@aquapiscescusp
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You can't find someone to love?
Posted by blackphase
I don't think the problem is finding someone to love, it's finding someone that loves you back at the same capacity that you love them.
Yes, that's part of it... but often times people choose the same type of person that does not love them back, it's a choice?
Posted by blackphase
Posted by aquapiscescusp
Posted by blackphase
I don't think the problem is finding someone to love, it's finding someone that loves you back at the same capacity that you love them.
Yes, that's part of it... but often times people choose the same type of person that does not love them back, it's a choice?
I understand what you mean. But in the beginning stages of a relationship, I think it's very hard to foresee that. That is where the problems arise.. I have a theory that all we really want in another is someone who is able to match our efforts in terms of a relationship. In the beginning there are facades that many of us hide behind, they may be small or they may be ginormous.. only after time, when the mask starts to peel, do we really see who we have fallen for, and for many of us, it's too late at that point to simply just leave.. feelings get involved and all that mess.
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that's true
it helps to understand why we are initially attracted to a similar type -- only then can we see the signs early on...
Posted by WhiteChocolate
Posted by aquapiscescusp
Posted by WhiteChocolate
Duh.You need HuffPost to tell you that?
dUH no
I'm telling you that
Not you specifically...
You as the general you.
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😄
Posted by daydream_achiever
"Too many people are trying to Find the right person instead of working to Be the right person."
nice
Posted by Nemilicious
you could also apply some plum lipstick and bada bing bada bang, you have more men after you than you hoped for.
That, coupled with significantly lowered expectations,
and you'll never be lonely again.
Hallelu... !
Posted by blackphase
Posted by aquapiscescusp
Posted by blackphase
I don't think the problem is finding someone to love, it's finding someone that loves you back at the same capacity that you love them.
Yes, that's part of it... but often times people choose the same type of person that does not love them back, it's a choice?
I understand what you mean. But in the beginning stages of a relationship, I think it's very hard to foresee that. That is where the problems arise.. I have a theory that all we really want in another is someone who is able to match our efforts in terms of a relationship. In the beginning there are facades that many of us hide behind, they may be small or they may be ginormous.. only after time, when the mask starts to peel, do we really see who we have fallen for, and for many of us, it's too late at that point to simply just leave.. feelings get involved and all that mess.
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You're so spot on or rather I agree with your thinking. Curious, what's the life path 38/11 mean?
Posted by SensitiveBlues
my problem is i can't date ugly men or men im not attracted too
Ok good looking men can also love 😄
Posted by Aggrippina66789
Posted by aquapiscescusp
You are the problem...according to this article;
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/marnie-nir/love-advice_b_811259.html
How do i stop people loving me though :-P ?? That's my issue!
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I'm sure you can figure that one out 😉
Posted by Arielle83
We're attracted to the traits, we recognize in the parent, that we associate with negativity in our childhood.However, we yearn for this person to also have the traits, we recognize in the parent, that we associate with positivity in our childhood.
Stoic, assertive father = the traits that u are drawn to.
Loving, attentive mother = traits we yearn.
So if you're nagging you want him to listen to you or pay attention, it might be because you had that as a child.
However, his strong, but silent bravado makes you drop your pants.
very smart!!
yes. i agree.
that's why i saw the connection with parents /grandparents 'signs" and energies, so you're drawn to what is familiar in alot of ways.
Posted by Arielle83
We're attracted to the traits, we recognize in the parent, that we associate with negativity in our childhood.However, we yearn for this person to also have the traits, we recognize in the parent, that we associate with positivity in our childhood.
Stoic, assertive father = the traits that u are drawn to.
Loving, attentive mother = traits we yearn.
So if you're nagging you want him to listen to you or pay attention, it might be because you had that as a child.
However, his strong, but silent bravado makes you drop your pants.
Yes to what you said but not just the negativity. We are attracted to what IS familiar in our childhoods. Unfortunately we only get to hear the negate side of things.
ughhhh negative side of things ---EDIT doesn't always function
Posted by Katana
Posted by blackphase
I don't think the problem is finding someone to love, it's finding someone that loves you back at the same capacity that you love them.
Indeed…..I'd add respect to that as well.
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we attract what we give off
Posted by Nemilicious
Hahaha i thought i was the only one
No why disown that lonely sock?
Posted by aquapiscescusp
Posted by Nemilicious
There's no need for that.
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Tried that once. Perfect day.. ruined!
Posted by aquapiscescusp
You are the problem...according to this article;
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/marnie-nir/love-advice_b_811259.html
Tired of articles that have no informational nor other value.
YEP! Write down what you want and go get it.
What if you are simply un-attractive? Without talent to
better yourself? All these articles are written for x cents per word.
Whatever these words are...
There's always someone for anyone, but not everyone jumps on or picks someone.
Posted by enfant_terrible
Posted by aquapiscescusp
Posted by Nemilicious
There's no need for that.
Tried that once. Perfect day.. ruined!
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you had mismatched socks on and it ruined your day?
Posted by YourFavoriteDXPMember
You must love in such a way that the other person feels free.
Pisces do this best in my experience.
It is not a written law that socks must match!
I say they better e the same length but if you wearing pants...lol
Posted by Nemilicious
Posted by aquapiscescusp
Posted by Nemilicious
Hahaha i thought i was the only one
No why disown that lonely sock?
I dont lol i ship em all eventually
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You ship them? To third world countries?
Posted by Gemitati
Posted by aquapiscescusp
You are the problem...according to this article;
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/marnie-nir/love-advice_b_811259.html
Tired of articles that have no informational nor other value.
YEP! Write down what you want and go get it.
What if you are simply un-attractive? Without talent to
better yourself? All these articles are written for x cents per word.
Whatever these words are...click to expand
Everyone has something to offer...
Posted by Gemitati
Posted by Nemilicious
Posted by aquapiscescusp
Posted by Nemilicious
Hahaha i thought i was the only one
No why disown that lonely sock?
I dont lol i ship em all eventually
You ship them? To third world countries?
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I wondered this too!
Yeap couldn't shake the feeling of being wronged by some higher power. I mean how can a sock just disappear? And why is it happening to me? Could be an indication of poor sense of coherence.
Needless to say, walked around with a chip on my shoulder for the rest of that day. 😛
Posted by enfant_terrible
Yeap couldn't shake the feeling of being wronged by some higher power. I mean how can a sock just disappear? And why is it happening to me? Could be an indication of poor sense of coherence.Needless to say, walked around with a chip on my shoulder for the rest of that day. 😛
Ok so things have to match and everything is linear, you prefer things centered and aligned and two of each is better than three as that would not be EVEN?
And then sometimes you have two black, almost identical socks... only you realize the seams are not identical!
'Do I have time before work... and if I do, do I try and find the other sock or settle for the imposter? Next time, should I really look that closely or would I just prefer not to know?'
Posted by enfant_terrible
And then sometimes you have two black, almost identical socks... only you realize the seams are not identical!'Do I have time before work... and if I do, do I try and find the other sock or settle for the imposter? Next time, should I really look that closely or would I just prefer not to know?'
Yeah, I get it, I'm a little anal too 😄
And what about us dxp men? What can we do? I've already removed astrology from being a hobby on my dating profile.
Don't tell me there's no hope. You better not tell me there's no hope.
Posted by Lifepath8Pisces
lol, I was thinking. If you can't find someone to love because you are high maintenance and not accepting of your man saving every penny possible, then it 's your fault. LOL - ( I rather be single for the rest of my life and happy I can pay for my own popcorn)Posted by lisabethur8
i was thinking...good thing i'm NOT that frugal, as to go and tell my hubby to go get free drinks like this ....of course he'd never do that. lol
the lady in the vid is very very tolerable of his strange need to save every little thing. She gets embaressed alot she says in some of the videos and even cried, when she asked him not to go asking people's leftover plates at the diner, cafe restaurant they were at (it was a request for her birthday) that at least he'd STOP for one day out of that year, (they only go out to eat once in a while and he does it to get leftover dinners. Yet, still she stays. because that's love and tolerance.
oh ops, it's this one, it's for her anniversary not birthday.
it's been a long time since i watched this. you should check it out.
Posted by Lifepath8Pisces
Posted by lisabethur8
Posted by Lifepath8Pisces
lol, I was thinking. If you can't find someone to love because you are high maintenance and not accepting of your man saving every penny possible, then it 's your fault. LOL - ( I rather be single for the rest of my life and happy I can pay for my own popcorn)Posted by lisabethur8
i was thinking...good thing i'm NOT that frugal, as to go and tell my hubby to go get free drinks like this ....of course he'd never do that. lol
the lady in the vid is very very tolerable of his strange need to save every little thing. She gets embaressed alot she says in some of the videos and even cried, when she asked him not to go asking people's leftover plates at the diner, cafe restaurant they were at (it was a request for her birthday) that at least he'd STOP for one day out of that year, (they only go out to eat once in a while and he does it to get leftover dinners. Yet, still she stays. because that's love and tolerance.
Poor woman.
I would vanish in a heart beat if I met a cheap guy like this one. I think I would go to the lady's room and go out through it's window. LOL
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i love that there's someone for everyone. no matter what.
weird quote.
but i wrote, i love that there's Always someone for everyone. when i watch a few of these vids, i see they are all paired up/have a boyfriend/girlfriend or married. And they tolerate alot. it's good to see that.
Posted by Lifepath8Pisces
Posted by lisabethur8
weird quote.but i wrote, i love that there's Always someone for everyone. when i watch a few of these vids, i see they are all paired up/have a boyfriend/girlfriend or married. And they tolerate alot. it's good to see that.
is it?
I am glad you think it is. Because I sure don't think it is a good thing when you have to tolerate BS like what's in these videos. I mean look at her embarrassed and in tears as you stated. People should make each other happy, not expect to be tolerated.
But to each their own. 😄
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well hes not abusing or cheating on her. he's just strange. most women would be Lucky to have someone at least like him. i mean in that he's devoted in skimping costs and loves his wife; i see in this situation that he trusts that she'd NEVER leave him, despite that he's like that. and i dont think she will.
what? Some women have too high standards and are lonely. hard to explain, but it's true
Posted by Lifepath8Pisces
Posted by lisabethur8
what? Some women have too high standards and are lonely. hard to explain, but it's true
Asking to not be ridiculed in public = high standards? I don't think so.
Asking not to feed me trash from a dumpster = having high standards? I don't think so.Normal people do not go digging from a trash can or recycle used paper towels or toilet paper to last longer.
lol, you are such a sweetheart Lisa.
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lol i know what you mean..
but you gotta look into the context. it's hard for him to change. He won't ever change. So, asking him to do that is hard for him.
he makes up for the rest of the stuff for her. being there, devotion, loyalty, love, all the good things..
Posted by Lifepath8Pisces
By the way ,women get what they accept from men. She puts up with too much, I bet if he found a woman who doesn't accept food from a dumpster and is ready to dump him, he would make a damn effort to buy her a decent meal that is not coming from the trash.
Men go great lengths to keep a woman happy and they can also go great lengths to feed you shit if you let them. lulz
Just saying.
But I do get what you are trying to say..... 🙂
oooooh yeah i see what you mean.
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You are the problem...
according to this article;
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/marnie-nir/love-advice_b_811259.html