Am I the only Pisces that hates dating?

On average, once a week I meet a new man. Sometimes 2 on a given weekend. By Wednesday or Thursday we've gone on our first date or we've spent enough time on the phone for one of us to decide there isn't enough interest. It's been like this for me since my last boyfriend and I broke up (early July). I'm not saying I need to get married or jump into a relationship but I think I have "dating fatigue". The connection all super shallow or I end up being a therapist on the date. One I was attracted to but he didn't want a relationship so it was pointless to keep dating.

Maybe it's because I am on the cusp of my 40th birthday, or helping a friend plan a wedding or lack of intimacy mental & physical that I feel annoyed by the dual pull of wanting to have someone but hating the rapid turn over process

I just barely started to look and I'm exhausted.. Messaging is such a beat down!! I just want to meet someone organically.

I'm meeting these men in person. Maybe I should date online. I have in the past and I appreciated filtering them before hand. I remember it being more fun before.

Posted by UnusualVaginalDischarge
How do you meet a man once a week?

Clubs, networking, hanging out.

Girl, to begin with (I am 51 years old, so word from the WISE) you're NOT going to meet Mr. Right at the clubs. I learned the hard way. Networking (FB, etc., is something I haven't had the PLEASURE of meeting someone because I have a pic of my grandson and will NOT change it to reflect the pic I have here on DXPNET; so all my FB acquaintances are friends or family. Next, kudos that you don't intimidate men.....I do! (to this day I don't understand why). There seems to be something with Pisceans this last part of the year because when I go to the club I can stand for five hours on my feet and no man will ask me to dance! For God's sake! It's just a dance and NOT a marriage proposal!!! (again, it goes back to intimidating men); their problem, not mine. As Pisceans we are "picky" and we have to listen to our sixth sense. I CANNOT be attracted to a man that smokes; bottom line. I will NOT stoop to being someone's second choice, and I will not change myself in order to have a man like me. If you like me, great! If you don't I know where the door is. At LEAST thank your lucky stars you are meeting men twice a week! Just because you haven't been successful doesn't mean you now can go online to dating sites. No, no, please don't do that! Why? You will run into SCAMMERS, liars, cheaters, you go to SPOKEO to look them up and find out they are from another country, etc., etc., etc.! I have been on POF since July and I went on two dates last month. Why? You tell me (again, INTIMIDATION!) and I'm picky! Your face-to-face interactions with a human being that smiles at you is what you will continue to do my fellow Piscean.

We are in a MAJOR slump! 🤗 cyber hugs! Good luck!

Love,

Eva

I am going to talk about myself for the sake of not seeing me over the internet...

“I’m 5’4 with an hour glass shape. I look very young, college age. I’m from the Caribbean with waist length naturally kinky hair. I’ve got bright brown eyes and I dress nicely. Not slutty but jewels to match the clutch and shoes type.

Now that I’ve gotten that out of the way, I turn down more men than I care about because I hate the physical attention. I don’t drink so when I am out, it’s literally to enjoy the music; jazz, hip hop, live band or whatever. I am also a real estate agent so I am always meeting new people in different contexts. I think my issue is the shallow but constant cycle of meeting new people and the process of it. The same conversation over, where you grew up and how long have you been here and why you’re not married. It gets to the point, I know where I want to eat, what to order and I could be home in time to twist my hair for the next day. It’s the connecting and disconnecting I don’t like. Even if one of these men were ok with an actual friendship, I would be ok. After a first date with one of them, I asked him to hang out and go site seeing in town. I had to keep reminding him this was not a date and we went dutch.

Posted by livictori
“I’m 5’4 with an hour glass shape. I look very young, college age. I’m from the Caribbean with waist length naturally kinky hair. I’ve got bright brown eyes and I dress nicely. Not slutty but jewels to match the clutch and shoes type."

I turn down more men than I care about because I hate the physical attention.

"I'm too hot for dating, please help"

#toughlife

Posted by Palerio

Posted by livictori
“I’m 5’4 with an hour glass shape. I look very young, college age. I’m from the Caribbean with waist length naturally kinky hair. I’ve got bright brown eyes and I dress nicely. Not slutty but jewels to match the clutch and shoes type."

I turn down more men than I care about because I hate the physical attention.

"I'm too hot for dating, please help"

#toughlife

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Better version:I get a lot of attention and I'm not sure if it's genuine or safe.

I've been assaulted, groped and followed growing up in NYC

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Posted by livictori
“I’m 5’4 with an hour glass shape. I look very young, college age. I’m from the Caribbean with waist length naturally kinky hair. I’ve got bright brown eyes and I dress nicely. Not slutty but jewels to match the clutch and shoes type."

I turn down more men than I care about because I hate the physical attention.

"I'm too hot for dating, please help"

#toughlife

Better version:I get a lot of attention and I'm not sure if it's genuine or safe.

I've been assaulted, groped and followed growing up in NYC

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It stems from being too self-aware of your appearance and surroundings, to the point of paranoia/not being able to simply enjoy a normal conversation. You filter out men before they even had the chance to say "hi" because you think their only real purpose is to sleep with you.

First of all nothing wrong with men wanting to have sex with you if you're hot, it's perfectly natural; secondly, I've never seen a man approaching a woman in a club if they didn't think she was attractive in the first place; lastly, there's no correlation with men finding you attractive and their ability to hold a genuine conversation.

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Posted by livictori

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Posted by livictori
“I’m 5’4 with an hour glass shape. I look very young, college age. I’m from the Caribbean with waist length naturally kinky hair. I’ve got bright brown eyes and I dress nicely. Not slutty but jewels to match the clutch and shoes type."

I turn down more men than I care about because I hate the physical attention.

"I'm too hot for dating, please help"

#toughlife

Better version:I get a lot of attention and I'm not sure if it's genuine or safe.

I've been assaulted, groped and followed growing up in NYC

It stems from being too self-aware of your appearance and surroundings, to the point of paranoia/not being able to simply enjoy a normal conversation. You filter out men before they even had the chance to say "hi" because you think their only real purpose is to sleep with you.

First of all nothing wrong with men wanting to have sex with you if you're hot, it's perfectly natural; secondly, I've never seen a man approaching a woman in a club if they didn't think she was attractive in the first place; lastly, there's no correlation with men finding you attractive and their ability to hold a genuine conversation.

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Agreed on all front. My issue if the dating part. I've learned to ignore or at least attempt to repel aggressiveness.

Let's be honest, its hunting season almost all of the time. There are arenas where certain behavior is normalized. My issue is dating not being approached

Posted by livictori

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Posted by livictori

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Posted by livictori
“I’m 5’4 with an hour glass shape. I look very young, college age. I’m from the Caribbean with waist length naturally kinky hair. I’ve got bright brown eyes and I dress nicely. Not slutty but jewels to match the clutch and shoes type."

I turn down more men than I care about because I hate the physical attention.

"I'm too hot for dating, please help"

#toughlife

Better version:I get a lot of attention and I'm not sure if it's genuine or safe.

I've been assaulted, groped and followed growing up in NYC

It stems from being too self-aware of your appearance and surroundings, to the point of paranoia/not being able to simply enjoy a normal conversation. You filter out men before they even had the chance to say "hi" because you think their only real purpose is to sleep with you.

First of all nothing wrong with men wanting to have sex with you if you're hot, it's perfectly natural; secondly, I've never seen a man approaching a woman in a club if they didn't think she was attractive in the first place; lastly, there's no correlation with men finding you attractive and their ability to hold a genuine conversation.

Agreed on all front. My issue if the dating part. I've learned to ignore or at least attempt to repel aggressiveness.

Let's be honest, its hunting season almost all of the time. There are arenas where certain behavior is normalized. My issue is dating not being approached

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Problem is that you can't date people if you hate physical attention, it's an oxymoron.

People are not holograms, we all have a body and 5 senses, they're part of the equation too. If you don't start by accepting this simple fact you're not going anywhere.

You can't expect the holy spirit to approach you...

Posted by SensitiveBlues
i dont' date.i super stalk.

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hate it, giving up on dating for long

and hate texting, just not my type

well if I mean to meet someone, I'll meet that person eventually....

Posted by livictori


I am also a real estate agent.

I know this has nothing do to with the topic but I'm just curious about how much does a real estate agent make. I'm trying to find the perfect job for me

Posted by BlueQueen

Posted by livictori


I am also a real estate agent.

I know this has nothing do to with the topic but I'm just curious about how much does a real estate agent make. I'm trying to find the perfect job for me

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It's really hard to gauge because I don't know where you live. Look at the homes in your area and multiply that by .03 then by 70% . That's how much you can make each house. Once you have that number multiply that by 12 for one closing a month. If you put in the energy you can close 2-4 a month.