Does he hate me?

I have this problem with my best friend. We used to be close but I think I screwed up but I don't know exactly. What I do know is that he isn't the same around me anymore.

We used to have the best time around each other laughing and joking with each other or with friends but it isn't the same anymore. We get along great and are friendly anymore but there is a lack of laughter and I don't know what to call it but there seems to rare desire to catch up with one another.

One would say that we aren't friends anymore but he will do special things for me and drop what he's doing to help me out which he doesn't do for our other friends but when I hear about his inside jokes with friends or laughter or funny situations he has had with others and I get this rejected "friendship" it makes me sad and wonder what went wrong. Am I doing something wrong?

I did try and get from answers from him but he didn't seem to think anything was wrong and said that he wasn't upset about anything but laughter doesn't just disappear.

Anyone have any similar situations happen to them or have some inkling?

it doesn't sound like there is any hatred towards you but there isn't really enough information to draw an accurate conclusion. was there some incident that took place which cased a falling out? were you just friends or was there "something more" for lack of a better phrase? can we get some astro information?

this is indeed rather difficult to figure out...so i understand your confusion..

--Jack

I don't know if there was a situation that caused the whole thing that's why I'm upset and confused cause I really have no idea what I did wrong.

I'm pisces he's aries

And no just friends that's it. There was no intimacy or anything like that between us.

I have this with certain friends in my life. Drifting apart is the only conclusion i can offer. Look at life situations between yours and his lives. Paths converge and diverge in a fluid state, we aren't fixed in nature. No one significant item causes it. It's a living, breathing, bleed out and onwards thing.

Some may view that as sad where I view it as "what is".

And now seeing you are the fish... I make no sense. Or you don't haha.

Posted by deezie
I have this with certain friends in my life. Drifting apart is the only conclusion i can offer. Look at life situations between yours and his lives. Paths converge and diverge in a fluid state, we aren't fixed in nature. No one significant item causes it. It's a living, breathing, bleed out and onwards thing.

Some may view that as sad where I view it as "what is".

well it isnt like drifting apart but similar to singling me out

Posted by deezie
I have this with certain friends in my life. Drifting apart is the only conclusion i can offer. Look at life situations between yours and his lives. Paths converge and diverge in a fluid state, we aren't fixed in nature. No one significant item causes it. It's a living, breathing, bleed out and onwards thing.

Some may view that as sad where I view it as "what is".

Yes. This isn't a wrong versus right issue. Someone's fault or yours. It's life.

OP, 3 times you mention you feel you did something wrong. Is there a legitimate concern there or you feel guilty just to see a reason for this friendship disintegrating?

Let's say you go out to watch a movie..the last movie that runs at the cinema that evening. Do you stay around afterwards pacing back and forth and waiting for it to start again? Do you feel guilty there will be not be another movie playing that night? No, you go home without a second thought. Same for moments in life with friendships..but I'm only speaking from my perspective here.

Posted by deezie
And now seeing you are the fish... I make no sense. Or you don't haha.

do any of us ever make sense?? lol

--Jack

le says - does he hate me?

and then you turn around and say this .....

Posted by jengoesboom

I did try and get from answers from him but he didn't seem to think anything was wrong and said that he wasn't upset about anything ...

He probably realized how deceptively dramatic you are with exaggerations. I would get annoyed with you also. A person who doesn't believe anything is wrong doesn't hate you. But, because you are being overly sensitive, you've deluded yourself and look at how this manifests itself ... you state "hate" when nothing presents itself as hate.

Sounds like you're in la-la-land. Typical Pisces.

Posted by jengoesboom

.... there seems to rare desire to catch up with one another.

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You don't appear to comprehend that how you feel isn't how he feels because here you've projected your feelings onto him, and have stated to us that he feels just like you.

In reality, you're the only person who feels just like you. So, the above partial quote is illogical.

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Posted by deezie
I have this with certain friends in my life. Drifting apart is the only conclusion i can offer. Look at life situations between yours and his lives. Paths converge and diverge in a fluid state, we aren't fixed in nature. No one significant item causes it. It's a living, breathing, bleed out and onwards thing.

Some may view that as sad where I view it as "what is".

Yes. This isn't a wrong versus right issue. Someone's fault or yours. It's life.

OP, 3 times you mention you feel you did something wrong. Is there a legitimate concern there or you feel guilty just to see a reason for this friendship disintegrating?

Let's say you go out to watch a movie..the last movie that runs at the cinema that evening. Do you stay around afterwards pacing back and forth and waiting for it to start again? Do you feel guilty there will be not be another movie playing that night? No, you go home without a second thought. Same for moments in life with friendships..but I'm only speaking from my perspective here.

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I'm just assuming I did something wrong because I have no idea why it feels like it being singled out. Sure, friendships whither away and I know what those are like: people contact each other less and less, make plans less and less.

The difference is we hang out as much as we always have but the variable that has changed is the communication with me. He could be standing right next to me but that is all that happens unless he has a reason to turn to me and ask or say something to me.

Haha... Stop looking for problems. Wth.

Most people say things when they have reason. And are quiet when they have nothing to say. He isn't your monkey....?!

This comes across like a mountain/molehill issue. You need more purpose in your life if you have time to dissect and worry about this nonsense.

My not so eloquent point was that i think aries are always expected to be the energy of the crowd. It sounds like you expect him to carry the entertainment value of the friendship....

Maybe he needs a break from being the catalyst?

Posted by deezie
My not so eloquent point was that i think aries are always expected to be the energy of the crowd. It sounds like you expect him to carry the entertainment value of the friendship....

Maybe he needs a break from being the catalyst?

That is not what I am saying. What I am saying is he is all peppy but i guess with me its not peppy when it used to be.

I don't mind his quietness but if he's not quiet with society and they all see his peppy side and i no longer am allowed to see that of course there's something wrong.

Singling people out isn't coincidental.