Age and Consent

This topic was created in the Miscellaneous forum by Virgo07 on Wednesday, January 20, 2010 and has 34 replies.

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@Virgo07
17 Years1,000+ PostsVirgo
whats your view on a 19 year old dude with a 16 year old girl? ive been getting a lot of shit for it and im nervous about the legality of it. im perfectly ok with the age difference and 'societies' view of it, but im afraid of getting in trouble for it. i know its not legal in NY. also, all i know about her parents; they are strict as fuck and will not allow this situation.

advice or opinions plz πŸ™‚
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@trifles light as air*
16 Years1,000+ Posts
age of consent in ny is 17. i have known of situations like this that have gotten ugly (even tho everything was consensual) either because a.) parents got involved or b.) the relationship went awry. so i'd advise you to be extremely careful no matter what.
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@brianafay
19 Years25,000+ PostsSagittarius
Posted by trifles light as air*
age of consent in ny is 17. i have known of situations like this that have gotten ugly (even tho everything was consensual) either because a.) parents got involved or b.) the relationship went awry. so i'd advise you to be extremely careful no matter what.



Oh I didn't think about that -different states haha you're fucked 07 πŸ™‚
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@Virgo07
17 Years1,000+ PostsVirgo
i could wait a year if i was head over heels flowers and bubbles in love, but the reality is, im not. il just let it ride and and see where we are in a year.

althoughhh her bestfriend is going out with my bestfriend. so this brings 2 things to this situation....

1. i will be around her for as long as my buddy goes out with his gf (theyre over 1 year already and it looks like more is to come). this could be a good or bad thing, i cant say which.

2. my buddy is 18 and his gf is about to turn 16 also. so im in the same boat as him. this just adds more pressure on me and my actions.

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@ramfishtwins
17 Years1,000+ PostsAries
I guess I'm not getting what a 19 year old has in common with a 15 year old. I understand she's almost 16, but still. I do not think her parents would be cool with this. She's still a baby, for christ's sakes. If you are really determined to see this through, I'd have an open and honest talk with the parents to see where they stand. If you are not in love with this girl, I'd wait until she's of age. You would not want the parents to freak out and ruin your life by pressing charges...so not worth it.
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@Virgo07
17 Years1,000+ PostsVirgo
i guess il just keep it cool and wait and see in a year. thx for the input guys πŸ™‚

and who knows another girl could come along of age and everything will be just dandy
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@ramfishtwins
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Posted by brynmor
Posted by ramfishtwins
Posted by Virgo07
i guess il just keep it cool and wait and see in a year. thx for the input guys πŸ™‚

and who knows another girl could come along of age and everything will be just dandy



There's always a new girl just around the corner...guaranteed!



there isn't that many suitable partners tho. don't forget that! πŸ™‚
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True, but I'm doubting this 15 year old fits into the "suitable" category!
There are plenty of girls out there. All I'm saying is don't limit yourself to what may be convenient or present.
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@Virgo07
17 Years1,000+ PostsVirgo
the one thing that pisses me off is....im too young in every way to be with girls any older or the same age as me. it just wouldnt fit or feel right if i was with a 19 or 20 year old.
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@Virgo07
17 Years1,000+ PostsVirgo
i was a late bloomer and kinda immature in high school. i really came into my own in the past year or two. if you saw me in real life youd guess i was still in high school. also i have a virlibra babyface πŸ™‚
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@ramfishtwins
17 Years1,000+ PostsAries
Posted by Virgo07
πŸ˜„ il show em the situation.

Gawd no...not "the situation"!!! LOL

Have you even tried to date someone your age? You could surprise yourself. They could be just as immature OR they could lead you to a path of maturity and show you a whole new world (aladin reference...were you even born??!!)
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@Nefer
17 Years1,000+ PostsPisces
:/ I have teenage daughters.

And if some young 19 year old whippersnapper (who doesn't even FANCY himself head over heels for my girl at the very least! WTF does he want with a BABY then? MY BABY?! His motives can hardly be called noble, clearly!) started sniffing around one when she was 15, going on 16...

... I'd shoot him in the dick and claim I thought he was a burglar. Yup.

Dude, are you INSANE?!
Back the fuck off the cute little jailbait, k? Just set it down and back away slowwwwly. There we go, sonny. Now move along.
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@sweethearts
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Posted by Nefer
:/ I have teenage daughters.

And if some young 19 year old whippersnapper (who doesn't even FANCY himself head over heels for my girl at the very least! WTF does he want with a BABY then? MY BABY?! His motives can hardly be called noble, clearly!) started sniffing around one when she was 15, going on 16...

... I'd shoot him in the dick and claim I thought he was a burglar. Yup.

Dude, are you INSANE?!
Back the fuck off the cute little jailbait, k? Just set it down and back away slowwwwly. There we go, sonny. Now move along.



THIS SUMS IT UP BEST!!!!
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@Lady_M
20 Years10,000+ Posts
hmmmm, aqua girls do like their guys older πŸ˜‰

I personally find it creepy when college guys have highschool girlfriends. It just makes them seem like there wack in general.

Hang out with her, don;t make any commitments.... knowing myself, she porbably doesn't want any commitment anyway. The flirting and chasing is always more fun than actually being caught.
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@prettyladii
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I feel like it's about equal mentally. When I met my first love, I was 16 he was 22. I didn't know he was 22 until way later though cause he told me he was 19 in the beginning and he looked of age. In the end he turned out to be the immature one. 3 yrs isn't that big a difference. If you really like her just use this year to get to know her thoroughly, hang out and just see how strong your feelings are.