Ever turn someone down cause they were not hot ENOUGH?

Honestly please. And details too.

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"Not being attracted to smb doesnt necessarily mean you are turning them down bcz they were not hot enough."-cvurko

No! I love men who looks like you can remember!

The only thing is turn off is nasty cocky attitude or stupidity or absence of sense of humor. Personality is everything to me!

Posted by LadyPootsAlot
Of course. If I don't find someone attractive, I don't date them. Period. End of story. No leading them on, no getting a free meal or drink out of it, just a polite no. Everyone's definition of hot is going to be personal, though. I think some guys are hot that other people think are ugly. *shrugs*

+1000 from me on this!

Posted by narayana
Who hasn't?

I haven't.

Some people don't even get the chance to turn somebody down

If sexual attraction isn't there then what's the point?

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Posted by RedShoes
Some people don't even get the chance to turn somebody down

Turning people down isn't fun. It doesn't feel good. It sucks. That's why some women are such bitches when they go out. That keeps people away so they don't have to do it.

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Never said it isn't. Just saying that questions like "Who hasn't?", regarding anything, are almost always unreasonable

Posted by halalbabe
no

@narayana now what?

who's liking everybody's posts besides mine lmao

Posted by xXxQueenliciaXxX
Absolutely.

And I'm sure people are feeling eager to automatically label me or anyone else who has done this as shallow, but I could care less.

A mental attraction without any physical attraction is just a friendship.

It takes all of the elements (physical and mental) to create a romantic attraction.

Right. And if he approaches you looking for a relationship you can't downgrade that to a friendship. Women always think that by categorizing a guy into the 'friend zone' that somehow it's gonna change his original intent. It's not.

Posted by cvurko
Not being attracted to smb doesnt necessarily mean you are turning them down bcz they were not hot enough.

Yes. Exactly. Don't know how so many people misinterpreted it

Posted by Noni05
If I'm not physically attracted I don't waste your time unless you give me a reason why I should still give you a chance. There's been one or two ..

wut

Yes, and you bitches are lying if you say no. You HAVE to have sexual compatibility.

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Posted by cvurko
Not being attracted to smb doesnt necessarily mean you are turning them down bcz they were not hot enough.

Yes. Exactly. Don't know how so many people misinterpreted it

oh plz little one. You set that question up so that only one conclusion is plausible.

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That's not what I had in mind

I imagined it like this all along

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Posted by cvurko
Not being attracted to smb doesnt necessarily mean you are turning them down bcz they were not hot enough.

Yes. Exactly. Don't know how so many people misinterpreted it

So what are you actually asking if we're supposedly misinterpreting your words?

To most people, "not being hot enough" = "not being physically attractive enough".

I don't see what else it could mean.

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No not the attractiveness part. Ugh forget it I can't even explain it in my native language and the thread is growing in an unexpected direction that I can't change. Better leave it be

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Posted by xXxQueenliciaXxX
Absolutely.

And I'm sure people are feeling eager to automatically label me or anyone else who has done this as shallow, but I could care less.

A mental attraction without any physical attraction is just a friendship.

It takes all of the elements (physical and mental) to create a romantic attraction.

I have never dated online nor will I. To me it doesn't look like making meaningful connections with people, one of whom might be someone I could fall in love with. It looks like Amazon shopping for people. Therefore, everyone I have ever dated was someone whose personality I've known at least a little. A bad personality is just as bad as not being cute. Both are a turn-off. Being funny, kind, and smart goes a LOOOOOONG way for me.

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I agree. Dating online doesn't work for me either because I don't know if I like the way they smell or not - that's a big deal!

Also, I went out with someone once just because I thought he was super hot ,but spent a few hours with him and immediately filed him in the friend zone because he wasn't funny or interesting to me- he was sort of awkward and goofy.

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it's not about looks for me. i am more attracted to one's personality rather than the wrapper it comes in. i have dated men who werent considered very attractive but they were very attractive in my eyes. on the converse, i have ended relationships with "beautiful" men before bc they were dumb as a box of rocks, or something else unsavory. physical appearance can be worked on and improved upon but the personality, or soul, is harder to augment. that's what I'm most interested in.

Posted by LadyPootsAlot
We're talking about how stuff works in real life.

Okay, LadyPootsAlot.

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Posted by cvurko
Not being attracted to smb doesnt necessarily mean you are turning them down bcz they were not hot enough.

Yes. Exactly. Don't know how so many people misinterpreted it

So what are you actually asking if we're supposedly misinterpreting your words?

To most people, "not being hot enough" = "not being physically attractive enough".

I don't see what else it could mean.

No not the attractiveness part. Ugh forget it I can't even explain it in my native language and the thread is growing in an unexpected direction that I can't change. Better leave it be

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Do you mean somebody that other people wouldn't find attractive - like someone not conventionally attractive ?