Lunabee
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Are there 'roomate rules?'
Posted by Smidge
room mate or house mate?
maaaaan, i could not live the same room as someone!
Well house mate lol.
I have a two bedroom apt. I didn't think roommate meant, 'living in the same bed'... Must be a cultural term.
Bump?
I guess I already know the rules. I am hoping to find others stories about roommates to help me.
Posted by AreyoumytwinflameWho says she can't — Only been three days I mean... Maybe ?
It sucks. Never had a good experience no matter how much you like someone..I think you should only live with people who give you orgasms. Otherwise you annoy each other.
That's my rule.
To me, it's just general courteousness, but here are some:
-Clean up after yourself especially in the common area.
-Let the other person know if you have a group of people over
-Don't have loud sex - that's tacky
-If you're going to come home late and drunk don't be out in the kitchen trying to cook yourself a 3 course meal - and definitely don't bring your drunk friends
-If the other person is in their room , leave them alone
-Clean up after yourself especially in the common area.
-Let the other person know if you have a group of people over
-Don't have loud sex - that's tacky
-If you're going to come home late and drunk don't be out in the kitchen trying to cook yourself a 3 course meal - and definitely don't bring your drunk friends
-If the other person is in their room , leave them alone
I've live with plenty of people through the years. What kind of questions do you have?
Posted by AreyoumytwinflamePosted by LunabeeLol then by all means...Posted by AreyoumytwinflameWho says she can't — Only been three days I mean... Maybe ?
It sucks. Never had a good experience no matter how much you like someone..I think you should only live with people who give you orgasms. Otherwise you annoy each other.
That's my rule.
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So no luck with roommates?
Posted by brianafay
To me, it's just general courteousness, but here are some:
-Clean up after yourself especially in the common area.
-Let the other person know if you have a group of people over
-Don't have loud sex - that's tacky
-If you're going to come home late and drunk don't be out in the kitchen trying to cook yourself a 3 course meal - and definitely don't bring your drunk friends
-If the other person is in their room , leave them alone
Thank you.
These topics are not even an issue. We are both single women of an age where sounds ridiculous.
Guess that is a good sign.
Didn't read other posts before posting
I had a roommate in college in the same type of living situation. We each had our own room and bathroom but shared living room and kitchen.
She was an awesome roommate... she was quiet , hardly ever there, very clean, respected my boundaries. We were friendly and would hang out if we were both in the living room at the same time but we didn't hang out besides that and I think that was a good thing. I think it's always better when you don't get too involved and treat it more like a business relationship. When people are friends it gets messy - I haven't known a single person who lived with a friend that stayed friends
I had a roommate in college in the same type of living situation. We each had our own room and bathroom but shared living room and kitchen.
She was an awesome roommate... she was quiet , hardly ever there, very clean, respected my boundaries. We were friendly and would hang out if we were both in the living room at the same time but we didn't hang out besides that and I think that was a good thing. I think it's always better when you don't get too involved and treat it more like a business relationship. When people are friends it gets messy - I haven't known a single person who lived with a friend that stayed friends
Posted by earlorg16
I've live with plenty of people through the years. What kind of questions do you have?
I was very nervous about having a roommate. I spent yesterday at my parents because I wanted her to feel at home at my place.
My main concern is that I do things or even unconsciously bother her and her NOT feel comfortable enough to tell me.
I just want her to feel at home.
Posted by LunabeePosted by brianafay
To me, it's just general courteousness, but here are some:
-Clean up after yourself especially in the common area.
-Let the other person know if you have a group of people over
-Don't have loud sex - that's tacky
-If you're going to come home late and drunk don't be out in the kitchen trying to cook yourself a 3 course meal - and definitely don't bring your drunk friends
-If the other person is in their room , leave them alone
Thank you.
These topics are not even an issue. We are both single women of an age where sounds ridiculous.
Guess that is a good sign.
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You would be surprised how many of those topics become an issue no matter the age
But I'm glad you were raised right ...not everyone was it seems
Posted by LunabeeFirstly, you shouldn't worry about bothering her like that because it's a shared home. She agreed to have a roommate didn't she? So she's got no choice.Posted by earlorg16
I've live with plenty of people through the years. What kind of questions do you have?
I was very nervous about having a roommate. I spent yesterday at my parents because I wanted her to feel at home at my place.
My main concern is that I do things or even unconsciously bother her and her NOT feel comfortable enough to tell me.
I just want her to feel at home.click to expand
Here are the rules that every good roommate should follow:
1) HAVE YOUR RENT ON TIME. If you don't and you're going to be late, give your roommate at least a week or two notice.
2) If you're going to bring people home or have company, always let them know ahead of time. If you're feeling even slightly uneasy, ask your roommate first if that's okay.
3) Clean up after yourself. If you both are going to share things like toilet paper, napkins, and all that other stuff, make sure you pay for that or take turns buying supplies once they run out. If you're using their kitchenware, or anything of theirs, ask first (one you ask once or twice, you don't need to ask anymore) and make sure you clean up after using their stuff.
4) Don't steal, eat, drink, any of their stuff.
5) Ask when it's okay to not play music or have a sound curfew. Me personally, I don't really care or have a curfew but if my roomie is playing his music too loud and it's 3 AM or something, I'll usually let my roommate know and he'll turn it down.
6) Try to refrain from having loud sex when they're home. If you do have sex, keep it quiet. Nothing more awkward than walking into your home and hearing your roommate banging hardcore (unless they're cool with you joining 😉)
7) If you have a pet or want a pet, ask first.
8) Throw away the trash every so often, especially if you contributed to the pile.
9) Get to know them so that it can ease that awkwardness and befriend them.
10) Communicate! Be honest! Don't be afraid to tell it like it is without hurting them. You two are living together, no one wants an awkward living situation. If she does something that bothers you, bring it up calmly. Just be courteous, clean, and respectable and you're golden.
Posted by AreyoumytwinflameHaha. That sounds borderline genius honestly.Posted by LunabeeI have horror stories. No one was maliciously annoying. But my last taur roommate had an eating disorder (suspected) which I do have sympathy for but it drove my crazy. She would cut slices of cake at an angle to make it look like she didn't eat it. It wasn't like I wouldn't share with her..,I was happy too.,,but just eat the fecking cake, don't ruin it by cutting it like an asshole.Posted by AreyoumytwinflamePosted by LunabeeLol then by all means...Posted by AreyoumytwinflameWho says she can't — Only been three days I mean... Maybe ?
It sucks. Never had a good experience no matter how much you like someone..I think you should only live with people who give you orgasms. Otherwise you annoy each other.
That's my rule.
So no luck with roommates?
She would eat all of the cookie pieces out of ice cream and put the ice cream back in.
She didn't want anyone to know she ate anything so she did all kinds of weird shit that seriously drove my into psychosis.
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Posted by earlorg16Exactly what I needed! Thank you a million times!Posted by LunabeeFirstly, you shouldn't worry about bothering her like that because it's a shared home. She agreed to have a roommate didn't she? So she's got no choice.Posted by earlorg16
I've live with plenty of people through the years. What kind of questions do you have?
I was very nervous about having a roommate. I spent yesterday at my parents because I wanted her to feel at home at my place.
My main concern is that I do things or even unconsciously bother her and her NOT feel comfortable enough to tell me.
I just want her to feel at home.
Here are the rules that every good roommate should follow:
1) HAVE YOUR RENT ON TIME. If you don't and you're going to be late, give your roommate at least a week or two notice.
2) If you're going to bring people home or have company, always let them know ahead of time. If you're feeling even slightly uneasy, ask your roommate first if that's okay.
3) Clean up after yourself. If you both are going to share things like toilet paper, napkins, and all that other stuff, make sure you pay for that or take turns buying supplies once they run out. If you're using their kitchenware, or anything of theirs, ask first (one you ask once or twice, you don't need to ask anymore) and make sure you clean up after using their stuff.
4) Don't steal, eat, drink, any of their stuff.
5) Ask when it's okay to not play music or have a sound curfew. Me personally, I don't really care or have a curfew but if my roomie is playing his music too loud and it's 3 AM or something, I'll usually let my roommate know and he'll turn it down.
6) Try to refrain from having loud sex when they're home. If you do have sex, keep it quiet. Nothing more awkward than walking into your home and hearing your roommate banging hardcore (unless they're cool with you joining 😉)
7) If you have a pet or want a pet, ask first.
8) Throw away the trash every so often, especially if you contributed to the pile.
9) Get to know them so that it can ease that awkwardness and befriend them.
10) Communicate! Be honest! Don't be afraid to tell it like it is without hurting them. You two are living together, no one wants an awkward living situation. If she does something that bothers you, bring it up calmly. Just be courteous, clean, and respectable and you're golden.
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I have a good one thus far. I'm not great at being authoritative because I don't want to be.
Her chart— Lol
Taurus sun/Merc
Libra moon- like me : )
Gemini Venus
Cap mars
I'm a
Sag sun/Merc
Libra moon
Scorpio Venus
Aries mars
I think we gel well.
Posted by AreyoumytwinflamePosted by LunabeePosted by AreyoumytwinflameHaha. That sounds borderline genius honestly.Posted by LunabeeI have horror stories. No one was maliciously annoying. But my last taur roommate had an eating disorder (suspected) which I do have sympathy for but it drove my crazy. She would cut slices of cake at an angle to make it look like she didn't eat it. It wasn't like I wouldn't share with her..,I was happy too.,,but just eat the fecking cake, don't ruin it by cutting it like an asshole.Posted by AreyoumytwinflamePosted by LunabeeLol then by all means...Posted by AreyoumytwinflameWho says she can't — Only been three days I mean... Maybe ?
It sucks. Never had a good experience no matter how much you like someone..I think you should only live with people who give you orgasms. Otherwise you annoy each other.
That's my rule.
So no luck with roommates?
She would eat all of the cookie pieces out of ice cream and put the ice cream back in.
She didn't want anyone to know she ate anything so she did all kinds of weird shit that seriously drove my into psychosis.
You can have her lol. I got out
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Hahaha. Why did she hide it is what's funny. It's only food. I guess a disorder is another ballgame.
She called me today and said she ate my snack and I laughed. I told her I'll buy more and she said she will buy more paper towels.
Balanced life#
It's been good thus far.
Posted by brianafayYes. She has been up front about being professional which I NEED because I'm very forgiving and accommodating.
Didn't read other posts before posting
I had a roommate in college in the same type of living situation. We each had our own room and bathroom but shared living room and kitchen.
She was an awesome roommate... she was quiet , hardly ever there, very clean, respected my boundaries. We were friendly and would hang out if we were both in the living room at the same time but we didn't hang out besides that and I think that was a good thing. I think it's always better when you don't get too involved and treat it more like a business relationship. When people are friends it gets messy - I haven't known a single person who lived with a friend that stayed friends
It sucks to be so nice you can't stick up for yourself so she handled that immediately. (Thank God.)
Posted by LunabeeMy first roommate was my drummer and he's a Sag sun, while im a Taurus sun. Some good times were had. 🙂Posted by earlorg16Exactly what I needed! Thank you a million times!Posted by LunabeeFirstly, you shouldn't worry about bothering her like that because it's a shared home. She agreed to have a roommate didn't she? So she's got no choice.Posted by earlorg16
I've live with plenty of people through the years. What kind of questions do you have?
I was very nervous about having a roommate. I spent yesterday at my parents because I wanted her to feel at home at my place.
My main concern is that I do things or even unconsciously bother her and her NOT feel comfortable enough to tell me.
I just want her to feel at home.
Here are the rules that every good roommate should follow:
1) HAVE YOUR RENT ON TIME. If you don't and you're going to be late, give your roommate at least a week or two notice.
2) If you're going to bring people home or have company, always let them know ahead of time. If you're feeling even slightly uneasy, ask your roommate first if that's okay.
3) Clean up after yourself. If you both are going to share things like toilet paper, napkins, and all that other stuff, make sure you pay for that or take turns buying supplies once they run out. If you're using their kitchenware, or anything of theirs, ask first (one you ask once or twice, you don't need to ask anymore) and make sure you clean up after using their stuff.
4) Don't steal, eat, drink, any of their stuff.
5) Ask when it's okay to not play music or have a sound curfew. Me personally, I don't really care or have a curfew but if my roomie is playing his music too loud and it's 3 AM or something, I'll usually let my roommate know and he'll turn it down.
6) Try to refrain from having loud sex when they're home. If you do have sex, keep it quiet. Nothing more awkward than walking into your home and hearing your roommate banging hardcore (unless they're cool with you joining 😉)
7) If you have a pet or want a pet, ask first.
8) Throw away the trash every so often, especially if you contributed to the pile.
9) Get to know them so that it can ease that awkwardness and befriend them.
10) Communicate! Be honest! Don't be afraid to tell it like it is without hurting them. You two are living together, no one wants an awkward living situation. If she does something that bothers you, bring it up calmly. Just be courteous, clean, and respectable and you're golden.
I have a good one thus far. I'm not great at being authoritative because I don't want to be.
Her chart— Lol
Taurus sun/Merc
Libra moon- like me : )
Gemini Venus
Cap mars
I'm a
Sag sun/Merc
Libra moon
Scorpio Venus
Aries mars
I think we gel well.click to expand
Posted by earlorg16Music to my soulPosted by LunabeeMy first roommate was my drummer and he's a Sag sun, while im a Taurus sun. Some good times were had. 🙂Posted by earlorg16Exactly what I needed! Thank you a million times!Posted by LunabeeFirstly, you shouldn't worry about bothering her like that because it's a shared home. She agreed to have a roommate didn't she? So she's got no choice.Posted by earlorg16
I've live with plenty of people through the years. What kind of questions do you have?
I was very nervous about having a roommate. I spent yesterday at my parents because I wanted her to feel at home at my place.
My main concern is that I do things or even unconsciously bother her and her NOT feel comfortable enough to tell me.
I just want her to feel at home.
Here are the rules that every good roommate should follow:
1) HAVE YOUR RENT ON TIME. If you don't and you're going to be late, give your roommate at least a week or two notice.
2) If you're going to bring people home or have company, always let them know ahead of time. If you're feeling even slightly uneasy, ask your roommate first if that's okay.
3) Clean up after yourself. If you both are going to share things like toilet paper, napkins, and all that other stuff, make sure you pay for that or take turns buying supplies once they run out. If you're using their kitchenware, or anything of theirs, ask first (one you ask once or twice, you don't need to ask anymore) and make sure you clean up after using their stuff.
4) Don't steal, eat, drink, any of their stuff.
5) Ask when it's okay to not play music or have a sound curfew. Me personally, I don't really care or have a curfew but if my roomie is playing his music too loud and it's 3 AM or something, I'll usually let my roommate know and he'll turn it down.
6) Try to refrain from having loud sex when they're home. If you do have sex, keep it quiet. Nothing more awkward than walking into your home and hearing your roommate banging hardcore (unless they're cool with you joining 😉)
7) If you have a pet or want a pet, ask first.
8) Throw away the trash every so often, especially if you contributed to the pile.
9) Get to know them so that it can ease that awkwardness and befriend them.
10) Communicate! Be honest! Don't be afraid to tell it like it is without hurting them. You two are living together, no one wants an awkward living situation. If she does something that bothers you, bring it up calmly. Just be courteous, clean, and respectable and you're golden.
I have a good one thus far. I'm not great at being authoritative because I don't want to be.
Her chart— Lol
Taurus sun/Merc
Libra moon- like me : )
Gemini Venus
Cap mars
I'm a
Sag sun/Merc
Libra moon
Scorpio Venus
Aries mars
I think we gel well.click to expand
When I rented with people through college I drafted a roommate agreement and had everyone sign. Certain things like 'no personal items in the common areas' and '12 hours to clean up post parties' really saved the living arrangements.
Like most things, in order to work you need to establish boundaries and guidelines.
Like most things, in order to work you need to establish boundaries and guidelines.
not sex after midnight or before 8am
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