Would you date someone

i see birth charts as indicating tendencies and capacities. nurture-nature can swing that differently.

i might.

Maybe.

My dad knows a Libra who's his birthday twin, down to the year. He says they couldn't be more different.

my biggest heartbreak is a great person, so definitely (march 4th)

there are lots of exes whose birthday twins I would reject though, bc their behavior was off-puttingly ridiculous

including march 1st & anyone born in July (maybe even august)

Posted by victoria-sakura
Maybe.

My dad knows a Libra who's his birthday twin, down to the year. He says they couldn't be more different.

My step dad and my former Virgo co worker are birthday twins but the only similarity I see between them is they were both fat. My step dad not fat anymore, sickness down came in his life and since I haven't seen my Virgo co worker in so long I don't know if he still fat or not. The Virgo co worker was hilarious as hell but my Virgo step dad was not. I don't get that. I thought all Virgo men suppose to be hilarious.

We really need to define heartbreak simply because I'm not so sure if I've ever been so heart broken in my life. I'm the one more capable of breaking hearts because I'm cold and distant.

Definitely scary lol

Posted by Jumpin_Jupiter
We really need to define heartbreak simply because I'm not so sure if I've ever been so heart broken in my life. I'm the one more capable of breaking hearts because I'm cold and distant.

First I want to clarify that in any heartbreak 💔 it takes 2. When I say that a lot of people recoil to absolve themselves of any responsibility, and be a victim.. thats not how I define heartbreak. Ive been heartbroken over people passing away, Ive been heartbroken when I knew, I myself, was internally changing and things were never going to be the same. Ive been heartbroken due to the breakup of a relationship. Its not always romantic. In all cases, for me at least, its the severance of an aspect of my identity. My grandpa, my dad, mom, whatever - part of your identity, your own transformation- deeply personal, shapes your identity, sheds the old. Your relationships - do you identify as a brother, a husband, a grandson, a partner, a son, a boyfriend, a friend, these are all relationships we invest part of ourselves in, and pull a sense of identity from. Not an acquaintance, a friend. Its the severance of a deep attachment. All humans are wired for attachment. How they handle it is where you get into the differing attachment style s.

I’ve dated 2 people who were born less than a week apart and had pretty much the exact same chart. They were different probably in part by the way they were raised. Both still had mom and dad married for their entire lives, but one grew up in a more progressive city and had wealthy grandparents who paid for their college. The other went to the military and was injured in combat. One suppressed their emotions and one was very comfortable expressing their emotions-wrote me poems and drew me artwork.

I guess my answer is yes, I prob would. Some I might be more cautious than others though.

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Posted by Jumpin_Jupiter
We really need to define heartbreak simply because I'm not so sure if I've ever been so heart broken in my life. I'm the one more capable of breaking hearts because I'm cold and distant.

First I want to clarify that in any heartbreak 💔 it takes 2. When I say that a lot of people recoil to absolve themselves of any responsibility, and be a victim.. thats not how I define heartbreak. Ive been heartbroken over people passing away, Ive been heartbroken when I knew, I myself, was internally changing and things were never going to be the same. Ive been heartbroken due to the breakup of a relationship. Its not always romantic. In all cases, for me at least, its the severance of an aspect of my identity. My grandpa, my dad, mom, whatever - part of your identity, your own transformation- deeply personal, shapes your identity, sheds the old. Your relationships - do you identify as a brother, a husband, a grandson, a partner, a son, a boyfriend, a friend, these are all relationships we invest part of ourselves in, and pull a sense of identity from. Not an acquaintance, a friend. Its the severance of a deep attachment. All humans are wired for attachment. How they handle it is where you get into the differing attachment style s.

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Why thanks for that explanation. I was thinking in terms of relationships. Yeah I'm heartbroken now because I'm low on cash. And if you know me you know I aint with being broke. Being an entrepreneur will literally make you wanna rob somebody at gunpoint if you broke.

I don’t see attachment style s. I see people as either interested or not. Avoidant attachment just looks like they’re not into me, and I don’t think about them. My advice would be to go for someone who is a green flag who lays out what they’re looking for etc. and if it clicks with what you’re looking for, especially if you have a history of being heartbroken from relationships. Just have to play it cool and not go all in too quickly.

The rising sign would matter a lot here

But I probably still would if I really liked him

I'd see it as a 2nd chance

Yes. I do consider astrology quite a lot when it comes to personality, but feel its only one of the big 3 elements. Those being genetics, worldly influences, and astrology. I feel like all 3 of those make up a person's personality, so its impossible to base things off of just one. I feel like people with identical charts would have things in common, but not everything in common. Aside from biological twins, which even they tend to have different personalities and take different life paths, even if they are deeply connected through genetics and astrology. Worldly influences makes sure of that.

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Posted by Soul
Yes. I do consider astrology quite a lot when it comes to personality, but feel its only one of the big 3 elements. Those being genetics, worldly influences, and astrology. I feel like all 3 of those make up a person's personality, so its impossible to base things off of just one. I feel like people with identical charts would have things in common, but not everything in common. Aside from biological twins, which even they tend to have different personalities and take different life paths, even if they are deeply connected through genetics and astrology. Worldly influences makes sure of that.

I agree! Thats how ive always looked at it as well. So you would?

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Yea I would. Though I'm somewhat biased because I was never truly heart broken. I always made sure to be the first to leave when things start going downhill. That's not me bragging, or trying to pretend like its a positive thing either. I realize I was truly an egotistical selfish prick in the past. If I would have been rooted in reality rather then lost in my own delusional world I probably would have a wife and family by now. With that said however its best to never dwell in the past. At this point as long as I'm working, thinking about God when I can, and not drinking I'm doing way better then I was in the past.

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Posted by Uwa
i see birth charts as indicating tendencies and capacities. nurture-nature can swing that differently.

i might.

Same. Like I want to be fair (im really wrestling with this because my own thoughts parallel racist ideas, and that way of thinking just is not me), but also want to avoid any patterns that either i may have, or the tendencies of a birth chart may imply. From my experience the nasty stuff doesnt present itself until later, when youre already in. So I guess my personal conundrum is - do i throw the baby out with the bathwater out of fear? Or put my neck on the line, again? If I go in overly cautious and guarded, am creating a self fulfilling prophecy that leads to the same outcome I want to avoid.

Maybe i just overthink things? 😆

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i would say it looks like you're overthinking it, and i would also say no one may be in any position to know that. everyone gets affected by things differently and how we respond to those things can be just as different. so i wouldn't say for sure you're overthinking

i doubt there's such a thing as right advice in these situations, but in my experience clarifying what you want in the relationship before getting serious, knowing and communicating it, is one way to reduce the possibility of later confusions and resentments. especially if honesty can be afforded when doing so.

one small 'although', as i see you mentioned in another post the circumstances underbwhich you two met —her seeing the cars, and you spending— not getting serious too soon shouldn't be news.

relationships are generally unpredictable and regardless of fortitude and capabiliities, certain futures cannot be guaranteed, only worked towards

a lot of astrology has been fucked by bad astrologers. i wouldn't be too concerned about her sharing astro date.

Sure i would, 100% . I lost count of all the heartbreaks i experienced so far and their time of birth - so wouldn't be surprise if that already happened.