How do you accept defeat?

This topic was created in the Miscellaneous forum by firebunny on Saturday, March 25, 2017 and has 23 replies.

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@lisabethur8
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you don't.

you accept that you didn't win this time, and you need to get up and live life, and get up in the morning and do it again.

if you fail at anything, just get up and do it again. just like exams, keep studying, keep doing it, cause if you don't, you fall into depression.

so you have to keep going. until you die.

death is not even defeat.

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@firebunny
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Posted by lisabethur8
you don't.

you accept that you didn't win this time, and you need to get up and live life, and get up in the morning and do it again.

if you fail at anything, just get up and do it again. just like exams, keep studying, keep doing it, cause if you don't, you fall into depression.

so you have to keep going. until you die.

death is not even defeat.

I agree with you... but this is not a philosophical thread. This is an empirical thread. The question is better rephrased as "How do you react when defeated in a competition?"

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@Deedee86
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Oh....we are talking about games?

I'm a flip the monopoly board and accuse everyone of cheating kind of person.

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Posted by Deedee86
Oh....we are talking about games?

I'm a flip the monopoly board and accuse everyone of cheating kind of person.

Oh thanks. This is the first responsive answer.

Follow-up question:

How do you move on?

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Posted by Capri-sun
Every winning is a loser at some point. Every loser won't be a winner though.

Defeat should expose your weaknesses, shortcomings, poor execution. Then you build & go that much harder to bounce back & improve.

Defeat should be a sharpening tool, not a death sentence.

Thanks for your wisdom. But as I've said, this is an empirical analysis on how we cope with defeat/failure and how we move on from there.

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Posted by firebunny

Posted by Deedee86
Oh....we are talking about games?

I'm a flip the monopoly board and accuse everyone of cheating kind of person.

Oh thanks. This is the first responsive answer.

Follow-up question:

How do you move on?

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I demand a rematch and do everything possible to win the next time.

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Posted by MyStarsShine
Gracefully

It it ain't meant to be, it ain't meant to be

Simple

Any specific actuation/behavior? How does it feel losing? Are you happy when you lose? If you cared a lot about the game so much, how does it feel losing after?

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Posted by firebunny

Posted by MyStarsShine
Gracefully

It it ain't meant to be, it ain't meant to be

Simple

Any specific actuation/behavior? How does it feel losing? Are you happy when you lose? If you cared a lot about the game so much, how does it feel losing after?

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I never see it as losing though

Just another experience

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I brood over it, long and even 'joyfully'. Even when I don't feel that intense of perceiving the defeat, I intensify it. Why? Coz I want to generate that BIG BANG.

yeah. I've learnt to find the beauty in sorrow.

#dontjudge

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@lisabethur8
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Posted by firebunny

Posted by Capri-sun
Every winning is a loser at some point. Every loser won't be a winner though.

Defeat should expose your weaknesses, shortcomings, poor execution. Then you build & go that much harder to bounce back & improve.

Defeat should be a sharpening tool, not a death sentence.

Thanks for your wisdom. But as I've said, this is an empirical analysis on how we cope with defeat/failure and how we move on from there.

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I didn't understand your "empericial analsysis"

but what's your mars?

I have watched personally two virgo sun men in the throes of defeat and conquer.

one has a scorpio mars the other leo mars.

leo mars was up against another fire mars.

the scorpio mars would NEVER accept defeat until the other had to bow down.

leo mars acted more childish, impudent and pissed off, like a baby kind of...the way aries around here are talked about being babies.

well fire mars is baby. and off they go, temper tantrum.

then come back like nothing happened. lol

it's cute though but really nice that it blows off and dies down.

but scorpio mars.... ooo----weeee.... phew. scary!!!!

edit -- for better introspection on this...the leo mars has Libra moon and libra venus...so the temper tantrum and running away helped him not confront too much. 😆 heehee.