@firebunny
14 Years10,000+ Posts
No. No matter how obvious it is.
you don't.
you accept that you didn't win this time, and you need to get up and live life, and get up in the morning and do it again.
if you fail at anything, just get up and do it again. just like exams, keep studying, keep doing it, cause if you don't, you fall into depression.
so you have to keep going. until you die.
death is not even defeat.
Posted by lisabethur8
you don't.you accept that you didn't win this time, and you need to get up and live life, and get up in the morning and do it again.
if you fail at anything, just get up and do it again. just like exams, keep studying, keep doing it, cause if you don't, you fall into depression.
so you have to keep going. until you die.
death is not even defeat.
I agree with you... but this is not a philosophical thread. This is an empirical thread. The question is better rephrased as "How do you react when defeated in a competition?"
i got a fortune cookie that said this once

Oh....we are talking about games?
I'm a flip the monopoly board and accuse everyone of cheating kind of person.
I don't play so I don't get to win nor lose.
Posted by Deedee86
Oh....we are talking about games?I'm a flip the monopoly board and accuse everyone of cheating kind of person.
Oh thanks. This is the first responsive answer.
Follow-up question:
How do you move on?
Posted by twinkletoes
i got a fortune cookie that said this once
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Can you explain what this means?
Posted by firebunny
Posted by twinkletoes
i got a fortune cookie that said this once
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Can you explain what this means?
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Yep, I sure can. 😉
Posted by Capri-sun
Every winning is a loser at some point. Every loser won't be a winner though.Defeat should expose your weaknesses, shortcomings, poor execution. Then you build & go that much harder to bounce back & improve.
Defeat should be a sharpening tool, not a death sentence.
Thanks for your wisdom. But as I've said, this is an empirical analysis on how we cope with defeat/failure and how we move on from there.
Posted by firebunny
Posted by Deedee86
Oh....we are talking about games?I'm a flip the monopoly board and accuse everyone of cheating kind of person.
Oh thanks. This is the first responsive answer.
Follow-up question:
How do you move on?
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I demand a rematch and do everything possible to win the next time.
Gracefully
It it ain't meant to be, it ain't meant to be
Simple
Posted by Deedee86
Posted by firebunny
Posted by Deedee86
Oh....we are talking about games?I'm a flip the monopoly board and accuse everyone of cheating kind of person.
Oh thanks. This is the first responsive answer.
Follow-up question:
How do you move on?
I demand a rematch and do everything possible to win the next time.
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Lmao. Seriously?
I don't care really ?
Posted by firebunny
Posted by Deedee86
Posted by firebunny
Posted by Deedee86
Oh....we are talking about games?I'm a flip the monopoly board and accuse everyone of cheating kind of person.
Oh thanks. This is the first responsive answer.
Follow-up question:
How do you move on?
I demand a rematch and do everything possible to win the next time.
Lmao. Seriously?
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Yup!
Posted by MyStarsShine
GracefullyIt it ain't meant to be, it ain't meant to be
Simple
Any specific actuation/behavior? How does it feel losing? Are you happy when you lose? If you cared a lot about the game so much, how does it feel losing after?
Posted by Teena
I don't care really ?
Do you congratulate the winner?
Posted by firebunny
Posted by MyStarsShine
GracefullyIt it ain't meant to be, it ain't meant to be
Simple
Any specific actuation/behavior? How does it feel losing? Are you happy when you lose? If you cared a lot about the game so much, how does it feel losing after?
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I never see it as losing though
Just another experience
I see the war not the battle.—
?
Posted by firebunny
Posted by Teena
I don't care really ?
Do you congratulate the winner?
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Of course why not ?

Defeat is temporary. The sun always returns.
I brood over it, long and even 'joyfully'. Even when I don't feel that intense of perceiving the defeat, I intensify it. Why? Coz I want to generate that BIG BANG.
yeah. I've learnt to find the beauty in sorrow.
Posted by firebunny
Posted by Capri-sun
Every winning is a loser at some point. Every loser won't be a winner though.Defeat should expose your weaknesses, shortcomings, poor execution. Then you build & go that much harder to bounce back & improve.
Defeat should be a sharpening tool, not a death sentence.
Thanks for your wisdom. But as I've said, this is an empirical analysis on how we cope with defeat/failure and how we move on from there.
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I didn't understand your "empericial analsysis"
but what's your mars?
I have watched personally two virgo sun men in the throes of defeat and conquer.
one has a scorpio mars the other leo mars.
leo mars was up against another fire mars.
the scorpio mars would NEVER accept defeat until the other had to bow down.
leo mars acted more childish, impudent and pissed off, like a baby kind of...the way aries around here are talked about being babies.
well fire mars is baby. and off they go, temper tantrum.
then come back like nothing happened. lol
it's cute though but really nice that it blows off and dies down.
but scorpio mars.... ooo----weeee.... phew. scary!!!!
edit -- for better introspection on this...the leo mars has Libra moon and libra venus...so the temper tantrum and running away helped him not confront too much. 😆 heehee.
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