The Twin-Flame Connection (Page 2)

I can't believe p angel still post on dxpnet.. Lol!

Posted by Blackvirgo
I can't believe p angel still post on dxpnet.. Lol!

Are you a veteran dxper?

I am new to dxp. Started researching the twin flame topic recently as I try to make sense of things that have happened with me.

Short version. She is running and it is tearing me apart.

It has been a year of no contact initiated by her. She decided to go nc a few days after she was very emotional and asked me to promise her that I will never leave her. I tried chasing her for the first few months. I asked the reason and she said "I don't know what to tell you". Her last email to me (we had stopped seeing each other in person for weeks now) contained 1 line of "Please forget me, don't write to me anymore, I will block your emails" and 5 lines of advice on what she wants me to do to succeed in my business.

There has never been any doubt in my mind that she cares for me or I for her, even after she ran.

I have not contacted her after this and I have focused on myself for now. But hard as I try, I cannot forget her. Here is the strange part - although it is tearing me apart, there is something in me that tells me that she will come back and this time apart is a necessary suffering we have to go through.

I tried dating a few times in the interim but always got turned off because these girls were "not her". So I am just taking her advice and focusing on my business for now.

Just wanted to share.

Thanks for sharing your experience One.

Thank you. I have read your stories and want to say I know how you feel. Just wished I knew how long we have to wait. Nothing is same without her.

Have you guys ever been in a relationship with a Twin who was marrie😄 anD how did it go? I've heard crazy stories about this one...

Posted by one
Thank you. I have read your stories and want to say I know how you feel. Just wished I knew how long we have to wait. Nothing is same without her.

I hear you... 😢

Posted by Librapride18
Have you guys ever been in a relationship with a Twin who was marrie😄 anD how did it go? I've heard crazy stories about this one...

I presume it's even more traumatic 😢

Some days I feel strong. Some days I feel like I'm gonna break.

Have any of you lost other friends during tough times coping with the loss of your TF?

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Posted by Librapride18
Have you guys ever been in a relationship with a Twin who was marrie😄 anD how did it go? I've heard crazy stories about this one...

I presume it's even more traumatic 😢

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Yes it could be.

What I've learned about twin flames is beautiful, if you cannot be with your tf physically it is ok, and in some cases it is better...that's all I know for now.

Posted by Impulsv
Just saw casa Blanca very tf movie.

I'll check it out I've always wanted to see it but I thought it would be better to see in theatre but I have netflix hopefully they have it yay casa Blanca 🙂

Posted by SpiceNSugar
Some days I feel strong. Some days I feel like I'm gonna break.

Have any of you lost other friends during tough times coping with the loss of your TF?

She has been the only friend I have ever lost in all my life. How do you cope? I just throw myself completely in my work and that gives me some respite.

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Posted by SpiceNSugar
Some days I feel strong. Some days I feel like I'm gonna break.

Have any of you lost other friends during tough times coping with the loss of your TF?

She has been the only friend I have ever lost in all my life. How do you cope? I just throw myself completely in my work and that gives me some respite.

Only way out is going within. Healing self loving self, nurturing self. Trust me as an end of the tunnel. Joy is back after 4,5 years

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Thank you. I have been working on myself but I realize there is much more to do. You have given me a new impetus. I am looking forward to the next few years and want to be in the best physical, mental and spiritual shape when we reunite.

Thank you Impulsv. I will not ignore the pain. Although it hurts to be reminded of her in many ways I do not want to get away from it. Don't know if this makes sense, but I cherish the memories.

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Thank you Impulsv. I will not ignore the pain. Although it hurts to be reminded of her in many ways I do not want to get away from it. Don't know if this makes sense, but I cherish the memories.

I understand this statement on a VERY deep level.

Posted by Whatu
Sometimes its like someone took a knife baby edgy and dull and cut a six inch valley through the middle of my soul.

Like a freight train's runnin through the middle of your head?







Woo hoooooo!

🙂

ok.......the twin flame concept makes perfect sense as i believe the whole soulmates are just people in your soul group and you can have multiple soulmates, your soulmate could be your spouse, child, best friend, parent. twin flame is literally your other half. most people dont get to meet their twin flame.


how would you know if met your TF online?

would both of you be 100% sure of being each others TF or just 1 person?

if we actually meet our TF, wouldnt we end up with them no matter what? if i met my TF and i didnt end up with her i wouldnt care to go on in this life no matter what happened. i think that if you dont complete your soul mission/purpose on this planet you come back and i believe if you dont meet your TF you come back.

and if you meet them but dont end up in a union with that person until you die, does that mean that you are with them beyond that?

the first post in this thread resonates with me

i'm starting to sound too woo woo

Posted by Metaphysical
ok.......the twin flame concept makes perfect sense as i believe the whole soulmates are just people in your soul group and you can have multiple soulmates, your soulmate could be your spouse, child, best friend, parent. twin flame is literally your other half. most people dont get to meet their twin flame.
how would you know if met your TF online?
would both of you be 100% sure of being each others TF or just 1 person?
if we actually meet our TF, wouldnt we end up with them no matter what? if i met my TF and i didnt end up with her i wouldnt care to go on in this life no matter what happened. i think that if you dont complete your soul mission/purpose on this planet you come back and i believe if you dont meet your TF you come back.
and if you meet them but dont end up in a union with that person until you die, does that mean that you are with them beyond that?
the first post in this thread resonates with me
i'm starting to sound too woo woo

MP, you ask some good questions. Here's one link that answers some of them in a clear concise way. I hope it helps.

http://twinflamereflections.com/2013/11/16/the-twin-flame-or-twin-soul-connection/

If I typed a message to my SOUL TWIN here, do you think he would find it if he was truly my other half? He has no idea of which forum I am on and probably doesn't even remember that I am on a forum. Maybe, I should leave a message and if he finds it, I could consider this the workings of the universe and a sign....If he is my SOUL TWIN, I ask the Universe to guide him here, let the story unfold then as it's destined to be.

I am running because I cannot settle with the fact that he is just saying whatever he needs to say to suck me back in to his chaos just to turn around and do the same shit all over again. My heart's closed for maintenance and if he is what he says he is and we are meant for each other then it will be. Right?

Who me? Test the Universe? Pfffft never!
~looks side to side to see if anyone's watching~ lol
On the other hand I have had my socks blown off, so to speak, on other occasions where I've asked for a sign in regards to this man.

Posted by FixedWater
Who me? Test the Universe? Pfffft never!
~looks side to side to see if anyone's watching~ lol
On the other hand I have had my socks blown off, so to speak, on other occasions where I've asked for a sign in regards to this man.

Socks blown off? Tell us more.

Reliving it is hard Spice, so I don't know if this is a good idea but one example that left me in awe was during a lengthier breakup between the two of us. I believe it had been a few months maybe(?), and I had just finished dropping my daughter off and was on my way home. That stretch of highway and I have some history, lots of tears shed in that few kms between backwoods country road and main highway.
In all my tears and frustration that morning I passionately demanded an answer or a sign from the Universe if he was my Twin Flame (Soul Twin). As an added 'hurdle', I suppose, I blurted out "within 48 hours". On the 47th hour, he contacted me.

I was dumbfounded....
That's just one instance. I have a real sense of Trust in the ways of the Universe that I wouldn't have had if not for this particular relationship.

Posted by FixedWater
Reliving it is hard Spice, so I don't know if this is a good idea but one example that left me in awe was during a lengthier breakup between the two of us. I believe it had been a few months maybe(?), and I had just finished dropping my daughter off and was on my way home. That stretch of highway and I have some history, lots of tears shed in that few kms between backwoods country road and main highway.
In all my tears and frustration that morning I passionately demanded an answer or a sign from the Universe if he was my Twin Flame (Soul Twin). As an added 'hurdle', I suppose, I blurted out "within 48 hours". On the 47th hour, he contacted me.

I was dumbfounded....
That's just one instance. I have a real sense of Trust in the ways of the Universe that I wouldn't have had if not for this particular relationship.

I understand that it's difficult. Believe me.

But I'm always intrigued by stories of this nature. If you have other instances that you're willing to share, I'm interested.

I dream about mine(twin flame) sometimes I write them down and sometimes I dont.


I dreamed about him the other day. I was in his house watching him get dressed. The little time I did spend with him in waking life I use to love to watch him and just smile...

In my dream the other day I was staring at the ugly fro he would attempt to grow. 🙂


Any ways I have been proud of myself I haven't tried to contact him in almost 2 months and that's an accomplishment for me.

I still look him up randomly but not like I use to.

Posted by backtokemet
I don't believe you can get over your fraud flame (that's how I refer to them now 😄) unless you've made the decision to postpone them to another lifetime, to stop reading articles on the FF mindfuckery, to keep on discussing it with people who can relate .. where intention and attention go energy flows and it must apply to this as well

Fraud Flame... Lol
Another theory I have entertained being my own devil's advocate. It would be much easier to simply consider him an assclown and move on. That he attempted to come back again means very little since I have experienced this with him time and again. I cannot trust him, or anything he says. Period. What else is left for me to do? Does it matter the title TF or (to use your words) Fraud Flame? No, it doesn't matter one bit because I cannot trust him. I can trust the Universe though, and I do. If he is my TF and we are meant to unite this lifetime, then it will happen, but it will happen without control or design on either of our parts.

Posted by backtokemet
I don't believe you can get over your fraud flame (that's how I refer to them now 😄) unless you've made the decision to postpone them to another lifetime, to stop reading articles on the FF mindfuckery, to keep on discussing it with people who can relate .. where intention and attention go energy flows and it must apply to this as well

Fraud Flame. Cute. LOL. TBH, I agree that it's absolutely impossible to get over them. You can try every possible trick in the book, then all of a sudden, something comes along to remind you of one of those incredible moments shared with your TF. When that happens, all the feelings come flooding back and you're back to square one. Who agrees with me?

~raises hand in a slightly annoyed and flustered way focusing on an 'image of a big glacier of ICE' to try to counteract the flame that always threatens to flare up~

I don't even like him. Cannot stand his Kisses, or his touch. I couldn't even remember what his smile looks like or the way his eyes lit up when we got to see each other. How he'd pick me up and carry me off... Mmmmmmm

Huh? Oh Yeah, As I was saying I don't even like him...

LOL. Fixed Water. I go through alternating phases of love and hate. Mostly though... I just feel sad.

I'm curious though, which people here are the runners and which are the chasers?

You caught my oh so obvious dilemma... Lol

He ran, now I run. I never chased though, maybe just the Scorp in me but probably more like I knew him and this relationship before it had even really started and every moment along the way. We have done this before but the ending isn't, and never was clear.

Thanks for sharing that Impulsv.

Posted by Impulsv
"What stands in the way
Someone sent this to me and it really resonated--maybe you could appreciate the insight as well:

Sometimes people walk away from love because it is so beautiful that it terrifies them. Sometimes they leave because the connection shines a bright light on their dark places and they are not ready to work them through. Sometimes they run away because they are not developmentally prepared to merge with another- they have more individuation work to do first. Sometimes they take off because love is not a priority in their lives- they have another path and purpose to walk first. Sometimes they end it because they prefer a relationship that is more practical than conscious, one that does not threaten the ways that they organize reality. Because so many of us carry shame, we have a tendency to personalize love's leavings, triggered by the rejection and feelings of abandonment. But this is not always true. Sometimes it has nothing to do with us. Sometimes the one who leaves is just not ready to hold it safe. Sometimes they know something we don't- they know their limits at that moment in time. Real love is no easy path- readiness is everything. May we grieve loss without personalizing it. May we learn to love ourselves in the absence of the lover.

--Jeff Brown"

I like this a lot

Every time that I take 1 step forward, I end up taking 5 steps back. I know that surrender is the only solution but I just can't seem to get to that point mentally.

Posted by Impulsv
"What stands in the way
Someone sent this to me and it really resonated--maybe you could appreciate the insight as well:

Sometimes people walk away from love because it is so beautiful that it terrifies them. Sometimes they leave because the connection shines a bright light on their dark places and they are not ready to work them through. Sometimes they run away because they are not developmentally prepared to merge with another- they have more individuation work to do first. Sometimes they take off because love is not a priority in their lives- they have another path and purpose to walk first. Sometimes they end it because they prefer a relationship that is more practical than conscious, one that does not threaten the ways that they organize reality. Because so many of us carry shame, we have a tendency to personalize love's leavings, triggered by the rejection and feelings of abandonment. But this is not always true. Sometimes it has nothing to do with us. Sometimes the one who leaves is just not ready to hold it safe. Sometimes they know something we don't- they know their limits at that moment in time. Real love is no easy path- readiness is everything. May we grieve loss without personalizing it. May we learn to love ourselves in the absence of the lover.

--Jeff Brown"

This is so beautiful ... So moving.

Posted by Impulsv
Mm Ive been trying at surrender 4. 5 yeArs. Barely getting there. No pressure.

"No pressure" is the hardest part for me. I want it to happen yesterday already! 😕

Been going through this for the last 11 months, the back and forth, the coming and going, the push and pull, so confusing :/

Are you the runner or the chaser gingerninja?

Posted by backtokemet
I don't believe you can get over your fraud flame (that's how I refer to them now 😄) unless you've made the decision to postpone them to another lifetime, to stop reading articles on the FF mindfuckery, to keep on discussing it with people who can relate .. where intention and attention go energy flows and it must apply to this as well

Posted by starlover
You can get over them...if you do the work around letting them go

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+1

Posted by SpiceNSugar
Couple of days ago, I got into a huge fight with the person who I believe is my TF. Haven't spoken to him since. Without going into details, I was pondering the argument today and realized something:

I was blaming him for something that he does. Yet, he does this out of deep-rooted insecurity.

Why was I blaming him for this? Because of my own deep-rooted insecurity.

Once again the TF mirror-image comes back to slap me in the face. With anyone else, I would've walked away LONG ago. However, with this person, I just can't get myself to do that try as I might. Hence, I think it really is impossible to cut-off a TF. You can cut contact yes, but you can't cut-off the lessons that they will teach you about yourself.

So many people mistake TF's with SoulMates, but it's really a whole different ballgame. With a SoulMate there's a strong bond of mutual understanding and relative tranquility. For the most part, you're both "on the same wavelength".

With a TF, the bond is even stronger but the push/pull, arguing/forgiving, and learning about the other and the self is literally exhausting. You want to walk away but you can't. Because the reality is that you can't walk away from your own self no matter how hard you try and no matter how much you want to do so.

It occurs to me that I wrote this one year ago. I am no longer in contact with this person. The choice was not mine. Time has passed yet I still think of him each and every day. I still miss him just as much. Some call it obsession. Some call it mourning. Some would call it down right crazy. Personally, I don't know what to call it.

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Posted by SpiceNSugar
Couple of days ago, I got into a huge fight with the person who I believe is my TF. Haven't spoken to him since. Without going into details, I was pondering the argument today and realized something:

I was blaming him for something that he does. Yet, he does this out of deep-rooted insecurity.

Why was I blaming him for this? Because of my own deep-rooted insecurity.

Once again the TF mirror-image comes back to slap me in the face. With anyone else, I would've walked away LONG ago. However, with this person, I just can't get myself to do that try as I might. Hence, I think it really is impossible to cut-off a TF. You can cut contact yes, but you can't cut-off the lessons that they will teach you about yourself.

So many people mistake TF's with SoulMates, but it's really a whole different ballgame. With a SoulMate there's a strong bond of mutual understanding and relative tranquility. For the most part, you're both "on the same wavelength".

With a TF, the bond is even stronger but the push/pull, arguing/forgiving, and learning about the other and the self is literally exhausting. You want to walk away but you can't. Because the reality is that you can't walk away from your own self no matter how hard you try and no matter how much you want to do so.

It occurs to me that I wrote this one year ago. I am no longer in contact with this person. The choice was not mine. Time has passed yet I still think of him each and every day. I still miss him just as much. Some call it obsession. Some call it mourning. Some would call it down right crazy. Personally, I don't know what to call it.

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😢

Posted by aquapiscescusp
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It's what it is. Sad, but true.

Nice poem. Thanks for sharing IrresistableScorp.

Could be...who knows for sure?

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Posted by SpiceNSugar
I never in my life had so much trouble walking away as I have with this man.

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Going thru the same... I literally want to hate him but I can't, it would be so much easier!! I have never been so frustrated in my life... I think I've realized I can't "have" him and the reason is because he is me! We aren't ready yet! OMG it's the craziest think ever.. Ever!

You are very right. You'd do almost anything in order hate the person, because then it would be easier to walk away, but it's just impossible. The love you feel is deep and unconditional.

I agree that it really is crazy and impossible to explain to someone who hasn't lived it. They'd just take you for a crazy person.

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This thread is making me speechless. I am agreeing on everyone on this post and it's so right. How can you hate yourself, how can you hate his mind manipulative game, his lack of consistency, his crazy passionate and intense brake up to make up when it's all yourself who's also doing it... Mirror of my own self.. How can you walk away from " your soul" and your other half. how can someone be so fullfulling, so deep so intense , overwhelming feeling of love, joy passion intensity that you burst into tears of joyful was when you kiss... then the next day, you have doubts and start panicking about everything and blaming the other person for causing you so much pain. Yet you are doing the same to him. What a not so fun battling game..... I just can't get out and trapped yet he's the only person in this world who I would die for...... The experience, I will never ever forget . Blessing and a curse.

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Posted by username78
does anyone of you have a physical interaction with your partner (sex). because we never had even once.. but the impact in my life of his presence change me a lot...

The twin flame connection is NOT about sex. It's about the recognition and bonding of two souls. The twin flame WILL change your life forever.

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Once you have that " spiritual love bonding connection" anyone thing is just make you wanna cry. I even feel like giving sex all up together coz it does not even compare half way... I cried a few times.... Spiritually uplifting and fullfollong to the core...

Posted by Whatu
Sometimes its like someone took a knife baby edgy and dull and cut a six inch valley through the middle of my soul.

And when you reconnect or kiss, it's like your soul merged together and the cut was never ripped open..... It never was ever ever that fullfulling.... without one another though, it falls apart in pieces, lost completely lost craving for that soul merging again..... What a tragic story ..... I'm glad I'm not the crazy one making all this up.... It takes one to know one....!

Posted by Impulsv
Mm Ive been trying at surrender 4. 5 yeArs. Barely getting there. No pressure.

How do you completely surrender. Your fear is his fear no? If you are scared he is scared no?.....ps: I think I am the runner....

Chaser I mean.

Glad you made it out alive 😛

Nevertheless, I don't think of it as "fuckery" nor as wasted energy. I think of it as a process. Some get there quicker, some slower. If you got there quicker and unscathed, more power to you!