Cancer69
@Cancer96
6 Years
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Complicated Pisces ex
Hold yourself to the same standard you hold him.
Posted by LadyNeptune
Hold yourself to the same standard you hold him.
Elaborate
Tbh there's 2 types of Pisces men I've always encountered, as partners. Either they're an emotional cheater, or unmotivated/lazy.
if it were me, i'd be like: "hey, why you so awkward?"
OR wait for him to have a new gf
OR wait for him to have a new gf
if it were me, i'd be like: "hey, why you so awkward?"
OR wait for him to have a new gf
Omg, haha I wish!
But this guy is literally eggshells, and is too good at playing the victim that I wouldn't. He doesn't have a gf rn, though, and idk nor care about his relationships after we broke up.
I think people are way different when they are 14-15 compared to an adult at 20 and 21.
You guys couldn't have even been together for a long time at that young of an age.
Why not just ignore him?
Some people don't want to remain friends after a break up, it's his choice and not a reflection on you.
Maybe he can tell it bugs you, so he's having some fun with it. Either case, you shouldn't give it any attention at all.
You guys couldn't have even been together for a long time at that young of an age.
Why not just ignore him?
Some people don't want to remain friends after a break up, it's his choice and not a reflection on you.
Maybe he can tell it bugs you, so he's having some fun with it. Either case, you shouldn't give it any attention at all.
Being in the same group while ignoring each other is what makes things awkward, for anyone involved.
The secret is to behave normally, and treat him as you treat the other friends/group members.
Also, mind your attitude! Pisces could read body language and even thoughts. You are both immature at your tender age, so no point in treating him with contempt because of some childish things he might have done as a teenager!
The secret is to behave normally, and treat him as you treat the other friends/group members.
Also, mind your attitude! Pisces could read body language and even thoughts. You are both immature at your tender age, so no point in treating him with contempt because of some childish things he might have done as a teenager!
Posted by LadyNeptune
Hold yourself to the same standard you hold him.
Elaborateclick to expand
You seem bothered he isn’t warm and friendly and ‘welcoming’ with you, while admitting your actively ignored his existence the last few years. He’s just giving back the same energy you’ve been giving him.
Posted by LadyNeptune
Hold yourself to the same standard you hold him.
Elaborate
click to expand
You seem bothered he isn’t warm and friendly and ‘welcoming’ with you, while admitting your actively ignored his existence the last few years. He’s just giving back the same energy you’ve been giving him.
If you read my entire post, I said the last time I attempted communication with this ex years ago he started getting pissy and crying to all our friends saying I'm being obsessive with him. The contact itself wasn't anything ill-willed, it was just along the lines of me greeting him and asking how things have been?
Perhaps that approach itself was too invasive or even offensive by his standards, idek.
Several friends suggested that I don't make any direct contact with him. He's the one that's ignored me first since the breakup, and now that I've been ignoring him he's still behaving this way. Yet, he does in fact, listen to my convos and jokes that I make within our friends group. I just don't understand this Pisces guy ...
I think people are way different when they are 14-15 compared to an adult at 20 and 21.
You guys couldn't have even been together for a long time at that young of an age.
Why not just ignore him?
Some people don't want to remain friends after a break up, it's his choice and not a reflection on you.
Maybe he can tell it bugs you, so he's having some fun with it. Either case, you shouldn't give it any attention at all.click to expand
Let me clarify, that was the age we broke up. Sorry for the confusion.
So, first things off, this pisces ex (20M) and I (21F) broke up over 5 years ago. Because we do share the same mutual friends, we're bound to bump into each other again.
I'm engaged now, and afaik everyone else knows that too. My fiancé is also among the group of friends. Dunno if ex knows too, but wouldn't matter to me.
What matters is that everytime I'm around he acts like all sulky like a dog with his tail between his legs. Wtf? I don't talk to him, and I ignore him. He ignores me too. The one time I did reach out to him, years ago after the break-up he started this whole bullsh!t drama against me, accusing me of being obsessive with the same friends group. That's in the past now, so I don't bother even acknowledging his presence. He seems like an underdeveloped, childish pisces imo.
What bothers me is when he starts copying my humor and convos among the same group of friends. I make a joke or two, he'll hear it but acts as if I'm invisible because he's avoiding me ofc. But then he makes the similar jokes with the same group, but in a different place/time with them. It's even more noticeable when he's acting all cheerful among our friends, but when I show up, they're all welcoming me while he acts as if my presence hurts his own poor little boy feelings. Again, I just ignore him and enjoy the company of my friends and fiancé. Are Pisces always this butt-hurt, even years after a break-up? I don't get these fishy men ... even my friends acknowledge that he gets all hurt when I show up, even though I haven't done anything wrong to him nor talked to him for years.
PS: I do not know the interaction between my fiancé and ex either, besides the fact that they are also in the same mutual friends group.
DO you KNOW ANYTHING about your fiancé?
You said: do not know the interaction between my fiancé and ex either, besides the fact that they are also in the same mutual friends group...
WHAT— 🤷♀️
Being in the same group while ignoring each other is what makes things awkward, for anyone involved.
The secret is to behave normally, and treat him as you treat the other friends/group members.
Also, mind your attitude! Pisces could read body language and even thoughts. You are both immature at your tender age, so no point in treating him with contempt because of some childish things he might have done as a teenager!
The question is, why would he get mad at me for ignoring him for all these years when he did it first. Then started getting sensitive when I reached out to him the one time years ago. You'd think the lesson here is stop talking to him, and he'll be fine but he's still being sulky when I'm around as if the break up just happened yesterday.
Posted by LadyNeptune
Hold yourself to the same standard you hold him.
Elaborate
click to expand
You seem bothered he isn’t warm and friendly and ‘welcoming’ with you, while admitting your actively ignored his existence the last few years. He’s just giving back the same energy you’ve been giving him.
click to expand
If you read my entire post, I said the last time I attempted communication with this ex he started getting pissy and crying to all our friends saying I'm being obsessive with him. The contact itself wasn't anything ill-willed, it was just along the lines of me greeting him and asking how things have been?
Perhaps that approach itself was too invasive or even offensive by his standards, idek.
Several friends suggested that I don't make any direct contact with him. He's the one that's ignored me first since the breakup, and now that I've been ignoring him he's still behaving this way. Yet, he does in fact, listen to my convos and jokes that I make within our friends group. I just don't understand this Pisces guy ...click to expand
You DO NOT NEED to UNDERSTAND this Pisces guy! You do not need to lie to your fiancé about your feelings. You do need to stop being a stupid ass and be obsessed with your ex.
I can predict - as soon as he gets a GF - you will be so pissed and acting stupid AF!!!
Because I am failing to see ONE smart act from you. All childish stupid bullshit…
Being in the same group while ignoring each other is what makes things awkward, for anyone involved.
The secret is to behave normally, and treat him as you treat the other friends/group members.
Also, mind your attitude! Pisces could read body language and even thoughts. You are both immature at your tender age, so no point in treating him with contempt because of some childish things he might have done as a teenager!
The question is, why would he get mad at me for ignoring him for all these years when he did it first. Then started getting sensitive when I reached out to him the one time years ago. You'd think the lesson here is stop talking to him, and he'll be fine but he's still being sulky when I'm around as if the break up just happened yesterday.click to expand
As I said, you need to treat him normally, like you treat others. Ignoring someone who is part of the same group is a form of mental and emotional abuse. What you are doing is abusing him! He is reacting to it accordingly, while you wrongly assume he is still upset because of the breakup....
Change your OWN behaviour, because this is the only thing you can change. You'll see an improvement in your interactions very soon. Right now, he is giving you back the same crap you are giving him, because Pisces tend to mimic the people they like. But you seem to be triggered by this as well....
Are you really trying to have a nice, peaceful interaction (which is what a Pisces likes) or just stirring the plot for some drama?
Posted by LadyNeptune
Hold yourself to the same standard you hold him.
Elaborate
click to expand
You seem bothered he isn’t warm and friendly and ‘welcoming’ with you, while admitting your actively ignored his existence the last few years. He’s just giving back the same energy you’ve been giving him.
If you read my entire post, I said the last time I attempted communication with this ex years ago he started getting pissy and crying to all our friends saying I'm being obsessive with him. The contact itself wasn't anything ill-willed, it was just along the lines of me greeting him and asking how things have been?
Perhaps that approach itself was too invasive or even offensive by his standards, idek.
Several friends suggested that I don't make any direct contact with him. He's the one that's ignored me first since the breakup, and now that I've been ignoring him he's still behaving this way. Yet, he does in fact, listen to my convos and jokes that I make within our friends group. I just don't understand this Pisces guy ...
I think people are way different when they are 14-15 compared to an adult at 20 and 21.
You guys couldn't have even been together for a long time at that young of an age.
Why not just ignore him?
Some people don't want to remain friends after a break up, it's his choice and not a reflection on you.
Maybe he can tell it bugs you, so he's having some fun with it. Either case, you shouldn't give it any attention at all.
click to expand
Let me clarify, that was the age we broke up. Sorry for the confusion.click to expand
Sure, but that was years ago. So for the past few years you've been ignoring him around your mutual friends. So to call him butt hurt or whatever for doing the same is a big self report.
And to clarify, I'm not saying your wrong for ignoring him. By all means, continue to ignore his ass. Just don't be bothered when he seems mad at your rudeness.
Being in the same group while ignoring each other is what makes things awkward, for anyone involved.
The secret is to behave normally, and treat him as you treat the other friends/group members.
Also, mind your attitude! Pisces could read body language and even thoughts. You are both immature at your tender age, so no point in treating him with contempt because of some childish things he might have done as a teenager!
The question is, why would he get mad at me for ignoring him for all these years when he did it first. Then started getting sensitive when I reached out to him the one time years ago. You'd think the lesson here is stop talking to him, and he'll be fine but he's still being sulky when I'm around as if the break up just happened yesterday.
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As I said, you need to treat him normally, like you treat others. Ignoring someone who is part of the same group is a form of mental and emotional abuse. What you are doing is abusing him! He is reacting to it accordingly, while you wrongly assume he is still upset because of the breakup....
Change your OWN behaviour, because this is the only thing you can change. You'll see an improvement in your interactions very soon. Right now, he is giving you back the same crap you are giving him, because Pisces tend to mimic the people they like. But you seem to be triggered by this as well....
Are you really trying to have a nice, peaceful interaction (which is what a Pisces likes) or just stirring the plot for some drama?click to expand
I'm sorry. I fail to understand how greeting him and asking how he was, once, years ago, wasn't treating him normally.
Did he expect me to keep reaching out to him afterwards, when he clearly was acting upset to all our friends about it? There was never a clear answer from him, whether he wanted us to avoid each other or be nice to each other. I assumed it was the former.
From my understanding, you're also suggesting that it was okay for him to avoid and ignore me first. But me ignoring him is abuse.
Posted by LadyNeptune
Hold yourself to the same standard you hold him.
Elaborate
click to expand
You seem bothered he isn’t warm and friendly and ‘welcoming’ with you, while admitting your actively ignored his existence the last few years. He’s just giving back the same energy you’ve been giving him.
If you read my entire post, I said the last time I attempted communication with this ex years ago he started getting pissy and crying to all our friends saying I'm being obsessive with him. The contact itself wasn't anything ill-willed, it was just along the lines of me greeting him and asking how things have been?
Perhaps that approach itself was too invasive or even offensive by his standards, idek.
Several friends suggested that I don't make any direct contact with him. He's the one that's ignored me first since the breakup, and now that I've been ignoring him he's still behaving this way. Yet, he does in fact, listen to my convos and jokes that I make within our friends group. I just don't understand this Pisces guy ...
I think people are way different when they are 14-15 compared to an adult at 20 and 21.
You guys couldn't have even been together for a long time at that young of an age.
Why not just ignore him?
Some people don't want to remain friends after a break up, it's his choice and not a reflection on you.
Maybe he can tell it bugs you, so he's having some fun with it. Either case, you shouldn't give it any attention at all.
click to expand
Let me clarify, that was the age we broke up. Sorry for the confusion.
click to expand
Sure, but that was years ago. So for the past few years you've been ignoring him around your mutual friends. So to call him butt hurt or whatever for doing the same is a big self report.
And to clarify, I'm not saying your wrong for ignoring him. By all means, continue to ignore his ass. Just don't be bothered when he seems mad at your rudeness.click to expand
Fair. The rudeness I'm getting from him, as weird as this sounds, is just the fact that he's clearly not ignoring me, but pretends to be. We're a very communicative group, sharing our lives, events, and jokes among each other.
I wouldn't be surprised, if our same group of friends told him to ignore me, as they have told me. Though it seems as though he just isn't following through with it, least not with a straight face. He still copies or imitates what I'm doing from time to time, and I find it annoying. An example is when I'm enjoying an activity, then he coincidentally starts liking and enjoying that same activity too, almost immediately if not a day later.
Again, it's probably weird that I'm mad with someone who's pretending to ignore me.
Being in the same group while ignoring each other is what makes things awkward, for anyone involved.
The secret is to behave normally, and treat him as you treat the other friends/group members.
Also, mind your attitude! Pisces could read body language and even thoughts. You are both immature at your tender age, so no point in treating him with contempt because of some childish things he might have done as a teenager!
The question is, why would he get mad at me for ignoring him for all these years when he did it first. Then started getting sensitive when I reached out to him the one time years ago. You'd think the lesson here is stop talking to him, and he'll be fine but he's still being sulky when I'm around as if the break up just happened yesterday.
click to expand
As I said, you need to treat him normally, like you treat others. Ignoring someone who is part of the same group is a form of mental and emotional abuse. What you are doing is abusing him! He is reacting to it accordingly, while you wrongly assume he is still upset because of the breakup....
Change your OWN behaviour, because this is the only thing you can change. You'll see an improvement in your interactions very soon. Right now, he is giving you back the same crap you are giving him, because Pisces tend to mimic the people they like. But you seem to be triggered by this as well....
Are you really trying to have a nice, peaceful interaction (which is what a Pisces likes) or just stirring the plot for some drama?
click to expand
I'm sorry. I fail to understand how greeting him and asking how he was, once, years ago, wasn't treating him normally.
Did he expect me to keep reaching out to him afterwards, when he clearly was acting upset to all our friends about it? There was never a clear answer from him, whether he wanted us to avoid each other or be nice to each other. I assumed it was the former.
From my understanding, you're also suggesting that it was okay for him to avoid and ignore me first. But me ignoring him is abuse.click to expand
If you call him immature, why are you not trying be the mature one? I don't care about what happened between you when you were still in pampers. Grow up, and behave like an adult, now and in the future.
You don't need to ever contact him outside of that group. If you did it once and it didn't work as you thought, who cares, just don't do it again! You two have nothing left to share privately, just behave politely towards each other (or at least normally, non-abusive) when you are in the group. How difficult is that to you? Take the lead and the Pisces will follow.
Posted by LadyNeptune
Hold yourself to the same standard you hold him.
Elaborate
click to expand
You seem bothered he isn’t warm and friendly and ‘welcoming’ with you, while admitting your actively ignored his existence the last few years. He’s just giving back the same energy you’ve been giving him.
If you read my entire post, I said the last time I attempted communication with this ex years ago he started getting pissy and crying to all our friends saying I'm being obsessive with him. The contact itself wasn't anything ill-willed, it was just along the lines of me greeting him and asking how things have been?
Perhaps that approach itself was too invasive or even offensive by his standards, idek.
Several friends suggested that I don't make any direct contact with him. He's the one that's ignored me first since the breakup, and now that I've been ignoring him he's still behaving this way. Yet, he does in fact, listen to my convos and jokes that I make within our friends group. I just don't understand this Pisces guy ...
I think people are way different when they are 14-15 compared to an adult at 20 and 21.
You guys couldn't have even been together for a long time at that young of an age.
Why not just ignore him?
Some people don't want to remain friends after a break up, it's his choice and not a reflection on you.
Maybe he can tell it bugs you, so he's having some fun with it. Either case, you shouldn't give it any attention at all.
click to expand
Let me clarify, that was the age we broke up. Sorry for the confusion.
click to expand
Sure, but that was years ago. So for the past few years you've been ignoring him around your mutual friends. So to call him butt hurt or whatever for doing the same is a big self report.
And to clarify, I'm not saying your wrong for ignoring him. By all means, continue to ignore his ass. Just don't be bothered when he seems mad at your rudeness.
click to expand
Fair. The rudeness I'm getting from him, as weird as this sounds, is just the fact that he's clearly not ignoring me, but pretends to be. We're a very communicative group, sharing our lives, events, and jokes among each other.
I wouldn't be surprised, if our same group of friends told him to ignore me, as they have told me. Though it seems as though he just isn't following through with it, least not with a straight face. He still copies or imitates what I'm doing from time to time, and I find it annoying. An example is when I'm enjoying an activity, then he coincidentally starts liking and enjoying that same activity too, almost immediately if not a day later.
Again, it's probably weird that I'm mad with someone who's pretending to ignore me.click to expand
Its weird how much time your spending super analyzing his facial expressions and creating presumptions as to his feelings and intentions. This is an ex from years ago. Time to move on Mary.
Spend this energy on your fiancé instead of the ex, better for everyone.
Or perhaps examine why its so important for you to be universally liked. Its perfectly ok that he just doesn't vibe with you. Maybe the reason he is in your life is to teach you its ok to not care so much.
Posted by LadyNeptune
Hold yourself to the same standard you hold him.
Elaborate
click to expand
You seem bothered he isn’t warm and friendly and ‘welcoming’ with you, while admitting your actively ignored his existence the last few years. He’s just giving back the same energy you’ve been giving him.
If you read my entire post, I said the last time I attempted communication with this ex years ago he started getting pissy and crying to all our friends saying I'm being obsessive with him. The contact itself wasn't anything ill-willed, it was just along the lines of me greeting him and asking how things have been?
Perhaps that approach itself was too invasive or even offensive by his standards, idek.
Several friends suggested that I don't make any direct contact with him. He's the one that's ignored me first since the breakup, and now that I've been ignoring him he's still behaving this way. Yet, he does in fact, listen to my convos and jokes that I make within our friends group. I just don't understand this Pisces guy ...
I think people are way different when they are 14-15 compared to an adult at 20 and 21.
You guys couldn't have even been together for a long time at that young of an age.
Why not just ignore him?
Some people don't want to remain friends after a break up, it's his choice and not a reflection on you.
Maybe he can tell it bugs you, so he's having some fun with it. Either case, you shouldn't give it any attention at all.
click to expand
Let me clarify, that was the age we broke up. Sorry for the confusion.
click to expand
Sure, but that was years ago. So for the past few years you've been ignoring him around your mutual friends. So to call him butt hurt or whatever for doing the same is a big self report.
And to clarify, I'm not saying your wrong for ignoring him. By all means, continue to ignore his ass. Just don't be bothered when he seems mad at your rudeness.
click to expand
Fair. The rudeness I'm getting from him, as weird as this sounds, is just the fact that he's clearly not ignoring me, but pretends to be. We're a very communicative group, sharing our lives, events, and jokes among each other.
I wouldn't be surprised, if our same group of friends told him to ignore me, as they have told me. Though it seems as though he just isn't following through with it, least not with a straight face. He still copies or imitates what I'm doing from time to time, and I find it annoying. An example is when I'm enjoying an activity, then he coincidentally starts liking and enjoying that same activity too, almost immediately if not a day later.
Again, it's probably weird that I'm mad with someone who's pretending to ignore me.
click to expand
Its weird how much time your spending super analyzing his facial expressions and creating presumptions as to his feelings and intentions. This is an ex from years ago. Time to move on Mary.
Spend this energy on your fiancé instead of the ex, better for everyone.
Or perhaps examine why its so important for you to be universally liked. Its perfectly ok that he just doesn't vibe with you. Maybe the reason he is in your life is to teach you its ok to not care so much.
click to expand
You have a point. I do tend to get on edge whenever someone shows that they don't like me, and I have to know why.
Quick, update my ex was brought up to discussion with my fiancé. Apparently, my fiancé (who was just a friend at that time) snapped at him out for trying to start strife against me over the time I contacted him. He told him to grow a pair, and to never mention or contact me again for what he did. Harsh, but that may have come into play with what is happening now?
Posted by LadyNeptune
Hold yourself to the same standard you hold him.
Elaborate
click to expand
You seem bothered he isn’t warm and friendly and ‘welcoming’ with you, while admitting your actively ignored his existence the last few years. He’s just giving back the same energy you’ve been giving him.
If you read my entire post, I said the last time I attempted communication with this ex years ago he started getting pissy and crying to all our friends saying I'm being obsessive with him. The contact itself wasn't anything ill-willed, it was just along the lines of me greeting him and asking how things have been?
Perhaps that approach itself was too invasive or even offensive by his standards, idek.
Several friends suggested that I don't make any direct contact with him. He's the one that's ignored me first since the breakup, and now that I've been ignoring him he's still behaving this way. Yet, he does in fact, listen to my convos and jokes that I make within our friends group. I just don't understand this Pisces guy ...
I think people are way different when they are 14-15 compared to an adult at 20 and 21.
You guys couldn't have even been together for a long time at that young of an age.
Why not just ignore him?
Some people don't want to remain friends after a break up, it's his choice and not a reflection on you.
Maybe he can tell it bugs you, so he's having some fun with it. Either case, you shouldn't give it any attention at all.
click to expand
Let me clarify, that was the age we broke up. Sorry for the confusion.
click to expand
Sure, but that was years ago. So for the past few years you've been ignoring him around your mutual friends. So to call him butt hurt or whatever for doing the same is a big self report.
And to clarify, I'm not saying your wrong for ignoring him. By all means, continue to ignore his ass. Just don't be bothered when he seems mad at your rudeness.
click to expand
Fair. The rudeness I'm getting from him, as weird as this sounds, is just the fact that he's clearly not ignoring me, but pretends to be. We're a very communicative group, sharing our lives, events, and jokes among each other.
I wouldn't be surprised, if our same group of friends told him to ignore me, as they have told me. Though it seems as though he just isn't following through with it, least not with a straight face. He still copies or imitates what I'm doing from time to time, and I find it annoying. An example is when I'm enjoying an activity, then he coincidentally starts liking and enjoying that same activity too, almost immediately if not a day later.
Again, it's probably weird that I'm mad with someone who's pretending to ignore me.
click to expand
Its weird how much time your spending super analyzing his facial expressions and creating presumptions as to his feelings and intentions. This is an ex from years ago. Time to move on Mary.
Spend this energy on your fiancé instead of the ex, better for everyone.
Or perhaps examine why its so important for you to be universally liked. Its perfectly ok that he just doesn't vibe with you. Maybe the reason he is in your life is to teach you its ok to not care so much.
click to expand
You have a point. I do tend to get on edge whenever someone shows that they don't like me, and I have to know why.
Quick, update my ex was brought up to discussion with my fiancé. Apparently, my fiancé (who was just a friend at that time) snapped at him out for trying to start strife against me over the time I contacted him. He told him to grow a pair, and to never mention or contact me again for what he did. Harsh, but that may have come into play with what is happening now?click to expand
How is this an update, if it happened long time ago, when your fiancé "was just a friend"?
Or is the update that you made him harass your ex again, for a conversation that YOU initiated and should have remained private?
Just grow up...
Posted by LadyNeptune
Hold yourself to the same standard you hold him.
Elaborate
click to expand
You seem bothered he isn’t warm and friendly and ‘welcoming’ with you, while admitting your actively ignored his existence the last few years. He’s just giving back the same energy you’ve been giving him.
If you read my entire post, I said the last time I attempted communication with this ex years ago he started getting pissy and crying to all our friends saying I'm being obsessive with him. The contact itself wasn't anything ill-willed, it was just along the lines of me greeting him and asking how things have been?
Perhaps that approach itself was too invasive or even offensive by his standards, idek.
Several friends suggested that I don't make any direct contact with him. He's the one that's ignored me first since the breakup, and now that I've been ignoring him he's still behaving this way. Yet, he does in fact, listen to my convos and jokes that I make within our friends group. I just don't understand this Pisces guy ...
I think people are way different when they are 14-15 compared to an adult at 20 and 21.
You guys couldn't have even been together for a long time at that young of an age.
Why not just ignore him?
Some people don't want to remain friends after a break up, it's his choice and not a reflection on you.
Maybe he can tell it bugs you, so he's having some fun with it. Either case, you shouldn't give it any attention at all.
click to expand
Let me clarify, that was the age we broke up. Sorry for the confusion.
click to expand
Sure, but that was years ago. So for the past few years you've been ignoring him around your mutual friends. So to call him butt hurt or whatever for doing the same is a big self report.
And to clarify, I'm not saying your wrong for ignoring him. By all means, continue to ignore his ass. Just don't be bothered when he seems mad at your rudeness.
click to expand
Fair. The rudeness I'm getting from him, as weird as this sounds, is just the fact that he's clearly not ignoring me, but pretends to be. We're a very communicative group, sharing our lives, events, and jokes among each other.
I wouldn't be surprised, if our same group of friends told him to ignore me, as they have told me. Though it seems as though he just isn't following through with it, least not with a straight face. He still copies or imitates what I'm doing from time to time, and I find it annoying. An example is when I'm enjoying an activity, then he coincidentally starts liking and enjoying that same activity too, almost immediately if not a day later.
Again, it's probably weird that I'm mad with someone who's pretending to ignore me.
click to expand
Its weird how much time your spending super analyzing his facial expressions and creating presumptions as to his feelings and intentions. This is an ex from years ago. Time to move on Mary.
Spend this energy on your fiancé instead of the ex, better for everyone.
Or perhaps examine why its so important for you to be universally liked. Its perfectly ok that he just doesn't vibe with you. Maybe the reason he is in your life is to teach you its ok to not care so much.
click to expand
You have a point. I do tend to get on edge whenever someone shows that they don't like me, and I have to know why.
Quick, update my ex was brought up to discussion with my fiancé. Apparently, my fiancé (who was just a friend at that time) snapped at him out for trying to start strife against me over the time I contacted him. He told him to grow a pair, and to never mention or contact me again for what he did. Harsh, but that may have come into play with what is happening now?click to expand
Sounds like you figured out what's up. I still don't think you owe this ex a friendship or even being cordial if you don't want to be. But at least don't feel a type of way about this guy if he's not interacting with you. Especially since your fiancé told him to essentially ignore you for life. If anything he is respecting you and your relationship in a way because he is honoring your fiancé's request to keep his distance.
I think if it really bothers you just tell your dude your gonna try to make peace for the sake of the friend group and then let the ex know you don't have any hard feelings and want to squash any beef.
Posted by LadyNeptune
Hold yourself to the same standard you hold him.
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You seem bothered he isn’t warm and friendly and ‘welcoming’ with you, while admitting your actively ignored his existence the last few years. He’s just giving back the same energy you’ve been giving him.
If you read my entire post, I said the last time I attempted communication with this ex years ago he started getting pissy and crying to all our friends saying I'm being obsessive with him. The contact itself wasn't anything ill-willed, it was just along the lines of me greeting him and asking how things have been?
Perhaps that approach itself was too invasive or even offensive by his standards, idek.
Several friends suggested that I don't make any direct contact with him. He's the one that's ignored me first since the breakup, and now that I've been ignoring him he's still behaving this way. Yet, he does in fact, listen to my convos and jokes that I make within our friends group. I just don't understand this Pisces guy ...
I think people are way different when they are 14-15 compared to an adult at 20 and 21.
You guys couldn't have even been together for a long time at that young of an age.
Why not just ignore him?
Some people don't want to remain friends after a break up, it's his choice and not a reflection on you.
Maybe he can tell it bugs you, so he's having some fun with it. Either case, you shouldn't give it any attention at all.
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Let me clarify, that was the age we broke up. Sorry for the confusion.
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Sure, but that was years ago. So for the past few years you've been ignoring him around your mutual friends. So to call him butt hurt or whatever for doing the same is a big self report.
And to clarify, I'm not saying your wrong for ignoring him. By all means, continue to ignore his ass. Just don't be bothered when he seems mad at your rudeness.
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Fair. The rudeness I'm getting from him, as weird as this sounds, is just the fact that he's clearly not ignoring me, but pretends to be. We're a very communicative group, sharing our lives, events, and jokes among each other.
I wouldn't be surprised, if our same group of friends told him to ignore me, as they have told me. Though it seems as though he just isn't following through with it, least not with a straight face. He still copies or imitates what I'm doing from time to time, and I find it annoying. An example is when I'm enjoying an activity, then he coincidentally starts liking and enjoying that same activity too, almost immediately if not a day later.
Again, it's probably weird that I'm mad with someone who's pretending to ignore me.
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Its weird how much time your spending super analyzing his facial expressions and creating presumptions as to his feelings and intentions. This is an ex from years ago. Time to move on Mary.
Spend this energy on your fiancé instead of the ex, better for everyone.
Or perhaps examine why its so important for you to be universally liked. Its perfectly ok that he just doesn't vibe with you. Maybe the reason he is in your life is to teach you its ok to not care so much.
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You have a point. I do tend to get on edge whenever someone shows that they don't like me, and I have to know why.
Quick, update my ex was brought up to discussion with my fiancé. Apparently, my fiancé (who was just a friend at that time) snapped at him out for trying to start strife against me over the time I contacted him. He told him to grow a pair, and to never mention or contact me again for what he did. Harsh, but that may have come into play with what is happening now?
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How is this an update, if it happened long time ago, when your fiancé "was just a friend"?
Or is the update that you made him harass your ex again, for a conversation that YOU initiated and should have remained private?
Just grow up...
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I read this as, several years ago after her break up with the Pisces when she last said 'what's up' and he snapped at her. Well obvi she told her fiancé, who then confronted the Pisces separately and told him to back off. So he did... for the last few years. And ironically op is feeling slighted this whole time that Pisces doesn't interact with her. When in actuality he was trying to respect her boundaries as told to him from the fiancé. Full circle moment of 'who is the asshole'. Congrats you all are lol
Fish man trash
Trash is too good a word for them. Trash gets compiled and sent to the dump where it finds its forever home eventually. Its too clean and organized of an operation. Pisces is more like litter. Something that looked nice, that caught some piece of shits eye, that they throw out the window ten minutes later after realizing its crap that was just marketed well. Why else you think its symbol is the fish? Literally the lowest life form on the planet that even Jesus Christ himself said was okay to harvest like a crop with no guilt attached. ha just playin.click to expand
Lol tell us how you REALLY feel! Haha I’m not laughing at your pain btw. You just have a way with words thats tickled me.
Posted by LadyNeptune
Hold yourself to the same standard you hold him.
Elaborate
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You seem bothered he isn’t warm and friendly and ‘welcoming’ with you, while admitting your actively ignored his existence the last few years. He’s just giving back the same energy you’ve been giving him.
If you read my entire post, I said the last time I attempted communication with this ex years ago he started getting pissy and crying to all our friends saying I'm being obsessive with him. The contact itself wasn't anything ill-willed, it was just along the lines of me greeting him and asking how things have been?
Perhaps that approach itself was too invasive or even offensive by his standards, idek.
Several friends suggested that I don't make any direct contact with him. He's the one that's ignored me first since the breakup, and now that I've been ignoring him he's still behaving this way. Yet, he does in fact, listen to my convos and jokes that I make within our friends group. I just don't understand this Pisces guy ...
I think people are way different when they are 14-15 compared to an adult at 20 and 21.
You guys couldn't have even been together for a long time at that young of an age.
Why not just ignore him?
Some people don't want to remain friends after a break up, it's his choice and not a reflection on you.
Maybe he can tell it bugs you, so he's having some fun with it. Either case, you shouldn't give it any attention at all.
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Let me clarify, that was the age we broke up. Sorry for the confusion.click to expand
by the way he's going on, i'd think he's trying to get my attention. i had a falling out with a pisces sun/cap moon years ago and one time i saw a pic of him on fb and i liked it, maybe even hearted it. coz lots of other people did, not like i'd stand out.
next thing you know, he's going back to the country to hang out with me on his bday march of next year. trust me, mutables don't hold grudges forever no matter what we say. especially pisces coz they're so forgiving.
and don't feel too bad. i'm 29 and still stupid. wait. i had a point somewhere in all these.
Fish man trash
Trash is too good a word for them. Trash gets compiled and sent to the dump where it finds its forever home eventually. Its too clean and organized of an operation. Pisces is more like litter. Something that looked nice, that caught some piece of shits eye, that they throw out the window ten minutes later after realizing its crap that was just marketed well. Why else you think its symbol is the fish? Literally the lowest life form on the planet that even Jesus Christ himself said was okay to harvest like a crop with no guilt attached. ha just playin.
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Lol tell us how you REALLY feel! Haha I’m not laughing at your pain btw. You just have a way with words thats tickled me.
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lol. how do I really feel? Idk I guess a little bummed that no pisces replied to my hate fueled messages. Not even @LadyNeptune and she likes to fight.click to expand
Why would I care about some random nobodies opinion lol. You certainly care tho, someone a bit thirsty for my attention awww
Posted by LadyNeptune
Hold yourself to the same standard you hold him.
Elaborate
click to expand
You seem bothered he isn’t warm and friendly and ‘welcoming’ with you, while admitting your actively ignored his existence the last few years. He’s just giving back the same energy you’ve been giving him.
If you read my entire post, I said the last time I attempted communication with this ex years ago he started getting pissy and crying to all our friends saying I'm being obsessive with him. The contact itself wasn't anything ill-willed, it was just along the lines of me greeting him and asking how things have been?
Perhaps that approach itself was too invasive or even offensive by his standards, idek.
Several friends suggested that I don't make any direct contact with him. He's the one that's ignored me first since the breakup, and now that I've been ignoring him he's still behaving this way. Yet, he does in fact, listen to my convos and jokes that I make within our friends group. I just don't understand this Pisces guy ...
I think people are way different when they are 14-15 compared to an adult at 20 and 21.
You guys couldn't have even been together for a long time at that young of an age.
Why not just ignore him?
Some people don't want to remain friends after a break up, it's his choice and not a reflection on you.
Maybe he can tell it bugs you, so he's having some fun with it. Either case, you shouldn't give it any attention at all.
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Let me clarify, that was the age we broke up. Sorry for the confusion.
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by the way he's going on, i'd think he's trying to get my attention. i had a falling out with a pisces sun/cap moon years ago and one time i saw a pic of him on fb and i liked it, maybe even hearted it. coz lots of other people did, not like i'd stand out.
next thing you know, he's going back to the country to hang out with me on his bday march of next year. trust me, mutables don't hold grudges forever no matter what we say. especially pisces coz they're so forgiving.
and don't feel too bad. i'm 29 and still stupid. wait. i had a point somewhere in all these.click to expand
I think, your point is that Pisces men like to play mind games for attention?
I would also agree. But Pisces men can be literal floor-mats too, like this ex. I remember how he couldn’t make any decisions for himself, and always had to rely on or make someone else decide for him. He wanted a mommy, not a girlfriend!
I’m also not surprised that he backed out and is pretending to ignore me now under my fiancés orders. He tried to play a victim, and got called out by my fiancé (then-friend) for starting drama among our friends against me. Pisces men really outta know that not everyone will fall for their self-victimization tactics.
Posted by LadyNeptune
Hold yourself to the same standard you hold him.
Elaborate
click to expand
You seem bothered he isn’t warm and friendly and ‘welcoming’ with you, while admitting your actively ignored his existence the last few years. He’s just giving back the same energy you’ve been giving him.
If you read my entire post, I said the last time I attempted communication with this ex years ago he started getting pissy and crying to all our friends saying I'm being obsessive with him. The contact itself wasn't anything ill-willed, it was just along the lines of me greeting him and asking how things have been?
Perhaps that approach itself was too invasive or even offensive by his standards, idek.
Several friends suggested that I don't make any direct contact with him. He's the one that's ignored me first since the breakup, and now that I've been ignoring him he's still behaving this way. Yet, he does in fact, listen to my convos and jokes that I make within our friends group. I just don't understand this Pisces guy ...
I think people are way different when they are 14-15 compared to an adult at 20 and 21.
You guys couldn't have even been together for a long time at that young of an age.
Why not just ignore him?
Some people don't want to remain friends after a break up, it's his choice and not a reflection on you.
Maybe he can tell it bugs you, so he's having some fun with it. Either case, you shouldn't give it any attention at all.
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Let me clarify, that was the age we broke up. Sorry for the confusion.
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Sure, but that was years ago. So for the past few years you've been ignoring him around your mutual friends. So to call him butt hurt or whatever for doing the same is a big self report.
And to clarify, I'm not saying your wrong for ignoring him. By all means, continue to ignore his ass. Just don't be bothered when he seems mad at your rudeness.
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Fair. The rudeness I'm getting from him, as weird as this sounds, is just the fact that he's clearly not ignoring me, but pretends to be. We're a very communicative group, sharing our lives, events, and jokes among each other.
I wouldn't be surprised, if our same group of friends told him to ignore me, as they have told me. Though it seems as though he just isn't following through with it, least not with a straight face. He still copies or imitates what I'm doing from time to time, and I find it annoying. An example is when I'm enjoying an activity, then he coincidentally starts liking and enjoying that same activity too, almost immediately if not a day later.
Again, it's probably weird that I'm mad with someone who's pretending to ignore me.
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Its weird how much time your spending super analyzing his facial expressions and creating presumptions as to his feelings and intentions. This is an ex from years ago. Time to move on Mary.
Spend this energy on your fiancé instead of the ex, better for everyone.
Or perhaps examine why its so important for you to be universally liked. Its perfectly ok that he just doesn't vibe with you. Maybe the reason he is in your life is to teach you its ok to not care so much.
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You have a point. I do tend to get on edge whenever someone shows that they don't like me, and I have to know why.
Quick, update my ex was brought up to discussion with my fiancé. Apparently, my fiancé (who was just a friend at that time) snapped at him out for trying to start strife against me over the time I contacted him. He told him to grow a pair, and to never mention or contact me again for what he did. Harsh, but that may have come into play with what is happening now?
click to expand
Sounds like you figured out what's up. I still don't think you owe this ex a friendship or even being cordial if you don't want to be. But at least don't feel a type of way about this guy if he's not interacting with you. Especially since your fiancé told him to essentially ignore you for life. If anything he is respecting you and your relationship in a way because he is honoring your fiancé's request to keep his distance.
I think if it really bothers you just tell your dude your gonna try to make peace for the sake of the friend group and then let the ex know you don't have any hard feelings and want to squash any beef.
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I think, I’ll just continue to ignore him. There’s not point trying to rekindle with someone like my ex, and I favour my fiancé’s decision over this ex’s moppy arse.
Posted by LadyNeptune
Hold yourself to the same standard you hold him.
Elaborate
click to expand
You seem bothered he isn’t warm and friendly and ‘welcoming’ with you, while admitting your actively ignored his existence the last few years. He’s just giving back the same energy you’ve been giving him.
If you read my entire post, I said the last time I attempted communication with this ex years ago he started getting pissy and crying to all our friends saying I'm being obsessive with him. The contact itself wasn't anything ill-willed, it was just along the lines of me greeting him and asking how things have been?
Perhaps that approach itself was too invasive or even offensive by his standards, idek.
Several friends suggested that I don't make any direct contact with him. He's the one that's ignored me first since the breakup, and now that I've been ignoring him he's still behaving this way. Yet, he does in fact, listen to my convos and jokes that I make within our friends group. I just don't understand this Pisces guy ...
I think people are way different when they are 14-15 compared to an adult at 20 and 21.
You guys couldn't have even been together for a long time at that young of an age.
Why not just ignore him?
Some people don't want to remain friends after a break up, it's his choice and not a reflection on you.
Maybe he can tell it bugs you, so he's having some fun with it. Either case, you shouldn't give it any attention at all.
click to expand
Let me clarify, that was the age we broke up. Sorry for the confusion.
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by the way he's going on, i'd think he's trying to get my attention. i had a falling out with a pisces sun/cap moon years ago and one time i saw a pic of him on fb and i liked it, maybe even hearted it. coz lots of other people did, not like i'd stand out.
next thing you know, he's going back to the country to hang out with me on his bday march of next year. trust me, mutables don't hold grudges forever no matter what we say. especially pisces coz they're so forgiving.
and don't feel too bad. i'm 29 and still stupid. wait. i had a point somewhere in all these.
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I think, your point is that Pisces men like to play mind games for attention?
I would also agree. But Pisces men can be literal floor-mats too, like this ex. I remember how he couldn’t make any decisions for himself, and always had to rely on or make someone else decide for him. He wanted a mommy, not a girlfriend!
I’m also not surprised that he backed out and is pretending to ignore me now under my fiancés orders. He tried to play a victim, and got called out by my fiancé (then-friend) for starting drama among our friends against me. Pisces men really outta know that not everyone will fall for their self-victimization tactics.click to expand
just wait for him to get a new gf and focus on your dude.
this pisces guy i'm with loves KFC so we eat there 2x a month. but i have libra mars so the first time there, i just kept reciting everything on the menu. and he's kinda the same so we ended up just getting one of everything 🍗🍗
it's not like the worst trait in the world.
Posted by Cancer96
So, first things off, this pisces ex (20M) and I (21F) broke up over 5 years ago. Because we do share the same mutual friends, we're bound to bump into each other again.
I'm engaged now, and afaik everyone else knows that too. My fiancé is also among the group of friends. Dunno if ex knows too, but wouldn't matter to me.
What matters is that everytime I'm around he acts like all sulky like a dog with his tail between his legs. Wtf? I don't talk to him, and I ignore him. He ignores me too. The one time I did reach out to him, years ago after the break-up he started this whole bullsh!t drama against me, accusing me of being obsessive with the same friends group. That's in the past now, so I don't bother even acknowledging his presence. He seems like an underdeveloped, childish pisces imo.
What bothers me is when he starts copying my humor and convos among the same group of friends. I make a joke or two, he'll hear it but acts as if I'm invisible because he's avoiding me ofc. But then he makes the similar jokes with the same group, but in a different place/time with them. It's even more noticeable when he's acting all cheerful among our friends, but when I show up, they're all welcoming me while he acts as if my presence hurts his own poor little boy feelings. Again, I just ignore him and enjoy the company of my friends and fiancé. Are Pisces always this butt-hurt, even years after a break-up? I don't get these fishy men ... even my friends acknowledge that he gets all hurt when I show up, even though I haven't done anything wrong to him nor talked to him for years.
PS: My fiancé and are also in the same mutual friends group. My fiancé once snapped at him for the time that he started drama over me reaching out to him, and told him to never mention me or contact me again.
Jeez yall are young.
That aside, yall really should be NC.
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I'm engaged now, and afaik everyone else knows that too. My fiancé is also among the group of friends. Dunno if ex knows too, but wouldn't matter to me.
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