Creepy brother..

So, yesterday my biological brother called me for the first time. (We were both adopted into different homes).

I was extremely excited to hear from him, we talked about our lives growing up and our plans for the future.

He said he was proud that I was going to school and even though he is two years older than me, I'm his source of inspiration.

Things were going great... Until we talked about our plans for the day.

I told him I was just going to lounge around the house and do little things...

That's when he told me he was hopping on the bus to go see a girl friend of his, and that they were going to smoke some weed, and he was hoping he could take advantage of her....

Now, at first I thought he was just joking, but he repeated himself more than once..

And then he said to me, "don't let guys take advantage of you, but, yeah, I'm going to try to take advantage of this girl."

I really wanted to speak up and say something about his comments, but I didn't know how to put my disgust/dismay into words.

I'm really not sure what to do here.

While I really want to have a relationship with my brother, (he is the closest sibling in age to me), I'm obviously not okay comments/behavior like this.

Whether he went or not, is a mystery to me. But, I still don't agree with the fact that he felt it was okay to disclose such thoughts to someone, let alone a sister he just contacted.

Also, sorry for any spelling errors, it's late.

"Dude, that's fucked up." would be an adequate response haha.

Posted by AriesIntrovert16

He said ..... I'm his source of inspiration

Yet, that ^^^^ didn't seem strange to you at all.

So, let me get this straight, so long as it's fluffy and sparkly .. it's ok to lie to you, it's ok to say utter bullshit.

A guy thinking that he's going to get down a bitch's pants, is quite normal for him to think ... but, a truth, such as this is strange.


So, the truth is strange to you, but, the lie fills you with pride.

Guys are retarded and sometimes take a gold metal out of saying that shit. woudnt take it too seriously now...but a you get closer maybe hve a tlk with hi tellin him, as a girl, how disrespectful and nkt okay it is.

Posted by P-Angel

Posted by AriesIntrovert16

He said ..... I'm his source of inspiration

Yet, that ^^^^ didn't seem strange to you at all.

So, let me get this straight, so long as it's fluffy and sparkly .. it's ok to lie to you, it's ok to say utter bullshit.

A guy thinking that he's going to get down a bitch's pants, is quite normal for him to think ... but, a truth, such as this is strange.


So, the truth is strange to you, but, the lie fills you with pride.

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I'm not sure what you mean by this?

He dropped out of high school, along with my other brother, and he thinks it's great that I'm actually continuing my education.

Maybe I did take it a bit personally, it was probably just a weird choice of words.

He's an Aquarius with a Scorpio moon, btw.

for all we know, the brother's girl that he's going to take advantage of, is a woman who LIKES to be taken advantage of.

we don't know their dynamics.

the OP is making a mountain out of a molehill and just making her brother look like a real creepo. Maybe he is.

*shrug*

but she sure is upset at him. That's serves him right for talking so chummy with his sister, who isn't into that stuff.

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Posted by AriesIntrovert16

He said ..... I'm his source of inspiration

Yet, that ^^^^ didn't seem strange to you at all.

So, let me get this straight, so long as it's fluffy and sparkly .. it's ok to lie to you, it's ok to say utter bullshit.

A guy thinking that he's going to get down a bitch's pants, is quite normal for him to think ... but, a truth, such as this is strange.


So, the truth is strange to you, but, the lie fills you with pride.

I'm not sure what you mean by this?

He dropped out of high school, along with my other brother, and he thinks it's great that I'm actually continuing my education.

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It means that he doesn't even fucking know you.

How could you possibly be a source of inspiration to a person who only knows your name and a brief summary?

They can't, you can't be an inspiration to that person. In time, yes ... but, not at "HELLO"

So, that means that just because it sounded good, your ego believes it is .... when in reality for a person to say that to a person they don't know is only in place under the false pretenses of trying to make an impression.

that's not sincere .... that's superficial.

But, it was fluffy and sparkly and made you happy to hear, obviously, because you complaints about it.

If you're that dumb, in that you cannot figure out a persons intentions ... then you should probably go hide under a rock.

People just want to be so positive, that they refuse to look at reality.

this is a negative, him saying that ... not a positive.

Because he doesn't know you ... he says it to gain your trust.

If a person wants you to trust them, then they don't turn around and say shit like, "I'm gonna fuck that bitch, I'm gonna use her", or whatever bullshit he said. The point is he's full of shit, because a brother who wants respect from you and respects you wouldn't talk like that to you.

so, in knowing that something is wrong with this picture .... why doesnt' your brain (and apparently others who responded from my comment) comprehend that his words are full of shit - to include false praise?


It's like people pick and choose what they want to hear ... and then are shocked when they're fools.


Are people really that stupid? Really?

Posted by LillyBlossom

While your point is valid on the surface, in this case, he's related to her, so it changes things. Of course, it was the polite thing to say, but I don't see the point of dwelling on a positive comment unless it was followed by a questionable request.

It was followed by something questionable ... so questionable that it led her here to talk about how creepy it is.


Him being related to her has no bearing. Blood doesn't make a person your family.


Common sense isn't your forte, is it? You don't seem to recognize something questionable, and you don't seem to realize that a blood relative isn't what makes you family.

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Posted by P-Angel

People just want to be so positive, that they refuse to look at reality.

this is a negative, him saying that ... not a positive.

Because he doesn't know you ... he says it to gain your trust.

If a person wants you to trust them, then they don't turn around and say shit like, "I'm gonna fuck that bitch, I'm gonna use her", or whatever bullshit he said. The point is he's full of shit, because a brother who wants respect from you and respects you wouldn't talk like that to you.

so, in knowing that something is wrong with this picture .... why doesnt' your brain (and apparently others who responded from my comment) comprehend that his words are full of shit - to include false praise?


It's like people pick and choose what they want to hear ... and then are shocked when they're fools.


Are people really that stupid? Really?

Of course he doesn't know how to speak to her. He is not use to having a sister. It will be a learning process to understand how to interact with her. Until that connection is made, or until it begins to be fostered, he will interact with her in the only way he knows how to relate to people - depending on his crowd, that may mean he will treat her like she's one of his male buddies.

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My point has absolutely nothing to do with him not knowing to properly communicate with her.

Apparently, it just flew right over your head.

My point was about - HER being so na??ve and gullible, that she will believe what she's told if it sounds pretty, eventhough, this same person has very questionable behavior.


Do you get it now? ... or do I need to explain it in even simpler terms?

personally i think he's just having fun with her.

but he should know better than to talk to his sister like that (especially if she's not that type of girl)

I mean, when i was having jokes with my husband, there are some things we can't joke around with ...even around his mother or cousins or other people he's close to.

it's just between us.

Her brother just doesn't know her well enough to even say something like that even if it's a joke. that's his failing. Or he's testing. (he does have a Scorpio moon)

Posted by LillyBlossom

Posted by lisabethur8
personally i think he's just having fun with her.

but he should know better than to talk to his sister like that (especially if she's not that type of girl)

I mean, when i was having jokes with my husband, there are some things we can't joke around with ...even around his mother or cousins or other people he's close to.

it's just between us.

Her brother just doesn't know her well enough to even say something like that even if it's a joke. that's his failing. Or he's testing. (he does have a Scorpio moon)

But how could he know better when he's not use to interacting with a sister? It's not something you instinctively know, not for everyone. How could he know what "type of girl" she is when they haven't had a relationship with one another? Your case with your husband is incomparable to this situation. That's my point. And I think I've said all I can on the matter. I wish the OP the best.

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that's true. I don't know then. But, she seems highly offended about him. I get the feeling they just rub eachother the wrong way. Especially if she made a topic about her brother like this.

Posted by LillyBlossom
You should have said, "Be sure to wear a condom, I'm not ready to be an auntie."

I doubt he would listen, he already has an 8 month old. 😛