Gemini Male/Pisces Female

Hello Pisces, gem guy here (sorry for infiltrating your forum haha). Anyways I wanted to get some ideas from the pisces females in the group regarding how you are initially if you're interested in someone...

Long story short, I met this pisces girl through my group of friends about a month ago. A few days after the party where we met I was told that when the girls were asking who they thought was cute etc., at the party she had chosen me and was 'keen'. Obviously being pisces though, she is shy and i've noticed that she dresses well and shows a lot of class (which I love btw) so she's definitely no one hook up and bounce type of gal.

After hearing this I also got a bit interested, so eventually we talked a bit after and we've added each other on social media and stuff like that. However, I can't quite get a read on her...I guess as a gem i'm used to alot of communication and things being a bit fast paced, however we don't talk too often, or the time between messages can vary between minutes to hours. I saw her again at another party last week, and it was interesting because I didn't notice her and she made the effort to come upto me and say hi and stuff and we talked more there. I feel like she's giving me good signs but again not used to things moving this slowly even if it's only been a month - more so the slow approach to communication, and I don't want to move to quick and potentially scare her off.

I'd like to think it's going somewhere, but specifically do you guys take things very slow in the beginning or maybe that's just a thing with her. And any tips you might know which would help this gem court this lovely pisces girl 🙂

@shakedown

Thanks for the response! I agree, I think maybe i'm just not used to taking it this slow. I mean, to be fair, we've only known eachother for a month - so I don't really have giant expectations. I guess I was a bit iffy because the conversation doesn't flow, mostly due to the fact she make take a while to reply. Obviously though her telling her friends she is keen does mean something.

I guess i'll just have to calm myself and go with the flow haha even if it is slow

thanks 🙂

No, I don't like taking things slowly. I was hoping for the past two months that my Gem ex will go beyond flirting with me on social media and ask me for a date! Since he didn't, I wrote him off.

I'm not sure what you are expecting. Why don't you invite her somewhere for a chat and coffee to see if you have chemistry and stuff to talk about?

@undine

I would, trust me my usual instinct was to try and ramp up the communication, however one of her friends (who is a good friend of mine) told me to be patient with her. So I guess I want to avoid coming on too strong, i've heard the fish swim away when that happens.

I'm expecting at this stage more continuous communication, I can't really picture things progressing or being with someone unless I talk to them regulary lol

Continuous communication...? Don't you two have jobs/school? How old are you?

Absolutely take it slow. We HATE being rushed. Be extremely consistent and persistent but not over the top. And yes i never say how i feel i hold it in forever. Also our pace is our own and you have to accept it. Youll know she likes you because she'll consistently respond to you. I am highly suspicious of people for a long time til i make my decision. Be sincere and real, we hate phony bs and facades and can see right through you. Appeal to her sensitivity and wonder and mystery. I had a gem in love with me but he was always angry and that scared me away of course ..he also expected waaaaaay too much from me waaaaay too soon. Good luck.

Posted by mcaesar91
@undine

I would, trust me my usual instinct was to try and ramp up the communication, however one of her friends (who is a good friend of mine) told me to be patient with her. So I guess I want to avoid coming on too strong, i've heard the fish swim away when that happens.

I'm expecting at this stage more continuous communication, I can't really picture things progressing or being with someone unless I talk to them regulary lol

Yes that would make me swim away. Slow and steady wins the race. Trust is very important. Putting in the effort to really get to know her and show her you genuinely care.

And remember we go off in our dream worlds a lot...i forget to txt back sometimes...you gotta get her to open up by letting her know you are trustworthy.

LOL, Mr."communication" has either gone silent or is preparing a 2-page battle plan 😉

@undine hahaha nope just at work 😛

we're in our mid/early twenties (i'm older) - but yeah I mean continuous communication for me is responding to messages and stuff like that relatively quickly. I think it's hard to have 'continuous' communication if she responds hours later, or 1-2 days later. But @baxmarmirnta alluded to this, they swim at their own pace. I guess I have to get used to this and not link that with her not being keen or showing good signals.

Guess as a gem i'm not used to slow and steady ahaha

It has little to do with slow and steady and more with quality versus quantity. And the fact that we are not slave to a smartphone!

I personally love the face to face conversations. Some of them need to be followed up by email. Texting or FB was mainly for short messages and flirting. I personally like taking time to reply, being alluring and mysterious ....Imagine I am feeding my Gem a box of sweets...one at a time, and keep some for the next days.... all in his interest 😉

Don't think taking time to reply means lack of interest. Unless she takes four hours to reply with one-two words, lol. If you want flowing conversations by texts sometimes, make sure in advance that she is available...they should be treated like "texting dates".

Posted by Undine
It has little to do with slow and steady and more with quality versus quantity. And the fact that we are not slave to a smartphone!

I personally love the face to face conversations. Some of them need to be followed up by email. Texting or FB was mainly for short messages and flirting. I personally like taking time to reply, being alluring and mysterious ....Imagine I am feeding my Gem a box of sweets...one at a time, and keep some for the next days.... all in his interest 😉

Don't think taking time to reply means lack of interest. Unless she takes four hours to reply with one-two words, lol. If you want flowing conversations by texts sometimes, make sure in advance that she is available...they should be treated like "texting dates".

I think it's both. But this definitely. Lots of bs txts are super annoying. Try real phone calls if she's down. Also txting always leads to miscommunication, with no vocal inflection etc...

Oh also doing little things, sweet gestures to show her you care and maybe understand her is very good. Step into HER world. 🙂

Depends....some Pisces have fire placements like Aries...

I'm Sag rising and Aries Mars....take it slow and steady and will drive me nuts.....not necessarily a bad thing. I prefer my man to be direct, keen and go for what he wants, though. Assuming that one very important condition has been met: that I got to like him and wanted to date him BEFORE he made a move, lol.

Apparantly, these are her placements.

Sun Pisces 5°57' Ascendant Taurus 12°20'

Moon Capricorn 8°40' II Gemini 11°43'

Mercury Aquarius 9°25' III Cancer 14°04'

Venus Capricorn 23°07' IV Leo 18°12'

Mars Leo 18°02' R V Virgo 20°42'

Jupiter Sagittarius 13°29' VI Libra 18°49'

Saturn Pisces 13°54' VII Scorpio 12°20'

Uranus Capricorn 28°36' VIII Sagittarius 11°43'

Neptune Capricorn 24°34' IX Capricorn 14°04'

Pluto Sagittarius 0°36' Midheaven Aquarius 18°12'

Lilith Gemini 6°00' XI Pisces 20°42'

Asc node Scorpio 7° XII Aries 18°49'

And this is mine:

Sun Gemini 11°08' Ascendant Cancer 29°18'

Moon Aquarius 2°00' II Leo 25°17'

Mercury Taurus 24°27' III Virgo 24°35'

Venus Cancer 26°01' IV Libra 26°44'

Mars Leo 3°54' V Scorpio 29°10'

Jupiter Leo 9°11' VI Sagittarius 29°57'

Saturn Aquarius 6°38' R VII Capricorn 29°18'

Uranus Capricorn 13°02' R VIII Aquarius 25°17'

Neptune Capricorn 16°17' R IX Pisces 24°35'

Pluto Scorpio 18°23' R Midheaven Aries 26°44'

Lilith Capricorn 4°04' XI Taurus 29°10'

Asc node Capricorn 19°34' XII Gemini 29°57'

Sorry that came worse then I thought it would lol, it's got the plants and ascendants next to them

Your Moon conjunct her Mercury in Aqua, meaning that her communication will trigger emotional responses in you. However, Aqua moon's emotional responses are not famous for their depth and expressivity, whereas Aqua Mercury prefers intelligent, out of ordinary conversations and is not good at small talk.

Again, quality versus quantity is what comes to my mind! And try to communicate feelings as well, don't hold them in....I like this, I don't like that, this feels good, that is a shame...

You will never get to know someone by texting, no matter how often (and this is coming from an Aqua Mercury 😄)

Thanks @undine and @shakedown, interestingly enough we had some back and forth a few days ago and she hasn't responded in a few days, whilst talking to her other friends.

Just going to take it as it comes, don't like pursuing things that look like they don't want to be pursued if you get me.

Thanks for the help though!!

Posted by mcaesar91
Hello Pisces, gem guy here (sorry for infiltrating your forum haha). Anyways I wanted to get some ideas from the pisces females in the group regarding how you are initially if you're interested in someone...

Long story short, I met this pisces girl through my group of friends about a month ago. A few days after the party where we met I was told that when the girls were asking who they thought was cute etc., at the party she had chosen me and was 'keen'. Obviously being pisces though, she is shy and i've noticed that she dresses well and shows a lot of class (which I love btw) so she's definitely no one hook up and bounce type of gal.

After hearing this I also got a bit interested, so eventually we talked a bit after and we've added each other on social media and stuff like that. However, I can't quite get a read on her...I guess as a gem i'm used to alot of communication and things being a bit fast paced, however we don't talk too often, or the time between messages can vary between minutes to hours. I saw her again at another party last week, and it was interesting because I didn't notice her and she made the effort to come upto me and say hi and stuff and we talked more there. I feel like she's giving me good signs but again not used to things moving this slowly even if it's only been a month - more so the slow approach to communication, and I don't want to move to quick and potentially scare her off.

I'd like to think it's going somewhere, but specifically do you guys take things very slow in the beginning or maybe that's just a thing with her. And any tips you might know which would help this gem court this lovely pisces girl 🙂

First, thank you for calling her a "Lovely Pisces Girl" 😆 She's a gem alright. I was born in March; she may be a Feb March Piscean babe. Meaning, she may be a little more "shier" than I am. She saw you from across the room; she likes to see faces she is familiar with and/or the conversation wasn't that important to her that you turned her attention to you when she saw you at the party. We as Piscean women, are VERY friendly and we sometimes don't even "excuse" ourselves (see scenario you described at party); so give yourself a ^5 (high five) for her giving you her FULL attention! Piscean women (believe it or not) have MORE male friends than female friends. As little girls we were Tom Boys, but grew up to be beautiful SWANS! We attracted more male friends than female ones (elementary, Jr. High school) and well, she just likes to converse with you (even though she doesn't speak that much). Watch her non verbal communication. When I am shy I tuck my hair behind my ear and smile; and sometimes look away; let alone giggle, too! We Piscean women LOVE to laugh! Make her laugh! Break the ice! She won't come swooning to you on a white horse and take charge! She wants YOU to ride the black horse and be her knight in shining armor! Piscean women do NOT jump into bed that fast (not that you want to) and you have to take your time to win her affection. She doesn't fall in love EVERY TIME either so it means she's "feeling you out." We Piscean women make a "list" of what we are looking for in a man. She likes you. Take your time. She goes w/the flow, remember that. Read up on female Pisceans (zodiac sign) and it will blow your mind! Good luck and keep us posted. 🤗 Cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

Interestingly she hasn't responsed at all, nearly a week later, so I've decided not to pursue. Would think if theyre interested they'd show something lol even a return msg....ahh well, not worth being ghosted tbh

Thanks for all the responses anyeay!

ckquote> Posted by shakedown

actively listen

This trait is likely the best quality of the Pisces. One that people don't usually realize until they've been with other people, and experience how nobody except the Fish will give you complete undivided attention when you need them to hear you.

this trait is the answer to dilemma and the only thing you need to realize

Posted by mcaesar91

1. I want to avoid coming on too strong, i've heard the fish swim away when that happens.

2. I'm expecting at this stage more continuous communication

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1. what horseshit, I've no clue who you've been listening to. Coming on strong is what Pisces females look for in a partner. Apparently you've confused these two words: strong vs. controlling

If you come off controlling ... then you won't exist to her, she'd rather clean a dirty toilet then give you the time of day.

If you come off strong .... she'll be smitten with that quality.



2. see the first quote above. You obviously have expectations on something you don't even comprehend as the endeared quality of the Fish.

You expect her to perform for you, so you can be satisfied that the communication suits your wishes.

when in reality, the best she can ever be is in being the listener.



fish aren't leaders ... who in the hell has been filling your head full of horseshit?

Her natural inclinations are to drop all she is doing to focus on you, to actively and fully listen to you, to watch your every move, to become aware of your whole essence .......... hell would freeze over before she would lead that on, and be the aggressor.



You have no chance with this woman the way you're approaching this. She won't wait forever for you to swoon her with your witty banter, Gemini ..... mark my words!!

@p-angel, thx for ur response. Although I must admit, i'm a bit - confused I guess - at what exactly is 'required' (for lack of a better word).

I definitely understand that Pisces naturally gravitate to being more of a listener, which as a gem and someone who loves communication is wonderful. But in saying that at this stage I think it's hard to be completely pro-active if the communication isn't being reciprocated. I'm not expecting her to perform for me at all, but I am expecting something. At this stage, if I message back and don't get something back for 3-4 days I don't really see how that showcases her 'dropping everything to focus on me' or even 'fully listening'.

Granted! this is only online communication and i'd love to push that further but there aren't many opportunities if i'm talking to you twice in a week (at best). You said that I have no chance with this woman the way i'm approaching this, but at this stage my only approaching is to try and get a decent conversation going which flows for a bit to the point where I can start to initiate more, I mean i'm strong (atleast I think so haha) but there's something to be said for continuous talking at the start haha

Pay attention to her likes/interests during your chats and plan a date around one of them. Then pull the trigger and ask her out.

My gem did his flirty little dance around me until I finally got fed up and asked his ass out. She's probably questioning whether you really like her or if your just this friendly with everyone.

@shakedown yes! that's exactly what i'm trying to get at. I definitely get the whole be strong, take the initiative, ask her out thing. But there has to be some starting point, some communication to go with otherwise it does come off as either strange or weird. I mean the astrological part of it is only a portion hahaha

But yeah, I guess i'm trying to decipher whether that is a normal piscean thing to do. In the talks we've had, she's even said herself that she's a bit lost sometimes, so I'm not chasing her for responses because I think that would come off as clingy or just downright weird in a sense. And as far as I know she isn't involved with anyone else, so I guess i'll have to just wait it out patiently lol

Posted by mcaesar91

it's hard to be completely pro-active if the communication isn't being reciprocated. I'm not expecting her to perform for me at all, but I am expecting something. At this stage, if I message back and don't get something back for 3-4 days I don't really see how that showcases her 'dropping everything to focus on me' or even 'fully listening'.

You're right. I missed that part. I didn't catch where she blows you off for days a time before responding. This doesn't add up to my description.

In this case, I would say she isn't really into you. Usually, an interested Pisces (especially the female) is going to drop everything she's doing to make you feel special and valued. Since she isn't doing this, then it's probably safe to say she isn't really interested in this, as much as you would like her to be.

Posted by mcaesar91

Granted! this is only online communication and i'd love to push that further but there aren't many opportunities if i'm talking to you twice in a week (at best). You said that I have no chance with this woman the way i'm approaching this, but at this stage my only approaching is to try and get a decent conversation going which flows for a bit to the point where I can start to initiate more, I mean i'm strong (atleast I think so haha) but there's something to be said for continuous talking at the start haha

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Online romances don't work in my opinion.

There HAS to be chemistry, and these pheromones don't vibrate virtually, regardless of how much a person might want them to.



Without close physical proximity ..... there can be no true connection.

I guess I didn't fully read the OP, because I didn't read this part either. I probably wouldn't have even responded if I realized this wasn't even a relation.