Here's one for the books (boards) (Page 2)

And that's how I felt.

Posted by buttercupSG
well let me add one more before i go lol


... lildol attracts borderline abusers. sorry lildol i see your pattern.

I've read her saga and Pisces man, now Virgo, are the only ones she's mentioned ... so, where exactly are you basing this measurement of seeing her pattern?

Interestingly, my ex-husband was also a Pisces (Feb). He slept w/ a machete btwn the mattresses - said to me one night have you ever thought that I could kill you in your sleep?, told my kids he was going to burn the house down with everyone in it, he would get me upset and I'd be crying and he would say to my kids "look at your mother, she's crazy, there's something wrong with her", went into a rage when I wouldn't cancel my daughter's bday party because he didn't want to go, if I tried to stand up to him and assert myself he would pick me up and lock me in the closet or the bathroom - if I tried to resist he would tell me I was being abusive, he would question why it took me so long at the grocery store, drill me on my every move in a given day, would tell me he drove around the uni's pking lots and couldn't find my car and questioned about where I was - wasn't I shocked when I came out of a final exam and he was outside in his truck I was the last one done at 5 but was in trouble by him because I said it was from 3-6 and was accused of lying, would get mad over my choice in undergarments, question why I was wearing a given outfit, a neighbor whom I had never met brought my son home from the park after falling and later my ex accused me of knowing him and asked if I was having an affair,he wanted to know everything I talked about with my family on the phone to the extent that if I had said a given word he wanted to know exactly what the subject matter was revolving around that word because I must have left it out when I gave him the run down, I would be drilled about walking my brother out to his car to leave when he would come to visit and how come I was out there so long talking to him, told me my friends weren't really my friends they were just using me, besides friends cause problems in relationships and try to break couples if... and the list goes on.

You're right Buttercup, I need to stay away from Pisces!

Posted by ianthefish
"You're right Buttercup, I need to stay away from Pisces!"

that is about the stupidest thing ive heard you say yet...

to blame your ex husbands abuse problems on being a pisces is just down right disgusting....

get a fucking clue lildoll..

Ian, it wasn't a slight against Pisces. Although, there are a lot of similarities btwn the two I've been with.

Posted by buttercupSG


an ex-coworker of mine married an abuser. he had anger problem. he would throw a butcher knife on coffee table when she was late getting up to go to a wedding with him. he dragged her around when they had arguments and dislocated her shoulder more than once.

the worse was yet to come. his entire family came visit and stayed in their house for couple weeks. his dad had anger problem also (it runs in the family i guess lol). she went into an argument with the dad god forbits. he dragged her across the rooms ......

There is no doubt in my mind that she told you these things.

There is doubt in my mind that it's the truth ..... normally, people don't talk in such detail about their abuse, unless you are their counselor and they feel like they can trust it be kept confident.

It appears to me that though most people don't like deception ... their perception of exaggeration isn't included in this principal.

** principle

I suppose people talk about it, I talk about it sometimes ... I guess I just got the impression that when she was telling you about it during the time she was a co-worker, that she was telling you in real-time ... and that's not typical of a victim.


while the abuse goes on, typically, victims are silent about it.

When I read the saga, I'm left with a completely different impression.


When you first came to these boards .. you expressed this situation holding him totally guilty and yourself harmless of being a participant in anything involving the undoing of the relationship.

I am a Pisces, my assessment will have absolutely nothing to do with what you say, for the tongue can be forked upon your command .... I perceive the energy you project to feel your emotion behind the impulse of those words.


And any person who comes in here to present a completely one-sided situation in which they have been the angel, while relating with the villian and LOVING, WANTING this devil ... is the actually deceiver, the actual evil doer.

Because if you had nothing to hide, then you would present yourself as being an equal part of the equation.

Mr. Pisces came over (unannounced, of course). Apparently I was supposed to pick up on him still wanting to see me (and be his girlfriend) as of Sat because he came by, despite the fact our discussion revolved more so around why he didn't want to see me and stopped seeing me back in Feb. The fact I was seeing someone... well, he had completely dismissed that. Understood I said it, and acknowledged that he even asked me questions the next night about him, but dismissed the fact none the less because I told him I cared about him and missed him on Sat - these are two dif things, you can care about someone and miss them but still be moving on with your own life, they are mutually exclusive! And yes, by his own admittance he came by my house Tue and did not see my car here so went looking for me (not cool, hello) - to ask me to dinner he says. That's like asking a question that you don't want to know the answer to. When He saw me with the Virgo he couldn't control himself and "acted like a real man". Nope, I told him, it was childish. Nope, he says it's what real men do. IN THE MOVIES MAYBE!

Since Feb he's "just been busy" but did think we were still a couple. Still trying to wrap my head around that one. There was no formal break up, but there was too busy to have anything to do with me and asking me if I had a new boyfriend. I don't need a formal break up to get the point - it screamed of "he's just not that into you". Maybe he needs to read the book. Nor do I have time for someone who doesn't have time for me. If a man is interested he makes time despite a busy schedule! He expected me to be available when he decided he wanted me/had time for me AGAIN and there is something totally WRONG with that mentality...

"i can tell you that i am certainly not being untrue or too nice when i see something really wrong. because i'm telling you now, P, ppl who do what you are doing have issues. you think you know what's the best for everyone and only you can see the truth. well that mentality alone shows you have issues. and believe it or not, i don't dislike you. i'm simply being true."



Actually, SG, it's you who is has the issue .. issue being called "biased because she's a Capricorn" .. for the fact of the matter is ....


... "Since Feb he's "just been busy" but did think we were still a couple. Still trying to wrap my head around that one. There was no formal break up .."


He thought they were still together, and she didn't bother to let him know.


"Mr. Pisces came over (unannounced, of course). Apparently I was supposed to pick up on him still wanting to see me (and be his girlfriend) as of Sat because he came by, despite the fact our discussion revolved more so around why he didn't want to see me and stopped seeing me back in Feb. The fact I was seeing someone... well, he had completely dismissed that. Understood I said it, and acknowledged that he even asked me questions the next night about him, but dismissed the fact none the less because I told him I cared about him and missed him on Sat - these are two dif things, you can care about someone and miss them but still be moving on with your own life, they are mutually exclusive!"



Have you any idea at all what that ^^^^^^ implies? Have you looked at this for one second objectionally to take in what she is insinuating there?

No, I thought not .. because you are too busy worrying about me.


It is making the insinuation that she still cares about him .. she fucking told him that she misses him, SG, that she has feelings for him .. and you are so wrapped up in your own PERSONAL SUBJECTIVITY that you would not only miss it, you would also condone it?



she played, you are wrong .. if you think playing is right, SG, then you are just as fucked up with issues as she is.


As for you Pesca ... you are more than welcome to suck my dick.

Posted by ianthefish
it all makes sense now....

P had her pussy turned into a dick....

its a no wonder why her husband doesnt fuck her anymore....

shes gone and turned herself into a man....

The intuitive Ian comes through again - absolutely amazing sense of perception!!

Thanks BC!

Pesca, you seem to understand on some level. However, I don't like to share intricate details of my life with my friends or family in rl. I always come off as happy go lucky and try to be perky around people in general and do so regardless of my mood, besides smiling makes other people smile. And the therapist I was seeing a couple of years back stopped working with me because she couldn't get me to "feel" certain emotions, particularly sadness and anger. When she would ask me how it made me feel when someone did/said , she didn't like the answer that I was shocked, amazed, confused, determined, etc.; those are not emotional responses she would tell me - in my mind it was just not the emotional response she was looking for. I do get upset, but I can't identify with sad or angry, I'm just upset/hurt. From her perspective, I think, I don't feel - or don't really allow myself to feel. She also believed that I don't engage in confrontation and just let things go as a means of avoidance (of emotions).

And, so, the topic goes to rest...