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13 Years
Pieces boyfriend advice
Have you verbalized this with him?
Have you verbalized this with him?
It might be hard since he's in pieces
Have you verbalized this with him?
He doesnt get why im being like this, he said he just want to relax (and i understand this), he seems not to get the point why i wanted a little time from him. i dont know how to get thru his pisces mind and make him try to understand the situation on his way of thinking.
maybe coz it's the steam winter sale?
give him until january 5th to shape up
Maybe he is depressed? anyways youre now seeing the real him, can you deal with it?
Im the one who’s actually really depress. It didnt cross my mind that he might be depressed too. What should i do now? I love him and i want to make it work. But i really dont know how to express myself in the level that he will understand
Before you judge try to look at it on my perspective. My pisces boyfriend and I are together for almost a year now. In the beginning I am so happy and i feel so loved by him. He pays a lot of attention to me and on what im thinking about or what i have to say or what my opinion is. But now he changed, it breaks my heart because i feel like i was lured into a trap where he made me fall in love with him and then when i got in, he doesnt care as much as he used to. He made me fall inlove with the promises and facade of an ideal relationship. dont get me wrong, he is not a bad person, he just doesnt care or pay attention as much as he used to. we both work on different shifts everyday. Im not a needy person and I try my best to be a good and responsible partner for him (i shop food by myseld, clean the house by myself and basically do everything we used to do together by myself). i try my best to also understand the situation that he is tired and he just want to relax and play mobile games (he wasnt playing mobile games when we met, if i had knew i wouldnt go on with the relationship from the very beginning - im not fond of guys who like mobile games, dont rage out on me, this is my personal preference) because of playing the games he gives me fewer and fewer attention everyday. Sue me if i wanted attention from my man on his free hours, we only have a limited common time. and as much as possible i really really want to spend time with him. watch some movies cuddle have home dates anything that would make me feel loved and cared for. I feel neglected all the time. I just wanted to be loved and cared for, i dont know why he is being like this. He say he still loves me but i cant feel it anymore. is this my fault? i feel so down. i really need some advice on this.
To be honest, I went through this with a Pisces man.
He was very emotional, very into me, very romantic and listened to me, understood me..Everything and I was very into him too, but once he got me, he started backing off.
The calls became less, the texts became less, and sometimes he could be very cold with me.
I ended up feeling the same as you. Like I've done something wrong.
I was going through serious issues in my life and had also become depressed.
Having read lots of Pisces experiences from people on here and my own experience too, I think Pisces mens feelings can be erratic and up and down, and very changeable, moment to moment too.
The Pisces guy I know can change his mind in the blink of an eye. He doesn't make decisions on things. Always says "I don't know" when I ask him a question on something I'm trying to help him with; he is very indesicive, so I end up letting him decide for himself and us.
Whenever we went on a date it was always on His terms because he would tell me he was busy when I suggested coffee or lunch.
A date only happened when He suggested it.
It can be frustrating. I found him flaky sadly.
I feel and have read that they blow Hot & Cold.
So it nay be you are now seeing his true personality!
Did you give him something in return or do you love being recieved by him?
I dont complain that i give him a lot. But i wish i was given a little time and affection too.
I think you need a live of your own. Like shopping with friend or something while he did his.
Talk to him without nagging. Be precise. Don’t speak in vague terms like “I need more affection”. How do you want him to show his affection? Can you reach a compromise to get him away from video games? Like playing a couple of real games with you instead? Listening to a podcast or watching a film and discussing it after?
Also, don’t take charge of everything in your daily life. It may come naturally to you, if the other person doesn’t do much, but you’ll end up frustrated and disappointed. Alternate the chores, maybe one week it’s your turn, the following one his.
Compromise, share, be fair, clear and precise. I believe you, and also that his new addiction to video games is a huge issue, however don’t expect your partner to fulfil all your needs. This is why we have friends.
Something is wrong. Talk to him about it. See if you can get him to open up about his feelings and why he’s not as interested in you anymore. You can’t fix the problem until you know exactly what the issue is.
Pisces placements love a good existential crisis
Once a decade, maybe 😛🤓
Update. I found out that he has been online flirting with some girls. When i confronted him. He said its because he feels empty inside. Im so heartbroken. I cried the whole night. I didnt realize something like this will happen to me. It feels unreal until now.
What is your sign?
Leo
If him being himself leads to you feeling ‘trapped’ in the relationship then your sadly not compatible with each other.
If you feel trapped, leave.
You haven’t invested much time, don’t have kids or anything else holding you to the relationship outside of your ideal that love is enough. It isn’t. Your needs aren’t being met.
Rip off the bandaid already.
Update. I found out that he has been online flirting with some girls. When i confronted him. He said its because he feels empty inside. Im so heartbroken. I cried the whole night. I didnt realize something like this will happen to me. It feels unreal until now.
Feeling empty inside could be a depression symptom. Don’t blame yourself, though. He should have come to you for support, not cowardly give other women the attention you so much craved. Big hug to you 🧡
Update. I found out that he has been online flirting with some girls. When i confronted him. He said its because he feels empty inside. Im so heartbroken. I cried the whole night. I didnt realize something like this will happen to me. It feels unreal until now.
He still immature. Unevolved, just leave this BTard and find another who deserve for your love.
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Before you judge try to look at it on my perspective. My pisces boyfriend and I are together for almost a year now. In the beginning I am so happy and i feel so loved by him. He pays a lot of attention to me and on what im thinking about or what i have to say or what my opinion is. But now he changed, it breaks my heart because i feel like i was lured into a trap where he made me fall in love with him and then when i got in, he doesnt care as much as he used to. He made me fall inlove with the promises and facade of an ideal relationship. dont get me wrong, he is not a bad person, he just doesnt care or pay attention as much as he used to. we both work on different shifts everyday. Im not a needy person and I try my best to be a good and responsible partner for him (i shop food by myseld, clean the house by myself and basically do everything we used to do together by myself). i try my best to also understand the situation that he is tired and he just want to relax and play mobile games (he wasnt playing mobile games when we met, if i had knew i wouldnt go on with the relationship from the very beginning - im not fond of guys who like mobile games, dont rage out on me, this is my personal preference) because of playing the games he gives me fewer and fewer attention everyday. Sue me if i wanted attention from my man on his free hours, we only have a limited common time. and as much as possible i really really want to spend time with him. watch some movies cuddle have home dates anything that would make me feel loved and cared for. I feel neglected all the time. I just wanted to be loved and cared for, i dont know why he is being like this. He say he still loves me but i cant feel it anymore. is this my fault? i feel so down. i really need some advice on this.