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Posted by ReallyNiceAriesPerson
Ok??_this dude sends me an email thingHe's not my type and because I am not here to piss around with anyone's feelings or bullshit anyone or waste their time or play games etc etc — OR go on pointless dates so I can get on DXP and spin them into colorful yarns for everyone (tempting though it sounds??_.) I send a quick rejection email??_.
—Thanks for your email however I am not your type.
You look very handsome your photo and I am sure it won't be long before you are off this stupid dating site.Have a great day, take care
RNAP??So I am thinking he will read my email and move on (as I am always being told to do.)
What did I do wrong————?? I now pass this along to our panel of judges
Should I have simply ignored him? Is that the required on line etiquette?
Hahahaha you make me laugh!
Yes! You should have ignored him!
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I feel it is rude to just ignore people.
He will probably go away.
If not I will take him out for dinner and spin y'all a dxp yarn about it.
Bit of sport in between footy and cricket season..... Geez that sounds almost Scorpionioc🙂
Is that even a word— Scorpionioc?
Alcohol is a poison.
are you really old and grumpy? I don't get that vibe (well I had to sneak in a Dennis Denuto quote somewhere today)
Posted by ReallyNiceAriesPerson
Is that even a word— Scorpionioc?
Alcohol is a poison.Haha you should!!!
I had a thread a while ago when I joined a dating site... I was gonna go on a date with a dude from each sign of the zodiac and report back to DXP... but then I got distracted and lost interest.
You should do it tho! It would be a ripper of a thread
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Yeah maybe..... Distract myself from blowing my brains out because I am not married to TaurusBoy. For a little while anyway.
Why did you get distracted? You told me that was an Aries thing.
would it work? I mean if I know I am not interested in the guy.....that may cloud my research.
I think I'm too much of a hardarse.
We should get GemsR to do it.
Yeah....I would be great at that....
"Hi, I am rnap and you are my lab rat for the night. I want to see how you roll on a first date."
I'd just be taking the piss the whole night....still, if it is for research purposes...
For the greater good of the DXP community and all that.
Posted by everevolvingepithet
Funny you should mention lab rats, I was thinking about them and rhesus monkeys the other day.
These days men pretty much are like that what with pop psychology and women loving that sort of thing. It's not a bad thing tbh just don't overdo and go power mad kwim ?
Like Liz Hurley lmfao.
I wouldn't mind being Liz Hurley - just don't you be Hugh Grant
Posted by TastesOfChaos
or Shane Warne...I'd rather Hugh Grant!
Silly old Hugh. No offense to Divine Brown, but if I was a guy and had Liz at home I'd have been in my hotel room having phonegasms with her and not whoring round town.
Guess it is a guy thing??
LOL. Hugh's yer daddy?
Quite possibly!
I always thought him a foppish git with no testicles (don't know him personally of course - just an observation) and could never work out what Liz saw in him.
yes Bling - because he was ACTING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
HAHAHAHAHA RNAP. I really should come around more often. So what happened? Did he finally go away?
I used to respond to everyone and try to give the polite "no dice", but I found that I got the same kind of "oh no you don't bad girl, I'll win you over" crap back. Three things.... I either ignore, block or send the canned match.com response where match.com tells them you aren't into them. It comes across cold and heartless without you having to do it. Plus, they include links to other people in the same turn down so they can go off and find someone else to pester.
What else is going on in your dating world my lady?
Dating one of every sign? Ugh, I'm a Gem and even I don't have that flighty stamina. 🙂
Hi Elle! Yes, we wubz ewe too. Thank goodness we can still all keep in contact on the faceplace! Did you happen to catch our All Hallows ridiculousness?
How was yours—?
What's up with the Gems? Who are these hos and where do they hang out? I'll go set them straight, I speak their language.
Posted by GemsRaGalsBestPal
HAHAHAHAHA RNAP. I really should come around more often. So what happened? Did he finally go away?I used to respond to everyone and try to give the polite "no dice", but I found that I got the same kind of "oh no you don't bad girl, I'll win you over" crap back. Three things.... I either ignore, block or send the canned match.com response where match.com tells them you aren't into them. It comes across cold and heartless without you having to do it. Plus, they include links to other people in the same turn down so they can go off and find someone else to pester.
What else is going on in your dating world my lady?
Dating one of every sign? Ugh, I'm a Gem and even I don't have that flighty stamina. 🙂
lol. blocked him. all good.
Account cancelled. Too much fuss. I guess I could re-open it just for the silly stories:
Like the chappie (approx 60 yrs) who sent me a message and I replied "thanks so much for your message but I am probably not your type. Good luck with everything, Have a nice day blah blah" and he sends me another message saying "oh - so you won't go out with me because I am ugly. What is the problem? we have the same interests" (cooking eating - duh - doesn't everyone??)
so then I had to send him another message saying "no, I didn't say you were ugly. I said I didn't think I was your type and I don't want to waste your time etc etc."
I did invite a Crab out last week (we happened to both be going to the same place a while ago but I got ill and had to cancel.)
I saw he was still on the site when I was cancelling out and thought it would be a friendly gesture to ask him out (he had been on a few bad dates - chicks got him to buy drinks then went home with some other dude type thing.)
So I thought a light hearted evening with a goofy Ram would give him a little boost?
Maybe not? We'll see. He is not my type in the looks/age or possibly job department so it would just be a friendly thing.
I think it's probably best if I don't 'go out' with anyone - I love someone and if I am not good enough for them, then I am not sure I should be out looking to date the also-rans. We all know what happens when we settle😢
But then again I have an article somewhere (will find it and post it up) full of useful advice like:
'You are more likely to get married if you go out on more dates - even if they are dates with Mr
Wrong.'
I think if there is a chance you are going to drink 2 bottle of ouzo at dinner and shag some guy in the cloak room it's probably better if he was Mr Right. Each to their own. Vive le difference.
Let's swap war stories from Match.com shall we soldiers—??
- You're hot :-)
- Thanks.
- You wanna have sex?
(no response)
Anyway that's a guy's point of view. I'm sure it looks different from a woman's perspecitve.. 😉 Either way love sure is complicated, lol !
Let's swap war stories from Match.com shall we soldiers—??
- You're hot :-)
- Thanks.
- You wanna have sex?
(no response)Anyway that's a guy's point of view. I'm sure it looks different from a woman's perspecitve.. 😉 Either way love sure is complicated, lol !
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Well some girls DO wanna have sex. Just not for 10 minutes with some random.
The score so far:
AQUA: as above....
the chappie (approx 60 yrs) who sent me a message and I replied "thanks so much for your message but I am probably not your type. Good luck with everything, Have a nice day blah blah" and he sends me another message saying "oh - so you won't go out with me because I am ugly. What is the problem? we have the same interests" (cooking eating - duh - doesn't everyone??)
so then I had to send him another message saying "no, I didn't say you were ugly. I said I didn't think I was your type and I don't want to waste your time etc etc."
CANCER:
I have now sent him 4 emails in the course of 12 months and I fear he has reported me to the police for stalking him
LEO:
think I have scared him off🙂(I typed him something after a chatty witty DXP exchange - I forgot everyone knows me here!)
that's 3 down
Heheeeeheeehehehe.....
I've got a new one.... dude and I are emailing for the last few days. We're talking being witty and what not.
Tonight we get on im.....
Here's my favorite part of the conversation.....
HIM: question
can you see this profile?
THIS IS PROFILE
I have never been so attracted to a woman in my life.....
ME: Yep! I can see it. She's hot.
HIM: lol
read the profile
ME: yes?
she's clearly very intellegent
HIM: totally
why else would she be yelling?
ME: did you email this specimen of brain power yet?
HIM: I'm so intimidated
ME: I totally think you should
HIM: I don't think I can
ME: why is that?
HIM: cuz I'm so intimidated
For a minute, I lost my head and didn't realize he was kidding. Fug. That was almost super uncomfortable.
" Trust me Lady, you can't handle it."
only one way to find out 😆
it would only take a firey air sign like gemsragal, To flow her volcanic lava through my deeeeeeeep long ocean.
Never tried online dating ... but I recently saw my ex's current profile on OKStupid, and it was so unlike him that if the profile didn't have photos of him (2 of which I took) I would never have guessed it was he. His "self description" made him out to be such a victim of cheating exes in his past ... yet I know for a fact that at least two women besides myself dumped him because HE was cheating.
The pics in his profile were all from 2-3 years ago when he was in much better physical shape than he is now ... also his "self description" made him seem like SUCH the Mr. Nice Guy without any mention of his compulsive lying and chronic inability to keep his cock in his pants. Some of the answers to his " compatibility questions" were blatant lies.
And this is why I don't do online dating.
LoveBucket - You know, I actually never saw the Pisces again. We had that time where we discussd seeing each other in person, but for one reason or another I never saw him when he was in town. kinda silly, but DXP is responsible for part of that (and I say that in a good way). One day, I just woke up and decided..... eh, fuck it, time to be over this piece of shit.
Funny enough, he still calls every time he's in town. He was here over Christmas and I spoke to him briefly on the phone.... he's got a fucking girlfriend now or something like that. I said something like, "Then why would you want to see me? You know that's not a good thing." To which he says something like, "But, you're not just any girl, You're you. I can't not see you." WTFF EVER! Btw, it's a good thing I moved and he doesn't know where I live.
He's running game and it's obvious, it's just sometimes I get nostalgic. I'm over expecting to change his stripes. It's a process letting go, but I've taken a few steps to putting him behind me. I'm also having to admit to myslf that for the time being, he's going to remain one of those people who will always have some power over me until I move far enough away from him in my heart..... even if I am only holding onto an ideal.
Suuuuuuuuuuucks when you have to face truths about yourself that are less than attractive.
Posted by AutumnalChick
Never tried online dating ... but I recently saw my ex's current profile on OKStupid, and it was so unlike him that if the profile didn't have photos of him (2 of which I took) I would never have guessed it was he. His "self description" made him out to be such a victim of cheating exes in his past ... yet I know for a fact that at least two women besides myself dumped him because HE was cheating.The pics in his profile were all from 2-3 years ago when he was in much better physical shape than he is now ... also his "self description" made him seem like SUCH the Mr. Nice Guy without any mention of his compulsive lying and chronic inability to keep his cock in his pants. Some of the answers to his " compatibility questions" were blatant lies.
And this is why I don't do online dating.
OKStupid, Snatch.com, Plenty Offish. They're all the same, lol! Online dating is fun and just something to supplement meeting people out in the *gasp* real world. I know he was a lying SOB in his profile, ut if you think back he probably fd you the same bullshit when you two met, he just did it verbally. If not, maybe it's his game now, it's a good one. They, for the most part, all have one. It's all about seeing through it to decide if they're worth it.
Posted by highlander
it would only take a firey air sign like gemsragal, To flow her volcanic lava through my deeeeeeeep long ocean.
Oh you. Come here you. Let me warm up your darkest, coolest parts. I'm feeling extra infectiously spicey today.
OKStupid, Snatch.com, Plenty Offish. They're all the same, lol! Online dating is fun and just something to supplement meeting people out in the *gasp* real world. I know he was a lying SOB in his profile, ut if you think back he probably fd you the same bullshit when you two met, he just did it verbally. If not, maybe it's his game now, it's a good one. They, for the most part, all have one. It's all about seeing through it to decide if they're worth it.
Haha, yeah he didfeed me the samebullshit IRL. Although he couldn't lie about his appearance.
As for me, I'm much more wary now of guys who claim to be forever victimized by evil, psycho women. Either they are lying about their exes, or they can't learn from past mistakes and constantly go for the same type of woman ... neither of which is a good sign.
I thought that I was the first non-cheater that the OKStupid guy had ever been with. HA! HA! Dummy...
HAHAHAHAHA, I've fallen for the same bullshit.
I think the same is true for anyone of the opposite sex on a date. You hear them talking about not being able to find a nice person, or being continually cheated on, or, my personal favorite, ALL THEIR CRAZY EXES..... you just know they made them that way.
LOL, dating sucks, but it sure is sucky fun.
Hahahaha, I will say that in my younger days I once took a bunch of pictures of myself and my ex and cut him out of all of them and used them all as my pictures for a dating website profile..... just to be a bitch.
Childish? Definitely.
Funny? Absolutely.
i almost married someone i met online. we were together for three years. i kinda knew from the start he wasn't right for me, but thought i'd give him a chance seeing that the whole approach was out of my comfort zone. while, i will never distrust my intuition again, i'm glad i tried it out.
Posted by GemsRaGalsBestPal
Hahahaha, I will say that in my younger days I once took a bunch of pictures of myself and my ex and cut him out of all of them and used them all as my pictures for a dating website profile..... just to be a bitch.Childish? Definitely.
Funny? Absolutely.
Hee! 😄
So what about people who *only* do online dating? One of my best friends is an online dating junkie, she has profiles with all the major sites and is always on them. Constantly dating, going out with 2-4 different guys per week, but never finding "the one." I wonder if she no longer has the ability to meet guys IRL. I've asked her about that possibility and she says online dating is easier than meeting people IRL ... a constant stream of first dates seems exhausting to me, but what do I know? I've never tried it.
LOL.. their best pics are either of what you've taken, or them wearing what you've given/presented. Raises such deep resentment... as for profile lies? Gosh, like GemsRA says, they have a mask to deceive all.
click to expandIsn't that always the way? In my ex-husband's Facebook profile pic he's wearing stuff I bought him 7+ years ago. I got rid of everything he ever gave me, so the concept is baffling to me. Though his excuse is probably that I have great style sense, and when we were married I bought every stitch of clothing and accessory he ever wore to complement his body type, coloring, and personality ... and now that he has to dress himself, he is totally clueless.
And to that I say HAHAHAHAHAAAAAA asshole.
That's excellent Autumn. I love it when it's too late for them and then they start going.... fuck, she really did help me out a lot in the following ways. Damn straight son, and I ain't returning to help you.... EVER AGAIN.
Pssssssssst...... I has a date tonight.
Posted by GemsRaGalsBestPal
He was here over Christmas and I spoke to him briefly on the phone.... he's got a fucking girlfriend now or something like that. I said something like, "Then why would you want to see me? You know that's not a good thing." To which he says something like, "But, you're not just any girl, You're you. I can't not see you." WTFF EVER!
"I can't not see you .... (unless my poor dumb GF finds out, in which case I will make up some bullshit story and it will most likely involve YOU being the crazy one who can't let go, and pestering ME)..."
WTF EVER!
He's running game and it's obvious, it's just sometimes I get nostalgic. I'm over expecting to change his stripes. It's a process letting go, but I've taken a few steps to putting him behind me. I'm also having to admit to myslf that for the time being, he's going to remain one of those people who will always have some power over me until I move far enough away from him in my heart..... even if I am only holding onto an ideal.
Suuuuuuuuuuucks when you have to face truths about yourself that are less than attractive.
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Doesn't it though! Suuuuuuuuuuucks when you are with someone and there are really a lot of good things about them, if ONLY they could let go of that one fatal flaw like being a liar or serial cheater ... then everything would be perfect.
My less-than-attractive truths involve my willingness to give them another chance and my hope that they will change that fatal flaw ... This is otherwise known as stupidity ::smh::
Less stupidity for me in 2012 puhleeeze!
Posted by TheSultana
dont change ur profile to a d-bag one... u wouldnt know what kind you might attract. Its always a process of screening. Put out enough spunk in it just so people with the right kinda spunk approach you.
Word. A little editing and you'll start getting hit up by sweet girls who have a secret dirty inner freak.
The fuck?
Dating is effing weird.
Ok, so second date tonight.... First date was on Monday of this week. Casual Mexican food dinner, nice conversation, no drinks and nothing after. Total time spent on date - 1 hr 15 min.
The next day, he texts to say he had a good time and would like to see me again. I'm thinking the same. We make plans for Saturday night, tonight.
He picks me up and we go for sushi. Dinner is nice, casual conversation. When we leave I ask where we're going next and he tells me he has plans later and is taking me home. When we get to my house he walks me to the door and kisses me goodnight (an awesome kiss). He says he's had a great time and wants to see me again. I agree. Nice soft kiss. He then says something along the lines of, "You want me to come inside." I respond "I had a nice time tonight, now you best be on your way." He leaves. Total time spent on date - 1 hr 30 min.
Did I mention it's Saturday night? Did I mention that because it was our second date and SATURDAY I expected we'd be spending more time together? Did I mention now he has additional plans tonight and I'm dressed up with none?
What has two thumbs and is peeved? This girl.
Is he the type that typically overbooks his schedule? Was he putting forth minimal effort to see if he could get laid? If he was trying to get laid why not put alcohol in the mix? I'm cornfused.
No shit right? Like, I've got more plans for the night, but I can come in and blow my wad real quick.... hope you don't mind if I'm unattentive to you. Kthanxbaigottarun—?
I hate dating. Thing is, other that all that jazz he was a nice guy. I'm trying to come up with a viable reason as to why this behavior happened, but I've got nothing....
No prob....
GemsRablahblahblah's guide to dating via Jenna Marbles:
Posted by TheSultana
Maybe he is in an ER kinda emergency to get laid with you lol... did he say he had "other plans" cockily n kinda tried to seduce u?if not, jus an insensitive twat.
No, it wasn't cocky. It was legit, like maybe he told buddies he'd meet up with them at a football party.... not at all like, I have another date lined up. And it didn't feel like he was really trying to come into my home, more like he was trying to pat himself on the back for being such a good kisser—? Like, yeah, she wants me.
WTFF.
Now, what do I do if he actually calls.... I'll have to say something.
There's something I'm not telling you guys..... it's his sign.....
It makes this whole thing very 😄 😄 😄 😄 😄
I feel like I've been down this road before......
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is it hard to chat up chicks?
not so much for a dapper lad about town such as yourself, clad in your flash addidas clobber but for mere mortals?
I see young ladies being so scathing sometimes and it really pisses me off. All they had to do was say "no thanks I am right for a drink" or whatever, but I have seen a few launch into the poor guy and I wonder if it scars him for next time he thinks about chatting someone up.