeing someone now and as hard as it was at first, I can FINALLY focus on myself now without the need to go back to the painful, chasing and running, magic then he'll.... I can finally be ME and be FREE again.. not sure for how long but I feel like I'm finally out of rehab....click to expand
Posted by ImpulsvBooked the flight and a spacious loft dowtown too.
She sent u the email with flights. Book it!!!
Posted by PalerioPosted by ImpulsvBooked the flight and a spacious loft dowtown too.
She sent u the email with flights. Book it!!!
Feeling good.click to expand
Posted by MahoganyLeoEnd of November.Posted by PalerioPosted by ImpulsvBooked the flight and a spacious loft dowtown too.
She sent u the email with flights. Book it!!!
Feeling good.
🙂 I love love. Try to have a good time while you're there. When do you leave?click to expand

Posted by tizianiThe idea is that both individuals have life lessons to learn from one another, however one is generally more "enlightened or spiritual" (often the "chaser") whereas the other is "less enlightened" (often the "runner"). Nevertheless, the 2 persons often.mirror eachother with similar family histories, similar emotional weaknesses, similar insecurities, etcPosted by LibralulaWhat do you and others mean when they say this? I hear it a lot. But surely if you understood the bond then it would defeat the essence of a twin flame connection, as I've read is meant to be the kind of connection that both people submit to as beyond their understanding.
my twin is a mirror of me. I'm the more spiritual one, I understand more about this bond we have and I have to be stronger for the both of us.
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Posted by SpiceNSugar
Couple of days ago, I got into a huge fight with the person who I believe is my TF. Haven't spoken to him since. Without going into details, I was pondering the argument today and realized something:
I was blaming him for something that he does. Yet, he does this out of deep-rooted insecurity.
Why was I blaming him for this? Because of my own deep-rooted insecurity.
Once again the TF mirror-image comes back to slap me in the face. With anyone else, I would've walked away LONG ago. However, with this person, I just can't get myself to do that try as I might. Hence, I think it really is impossible to cut-off a TF. You can cut contact yes, but you can't cut-off the lessons that they will teach you about yourself.
So many people mistake TF's with SoulMates, but it's really a whole different ballgame. With a SoulMate there's a strong bond of mutual understanding and relative tranquility. For the most part, you're both "on the same wavelength".
With a TF, the bond is even stronger but the push/pull, arguing/forgiving, and learning about the other and the self is literally exhausting. You want to walk away but you can't. Because the reality is that you can't walk away from your own self no matter how hard you try and no matter how much you want to do so.

Posted by SpiceNSugar
I never in my life had so much trouble walking away as I have with this man.

Posted by username78
Do you get irritated when your tf give to much attention towards you? I get irritated during our strong connection. Not with him, but i get irritated because of the intensity, nervousness and flesh are shaking. I don't hate him, but i hate me because i am out of control of those feelings. I pulled away and stopped communicating with him to gathered more strength so that i can face him and talk to him in a normal way. but when we are back in contact again, those feelings are there instantly. I wanted to be nice with him but i become so mean and rude towards him because of fear. There are so many things that are unsaid from my part. How to talk or speak if if my tongue twisted , how to type a message if my fingers are shaking? I'd messed up a lot during our connection. I made him a good person ( at least he confessed that to me) while i become the evil one... 😢 I feel his pain every time I ignored him, but it reflected back at me 2x 😢
I condemned my self already for what i had done wrong. I shouldered all the karma between us. I confessed to him how i felt one time but he become silent/quite i took that as a rejection so i pulled away and become more aloof. The last encountered with him was really bad because he forced to bring out those issues that burst out that are not good from both of us. the result are embarrassment. it was exhausting and draining. Now i start all over again to heal but this is a huge process this time a long process for healing because this connections touches every core of who we are....

Posted by username78
meeting him made me question myself for the first time " WHO AM I?", Him, lead him to believe that God really exist.. I become more closer to god with him, but when the connection become stronger it stirred up everything.. maybe i am the weak between us coz i don't have much strength to handle this? He thought that i was just playing with him but that is not true.. all his doubt lead him to punished me and all he had done reflected back at him as well.. 😢
hope that you can get an idea from my side Not to judge your tf quickly... you may be the one who is more stronger than them. They need and crave your understanding , they don't need to ask that from you, you must know and give it without a doubt.
do i sound odd or dramatic? well, i dont like drama before thats all i can say...

Posted by SpiceNSugar
Some days I feel strong. Some days I feel like I'm gonna break.
Have any of you lost other friends during tough times coping with the loss of your TF?

Posted by SpiceNSugarPosted by SpiceNSugarIt occurs to me that I wrote this one year ago. I am no longer in contact with this person. The choice was not mine. Time has passed yet I still think of him each and every day. I still miss him just as much. Some call it obsession. Some call it mourning. Some would call it down right crazy. Personally, I don't know what to call it.
Couple of days ago, I got into a huge fight with the person who I believe is my TF. Haven't spoken to him since. Without going into details, I was pondering the argument today and realized something:
I was blaming him for something that he does. Yet, he does this out of deep-rooted insecurity.
Why was I blaming him for this? Because of my own deep-rooted insecurity.
Once again the TF mirror-image comes back to slap me in the face. With anyone else, I would've walked away LONG ago. However, with this person, I just can't get myself to do that try as I might. Hence, I think it really is impossible to cut-off a TF. You can cut contact yes, but you can't cut-off the lessons that they will teach you about yourself.
So many people mistake TF's with SoulMates, but it's really a whole different ballgame. With a SoulMate there's a strong bond of mutual understanding and relative tranquility. For the most part, you're both "on the same wavelength".
With a TF, the bond is even stronger but the push/pull, arguing/forgiving, and learning about the other and the self is literally exhausting. You want to walk away but you can't. Because the reality is that you can't walk away from your own self no matter how hard you try and no matter how much you want to do so.click to expand


Posted by saweetz1988The vast majority of your entourage can never and will never understand what you're going through. Been there, lived that 😢((((((Posted by SpiceNSugar
Some days I feel strong. Some days I feel like I'm gonna break.
Have any of you lost other friends during tough times coping with the loss of your TF?
no one gets it.. not even my closest friends.. I wish I meet someone in person who I can connect to and udnedstand the twin flame connection. They think I'm insane, crazy . None of them understand what it is I am going through. so now I'm trying to refocus on building my friendship while keeping the love I have for him in silence but it's tearing me apart... 😢click to expand

Posted by SpiceNSugar
Saweetz,
I can totally relate to 99% of what you're saying. It's really hard to let go and to let the universe "do its thing". In fact, it's the hardest things you'll ever have to do. So many people here have provided me with words of advice and comfort. Most people in this thread have been through situations very similar to what you describe.
You need to remember and internalize the saying:
"If you love someone, set them free. If they come back they're yours; if they don't they never were."


Posted by AaliaMe and sugarnspice
I think my twin flame just walked away from me -- it was that kind of crazy connection that was unexplainable -- is there anyone here I can chat with about this in a message?

Posted by mysteriousTaurusthank you
Oops meant to say spicensugar

Posted by Aalia
I think my twin flame just walked away from me -- it was that kind of crazy connection that was unexplainable -- is there anyone here I can chat with about this in a message?

Posted by BrightLight
Healing is never a curse, sweetie. Sometimes life fucking sucks and we get thrown shit scenarios to make our way through. But at the end of the day, if we can find ourselves healed and in a better and stronger place, we are winning at life. ((hugs))

Posted by saweetz1988thanks my new friend -- I rather not post it on the boards though -- can I message you?Posted by Aalia
I think my twin flame just walked away from me -- it was that kind of crazy connection that was unexplainable -- is there anyone here I can chat with about this in a message?
I also wanna hear your stories 🙂click to expand



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I haven't even had a relationship with this person but I wonder if I will ever get over him. I know we are not meant to be so I try to stay away for fear of getting hurt or hurting.
I just wonder if I'll grow old and run into him again (literally avoiding all places I could see him on purpose) and get these feeling or will they go away. I guess time will only tell and who will be in my future might hold a bigger tug on my heart that will make *this* go away. One can only hope: