What To Do About Bully At Work?

I work in a car dealership which is a huge ground for bullying, yet not always to be taken seriously. I work in the internet (BDC)department. My General Managers fiancé, though does not exactly work there, has a big part in our department. She really only comes in if our department is not doing too well, and she is the one who interviews potential employees and agrees or disagrees with the Internet manager whether or not to hire.

She hired our newest manager in Jan. He has been horrible. Not disrespectful, but our department has been doing horrible since he was hired. He is very sneaky, lies a lot, throws us girls under the bus often, and the rest of the girls in my department (as well as the other managers) think he might be working for another dealership and is trying to ruin our rankings. As crazy as that sounds, that is common in the car business.

Over the past few weeks, the GMs fiancé, Emma, has been in often to give the new manager whatever kind of shit she can. Business wise, personally, just anything. He is new to BDC so he is learning, and she teaches. Us girls have very much enjoyed the debates they would get into. Whether it be political, scientific, just anything. The whole situation has been super stressful because although our new manager is our manager, us girls have still been getting a lot of shit of not being good and we were pretty much told he will not be going anywhere anytime soon.

Flash forward last week, he got married and had his honeymoon. Emma was not in daily, as she must have been on her own mental vacation as well. The few days she was in, I was her next target and for absolutely no good reason. The thing about Emma, is she likes to remind that she is a "higher up." We know not to take her too seriously. Yet, I love her like the older sister I never had. Her and us girls all have a group text chat and we all text daily just "omg what do you guys think of this dress" and just friendly things.

The first thing that made me kind of like "wtf?" was 2 Mondays ago. My manager was there, as was our tech support guy and they asked me for food from my families restaurant up the street from the dealership. I call in and order food for delivery. 25 minutes later, Emma says "omg does food always take that long? I would never accept that and that is bad business." I said "I called 25 minutes ago, typical delivery is a half hour-45 minutes. You see, we are really busy because we make amazing food." The food arrives, she asks Bert (tech support guy) if he likes it. "Yes it is very good" and she replies "well I hope it is not poisoned" I reply "why would you even think that?" she does not reply.

Forward to last Friday. She is alone in the office with me for about 15 minutes. Asking about my appointments. I had one lady not show up. She claimed it must have been a fake appointment to make myself look good. Then yelled at me about a lead that wanted a pre owned manual Tacoma, which we do not have. She yelled at me for saying we do not have one. She claims people only care for manual because they think it is cheaper. In my experience, people want a manual because they are super fun to drive. I kept my mouth shut and just "ok my bad".

Forward this past Wednesday. It is her, one of the other girls (her favorite) and me. She tore me apart all day. I called a customer and asked if still in the market, we have great deals now, etc. The customer was super rude, yes she bought elsewhere, she would never do business with us because of what she had heard about us. She literally yelled at me for about a minute and a half for even calling. I kept silent. When I heard she was done yelling, I said "well I am sorry to hear you did not want to give us a chance, enjoy your new vehicle, bye." Emma yelled at me, told me that was totally unprofessional, very immature, and that she should write me up for it. "Ooook my bad, what should I have said instead?" She did not answer. About 5 minutes later, a customer called in, I answered, she wanted to know if certain vehicles had 0% finance available. I reply "Do you have time to come in today to speak with finance regarding that?" (that's what I am supposed to do) and the lady kind of bitched about it. I told her the information she needed. She had more finance questions. I asked Emma if I could transfer the call to her (that is why she was there after all because no manager.) She took the call, talked to the lady for about 10 minutes, hung up. 5 minutes later, the boy I have a crush on at work (that she knows about) walked in and she just laid it into me. "you should know those things by now, you are always transferring calls, you clearly do not seem to care about this job. Your pizza place probably isn't that great because you used to work there but it is probably better now." Like this bitch laid it into me. I yelled back and stuck up for myself. She kicked me out for 15 minutes. I came back she was like "are you cooled off? You sure you don't need another cigarette?" "yep."

So that was crazy. One other girl she does pick on just came in 5 minutes after my "cool off" and she started going at her about what me and her had just fought about. The other girl has been very sick of this lady for a while. Before Emma left she said "try to look good without this guy (the manager)." We HAVE. On Monday before that, we had a total of 24 people in the dealership. Only 7 bought. Out of those 24 people, 6 were mine, 5 had bought. The other girl she picks on stated that, and Emma just looked at me (I refused to look at her as to not let her think I care anymore about her approval.) And she tried to say something but only came up with "ha I'm sure just used cars, we do not care about those."

So what does one do? I am thinking of quitting and have renewed my resume, sent a few things out. But am I being a little bitch about everything?

Also, yes I did cry. I cried when I came back in and she kept going. I just looked at her and started crying. I have other things going on outside of work and she was the straw that broke the camels back. In response to me crying, she said "we do not cry in the car business, only weak people cry." I was strong to not tell her to fuck herself.

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Is there anybody out there?

Hellooooo our there

I don't care what business you are in and how competitive it is. People can get their point across without yelling and being condescending. If it was me, I would look for another job. And I personally think there is something wrong with this woman. I don't care if you liked her at first and started trusting her but that is where you went wrong. Now you are not only hurt and disappointed but she is really starting to pull your chain and it's getting downright nasty. She's nasty, and I'd have to meet up with her late some night and alone and tell her if she ever speaks to me like that again that I would punch her in the fucking mouth.

Yeah move tf on and once you have a secure job make sure the higher ups know the reason your leaving is this bitchhhh.

It’s crazy to me. She doesn’t even work there, her fiancé does. Why does she have so much say?? Cray cray.

Posted by LadyNeptune
Yeah move tf on and once you have a secure job make sure the higher ups know the reason your leaving is this bitchhhh.

It’s crazy to me. She doesn’t even work there, her fiancé does. Why does she have so much say?? Cray cray.

yeah, sounds like a lot of drama and stress and the higher ups may not care anyway since they apparently condone it - but it's worth a shot, especially if she's a good high seller and she tells the owner and he notices that there is a lot of turnover - but she needs to do it for her own sanity