how to cure unrequited...

love? i was reminded earlier with a discussion with @sierra on a subject earlier, how alot of people fall for someone but the other person doesn't want them back equally. how does one cure this? i've seen this over the years, on this forum also
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  • lisabethur8
    Married, middleaged parttime housewife, Aqua-sun/Cap/Pisces/Taurus,married to,S
    female
    love?

    i was reminded earlier with a discussion with @sierra on a subject earlier, how alot of people fall for someone but the other person doesn't want them back equally.

    how does one cure this?

    i've seen this over the years, on this forum also readin alot of articles and books, tv shows you name it..so it's very very common.








    ever experienced this and you can't find a good connection with someone?

    how does one just move on? do these videos and books help?






  • lisabethur8
    Married, middleaged parttime housewife, Aqua-sun/Cap/Pisces/Taurus,married to,S
    female
    Posted by clownloyal
    it's right in the word, you quit


    quit?


    more information...
  • lisabethur8
    Married, middleaged parttime housewife, Aqua-sun/Cap/Pisces/Taurus,married to,S
    female
    this also helps


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    but this is not just for women...

    men TOO get unrequited.



    edit

    if you watch the first video.

    it's seeing the person for who they really aren't....which is ALSO another form. like you dont see their flaws as much.


    but what IF you know ALL their flaws, you live with them and they are still sooooo horrible??

    but you still want them no matter what??

    so the video doesn't really cover that.
  • AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
    Male, England. ♉️ Sun & Asc, ♋️ Moon
    Nothing you can do apart from wait. If you recognise it’s unrequited you have to separate yourself which is painful. Then wait for time to ease the pain. You gradually stop thinking about the person.

    I was there about a year ago and it sucked. May have even started a couple of self-pitying threads.

    Edit - If you like them so much it is very difficult to see their flaws. You’re right though that in that phase you’re just projecting your hopes on to them.
  • lisabethur8
    Married, middleaged parttime housewife, Aqua-sun/Cap/Pisces/Taurus,married to,S
    female
    Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
    Nothing you can do apart from wait. If you recognise it’s unrequited you have to separate yourself which is painful. Then wait for time to ease the pain. You gradually stop thinking about the person.

    I was there about a year ago and it sucked. May have even started a couple of self-pitying threads.


    moving away to a different state, or city would help too you think?



    are you in a better place now than you were a year ago?
  • AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
    Male, England. ♉️ Sun & Asc, ♋️ Moon
    Posted by lisabethur8
    Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
    Nothing you can do apart from wait. If you recognise it’s unrequited you have to separate yourself which is painful. Then wait for time to ease the pain. You gradually stop thinking about the person.

    I was there about a year ago and it sucked. May have even started a couple of self-pitying threads.


    moving away to a different state, or city would help too you think?

    are you in a better place now than you were a year ago?
    click to expand


    I didn’t have to move away but not being around them helps. Yes, I’m a lot better now and determined not to make the same mistakes again.

  • lisabethur8
    Married, middleaged parttime housewife, Aqua-sun/Cap/Pisces/Taurus,married to,S
    female
    yes, the video explains that you dont see their flaws that they are a cookiemonster awful spends all your money, is inconsiderate, mean and a bully and bad to your family ect ect all the awful things..

    for a man, he is an abuser, a gaslighter, cruel, withholds from you everything, and never home, but you still WANT him....

    the video doesn't cover that. That there are people who know all about their lover's flaws and you still want them. It's sick.

    it's really about connection or something?
  • lisabethur8
    Married, middleaged parttime housewife, Aqua-sun/Cap/Pisces/Taurus,married to,S
    female
    Posted by clownloyal
    Posted by lisabethur8
    Posted by clownloyal
    it's right in the word, you quit


    quit?


    more information...


    sometimes when you're feeling someone and aren't sure how they're feeling that's sign #1 so you try to check if everything is okay between you two that's sign #2 now you definitely want to make sure it's unrequited and not miscommunication so you try to make plans that's sign #3

    by sign #3 you gotta classic red wagon that heavy L and quit while you're ahead
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    eject right away so you dont fall further in love....
  • @lisabethur8

    This is a subject you should probably stay quiet on because your aqua sun foot in mouth stuff isn’t helpful.

    Lives are destroyed by this butter. For a lot of people it’s not jus a “fun” thread on dxp.
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  • AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
    Male, England. ♉️ Sun & Asc, ♋️ Moon
    Posted by edgelord
    @lisabethur8

    This is a subject you should probably stay quiet on because your aqua sun foot in mouth stuff isn’t helpful.

    Lives are destroyed by this butter. For a lot of people it’s not jus a “fun” thread on dxp.


    What do you mean about lives being destroyed?
  • Posted by lisabethur8
    love?

    i was reminded earlier with a discussion with @sierra on a subject earlier, how alot of people fall for someone but the other person doesn't want them back equally.

    how does one cure this?

    i've seen this over the years, on this forum also readin alot of articles and books, tv shows you name it..so it's very very common.








    ever experienced this and you can't find a good connection with someone?

    how does one just move on? do these videos and books help?








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  • NelsonSacramento
    Sun ♏ Moon ♓ AC ♋ | Mercury ♏ Saturn ♏ Pluto ♏ Mars ♑
    33 years old male
    Posted by lisabethur8
    love?

    i was reminded earlier with a discussion with @sierra on a subject earlier, how alot of people fall for someone but the other person doesn't want them back equally.

    how does one cure this?

    i've seen this over the years, on this forum also readin alot of articles and books, tv shows you name it..so it's very very common.

    ever experienced this and you can't find a good connection with someone?

    how does one just move on? do these videos and books help?

    Moved out of the country where it took place, then trown professional career away and started a physical job, met new people.
  • Posted by Seleukos
    Kill all your feelings and become happy again.
    We only suffer as long as we want to.


    Are you a Superman in real life?
  • Detach yourself from the person physically, move on by living your life and letting time do it’s work.

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