Can I get Pisces Man to come back to me?? (Page 2)

Posted by pooface222

Posted by Jayceon
do you Pisces men think he will come back to me? Yeah he'll come back and is coming from a Pisces man.

Hi..do you really think so?

It's been 3 1/2 years since we met BUT there have been so many obstacles in the way of us being together. It's been agony for both of us.

The one thing I forgot to mention in my original post, but said it to another person on here is that as soon as I let down my guard and let Pisces guy into my heart - and also kissed him for the first time - my husbands mother got terminal cancer. This happened in the SAME WEEK!

By the time I had kissed him, me and Pisces had been talking and getting to know each other for about a Year. We had been meeting in my fitness classes and talking afterwards when everyone had gone home.

That way we didn't have to lie to our partners to see each other. We were at the gym and he would come to my class once a week.

It took this long because in the beginning when he started coming to my class, I had only just come back from maternity leave. I only went off for 3 months. I hadn't been back long and suddenly one day he turned up in my class!

It was a class his partner didn't go to because it was an early morning one at 6.30am.

So I was very surprised to see him. He only started coming to my class once i had my baby. Having just had a baby and only been back teaching a short while, there he was in my class

I was a bit confused to see him because I wasn't sure how he would feel having a relationship with me now I have a baby. But he kept coming back.

It was tricky because my head was full of my baby etc. So that's why it took about a year for the flirting to start. And oh boy did we flirt!

BUT then my husbands mum became ill.

I was just going to tell my husband it's over between us seeing as I had just kissed Pisces guy, but I found myself stuck and couldn't leave my grieving husband.

So with my husband grieving back then, I only realised in the last month that I had failed to tell Pisces that I can't leave my husband. So I have unfortunately left Pisces hanging, wondering why I'm not leaving my husband. And because of leaving him hanging I have seriously hurt him!

I was so caught up in the unhappiness in my marriage, while looking after my little girl who is now going to be 3 in 10 weeks time, while trying to be supportive of my grieving husband that I never told Pisces why I can't leave!

He must have been so confused! As well as hurt!

Her funeral was July this year. So its been 6 months since.

We are talking again and he now knows why I couldn't leave. I now feel as if I have woken up from a nightmare.

I just hope that my dream will come true now.

Sorry for the long post again!

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Can I give you small advice. Don't do kissing and so on to him if you are not free. You are just braking persons heart further. I know that you are in pain too, but remember when you love someone you don't drag them through hell over and over again. Fix your life, make your own life more balanced and only then try again. It's really really unfair for you to act as you act even though your actions are driven by deep inner emotions.

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Posted by pooface222

Posted by Jayceon
do you Pisces men think he will come back to me? Yeah he'll come back and is coming from a Pisces man.

Hi..do you really think so?

It's been 3 1/2 years since we met BUT there have been so many obstacles in the way of us being together. It's been agony for both of us.

The one thing I forgot to mention in my original post, but said it to another person on here is that as soon as I let down my guard and let Pisces guy into my heart - and also kissed him for the first time - my husbands mother got terminal cancer. This happened in the SAME WEEK!

By the time I had kissed him, me and Pisces had been talking and getting to know each other for about a Year. We had been meeting in my fitness classes and talking afterwards when everyone had gone home.

That way we didn't have to lie to our partners to see each other. We were at the gym and he would come to my class once a week.

It took this long because in the beginning when he started coming to my class, I had only just come back from maternity leave. I only went off for 3 months. I hadn't been back long and suddenly one day he turned up in my class!

It was a class his partner didn't go to because it was an early morning one at 6.30am.

So I was very surprised to see him. He only started coming to my class once i had my baby. Having just had a baby and only been back teaching a short while, there he was in my class

I was a bit confused to see him because I wasn't sure how he would feel having a relationship with me now I have a baby. But he kept coming back.

It was tricky because my head was full of my baby etc. So that's why it took about a year for the flirting to start. And oh boy did we flirt!

BUT then my husbands mum became ill.

I was just going to tell my husband it's over between us seeing as I had just kissed Pisces guy, but I found myself stuck and couldn't leave my grieving husband.

So with my husband grieving back then, I only realised in the last month that I had failed to tell Pisces that I can't leave my husband. So I have unfortunately left Pisces hanging, wondering why I'm not leaving my husband. And because of leaving him hanging I have seriously hurt him!

I was so caught up in the unhappiness in my marriage, while looking after my little girl who is now going to be 3 in 10 weeks time, while trying to be supportive of my grieving husband that I never told Pisces why I can't leave!

He must have been so confused! As well as hurt!

Her funeral was July this year. So its been 6 months since.

We are talking again and he now knows why I couldn't leave. I now feel as if I have woken up from a nightmare.

I just hope that my dream will come true now.

Sorry for the long post again!

When we (Pisces) miss something then we return.

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Hope he misses me. He did it once recently. A few weeks ago..

The fog in my marriage is clearing now. He is finally divorced now - a few months ago and both of us seem more ready for each other now that our personal issues are fading.

Help! Xx



PLAIN AND SIMPLE: You lost him....."The one that got away!" Sorry. 🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

Posted by EvatheDiva
The fog in my marriage is clearing now. He is finally divorced now - a few months ago and both of us seem more ready for each other now that our personal issues are fading.

Help! Xx

PLAIN AND SIMPLE: You lost him....."The one that got away!" Sorry. 🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva



Why are you saying that NOW? I wrote this post months ago!

Posted by pooface222

Posted by EvatheDiva
The fog in my marriage is clearing now. He is finally divorced now - a few months ago and both of us seem more ready for each other now that our personal issues are fading.

Help! Xx

PLAIN AND SIMPLE: You lost him....."The one that got away!" Sorry. 🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

Why are you saying that NOW? I wrote this post months ago!



And the status from a month ago? 😱

🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

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Posted by pooface222

Posted by EvatheDiva
The fog in my marriage is clearing now. He is finally divorced now - a few months ago and both of us seem more ready for each other now that our personal issues are fading.

Help! Xx

PLAIN AND SIMPLE: You lost him....."The one that got away!" Sorry. 🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

Why are you saying that NOW? I wrote this post months ago!

And the status from a month ago? 😱

🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva





I repeat. .why say this now??

It was still a month ago!

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Posted by pooface222

Posted by Jayceon

Posted by pooface222

Posted by Jayceon
do you Pisces men think he will come back to me? Yeah he'll come back and is coming from a Pisces man.

Hi..do you really think so?

It's been 3 1/2 years since we met BUT there have been so many obstacles in the way of us being together. It's been agony for both of us.

The one thing I forgot to mention in my original post, but said it to another person on here is that as soon as I let down my guard and let Pisces guy into my heart - and also kissed him for the first time - my husbands mother got terminal cancer. This happened in the SAME WEEK!

By the time I had kissed him, me and Pisces had been talking and getting to know each other for about a Year. We had been meeting in my fitness classes and talking afterwards when everyone had gone home.

That way we didn't have to lie to our partners to see each other. We were at the gym and he would come to my class once a week.

It took this long because in the beginning when he started coming to my class, I had only just come back from maternity leave. I only went off for 3 months. I hadn't been back long and suddenly one day he turned up in my class!

It was a class his partner didn't go to because it was an early morning one at 6.30am.

So I was very surprised to see him. He only started coming to my class once i had my baby. Having just had a baby and only been back teaching a short while, there he was in my class

I was a bit confused to see him because I wasn't sure how he would feel having a relationship with me now I have a baby. But he kept coming back.

It was tricky because my head was full of my baby etc. So that's why it took about a year for the flirting to start. And oh boy did we flirt!

BUT then my husbands mum became ill.

I was just going to tell my husband it's over between us seeing as I had just kissed Pisces guy, but I found myself stuck and couldn't leave my grieving husband.

So with my husband grieving back then, I only realised in the last month that I had failed to tell Pisces that I can't leave my husband. So I have unfortunately left Pisces hanging, wondering why I'm not leaving my husband. And because of leaving him hanging I have seriously hurt him!

I was so caught up in the unhappiness in my marriage, while looking after my little girl who is now going to be 3 in 10 weeks time, while trying to be supportive of my grieving husband that I never told Pisces why I can't leave!

He must have been so confused! As well as hurt!

Her funeral was July this year. So its been 6 months since.

We are talking again and he now knows why I couldn't leave. I now feel as if I have woken up from a nightmare.

I just hope that my dream will come true now.

Sorry for the long post again!

When we (Pisces) miss something then we return.

Hope he misses me. He did it once recently. A few weeks ago..

Then he'll be back soon.

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Hope so..Thank you Jayceon. .

I feel sorry for your husband ... you're an abuser.

My hope is that he finds out what/who you really are and kicks you to the curb.

You really don't deserve respect with the way you treat him with such disregard.

Hi everyone. .

I thought I would update you all on what's been going on with my situation.

It's not good.

It's all my fault.

I'm a bad person.

And I'm totally heartbroken.

First of all, having re-read my post I noticed I forgot to add that, while all this unhappiness and unresolved issues have been stagnating in my marriage, my husbands mother was also dying from terminal cancer.

I thought I had written about this here at the time but I hadn't!?!

So..at the time I let down my guard and let Pisces guy in to my heart (and he let me in too), it wasn't long until my husband told me his mother is?

Ignore the ? picture..I'm typing on my touchscreen phone and the buttons are very sensitive.

Anyway it wasn't long until my husband told me *his mother has terminal cancer. Pisces guy and I had only been talking and getting to know each other for a few months before this. No flirting. Nothing. Just a very obvious emotional attraction to each other that hadn't come out yet.

So just as me and Pisces are opening our hearts to each other, in comes the *cancer diagnosis.

Before this tragic news, I had also been plucking up the courage to tell my husband I want a divorce. But the cancer got there first.

I didn't know what to do. I felt trapped. I was deeply in love with Pisces guy, didn't want to be with my husband anymore, and now how the hell was I supposed to divorce my husband while he was grieving.

On top of all of this my little girl was under the age of 1 when this happened. She is now 2 1/2.

Now here is the really bad and sad news..

I stayed with my husband as I couldn't put him through divorce while he was grieving.

But - at the same time, I kept on seeing Pisces guy too. He wanted to leave his partner for me and I wanted to leave my marriage for him.

So in other words, I have been cheating on my husband (but not with sex); and I have treated Pisces guy like an affair.

I have been (and still am), so busy with my little girl and working in a fitness center at night, that I've had no head space to realise what I was actually doing!

RESULT?

My husband doesn't trust me - (he FOUND OUT about my 'affair' 1 month after the cancer diagnosis).

Mr Pisces has Left me. (Unsurprisingly). Slowly and quietly bit by bit until there is nothing left. And now there is nothing left of our relationship.

And I am seriously Deeply heartbroken. I can't stop crying.

I am dead inside and my heart is in pieces!

It's all my fault!

I've been so f**king busy with my little girl and work and trying to hold myself together while I stay in my miserable unhappy marriage and while my husband was grieving, that I just didn't realise that by holding on to 2 men at the same time, I'm only going to lose both of them.

It was my husband I wanted to lose.

I wanted to keep my gorgeous handsome sensitive Pisces man.

I held on to Pisces man because I was in love with him. Was too scared to let him go as didn't want to lose him to another woman.

I held on to my husband as I couldn't leave him while he was grieving.

And now all I've done is break 3 hearts. Pisces, my husband and mine. Mine is doubly broken.

I have totally fucked up!

And it's all come to nothing.

I can't stop crying.

I met a woman over the weekend who told me that she left her husband while his mum was dying, and she left him for another man too. She said I felt so guilty leaving but I just couldn't stay. I wasn't happy and I didn't love him anymore.

I wish I had done that.

I'd be happy now spending every day loving my beautiful Pisces man and hopefully having a happy life with the 3 of us - me, my little girl and Pisces guy too.

Thanks for listening everyone. .

Sounds like you should have left your husband. I think you have hurt you pisces. Dont be surprised if you never see or hear from him again, sorry!

Posted by pooface222
hopefully having a happy life with the 3 of us - me, my little girl and Pisces guy too.

Listen, I am going a different route than I usually do with this type of thing. I abhor most cheaters, but I can actually see that you are struggling with being that type of person. Most people come on here, and are almost gleeful about cheating. You quite obviously are struggling, and the reasons for it, I can logically comprehend. I still don't agree with it, but I understand it.

However, this sentence right here, pisses me the fuck off. Your daughter is your husband's child, not the Pisces. You totally ignored that fact in this sentence, and it totally comes off as you saying that given the chance, you would take your daughter and go with the Pisces without thinking about her relationship with her father. It also makes me question if you know just how much your daughter would be affected by your decisions, and actions. I truly question your ability to put her first above yourself.

I hope I am wrong. But whatever it is, your child deserves to be in a healthy and happy home. It sounds like neither of those things can happen given the distrust, and how unhappy you in it. She will sense it. I wish you luck.

Posted by nikkistar

Posted by pooface222
hopefully having a happy life with the 3 of us - me, my little girl and Pisces guy too.

Listen, I am going a different route than I usually do with this type of thing. I abhor most cheaters, but I can actually see that you are struggling with being that type of person. Most people come on here, and are almost gleeful about cheating. You quite obviously are struggling, and the reasons for it, I can logically comprehend. I still don't agree with it, but I understand it.

However, this sentence right here, pisses me the fuck off. Your daughter is your husband's child, not the Pisces. You totally ignored that fact in this sentence, and it totally comes off as you saying that given the chance, you would take your daughter and go with the Pisces without thinking about her relationship with her father. It also makes me question if you know just how much your daughter would be affected by your decisions, and actions. I truly question your ability to put her first above yourself.

I hope I am wrong. But whatever it is, your child deserves to be in a healthy and happy home. It sounds like neither of those things can happen given the distrust, and how unhappy you in it. She will sense it. I wish you luck.

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Hi..

Thank you for understanding. I really appreciate it. I have never cheated in my life. Ever. It's not what I do normally. And like you, I too abhor cheaters. I just can't believe I've actually ended up in this fucking mess!

Now to explain myself in terms of my little girl. I understand why are are 'pissed the fuck off.' Quite rightly so. I guess I just thought that it would go without saying, that I care about my little girls happiness as well as my own.

But - as this is an Internet forum and we all don't know each other, we can't just assume people will understand what we mean when we don't actually say it.

At the same time, I am still married. So at the present time, I have no idea how divorce will go. - How my husband (future ex), and I will raise our child separately.

- How it will affect her relationship with both of us.

- How her relationship will be with me, without him there.

- How her relationship will be with her father, without me there.

And I seriously cannot stand my husband; he is a controlling, manipulating, selfish, extremely childish, and extremely argumentative Bastard! He has always ignored everything I say, preferring to interrupt me every few seconds, talk loudly over me, and argue & defend himself in a situations where he is clearly wrong. He would rather defend his behaviour towards me, rather than listen when I say he is hurting and upsetting me.

The thought of her being alone with him, and the thought of being without her, makes me feel sick.

I love her so much that I cannot bear to be without her. I'm sure my husband would not like to be without her too.

I'm not going to go into all the long & boring details about why my marriage is a mess but - I will say that we don't get on. We don't fight all the time but it's clear that we are a total Mismatch. We rarely agree on anything - ends up being that we agree to disagree! We have nothing in common. No shared interests. No shared opinions. It's all wrong!

So hopefully from my response to you, you can see that I care very much about the effect on my little girl, if/when we divorce.

It worries me sick. Hence why I haven't divorced yet.

My post earlier was focusing on me becoming happy again, finding love again and my little girl being happy with ME. I just didn't go into the fill story of divorce and the effect on her etc.

I really hope I have cleared this up now. Please tell me if I havent.

Thanks again..☺

Lol you don't need another relationship you need a therapist. I am not trying to be mean just being honest.

I am a male and a Pisces moon

I would say you really need to work out your stuff... I would devorce... it seems like the best and most logical option. Don't know why you have not done it already. A lot of time money is the issue... and can be a big reason woman marry dirt bags...

I am not saying also what you are doing is right because you are basically not mentally connected and so all that is keeping you together is stuff... a baby and pieces of paper.

In all honesty with the Astro influences you will be getting the divorce... it is just how long you put it off... as for the next guy it is better to be done with one before you move on... you are kinda fallowing just your emotions at this point.

Best of luck

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Posted by pooface222
hopefully having a happy life with the 3 of us - me, my little girl and Pisces guy too.

Listen, I am going a different route than I usually do with this type of thing. I abhor most cheaters, but I can actually see that you are struggling with being that type of person. Most people come on here, and are almost gleeful about cheating. You quite obviously are struggling, and the reasons for it, I can logically comprehend. I still don't agree with it, but I understand it.

However, this sentence right here, pisses me the fuck off. Your daughter is your husband's child, not the Pisces. You totally ignored that fact in this sentence, and it totally comes off as you saying that given the chance, you would take your daughter and go with the Pisces without thinking about her relationship with her father. It also makes me question if you know just how much your daughter would be affected by your decisions, and actions. I truly question your ability to put her first above yourself.

I hope I am wrong. But whatever it is, your child deserves to be in a healthy and happy home. It sounds like neither of those things can happen given the distrust, and how unhappy you in it. She will sense it. I wish you luck.

Hi..

Thank you for understanding. I really appreciate it. I have never cheated in my life. Ever. It's not what I do normally. And like you, I too abhor cheaters. I just can't believe I've actually ended up in this fucking mess!

Now to explain myself in terms of my little girl. I understand why are are 'pissed the fuck off.' Quite rightly so. I guess I just thought that it would go without saying, that I care about my little girls happiness as well as my own.

But - as this is an Internet forum and we all don't know each other, we can't just assume people will understand what we mean when we don't actually say it.

At the same time, I am still married. So at the present time, I have no idea how divorce will go. - How my husband (future ex), and I will raise our child separately.

- How it will affect her relationship with both of us.

- How her relationship will be with me, without him there.

- How her relationship will be with her father, without me there.

And I seriously cannot stand my husband; he is a controlling, manipulating, selfish, extremely childish, and extremely argumentative Bastard! He has always ignored everything I say, preferring to interrupt me every few seconds, talk loudly over me, and argue & defend himself in a situations where he is clearly wrong. He would rather defend his behaviour towards me, rather than listen when I say he is hurting and upsetting me.

The thought of her being alone with him, and the thought of being without her, makes me feel sick.

I love her so much that I cannot bear to be without her. I'm sure my husband would not like to be without her too.

I'm not going to go into all the long & boring details about why my marriage is a mess but - I will say that we don't get on. We don't fight all the time but it's clear that we are a total Mismatch. We rarely agree on anything - ends up being that we agree to disagree! We have nothing in common. No shared interests. No shared opinions. It's all wrong!

So hopefully from my response to you, you can see that I care very much about the effect on my little girl, if/when we divorce.

It worries me sick. Hence why I haven't divorced yet.

My post earlier was focusing on me becoming happy again, finding love again and my little girl being happy with ME. I just didn't go into the fill story of divorce and the effect on her etc.

I really hope I have cleared this up now. Please tell me if I havent.

Thanks again..☺

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Trust me, I can relate more than you know. I have an ex-husband, and a son. It is often better for the child to grow up in two loving separate homes, then one combined toxic one.

What I can tell you, is the motto I live by. Love your child, more than you hate your ex. That even if for whatever reason, your ex, can not remain civil, that you remain civil.

Kids are easily adapt, they just need to know that both their parents love them. I can tell you, that my ex and I are better friends and co-parents than we were ever husband and wife. It forces both parents to stop relying on the other and stepping their game up.

At the end of the day, my ex and I have strived to put him above us, and we actually still celebrate most holidays together as a family unit. We hope that as both of us move on with our respective partners, that everyone can come together as a whole, for our son.

Not saying that is possible for everyone. But it is if both parents are mature enough to put aside all the hurts of the relationship, and build something new.

Good luck again.

Posted by Rindaroo
The thing is there comes a point in an affair with a married person where you stop believing they will leave their spouse. That is when you start to pull away.

He obviously still cares from asking if you are okay, but what is one to do? Understanding you are miserable and love him is one thing, and you actually choosing to leave so you can start your life over are two totally different things.

Believe me I have been the one walking away. He still feels trapped, he is jealous I've moved on, but he has STILL not left his wife. But unlike your situation, we are friends still. Just saying from the other view point, what is one to do if you won't leave?? At some point, you must move on.

Really in the married person situation, you need to leave to start your life with or without him or fix your marriage. Staying stuck just equals misery. Believe me.. this guy I know suffers horribly but I cannot save him he must do it himself. Same with you sweetheart.

Hi again..We've spoken before on my post about leaving my husband when his mum was dying.

Thank you so much again for being so understanding.

You are very right..staying stuck HAS equalled misery and now I am scared to leave my marriage because I don't want to be alone. I am struggling with semi-depression so hence why i dont want to be alone. I really want my Pisces guy to come back. I wish I had had the strength to leave 2 years ago at the start of his mothers terminal cancer.

Staying has destroyed me inside. It's made me insecure and very miserable because now I've lost the man I was deeply in love with. He made me so happy and gave me strength where my husband had weakened me with all the fights.

It's interesting to hear that you were the one on the receiving end of seeing a married person. I would feel the same way if I was seeing a married man. If he told me he was unhappy in his marriage and wanted a relationship with me, but STAYED I would lose hope too.

I feel so bad that I have unintentionally led him on, by telling him I want to be with him then Staying! I've taken the piss out of him!

Did you know that he tried for about 2 YEARS to get a relationship with me!!? How lucky am I to have a guy want me and chase me for that long.

Just for me to kick him in the face! ?

I believe he finally gave up after Summer last year.

I saw him Thurs night at the gym. I was going to a class. He was on the treadmill. But the treadmill was facing the windows looking out of the gym. I walked past him with his back to me therefore - but I was a few metres away. I don't know if he spotted me but I was too nervous to go over and say hi. But God I wanted to.

If he spotted me then he probably thought I was avoiding him . He hasn't contacted me. Nor I him.

Can I ask you a thing or two?

How long were you seeing the married guy?

And...If he actually left his wife, would you pursue a relationship with him?

Are you still in love with him etc?

Posted by 4reefer2man0
Sounds like you should have left your husband. I think you have hurt you pisces. Dont be surprised if you never see or hear from him again, sorry!

Hi..

I've only just seen your response to my post. You are right. That is how I feel. I do still hear from him; it was his birthday - 22nd Feb. I texted him Happy Birthday etc and he replied back almost immediately with..

'Hey. X

Thank you... for my birthday txt. It was lovely to see.

I hope you have a great day too...'

Although his text is nice, he doesn't talk to me the way he used to. He was up close and personal with me before. Now he's all closed up on up me and just stays friendly.

UNDERSTANDABLY!

I am trying to keep in touch with him as I really like him.

Out of interest, are you Pisces? Male or Female?

He wouldn't have replied if he didn't care hun x you can dm me if you want to, ive been reading your posts and feel for you, just saying x

Posted by piscespoppy
He wouldn't have replied if he didn't care hun x you can dm me if you want to, ive been reading your posts and feel for you, just saying x

Hi Piscespoppy xx

Thank you for your lovely reply. You've always responded so sensitively and I really appreciate it.

I understand when people tell me to focus on my little girl, and it's true. But at the same time, I do need to think of my needs too as one day she will grow up and have a life of her own. I can't just forget myself completely.

I would like to dm you and will soon. Thank you so much :-)

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Posted by pooface222
hopefully having a happy life with the 3 of us - me, my little girl and Pisces guy too.

Listen, I am going a different route than I usually do with this type of thing. I abhor most cheaters, but I can actually see that you are struggling with being that type of person. Most people come on here, and are almost gleeful about cheating. You quite obviously are struggling, and the reasons for it, I can logically comprehend. I still don't agree with it, but I understand it.

However, this sentence right here, pisses me the fuck off. Your daughter is your husband's child, not the Pisces. You totally ignored that fact in this sentence, and it totally comes off as you saying that given the chance, you would take your daughter and go with the Pisces without thinking about her relationship with her father. It also makes me question if you know just how much your daughter would be affected by your decisions, and actions. I truly question your ability to put her first above yourself.

I hope I am wrong. But whatever it is, your child deserves to be in a healthy and happy home. It sounds like neither of those things can happen given the distrust, and how unhappy you in it. She will sense it. I wish you luck.

Hi..

Thank you for understanding. I really appreciate it. I have never cheated in my life. Ever. It's not what I do normally. And like you, I too abhor cheaters. I just can't believe I've actually ended up in this fucking mess!

Now to explain myself in terms of my little girl. I understand why are are 'pissed the fuck off.' Quite rightly so. I guess I just thought that it would go without saying, that I care about my little girls happiness as well as my own.

But - as this is an Internet forum and we all don't know each other, we can't just assume people will understand what we mean when we don't actually say it.

At the same time, I am still married. So at the present time, I have no idea how divorce will go. - How my husband (future ex), and I will raise our child separately.

- How it will affect her relationship with both of us.

- How her relationship will be with me, without him there.

- How her relationship will be with her father, without me there.

And I seriously cannot stand my husband; he is a controlling, manipulating, selfish, extremely childish, and extremely argumentative Bastard! He has always ignored everything I say, preferring to interrupt me every few seconds, talk loudly over me, and argue & defend himself in a situations where he is clearly wrong. He would rather defend his behaviour towards me, rather than listen when I say he is hurting and upsetting me.

The thought of her being alone with him, and the thought of being without her, makes me feel sick.

I love her so much that I cannot bear to be without her. I'm sure my husband would not like to be without her too.

I'm not going to go into all the long & boring details about why my marriage is a mess but - I will say that we don't get on. We don't fight all the time but it's clear that we are a total Mismatch. We rarely agree on anything - ends up being that we agree to disagree! We have nothing in common. No shared interests. No shared opinions. It's all wrong!

So hopefully from my response to you, you can see that I care very much about the effect on my little girl, if/when we divorce.

It worries me sick. Hence why I haven't divorced yet.

My post earlier was focusing on me becoming happy again, finding love again and my little girl being happy with ME. I just didn't go into the fill story of divorce and the effect on her etc.

I really hope I have cleared this up now. Please tell me if I havent.

Thanks again..☺

Trust me, I can relate more than you know. I have an ex-husband, and a son. It is often better for the child to grow up in two loving separate homes, then one combined toxic one.

What I can tell you, is the motto I live by. Love your child, more than you hate your ex. That even if for whatever reason, your ex, can not remain civil, that you remain civil.

Kids are easily adapt, they just need to know that both their parents love them. I can tell you, that my ex and I are better friends and co-parents than we were ever husband and wife. It forces both parents to stop relying on the other and stepping their game up.

At the end of the day, my ex and I have strived to put him above us, and we actually still celebrate most holidays together as a family unit. We hope that as both of us move on with our respective partners, that everyone can come together as a whole, for our son.

Not saying that is possible for everyone. But it is if both parents are mature enough to put aside all the hurts of the relationship, and build something new.

Good luck again.

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Hi ..Thank you again for your reply.

I do need to look at what's best for my little girl. At the same time, I need to sort out my head. I have so many unresolved Issues. I have mentioned the Pisces guy because not only was I in lobe with him but my husband makes me lonely and angry.

Plus...One say my little girl will grow up leave home and have a life of her own

I dont want to.be left lonely. .

So what's the problem now in divorcing OP? Sorry haven't read last pages?

Posted by Gemitati
So what's the problem now in divorcing OP? Sorry haven't read last pages?

Hi ..can I ask what OP stands for? I've seen on here a few times and never know what it means.

The problem in divorcing now is that the Pisces man I fell in love with (this will make more sense once you've read my story), has drifted away and I am heartbroken.

The reason he drifted away (after 2 years of trying to get a r'ship with me), is because I never left my husband for him.

I have a lot of marital issues which would have been solved by me leaving years ago.

Now..I don't want to be alone. I'm too unhappy. I am depressed at the moment because of all the shit that gas happened to me and I don't feel I can cope on my own emotionally.

I have been trying to fix my marriage for 5 of the 7 years we've been married but all my husband wants to do is disagree with everything I say; to never admit fault and constantly pass the buck on to me without actually admitting that his behaviour towards me is inexcusable.

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Posted by Gemitati
So what's the problem now in divorcing OP? Sorry haven't read last pages?

Hi ..can I ask what OP stands for? I've seen on here a few times and never know what it means.

The problem in divorcing now is that the Pisces man I fell in love with (this will make more sense once you've read my story), has drifted away and I am heartbroken.

The reason he drifted away (after 2 years of trying to get a r'ship with me), is because I never left my husband for him.

I have a lot of marital issues which would have been solved by me leaving years ago.

Now..I don't want to be alone. I'm too unhappy. I am depressed at the moment because of all the shit that gas happened to me and I don't feel I can cope on my own emotionally.

I have been trying to fix my marriage for 5 of the 7 years we've been married but all my husband wants to do is disagree with everything I say; to never admit fault and constantly pass the buck on to me without actually admitting that his behaviour towards me is inexcusable.

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Op is original post or poster.

I have read your story but nos last few pages.

I see. Are you sure you can't get your man back if you will tell him you are ready to divorce?

But you must BE ready! Full him one more time and it's the end of it!

Can you try get him to communicate?

Posted by piscesmoon2
Lol you don't need another relationship you need a therapist. I am not trying to be mean just being honest.

I am a male and a Pisces moon

I would say you really need to work out your stuff... I would devorce... it seems like the best and most logical option. Don't know why you have not done it already. A lot of time money is the issue... and can be a big reason woman marry dirt bags...

I am not saying also what you are doing is right because you are basically not mentally connected and so all that is keeping you together is stuff... a baby and pieces of paper.

In all honesty with the Astro influences you will be getting the divorce... it is just how long you put it off... as for the next guy it is better to be done with one before you move on... you are kinda fallowing just your emotions at this point.

Best of luck

PM

Maybe she has nowhere to go.. I assume that she's totally dependent on her husband

That's so sad 😢

Posted by Gemitati

Posted by pooface222

Posted by Gemitati
So what's the problem now in divorcing OP? Sorry haven't read last pages?

Hi ..can I ask what OP stands for? I've seen on here a few times and never know what it means.

The problem in divorcing now is that the Pisces man I fell in love with (this will make more sense once you've read my story), has drifted away and I am heartbroken.

The reason he drifted away (after 2 years of trying to get a r'ship with me), is because I never left my husband for him.

I have a lot of marital issues which would have been solved by me leaving years ago.

Now..I don't want to be alone. I'm too unhappy. I am depressed at the moment because of all the shit that gas happened to me and I don't feel I can cope on my own emotionally.

I have been trying to fix my marriage for 5 of the 7 years we've been married but all my husband wants to do is disagree with everything I say; to never admit fault and constantly pass the buck on to me without actually admitting that his behaviour towards me is inexcusable.

Op is original post or poster.

I have read your story but nos last few pages.

I see. Are you sure you can't get your man back if you will tell him you are ready to divorce?

But you must BE ready! Full him one more time and it's the end of it!

Can you try get him to communicate?

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Hi ☺ Thank you for explaining..

Well I have tried to get this man back but it's hard as you may imagine. He was in love with me, and I with him. But due to various multiple issues in my marriage I became bogged down in misery, while trying to maintain a secret r'ship with this guy, until I am ready to leave my husband for him.

Sadly it's all gone wrong. The guy I want has drifted away. I saw him today. He was at my local gym taking part in a class. I was waiting outside the studio to go in and he was there with his partner (he wanted to leave her for me).

I felt so nervous around him, and insecure that I couldn't even look at him. I felt sick because I love him. And he was with his partner and with other people there waiting to go into the fitness studio its impossible to talk.

BUT he waited for everyone to go into the studio leaving just me and him. But only for a few seconds. I tensed up and stared at the floor. He said 'Are you okay?' I kept staring at the floor and just slowly shrugged my shoulders saying nothing to him.

I hadn't seen him for weeks before today.

We occasionally talk on WhatsApp but it's 'nothing talk' if that makes sense?

He thanked me for wishing him Happy Birthday on 22nd Feb (I texted him on his birthday, and he thanked me in reply).

I sent him a WhatsApp a few days ago saying 'For what it's worth I'm getting divorced.'

I wasn't testing him or anything like that; my husband and I are just bitching each other and it's clear we should have split up years ago. Divorce is on the cards and has been discussed between me and husband.

My Pisces guy didn't reply to my divorce message. This scared me. I don't know what I thought he might say but something would have been reassuring.

Maybe the fact that he came to me today shows he still cares?

I'm dying to talk with him.alone and I have asked him but no reply.

On Jan 7th he sent me a text saying ..

Not rejecting you. That's not me. I know it might appear that way and I am sorry. I intended to be there this morning. We need to talk. Soon I hope.

Have a great night. X

The 'I intended to be there this morning' was a reference to him attending one of my classes - I'm a Fitness Instructor.

I just don't know what to do..

Thanks for asking btw x

Ps @Gemitati

What does 'Full him one more time 'etc mean?

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Posted by Gemitati

Posted by pooface222

Posted by Gemitati
So what's the problem now in divorcing OP? Sorry haven't read last pages?

Hi ..can I ask what OP stands for? I've seen on here a few times and never know what it means.

The problem in divorcing now is that the Pisces man I fell in love with (this will make more sense once you've read my story), has drifted away and I am heartbroken.

The reason he drifted away (after 2 years of trying to get a r'ship with me), is because I never left my husband for him.

I have a lot of marital issues which would have been solved by me leaving years ago.

Now..I don't want to be alone. I'm too unhappy. I am depressed at the moment because of all the shit that gas happened to me and I don't feel I can cope on my own emotionally.

I have been trying to fix my marriage for 5 of the 7 years we've been married but all my husband wants to do is disagree with everything I say; to never admit fault and constantly pass the buck on to me without actually admitting that his behaviour towards me is inexcusable.

Op is original post or poster.

I have read your story but nos last few pages.

I see. Are you sure you can't get your man back if you will tell him you are ready to divorce?

But you must BE ready! Full him one more time and it's the end of it!

Can you try get him to communicate?

Hi ☺ Thank you for explaining..

Well I have tried to get this man back but it's hard as you may imagine. He was in love with me, and I with him. But due to various multiple issues in my marriage I became bogged down in misery, while trying to maintain a secret r'ship with this guy, until I am ready to leave my husband for him.

Sadly it's all gone wrong. The guy I want has drifted away. I saw him today. He was at my local gym taking part in a class. I was waiting outside the studio to go in and he was there with his partner (he wanted to leave her for me).

I felt so nervous around him, and insecure that I couldn't even look at him. I felt sick because I love him. And he was with his partner and with other people there waiting to go into the fitness studio its impossible to talk.

BUT he waited for everyone to go into the studio leaving just me and him. But only for a few seconds. I tensed up and stared at the floor. He said 'Are you okay?' I kept staring at the floor and just slowly shrugged my shoulders saying nothing to him.

I hadn't seen him for weeks before today.

We occasionally talk on WhatsApp but it's 'nothing talk' if that makes sense?

He thanked me for wishing him Happy Birthday on 22nd Feb (I texted him on his birthday, and he thanked me in reply).

I sent him a WhatsApp a few days ago saying 'For what it's worth I'm getting divorced.'

I wasn't testing him or anything like that; my husband and I are just bitching each other and it's clear we should have split up years ago. Divorce is on the cards and has been discussed between me and husband.

My Pisces guy didn't reply to my divorce message. This scared me. I don't know what I thought he might say but something would have been reassuring.

Maybe the fact that he came to me today shows he still cares?

I'm dying to talk with him.alone and I have asked him but no reply.

On Jan 7th he sent me a text saying ..

Not rejecting you. That's not me. I know it might appear that way and I am sorry. I intended to be there this morning. We need to talk. Soon I hope.

Have a great night. X

The 'I intended to be there this morning' was a reference to him attending one of my classes - I'm a Fitness Instructor.

I just don't know what to do..

Thanks for asking btw x

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So you know where to find him!

Get your divorce and keep him posted while it's going on so he knows how to rearrange his life for you.

Don't mop around! Do it! Good luck!

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Posted by piscesmoon2
Lol you don't need another relationship you need a therapist. I am not trying to be mean just being honest.

I am a male and a Pisces moon

I would say you really need to work out your stuff... I would devorce... it seems like the best and most logical option. Don't know why you have not done it already. A lot of time money is the issue... and can be a big reason woman marry dirt bags...

I am not saying also what you are doing is right because you are basically not mentally connected and so all that is keeping you together is stuff... a baby and pieces of paper.

In all honesty with the Astro influences you will be getting the divorce... it is just how long you put it off... as for the next guy it is better to be done with one before you move on... you are kinda fallowing just your emotions at this point.

Best of luck

PM

Maybe she has nowhere to go.. I assume that she's totally dependent on her husband

That's so sad 😢

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Hi x

I am financially dependant on my husband as I am a mum to our little girl of nearly 3. I also work a few hours a week self employed.

If we divorce, I am told he will have to provide a home for me and our child and will want access.

I have been so unhappy for years that I am dying to be in love again.

Posted by pooface222
Ps @Gemitati

What does 'Full him one more time 'etc mean?

Fool lol

Posted by Gemitati

Posted by pooface222

Posted by Gemitati

Posted by pooface222

Posted by Gemitati
So what's the problem now in divorcing OP? Sorry haven't read last pages?

Hi ..can I ask what OP stands for? I've seen on here a few times and never know what it means.

The problem in divorcing now is that the Pisces man I fell in love with (this will make more sense once you've read my story), has drifted away and I am heartbroken.

The reason he drifted away (after 2 years of trying to get a r'ship with me), is because I never left my husband for him.

I have a lot of marital issues which would have been solved by me leaving years ago.

Now..I don't want to be alone. I'm too unhappy. I am depressed at the moment because of all the shit that gas happened to me and I don't feel I can cope on my own emotionally.

I have been trying to fix my marriage for 5 of the 7 years we've been married but all my husband wants to do is disagree with everything I say; to never admit fault and constantly pass the buck on to me without actually admitting that his behaviour towards me is inexcusable.

Op is original post or poster.

I have read your story but nos last few pages.

I see. Are you sure you can't get your man back if you will tell him you are ready to divorce?

But you must BE ready! Full him one more time and it's the end of it!

Can you try get him to communicate?

Hi ☺ Thank you for explaining..

Well I have tried to get this man back but it's hard as you may imagine. He was in love with me, and I with him. But due to various multiple issues in my marriage I became bogged down in misery, while trying to maintain a secret r'ship with this guy, until I am ready to leave my husband for him.

Sadly it's all gone wrong. The guy I want has drifted away. I saw him today. He was at my local gym taking part in a class. I was waiting outside the studio to go in and he was there with his partner (he wanted to leave her for me).

I felt so nervous around him, and insecure that I couldn't even look at him. I felt sick because I love him. And he was with his partner and with other people there waiting to go into the fitness studio its impossible to talk.

BUT he waited for everyone to go into the studio leaving just me and him. But only for a few seconds. I tensed up and stared at the floor. He said 'Are you okay?' I kept staring at the floor and just slowly shrugged my shoulders saying nothing to him.

I hadn't seen him for weeks before today.

We occasionally talk on WhatsApp but it's 'nothing talk' if that makes sense?

He thanked me for wishing him Happy Birthday on 22nd Feb (I texted him on his birthday, and he thanked me in reply).

I sent him a WhatsApp a few days ago saying 'For what it's worth I'm getting divorced.'

I wasn't testing him or anything like that; my husband and I are just bitching each other and it's clear we should have split up years ago. Divorce is on the cards and has been discussed between me and husband.

My Pisces guy didn't reply to my divorce message. This scared me. I don't know what I thought he might say but something would have been reassuring.

Maybe the fact that he came to me today shows he still cares?

I'm dying to talk with him.alone and I have asked him but no reply.

On Jan 7th he sent me a text saying ..

Not rejecting you. That's not me. I know it might appear that way and I am sorry. I intended to be there this morning. We need to talk. Soon I hope.

Have a great night. X

The 'I intended to be there this morning' was a reference to him attending one of my classes - I'm a Fitness Instructor.

I just don't know what to do..

Thanks for asking btw x

So you know where to find him!

Get your divorce and keep him posted while it's going on so he knows how to rearrange his life for you.

Don't mop around! Do it! Good luck!

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Thanks so much for responding x

I'm so tired of being miserable.

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Posted by pooface222
Ps @Gemitati

What does 'Full him one more time 'etc mean?

Fool lol

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Ah okay. .makes sense now ?

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Posted by pisceanloves

Posted by piscesmoon2
Lol you don't need another relationship you need a therapist. I am not trying to be mean just being honest.

I am a male and a Pisces moon

I would say you really need to work out your stuff... I would devorce... it seems like the best and most logical option. Don't know why you have not done it already. A lot of time money is the issue... and can be a big reason woman marry dirt bags...

I am not saying also what you are doing is right because you are basically not mentally connected and so all that is keeping you together is stuff... a baby and pieces of paper.

In all honesty with the Astro influences you will be getting the divorce... it is just how long you put it off... as for the next guy it is better to be done with one before you move on... you are kinda fallowing just your emotions at this point.

Best of luck

PM

Maybe she has nowhere to go.. I assume that she's totally dependent on her husband

That's so sad 😢

Hi x

I am financially dependant on my husband as I am a mum to our little girl of nearly 3. I also work a few hours a week self employed.

If we divorce, I am told he will have to provide a home for me and our child and will want access.

I have been so unhappy for years that I am dying to be in love again.

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I understand.. I'm following this thread since it was posted. It popped up today and I read it all over again, it brought tears to my eyes. What can I say, I'm happy for you two, finally you found him, what you waiting for, just do it, leave your husband. Wish you the best of luck, and hope to hear about happy ending . I want you to be happy, never cried here before. What you have is so real, keep it and never ever let go.

Posted by pisceanloves

Posted by pooface222

Posted by pisceanloves

Posted by piscesmoon2
Lol you don't need another relationship you need a therapist. I am not trying to be mean just being honest.

I am a male and a Pisces moon

I would say you really need to work out your stuff... I would devorce... it seems like the best and most logical option. Don't know why you have not done it already. A lot of time money is the issue... and can be a big reason woman marry dirt bags...

I am not saying also what you are doing is right because you are basically not mentally connected and so all that is keeping you together is stuff... a baby and pieces of paper.

In all honesty with the Astro influences you will be getting the divorce... it is just how long you put it off... as for the next guy it is better to be done with one before you move on... you are kinda fallowing just your emotions at this point.

Best of luck

PM

Maybe she has nowhere to go.. I assume that she's totally dependent on her husband

That's so sad 😢

Hi x

I am financially dependant on my husband as I am a mum to our little girl of nearly 3. I also work a few hours a week self employed.

If we divorce, I am told he will have to provide a home for me and our child and will want access.

I have been so unhappy for years that I am dying to be in love again.

I understand.. I'm following this thread since it was posted. It popped up today and I read it all over again, it brought tears to my eyes. What can I say, I'm happy for you two, finally you found him, what you waiting for, just do it, leave your husband. Wish you the best of luck, and hope to hear about happy ending . I want you to be happy, never cried here before. What you have is so real, keep it and never ever let go.

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Hi ya xx Thank you for your kind understanding message. I have cried too - lots over my situation. It's part of my depression.

And get this for Fate..

I got pregnant to my husband around June 2013. He walked into my life April 2013!! ??

AND during our conversations he told me, about a year ago, That the first time he saw me (at the Gym we both go to - and have done for years but never knew until 2013), I wasn't married!?

He said 'I remember you talking about getting married.' I worked out from this that the year would have been 2009 - the year i got married.

We both would have been in the same fitness studio at the same time. I asked him when it was time - wise. He said 'Late Summer'

He then said 'You never noticed me..'

I felt my heart both swell and throb when he said that. How heartbreaking is that??

There he was wanting me, and listening to me talk about getting married - and I never noticed him!! —? just hearing that from him made me want to cry!

I said to him 'Why didn't you Make me notice you? Or come and talk to me??'

He replied 'I was f**ked - up at the time and had loads of issues. I wanted to be ready for you'

OMG OMG OMG!

It's like a goddamn romance novel!

I swear to god I am totally WRAPPED in this guy! I can't believe I didn't leave my a**ehole husband for him!

This Pisces guy has been around me and wanting me for Years! Since 2009!

It's so romantic! And I'm a Sucker for Romance!

Moreover ..I had been feeling a presence for years too! Around the time I got married, I also qualified as a Fitness Instructor! Both in 2009!

AND he has been a member of the very same gym I first taught at once I qualified. The very same gym he watched and listen to me talk about getting married xx

I think I shall faint! (Drama Queen joke! )

Hey ..everyone here.

I think it's finally over with me and Pisces guy. I totally fucked up this time!

As you may know I've been very very unhappy in marriage but I keep staying in it as I think there's something worth saving.

However all its done is cause me more and more insecurity. And now I'm depressed. And nothing feels right and now I am too scared to get divorced as I don't want to be alone.

With Pisces guy (I think I mentioned this scenario recently), I saw him about 2 weeks ago on a Sunday at the gym. His partner was there but there was still a chance to look at him and smile at him without her seeing.

We and others were waiting outside the studio to go into a fitness class. Anyway once I arrived outside the studio I saw him and got very excited ! BUT I behaved the opposite! I totally ignored him by looking at the floor and when e everyone was going in he even waited to ask me if I was okay. It was only a few seconds though. I kept ignoring him all through the class. He looked at me a few times.

He left the class early before the cooldown which upset me so I messaged him with..

are You okay?

why did you run away before class was finished?

He didn't reply. Okay it's a stupid question I know but I wanted to say something to him. This was a Sunday. He finally messaged me with..

Had to get back on the treadmill for 15 minutes. Thought I should stay out of your way too after your reaction to me being there...

Hope you are feeling ok. X

I can't believe I ignored him! I am all over the place emotionally and with a child of 3 I have no time to think! Ever! I am depressed and wishing I'd left my husband years ago. And now I've lost Pisces.

I think I ignored him as a stupid attempt at attention -seeking from him. I don't normally do this with anyone, but I'm so sad all the time I think I just wanted a cuddle from him.

I don't him a message apologising to him saying..

'Look..

I don't know how to Be around you at the moment.



We've barely seen each other this year. If at all.

On Sunday I couldn't look at you. But God I WANTED to!

If I had just looked up at you, you would have seen all my love in my eyes..

Talk to me x'

His reply was this. .

'Hey. ? You decided not to look. I get that. It's ok. I can see I am not right for you. I will inevitably drive you nuts in the end and I don't want us to end up like that. X'

—

We are very right for each other. We both felt it knew it and told each other, some time ago.

BUT because of so many obstacles in the way in both of our lives, we have not been able to be together.

But the actual relationship we had with each other was beautiful and perfect (for me), as we connected on a deep level and it felt like we had become one and could touch each other without laying a single finger on each other.

I quite literally don't know what to do anymore. I am lonely & depressed and I need time by myself to sort my head out.

But I can't do this as I have a little girl.

My whole life now is a fucking mess emotionally. Too much has happened to me in a short space of time and it's all come crashing down.

Thanks for your time and advice everyone xx

He thinks you are rejecting him, not the other way round.

Do you not have a family member or close friend you could stay with while you sort your divorce.

If you could see my female boss at work together with her husband, they are so close and loving to each other, its lovely, cap f Pisces m ?

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He thinks you are rejecting him, not the other way round.

Do you not have a family member or close friend you could stay with while you sort your divorce.

If you could see my female boss at work together with her husband, they are so close and loving to each other, its lovely, cap f Pisces m ?

Hi again Pisces Poppy. Thank you again so much for understanding xx you are always so kind and you always try to help. I really appreciate your lovely responses ?

I so wish I could see your work couple For Cap & Make Pisces..I bet it's harmonious too. We've barely spoken this year but even though we met about 3 1/2 years ago there has been so much going on in his life and mine for us to be together.

The problem is that my Pisces has become hurt at me not leaving my marriage. The difficulty with me leaving my marriage is that if I had divorced 2 years ago when me and Pisces were dating (we've barely dated since 2 years ago. He became hurt at me not being with him), he would have been seeing me behind his partners back like I am some kind of dirty secret.

The reason for this is that 2 years ago he was still married to his ex wife but separated. Therfore was still paying the mortgage for his ex wife and teenage son.

It's all very complicated.

And at the same time paying towards bills etc while living with his partner in her house. He told me at the time (2 years ago), "I can't afford to leave my partner." I was fine with this as I was in no rush to leave my marriage until I had sorted my head out since having a baby.

In 2015 he also started going through a very Le grey and horrible divorce. He only became divorced in under a year - so roughly about May 2016.

I just didn't expect him - in 2015 - to start pushing (but in a gentle subtle way), to find out why I wasn't leaving my marriage when we couldn't actually be together at the time.

Now If you have had kids and are running tour house too - all the cleaning and tidying you will know what a shock to your system having a baby is. Then the tiredness and the stress of all the tidying etc when they start to walk, their eating habits and their erratic sleeping.

With all this going on in my life and while working I've had no head space to tell him that now is not the right time for us to be together. So I have unintentionally hurt him.

I only realised in the last 2 weeks why I've never left my marriage - too much going on in his life and too much stress in my marriage with all the arguments and also my husbands mum dying too!

What I want now is to be able to sit him down and finally tell him why I never left my marriage for him. Now that I finally worked out the real reason.

I've had too much on my plate. He's had too much on his plate. And trying to see each other behind our partners backs has been hard as neither one of us wants have to keep on lying to our partners.

That is why he has drifted away and to some extent I have drafted away too. Too much going on in both of our lives and we don't want to have to lie to be together - but at the same time can't be together - even though we really want to be.

It's all gone weird now though.

I've become very insecure in my marriage.

He doesn't talk to me or come to my fitness classes like he used to and he doesn't call me or reply to any of my messages.

We have gone a bit weird on each other. His recent texts - only 2 are short ine-liners sounding down and with no kisses etc.

Mine are covered in misses like his used to be, in a bid to say 'I still like you lots'

Anyway. .as you said I've got to sort my marriage out etc

Thanks again xx

@piscespoppy sorry for all the typos!

I meant F Cap and M Pisces.

I also meant Lengthy divorce not Le grey!

Its ok hun don't worry bout typos! Sort yourself out and keep in touch with your Pisces throughout, ok x ?

Hi again everyone..x

Just wanted to tell you why I never left my husband for this Pisces guy I liked. I only worked it out in the last 3 weeks.

First of all, let me saying thank you again to everyone giving me advice etc it really is appreciated. I hope I'm not boring everyone. I'm suffering from depression from the events of my life since my little girl was born so, it helps me to wrote posts on here, to try and clear my head.

So..I have realised that instead of trying to leave my husband for another man, I should have just left to be on my own and also to sort out my head and my heart. If anyone here has already told me this then apologies, I'm all over the place.

Anyway, any of you been in a situation where something feels so right - BUT! And you can't work out what the 'But' is? And then it dawns on you!

Well I've realised that when Pisces and I were dating (Summer 2015, seems like years ago now), he was still married (but separated), to his ex-wife. He was also paying his ex-wifes mortgage and while living with his partner.

Therefore had I left my husband at the time, in order to be with him, me and Pisces couldn't be together because Financially AND Practically it wouldn't have worked!

Financially - in order for him to be with me, it would mean him, not only leaving his partner, but also moving in with me. This would mean that my (ex) husband would no longer have to help me with my mortgage because my new (Pisces) partner would have to instead. Therefore Pisces couldn't afford to help with my mortgage as well as pay his ex-wifes!

Practically - due to ex-wifes mortgage, Pisces would have to stay living with his partner (until divorce goes through).

Therefore even if I'd got divorced, me & Pisces would still be meeting behind his partners back. He would be seeing me and my new place in the daytime and going home to his partner at night!

This would make me feel like his dirty secret.

I just wish I'd worked this out at the time!! I've been in such an emotional mess since our baby was born - too much going on in my marriage - fights/arguments, a house move, all too soon! And then falling in love with Pisces guy!

Pisces guy has been divorced since about May last year. I'm now wishing I had just got divorced at the same time as him But - for my own benefit of being single, and starting my life again with my little girl, INSTEAD of focusing on a new relationship!

The sad thing now is that, even though all the obstacles that were in the way of us being together are now gone, I think Pisces guy has lost interest! ! I mean I'm not surprised but I've realised TOO LATE that we have never been able to be together! Too much has happened with us trying to be together! Too much going on in his life and in mine!

However now, the timing is perfect!

I just don't think he wants me anymore ? I can't stop crying. I miss him like hell! I'm hurting very very badly. I'm in love.

And if he came back to me to go for a coffee etc and said he missed me, I'd get divorced Tomorrow!

I was on the treadmill next to him a week or 2 ago at the gym. We had a nice chat but not a proper one as we were both running!

I told him about me and my husband sleeping in separate rooms! Not wearing our rings anymore.

He said 'I'm sorry you have to go through that.'

We chatted a little more but just chit chat then he said our of the blue 'Friends.' ??

I was stunned! I said 'What did you say?' (I heard him perfectly!) He was silent. So I asked the same question again. More silence!

Then he said 'Friends First.'

I think he was just softening the blow though!

I have no chance of getting him back and it's killing me! I am very heart-broken and in a lot of pain emotionally.

Thanks again for helping me with my Crap, everyone xx nite nite.. (it's 12.40am here in UK! )

It seems that you just keep saying the same things over and over, but, never actually do anything to help yourself.

You want to complain and whine about how miserable you are ..... obviously, for years and not do anything to rectify any problems.

You just keep blaming whatever is available.

You never had any intentions of divorcing the husband for the betterment of your child, or yourself ... you only thought about it IF there was another man waiting on the other side.

I don't have sympathy for people who aren't willing to help themselves. Had you actually been trying to have a better life and real obstacles kept finding themselves in your path, then that would be different. But, that's not the case. There's nothing standing in your way, except you, and your desire to have people feel sorry for you.

The Pisces will never tolerate such an emotionally weak person. You never had a chance with him in the long haul.

There is no real counsel that can be given to you ..... you have no drive or desire to do right things. Your only desires are to whimper about miserable you are.

This relationship has just been one confusing journey!

As time goes by, I keep realising more & more that I never realised before.

Mr Pisces told me (in the beginning), that he wanted to take things slow. YET once I let my guard down and the flirting started, he started rushing things!

It really confused me! I wanted to take things Slow too!

Those of you who have been following my story will know that we met in a gym in one of my fitness classes.

So once we started to take our relationship out of the gym and into the wide world (lunch and coffee dates), I thought me and him would carry on seeing each other, until we were both ready to leave our partners.

I had only moved house 6 months previously when the lunch dates started, and my little girl was just a year old. I had gone through a lot of emotional shit with my husband since our baby was born so was not going to rush a new relationship!

However on our 2nd or 3rd lunch date, (Summer 2015), he said "Where do we go from here?"

Err I don't know! We've only just started dating! I didn't say this though. I just felt very confused hearing this from a man who wants to go slow.

From that moment, he continued to ask me that question including texting me with 'What now?' Over and over. I wasn't able to answer because I'd been through too much. So had he and our lives were such that we couldn't leave our partners at the time.

As I said in my previous message here, we were unable to be together for both financial & practical reasons. SO I always thought that me and Pisces would continue seeing each other until the time is right to leave our partners.

The reason this relationship has been so confusing is the way Pisces guy has come into my life, and on one hand rushed things, but on the other hand backed off and gone silent on me. Maybe he was giving me time to sort my marriage out? Therefore stayed out of the way. He did this with his current partner, who also left her marriage for him.

To be honest, all the backing off and silence has done nothing but confuse me.

If I am to leave my marriage for another man, then I need the other man to be present in my life as much as he can be (despite being in a relationship), so that we can talk regularly, discuss changes to our lives and gradually make that transition from being with someone else to being together finally.

I have been so confused by his constant backing off, and then coming back. We barely saw each other Last Yea (2016). We had 2 dates. One in Jan where he told me he's in love with me. And the 2nd one in July where he said 'Why are you with him?' Meaning my husband.

To be honest I was very confused then too. I can't leave my marriage for a man who disappears and re-appears and with barely any contact in between. It doesn't fill me with confidence in leaving. I even messaged him to say 'Where are you? Why all the silence.'

Result? Silence. And then reappearing as if nothing happened!

So I ask the question. What Now?

Well..I've gone from 2 men in my life, to None! My husband and I are sleeping in separate rooms and our rings are off.

I'm lonely. Depressed. And still confused!

I realise now I should have just left my husband in order for me to be SINGLE! Not to leave him for Pisces guy.

The timing wasn't right for me and Pisces to be together properly.

SO the options were..

- Stay in my marriage until it's the right time for me and Pisces to be together properly.

BUT for me and Pisces to actually CONTINUE seeing each other, instead of all the disappearing/re-appearing & silence he did.

-Get divorced BUT to be single! Not see Pisces guy. Give myself some time to heal and to enjoy single life with my little girl. Tell Pisces guy I need space & time. All the while his divorce (he's Separated) was going through.

He has been divorced for nearly a year now. I'm still married! (On paper). Maybe that's why he rushed things? So we can divorce at the same time as each other. Don't know though.

Pisces guy is - in a way - homeless.

He walked out on his wife and kid when his kid was 7. And went to live in his CAR! Eventually a friend of his let him move in until he sorts himself out. Then at some point he met his current partner and moved in with her. But it's her place. She owns it!

I think if we were to be together, he would leave his partner and have to move straight in with me to my new house (once I'm divorced!). And I don't think I'd like that! To get divorced only to be back living with a man again!

I always wondered what us leaving our partners would look like? Eg would it mean him moving in with me straight away?

I never asked him though. Never thought to.

It's over now anyway. He still sends the odd text. But only when I text him first - sadly. And even then he doesn't reply every time.

Our last text conversation went like this..

ME - 'Good morning x

I've been thinking that we've not really seen each other this year.

Would you like to meet for a coffee?'

I got No Reply ?



The Next day, I sent this. .

ME - 'My Darling (name)

When it comes to us, I thought we would continue seeing each other, until we were ready to be together Properly. Even if it took a bit of time. What's the rush?

I also feel that you wanted things to happen Faster than they did. And when they didn't happen, you got very upset.

I was taking things Slow. For us x

Sadly you have drifted away from what we had..x

And I have been left feeling very rejected.

What we had was the start of something beautiful (we just needed to take our time). .xx

I Loved Us..I miss us x'

I got no reply again. Ok ?

Then finally at 9.41pm on the same day..

PISCES GUY - 'Hey. Coffee would be good. Have a great easter weekend. See you soon hopefully. X'

So like I said..judging from his reply (and non-reply)..I give up!

Very heartbroken and still in love with him.

Thank you all again for trying to help. It's very much appreciated x