Do you feel guilty spending on yourself?

A problem of mine. I feel guilty when I spend on myself. You know how some women get regular manicure, pedicure (even sns nails), hair dye, eyelash extensions etc. I don't. Lol I always think the money is better saved or spent on something for the family. My only regular self care expense is my gym membership. I'm very low maintenance. I use Korean products on my skin and so far I don't have wrinkles at my age.

Now, 50% of my salary goes to savings, 50% goes to expenses like food and other extras that the family needs.

This month, I'm only going to be able to save a small amount from my salary because I have my Christmas party soon and I felt like I want to get my hair dyed, my eyebrows laminated and I bought a new dress, jewelry plus presents for my husband and sister. I don't know why but I feel guilty doing this. It's so weird because I was so good in saving all year. And in 12 mos, this is the only time I'll be spending on my hair, eyebrows etc.

Anyone feel the same? How do you not feel guilty spending on yourself?

I am totally with @BaeMax.

I have NO idea why but spending on clothes, shoes and other crap comes naturally gilt-free to me.

Vanity - can’t waste a dime except I looove Brazilian and that’s gets spent on.

Nails and hair - I do not need an effort. I can do it myself.

But hon, you seem like you are a financially savvy and married and you WANT to spend on yourself. So you must have!!!

I don’t want to! That’s different.

You want to feel that pampering - so just do it!

Enjoy!

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Posted by GemiMay

I am totally with @BaeMax.

I have NO idea why but spending on clothes, shoes and other crap comes naturally gilt-free to me.

Vanity - can’t waste a dime except I looove Brazilian and that’s gets spent on.

Nails and hair - I do not need an effort. I can do it myself.

But hon, you seem like you are a financially savvy and married and you WANT to spend on yourself. So you must have!!!

I don’t want to! That’s different.

You want to feel that pampering - so just do it!

Enjoy!

Brazilians are so 1994, lets have the bald (spread) eagle.

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Darling! You can’t go BALDER than Brazilian!

It’s ALL OFF!!!

I am sure you thinking something else…or pulling my leg…🤔

No I don’t

Unless it was exorbitant amounts on clothes, shoes etc

I’m a giver so at times like to give back to myself

nah i deserve it but i prob won't be able to finish it

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Posted by BaeMaxx

A problem of mine. I feel guilty when I spend on myself. You know how some women get regular manicure, pedicure (even sns nails), hair dye, eyelash extensions etc. I don't. Lol I always think the money is better saved or spent on something for the family. My only regular self care expense is my gym membership. I'm very low maintenance. I use Korean products on my skin and so far I don't have wrinkles at my age.

Now, 50% of my salary goes to savings, 50% goes to expenses like food and other extras that the family needs.

This month, I'm only going to be able to save a small amount from my salary because I have my Christmas party soon and I felt like I want to get my hair dyed, my eyebrows laminated and I bought a new dress, jewelry plus presents for my husband and sister. I don't know why but I feel guilty doing this. It's so weird because I was so good in saving all year. And in 12 mos, this is the only time I'll be spending on my hair, eyebrows etc.

Anyone feel the same? How do you not feel guilty spending on yourself?

Unless you have a financial goal I think 50% is too much to put aside, you work very hard you should definitely reward yourself not splurge, I used to also save that much off my salary but once I achieved my goal, I laid back a little bit and started taking care of myself, I'm not saying I don't save anymore I do but only for emergencies, and I spend on myself within reason, but i make sure I earn that.

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How is this ‘too much’ and ‘you deserve’?

Are you serious?

Apparently your splurging because your ‘deserved’ self pampering doesn’t pay off does it?

Nope!! I buy weed religiously!

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Posted by GemiMay

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Posted by BaeMaxx

A problem of mine. I feel guilty when I spend on myself. You know how some women get regular manicure, pedicure (even sns nails), hair dye, eyelash extensions etc. I don't. Lol I always think the money is better saved or spent on something for the family. My only regular self care expense is my gym membership. I'm very low maintenance. I use Korean products on my skin and so far I don't have wrinkles at my age.

Now, 50% of my salary goes to savings, 50% goes to expenses like food and other extras that the family needs.

This month, I'm only going to be able to save a small amount from my salary because I have my Christmas party soon and I felt like I want to get my hair dyed, my eyebrows laminated and I bought a new dress, jewelry plus presents for my husband and sister. I don't know why but I feel guilty doing this. It's so weird because I was so good in saving all year. And in 12 mos, this is the only time I'll be spending on my hair, eyebrows etc.

Anyone feel the same? How do you not feel guilty spending on yourself?

Unless you have a financial goal I think 50% is too much to put aside, you work very hard you should definitely reward yourself not splurge, I used to also save that much off my salary but once I achieved my goal, I laid back a little bit and started taking care of myself, I'm not saying I don't save anymore I do but only for emergencies, and I spend on myself within reason, but i make sure I earn that.

How is this ‘too much’ and ‘you deserve’?

Are you serious?

Apparently your splurging because your ‘deserved’ self pampering doesn’t pay off does it?

Yes I'm serious

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Have you realized that you meddling in someone’s business telling them how to invest in their future for their family financial stability?

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Posted by GemiMay

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Posted by GemiMay

I am totally with @BaeMax.

I have NO idea why but spending on clothes, shoes and other crap comes naturally gilt-free to me.

Vanity - can’t waste a dime except I looove Brazilian and that’s gets spent on.

Nails and hair - I do not need an effort. I can do it myself.

But hon, you seem like you are a financially savvy and married and you WANT to spend on yourself. So you must have!!!

I don’t want to! That’s different.

You want to feel that pampering - so just do it!

Enjoy!

Brazilians are so 1994, lets have the bald (spread) eagle.

Darling! You can’t go BALDER than Brazilian!

It’s ALL OFF!!!

I am sure you thinking something else…or pulling my leg…🤔

I thought Brazilian was the landing strip?

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That’s one of the chosen designs. 😂😂😂

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Posted by BaeMaxx

A problem of mine. I feel guilty when I spend on myself. You know how some women get regular manicure, pedicure (even sns nails), hair dye, eyelash extensions etc. I don't. Lol I always think the money is better saved or spent on something for the family. My only regular self care expense is my gym membership. I'm very low maintenance. I use Korean products on my skin and so far I don't have wrinkles at my age.

Now, 50% of my salary goes to savings, 50% goes to expenses like food and other extras that the family needs.

This month, I'm only going to be able to save a small amount from my salary because I have my Christmas party soon and I felt like I want to get my hair dyed, my eyebrows laminated and I bought a new dress, jewelry plus presents for my husband and sister. I don't know why but I feel guilty doing this. It's so weird because I was so good in saving all year. And in 12 mos, this is the only time I'll be spending on my hair, eyebrows etc.

Anyone feel the same? How do you not feel guilty spending on yourself?

Unless you have a financial goal I think 50% is too much to put aside, you work very hard you should definitely reward yourself not splurge, I used to also save that much off my salary but once I achieved my goal, I laid back a little bit and started taking care of myself, I'm not saying I don't save anymore I do but only for emergencies, and I spend on myself within reason, but i make sure I earn that.

How is this ‘too much’ and ‘you deserve’?

Are you serious?

Apparently your splurging because your ‘deserved’ self pampering doesn’t pay off does it?

Yes I'm serious

Have you realized that you meddling in someone’s business telling them how to invest in their future for their family financial stability?

I'm sure she's wise enough to know what's best for her, I gave my opinion cause she asked, she doesn't have to take it. And I didn't tell her to splurge read my comment again, I only said she deserves to take care of herself cause she obviously works hard, and there's no need to feel guilty about it.

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What is ‘deserve’?

I’m on a journey rn where I try really hard not to guilt myself. I’ve gone a long ways depriving myself and I’m done with that. I’ve taken care of someone else for so long, I stopped taking care of myself—I didn’t even know what I liked anymore! Making a secret Santa wishlist was even difficult lol but you know what, I work hard for it so I’m going to enjoy it. I can want a lot of things, but I only bring myself to buy the things I absolutely love. That’s always helped me not to overspend. I rarely have anything in my closet anymore that I don’t love, which is how I like it. I just don’t like accumulating too much stuff. If I don’t need or love something, I’m not buying for myself.

Balance is key. I get what you mean tho because if I compare myself to others I have no desire to pay someone to do my nails or hair or spend money on brand name shit. But I be spending on massages, and plants, and random ass shit. It all evens out I believe. As long as you are meeting your financial goals a little splurge now and then can't hurt. After all, us women be shoppin lol lean into the stereotype.

Nope. Money is to be spent, I won't take them to my grave or leave them to others.

This being said, I've been to friseur or nail salon or gym only a handful of times in my entire life. I'm just a short nails, soap and water, rebellious mane, DIY, low maintenance kind of woman in expensive clothes, surrounded by beautiful things and planning my next holidays while eating gourmet dinner.

Only time I feel guilty about spending on myself is around Xmas cause all this stuff is on sale and I'm suppose to be buying gifts for other people and not myself.

But I don't have kids so I am free to spend my own money on myself.

Posted by Jan12girl

Once you get use to of spending on yourself that’s when the guilt stops . I love spending on myself. But then I am in check. I may spend more on hair and pedicures. I don’t like to buy expensive or designer products but that’s only because I am not into them and neither into showing off brands. But I do like to buy quality products for myself . When I am overdoing it I do feel guilty .

It's weird but I feel I'm overdoing it if I'm paying for services like nail salon, eyelash extensions etc. because they are services that don't last years 🤣 I would love to feel beautiful after these services but me calculating the amount in my head is driving me nuts! I buy luxury brands once in a while and in fact, at the moment I have a bag being made for me by an Italian artisan. But it's something I can justify the cost because I know I'd be using it in the next 10 years or so. I'm just weird I guess 🤣

Posted by GemiMay

I am totally with @BaeMax.

I have NO idea why but spending on clothes, shoes and other crap comes naturally gilt-free to me.

Vanity - can’t waste a dime except I looove Brazilian and that’s gets spent on.

Nails and hair - I do not need an effort. I can do it myself.

But hon, you seem like you are a financially savvy and married and you WANT to spend on yourself. So you must have!!!

I don’t want to! That’s different.

You want to feel that pampering - so just do it!

Enjoy!

Yeah. I want to feel beautiful. Like one of those Instagram women with dyed hair, long fancy nails and some eyelash extensions with perfect eyebrows. I know it might sound weird but I'm just totally feeling like I want to "experience" it. To be fair, it's quite expensive for something that will only last few weeks! That's why I'm feeling guilty about the cost.

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Posted by BaeMaxx

A problem of mine. I feel guilty when I spend on myself. You know how some women get regular manicure, pedicure (even sns nails), hair dye, eyelash extensions etc. I don't. Lol I always think the money is better saved or spent on something for the family. My only regular self care expense is my gym membership. I'm very low maintenance. I use Korean products on my skin and so far I don't have wrinkles at my age.

Now, 50% of my salary goes to savings, 50% goes to expenses like food and other extras that the family needs.

This month, I'm only going to be able to save a small amount from my salary because I have my Christmas party soon and I felt like I want to get my hair dyed, my eyebrows laminated and I bought a new dress, jewelry plus presents for my husband and sister. I don't know why but I feel guilty doing this. It's so weird because I was so good in saving all year. And in 12 mos, this is the only time I'll be spending on my hair, eyebrows etc.

Anyone feel the same? How do you not feel guilty spending on yourself?

Unless you have a financial goal I think 50% is too much to put aside, you work very hard you should definitely reward yourself not splurge, I used to also save that much off my salary but once I achieved my goal, I laid back a little bit and started taking care of myself, I'm not saying I don't save anymore I do but only for emergencies, and I spend on myself within reason, but i make sure I earn that.

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Yeah. This year have been great as far as saving. I agree that 50% is too much but my mindset has put me in a spot where I want to feel safe like if we have any job loss for example. We have one child (we're one and done basically) and I think my mind constantly shifts into do I spend $ 150 on eyelash extensions and $ 500 on my hair when I can book a cabin for the family with that money for an overnight stay. Or I can also spend it to take the family out for a nice lunch or dinner. Or I can just put the same amount in the savings account. I wouldn't bat an eyelid to spend on a car for example, because we need a vehicle to get around (we have one car that's how thrifty we are and saving on rego every year lolol) and I'd spend on a nice leather bag that I know I will use for years. I didn't mind spending on laser treatments because they last years and years.

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Posted by BaeMaxx

A problem of mine. I feel guilty when I spend on myself. You know how some women get regular manicure, pedicure (even sns nails), hair dye, eyelash extensions etc. I don't. Lol I always think the money is better saved or spent on something for the family. My only regular self care expense is my gym membership. I'm very low maintenance. I use Korean products on my skin and so far I don't have wrinkles at my age.

Now, 50% of my salary goes to savings, 50% goes to expenses like food and other extras that the family needs.

This month, I'm only going to be able to save a small amount from my salary because I have my Christmas party soon and I felt like I want to get my hair dyed, my eyebrows laminated and I bought a new dress, jewelry plus presents for my husband and sister. I don't know why but I feel guilty doing this. It's so weird because I was so good in saving all year. And in 12 mos, this is the only time I'll be spending on my hair, eyebrows etc.

Anyone feel the same? How do you not feel guilty spending on yourself?

🤔🤔🤔Are you a Gemini or Aqua?

I’ve always noticed Gems and Aqua having a hard time spending money…especially on themselves🤔🤔🤔

No, I don’t at all. Although, I do get a pause when it’s $ 500 or more…. Just make sure I don’t over do it.

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I'm a gemini wahahaha haha well... I'm married to an aqua. Let's say we both been the thrifty type lolololol I am pausing at the moment because apparently, to get my haircut, style d and dyed costs $ 500 lol I'm not gonna be a basic biatch after this appointment hahaha and you know... Hair grows, the roots come back etc. Do I wanna spend money to dye the regrowth etc. Its all adding up in my head. And same goes for the other services I'm getting done like nails... Geezus. Sns costs like 70 dollars and in few weeks my nails would've grown and I need to get the sns removed. Same goes for lashes.... Hahaha but then part of me wants to experience looking high maintenance. I'm so basic and a bit bored with myself. Haaaayyyy lol

Not normally but these last days I went a bit crazy with the shopping and now I'm thinking I might have gone over the top. 🛒🛍️ I'm getting a lot of pre-black Friday deals and I ended up buying so much clothes.

I'm actually not that big of a spender when it comes to clothes and beauty products compared to other women. Not so much into materialistic things but I prefer to spend my money on travels and I don't feel guilty about it most of the time. I'm normally very happy with the purchases I make. 😁

Posted by AbbyNormal

I’m on a journey rn where I try really hard not to guilt myself. I’ve gone a long ways depriving myself and I’m done with that. I’ve taken care of someone else for so long, I stopped taking care of myself—I didn’t even know what I liked anymore! Making a secret Santa wishlist was even difficult lol but you know what, I work hard for it so I’m going to enjoy it. I can want a lot of things, but I only bring myself to buy the things I absolutely love. That’s always helped me not to overspend. I rarely have anything in my closet anymore that I don’t love, which is how I like it. I just don’t like accumulating too much stuff. If I don’t need or love something, I’m not buying for myself.

Since having a child, I've actually become even more tight with myself. Except for birthdays, Christmas etc we don't really spend on anything outside of the usual. I do the same thing as you. I only buy things I know I love and will use for a long time. It helps me justify the cost. The biggest problem for me is spending on things like massage, nails, hair etc because they don't last very long! I can't enjoy them for years. If anything I feel like they just put me in more expense to maintain 🤣

Posted by LadyNeptune

Balance is key. I get what you mean tho because if I compare myself to others I have no desire to pay someone to do my nails or hair or spend money on brand name shit. But I be spending on massages, and plants, and random ass shit. It all evens out I believe. As long as you are meeting your financial goals a little splurge now and then can't hurt. After all, us women be shoppin lol lean into the stereotype.

Hahaha I want to feel like the stereotype! Nails and hair done, eyelashes the entire shebang lolololol but it's not how I roll on a regular basis. I do my own nails, I only ever spend in haircut every 3 months or so, I don't get someone to do facial care for me, I have my reliable foreo thing for my face and my Korean products. I'm really basic lol

Posted by Undine

Nope. Money is to be spent, I won't take them to my grave or leave them to others.

This being said, I've been to friseur or nail salon or gym only a handful of times in my entire life. I'm just a short nails, soap and water, rebellious mane, DIY, low maintenance kind of woman in expensive clothes, surrounded by beautiful things and planning my next holidays while eating gourmet dinner.

Haha. I'd say I'm pretty much the same. Low maintenance woman wearing zimmerman and carrying a louis vuitton 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 but I have trouble paying for nails, hair dye etc.

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Posted by BaeMaxx

A problem of mine. I feel guilty when I spend on myself. You know how some women get regular manicure, pedicure (even sns nails), hair dye, eyelash extensions etc. I don't. Lol I always think the money is better saved or spent on something for the family. My only regular self care expense is my gym membership. I'm very low maintenance. I use Korean products on my skin and so far I don't have wrinkles at my age.

Now, 50% of my salary goes to savings, 50% goes to expenses like food and other extras that the family needs.

This month, I'm only going to be able to save a small amount from my salary because I have my Christmas party soon and I felt like I want to get my hair dyed, my eyebrows laminated and I bought a new dress, jewelry plus presents for my husband and sister. I don't know why but I feel guilty doing this. It's so weird because I was so good in saving all year. And in 12 mos, this is the only time I'll be spending on my hair, eyebrows etc.

Anyone feel the same? How do you not feel guilty spending on yourself?

Unless you have a financial goal I think 50% is too much to put aside, you work very hard you should definitely reward yourself not splurge, I used to also save that much off my salary but once I achieved my goal, I laid back a little bit and started taking care of myself, I'm not saying I don't save anymore I do but only for emergencies, and I spend on myself within reason, but i make sure I earn that.

Yeah. This year have been great as far as saving. I agree that 50% is too much but my mindset has put me in a spot where I want to feel safe like if we have any job loss for example. We have one child (we're one and done basically) and I think my mind constantly shifts into do I spend $ 150 on eyelash extensions and $ 500 on my hair when I can book a cabin for the family with that money for an overnight stay. Or I can also spend it to take the family out for a nice lunch or dinner. Or I can just put the same amount in the savings account. I wouldn't bat an eyelid to spend on a car for example, because we need a vehicle to get around (we have one car that's how thrifty we are and saving on rego every year lolol) and I'd spend on a nice leather bag that I know I will use for years. I didn't mind spending on laser treatments because they last years and years.

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I'm the same when it comes to comparing the cost to holidays. Do I go to the salon and fix a bunch of things or do I fly to Italy. It's travels any time and day! ✈️✌️

Posted by SeaLion

Only time I feel guilty about spending on myself is around Xmas cause all this stuff is on sale and I'm suppose to be buying gifts for other people and not myself.

But I don't have kids so I am free to spend my own money on myself.

Yes. Everything is on sale. Hello black Friday shopping. I already started lolol presents for my husband are all on sale.

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Posted by GemiMay

I am totally with @BaeMax.

I have NO idea why but spending on clothes, shoes and other crap comes naturally gilt-free to me.

Vanity - can’t waste a dime except I looove Brazilian and that’s gets spent on.

Nails and hair - I do not need an effort. I can do it myself.

But hon, you seem like you are a financially savvy and married and you WANT to spend on yourself. So you must have!!!

I don’t want to! That’s different.

You want to feel that pampering - so just do it!

Enjoy!

Yeah. I want to feel beautiful. Like one of those Instagram women with dyed hair, long fancy nails and some eyelash extensions with perfect eyebrows. I know it might sound weird but I'm just totally feeling like I want to "experience" it. To be fair, it's quite expensive for something that will only last few weeks! That's why I'm feeling guilty about the cost.

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I am feeling your thrill!

Meeting Virgo changed my run with men who don’t care about appearance (Scorpio and Aries) and I am having my nails done and all 9 yards of the vanity…

However IF I couldn’t do most of it - HE would be the one paying for it!

Every time my daughter spends $ 350 on her hair - I am having a heart attack and thinking - it is pair of designer shoes!!! 😂😂😂

Please find out how much the whole business and post it!

Do it! You might hate it after all but you’ll cure your craving and be free from doubts.

Can’t wait for your report! 👍

Posted by Timone

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Posted by BaeMaxx

A problem of mine. I feel guilty when I spend on myself. You know how some women get regular manicure, pedicure (even sns nails), hair dye, eyelash extensions etc. I don't. Lol I always think the money is better saved or spent on something for the family. My only regular self care expense is my gym membership. I'm very low maintenance. I use Korean products on my skin and so far I don't have wrinkles at my age.

Now, 50% of my salary goes to savings, 50% goes to expenses like food and other extras that the family needs.

This month, I'm only going to be able to save a small amount from my salary because I have my Christmas party soon and I felt like I want to get my hair dyed, my eyebrows laminated and I bought a new dress, jewelry plus presents for my husband and sister. I don't know why but I feel guilty doing this. It's so weird because I was so good in saving all year. And in 12 mos, this is the only time I'll be spending on my hair, eyebrows etc.

Anyone feel the same? How do you not feel guilty spending on yourself?

Unless you have a financial goal I think 50% is too much to put aside, you work very hard you should definitely reward yourself not splurge, I used to also save that much off my salary but once I achieved my goal, I laid back a little bit and started taking care of myself, I'm not saying I don't save anymore I do but only for emergencies, and I spend on myself within reason, but i make sure I earn that.

Yeah. This year have been great as far as saving. I agree that 50% is too much but my mindset has put me in a spot where I want to feel safe like if we have any job loss for example. We have one child (we're one and done basically) and I think my mind constantly shifts into do I spend $ 150 on eyelash extensions and $ 500 on my hair when I can book a cabin for the family with that money for an overnight stay. Or I can also spend it to take the family out for a nice lunch or dinner. Or I can just put the same amount in the savings account. I wouldn't bat an eyelid to spend on a car for example, because we need a vehicle to get around (we have one car that's how thrifty we are and saving on rego every year lolol) and I'd spend on a nice leather bag that I know I will use for years. I didn't mind spending on laser treatments because they last years and years.

I'm the same when it comes to comparing the cost to holidays. Do I go to the salon and fix a bunch of things or do I fly to Italy. It's travels any time and day! ✈️✌️

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Exactly. Lolol and like if I spend $ 500 in the hair salon, that's only for myself. And a short term thing. But if I put that money on a vacation for the family, even if its a one time thing, it's for 3 people to enjoy hahaha

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Posted by GemiMay

I am totally with @BaeMax.

I have NO idea why but spending on clothes, shoes and other crap comes naturally gilt-free to me.

Vanity - can’t waste a dime except I looove Brazilian and that’s gets spent on.

Nails and hair - I do not need an effort. I can do it myself.

But hon, you seem like you are a financially savvy and married and you WANT to spend on yourself. So you must have!!!

I don’t want to! That’s different.

You want to feel that pampering - so just do it!

Enjoy!

Yeah. I want to feel beautiful. Like one of those Instagram women with dyed hair, long fancy nails and some eyelash extensions with perfect eyebrows. I know it might sound weird but I'm just totally feeling like I want to "experience" it. To be fair, it's quite expensive for something that will only last few weeks! That's why I'm feeling guilty about the cost.

I am feeling your thrill!

Meeting Virgo changed my run with men who don’t care about appearance (Scorpio and Aries) and I am having my nails done and all 9 yards of the vanity…

However IF I couldn’t do most of it - HE would be the one paying for it!

Every time my daughter spends $ 350 on her hair - I am having a heart attack and thinking - it is pair of designer shoes!!! 😂😂😂

Please find out how much the whole business and post it!

Do it! You might hate it after all but you’ll cure your craving and be free from doubts.

Can’t wait for your report! 👍

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I'm expecting to look Instagram worthy after all this. I might get a heart attack when I do the math again but yeah... Fuck it. Lol I ll just do it. 🤣

Posted by BaeMaxx

Posted by LadyNeptune

Balance is key. I get what you mean tho because if I compare myself to others I have no desire to pay someone to do my nails or hair or spend money on brand name shit. But I be spending on massages, and plants, and random ass shit. It all evens out I believe. As long as you are meeting your financial goals a little splurge now and then can't hurt. After all, us women be shoppin lol lean into the stereotype.

Hahaha I want to feel like the stereotype! Nails and hair done, eyelashes the entire shebang lolololol but it's not how I roll on a regular basis. I do my own nails, I only ever spend in haircut every 3 months or so, I don't get someone to do facial care for me, I have my reliable foreo thing for my face and my Korean products. I'm really basic lol

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I think its not entirely rationale for any of us. Like I spent $ 600 on trees and trellis's this weekend and feel really good about it. But last night felt a bit guilty for spending like $ 7 on a movie rental cause the reasoning is I'm already paying for streaming services and its gonna pop up there like next week. But whatevs.

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Posted by Timone

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Posted by BaeMaxx

A problem of mine. I feel guilty when I spend on myself. You know how some women get regular manicure, pedicure (even sns nails), hair dye, eyelash extensions etc. I don't. Lol I always think the money is better saved or spent on something for the family. My only regular self care expense is my gym membership. I'm very low maintenance. I use Korean products on my skin and so far I don't have wrinkles at my age.

Now, 50% of my salary goes to savings, 50% goes to expenses like food and other extras that the family needs.

This month, I'm only going to be able to save a small amount from my salary because I have my Christmas party soon and I felt like I want to get my hair dyed, my eyebrows laminated and I bought a new dress, jewelry plus presents for my husband and sister. I don't know why but I feel guilty doing this. It's so weird because I was so good in saving all year. And in 12 mos, this is the only time I'll be spending on my hair, eyebrows etc.

Anyone feel the same? How do you not feel guilty spending on yourself?

Unless you have a financial goal I think 50% is too much to put aside, you work very hard you should definitely reward yourself not splurge, I used to also save that much off my salary but once I achieved my goal, I laid back a little bit and started taking care of myself, I'm not saying I don't save anymore I do but only for emergencies, and I spend on myself within reason, but i make sure I earn that.

Yeah. This year have been great as far as saving. I agree that 50% is too much but my mindset has put me in a spot where I want to feel safe like if we have any job loss for example. We have one child (we're one and done basically) and I think my mind constantly shifts into do I spend $ 150 on eyelash extensions and $ 500 on my hair when I can book a cabin for the family with that money for an overnight stay. Or I can also spend it to take the family out for a nice lunch or dinner. Or I can just put the same amount in the savings account. I wouldn't bat an eyelid to spend on a car for example, because we need a vehicle to get around (we have one car that's how thrifty we are and saving on rego every year lolol) and I'd spend on a nice leather bag that I know I will use for years. I didn't mind spending on laser treatments because they last years and years.

I'm the same when it comes to comparing the cost to holidays. Do I go to the salon and fix a bunch of things or do I fly to Italy. It's travels any time and day! ✈️✌️

Exactly. Lolol and like if I spend $ 500 in the hair salon, that's only for myself. And a short term thing. But if I put that money on a vacation for the family, even if its a one time thing, it's for 3 people to enjoy hahaha

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Ah that's true. I only have myself to think about so I can spend it all on me. 😂

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Balance is key. I get what you mean tho because if I compare myself to others I have no desire to pay someone to do my nails or hair or spend money on brand name shit. But I be spending on massages, and plants, and random ass shit. It all evens out I believe. As long as you are meeting your financial goals a little splurge now and then can't hurt. After all, us women be shoppin lol lean into the stereotype.

Hahaha I want to feel like the stereotype! Nails and hair done, eyelashes the entire shebang lolololol but it's not how I roll on a regular basis. I do my own nails, I only ever spend in haircut every 3 months or so, I don't get someone to do facial care for me, I have my reliable foreo thing for my face and my Korean products. I'm really basic lol

I think its not entirely rationale for any of us. Like I spent $ 600 on trees and trellis's this weekend and feel really good about it. But last night felt a bit guilty for spending like $ 7 on a movie rental cause the reasoning is I'm already paying for streaming services and its gonna pop up there like next week. But whatevs.

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The trees and trellis' you'd get to enjoy for a long time. $ 600 is totally worth it. But $ 7 on a movie rental which is a one time thing and you don't even get to watch next month is expensive. Wahaha that's how my brain processes these things. I'm so bad lololol

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A problem of mine. I feel guilty when I spend on myself. You know how some women get regular manicure, pedicure (even sns nails), hair dye, eyelash extensions etc. I don't. Lol I always think the money is better saved or spent on something for the family. My only regular self care expense is my gym membership. I'm very low maintenance. I use Korean products on my skin and so far I don't have wrinkles at my age.

Now, 50% of my salary goes to savings, 50% goes to expenses like food and other extras that the family needs.

This month, I'm only going to be able to save a small amount from my salary because I have my Christmas party soon and I felt like I want to get my hair dyed, my eyebrows laminated and I bought a new dress, jewelry plus presents for my husband and sister. I don't know why but I feel guilty doing this. It's so weird because I was so good in saving all year. And in 12 mos, this is the only time I'll be spending on my hair, eyebrows etc.

Anyone feel the same? How do you not feel guilty spending on yourself?

Unless you have a financial goal I think 50% is too much to put aside, you work very hard you should definitely reward yourself not splurge, I used to also save that much off my salary but once I achieved my goal, I laid back a little bit and started taking care of myself, I'm not saying I don't save anymore I do but only for emergencies, and I spend on myself within reason, but i make sure I earn that.

Yeah. This year have been great as far as saving. I agree that 50% is too much but my mindset has put me in a spot where I want to feel safe like if we have any job loss for example. We have one child (we're one and done basically) and I think my mind constantly shifts into do I spend $ 150 on eyelash extensions and $ 500 on my hair when I can book a cabin for the family with that money for an overnight stay. Or I can also spend it to take the family out for a nice lunch or dinner. Or I can just put the same amount in the savings account. I wouldn't bat an eyelid to spend on a car for example, because we need a vehicle to get around (we have one car that's how thrifty we are and saving on rego every year lolol) and I'd spend on a nice leather bag that I know I will use for years. I didn't mind spending on laser treatments because they last years and years.

I'm the same when it comes to comparing the cost to holidays. Do I go to the salon and fix a bunch of things or do I fly to Italy. It's travels any time and day! ✈️✌️

Exactly. Lolol and like if I spend $ 500 in the hair salon, that's only for myself. And a short term thing. But if I put that money on a vacation for the family, even if its a one time thing, it's for 3 people to enjoy hahaha

Ah that's true. I only have myself to think about so I can spend it all on me. 😂

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Hahaha yes!!!!

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Nope. Money is to be spent, I won't take them to my grave or leave them to others.

This being said, I've been to friseur or nail salon or gym only a handful of times in my entire life. I'm just a short nails, soap and water, rebellious mane, DIY, low maintenance kind of woman in expensive clothes, surrounded by beautiful things and planning my next holidays while eating gourmet dinner.

Haha. I'd say I'm pretty much the same. Low maintenance woman wearing zimmerman and carrying a louis vuitton 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 but I have trouble paying for nails, hair dye etc.

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I always disliked being dependent of someone for my looks. Not something, but someone... What if......a pandemic or other disaster was coming and I'd find myself looking like a helpless monkey, hehe?

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Once you get use to of spending on yourself that’s when the guilt stops . I love spending on myself. But then I am in check. I may spend more on hair and pedicures. I don’t like to buy expensive or designer products but that’s only because I am not into them and neither into showing off brands. But I do like to buy quality products for myself . When I am overdoing it I do feel guilty .

It's weird but I feel I'm overdoing it if I'm paying for services like nail salon, eyelash extensions etc. because they are services that don't last years 🤣 I would love to feel beautiful after these services but me calculating the amount in my head is driving me nuts! I buy luxury brands once in a while and in fact, at the moment I have a bag being made for me by an Italian artisan. But it's something I can justify the cost because I know I'd be using it in the next 10 years or so. I'm just weird I guess 🤣

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Eyelash extentions are a waste and honestly every guy I've ever met think they are stupid.

Nails, I used to get them done on a regular basis but not anymore. I like to change my nail color to often so I just do my own. Every once in a while I'll get them done by a professional.

Hair - I just really go to get a trim I don't have them do anything fancy. I am not good with hair but my hair is curly so I can get away with more lazy looks.

I don't think you should feel bad about feeling guilty about not doing those things. Most women don't keep up with all that stuff, I think mostly younger women still looking for a man.

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Once you get use to of spending on yourself that’s when the guilt stops . I love spending on myself. But then I am in check. I may spend more on hair and pedicures. I don’t like to buy expensive or designer products but that’s only because I am not into them and neither into showing off brands. But I do like to buy quality products for myself . When I am overdoing it I do feel guilty .

It's weird but I feel I'm overdoing it if I'm paying for services like nail salon, eyelash extensions etc. because they are services that don't last years 🤣 I would love to feel beautiful after these services but me calculating the amount in my head is driving me nuts! I buy luxury brands once in a while and in fact, at the moment I have a bag being made for me by an Italian artisan. But it's something I can justify the cost because I know I'd be using it in the next 10 years or so. I'm just weird I guess 🤣

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Eyelash extentions are a waste and honestly every guy I've ever met think they are stupid.

Nails, I used to get them done on a regular basis but not anymore. I like to change my nail color to often so I just do my own. Every once in a while I'll get them done by a professional.

Hair - I just really go to get a trim I don't have them do anything fancy. I am not good with hair but my hair is curly so I can get away with more lazy looks.

I don't think you should feel bad about feeling guilty about not doing those things. Most women don't keep up with all that stuff, I think mostly younger women still looking for a man.

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Balance is key. I get what you mean tho because if I compare myself to others I have no desire to pay someone to do my nails or hair or spend money on brand name shit. But I be spending on massages, and plants, and random ass shit. It all evens out I believe. As long as you are meeting your financial goals a little splurge now and then can't hurt. After all, us women be shoppin lol lean into the stereotype.

Hahaha I want to feel like the stereotype! Nails and hair done, eyelashes the entire shebang lolololol but it's not how I roll on a regular basis. I do my own nails, I only ever spend in haircut every 3 months or so, I don't get someone to do facial care for me, I have my reliable foreo thing for my face and my Korean products. I'm really basic lol

I think its not entirely rationale for any of us. Like I spent $ 600 on trees and trellis's this weekend and feel really good about it. But last night felt a bit guilty for spending like $ 7 on a movie rental cause the reasoning is I'm already paying for streaming services and its gonna pop up there like next week. But whatevs.

The trees and trellis' you'd get to enjoy for a long time. $ 600 is totally worth it. But $ 7 on a movie rental which is a one time thing and you don't even get to watch next month is expensive. Wahaha that's how my brain processes these things. I'm so bad lololol

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Yeah same. And I sometimes clown on my bestie for how much he spends on brand name shit that I think is silly. But the same could be said for me with the stuff I buy so I suppose its all relative.

I always spend on myself. I worked hard for my money and I need to treat myself. I actually need to tine it down, I'm always buying stuff that I think I will use and it stays in boxes.

I'd rather it be saved then spend money on impulsive buying.

I think when you have kids, the money goes towards them. At least when they are young, sometimes older too. At some point, you have to learn to spend on things for yourself too.

You are important too.. 😁

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Once you get use to of spending on yourself that’s when the guilt stops . I love spending on myself. But then I am in check. I may spend more on hair and pedicures. I don’t like to buy expensive or designer products but that’s only because I am not into them and neither into showing off brands. But I do like to buy quality products for myself . When I am overdoing it I do feel guilty .

It's weird but I feel I'm overdoing it if I'm paying for services like nail salon, eyelash extensions etc. because they are services that don't last years 🤣 I would love to feel beautiful after these services but me calculating the amount in my head is driving me nuts! I buy luxury brands once in a while and in fact, at the moment I have a bag being made for me by an Italian artisan. But it's something I can justify the cost because I know I'd be using it in the next 10 years or so. I'm just weird I guess 🤣

No that’s not weird. It totally depends on what makes you happy. I am not into luxury brands because in my mind I am calculating if I can travel with that money or little added to it.

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Me too. Like a Louis Vuitton bag. What a waste of money. 😅 You're paying just for the brand not for the function of a bag. For what? To show off to everyone you have a luxury bag? Give me the plane ticket instead. 🥳😂