In between seas: my Piscean hesitates between his gf and me

Calling my pisceans,

I met this guy 6 months ago, he was sweet, dreamy and we got along so well. I met his friends,... We were an item .

Everything felt great until I found out he was in a relationship for the past 3 years. He "chose"to stay with her, I decided to keep it pushing and move on. A few weeks back, we started talking again, he said to me that he cared about me and that he wanted to be with me. I reminded him of his girlfriend and he admitted that he had been cheating on her since the day they met. That he truly was at his happiest with me . I said I did not want anything to do with him as lovers until he sorted everything out. He said he was determined to leave her. Fast forward, they went on vacations in Spain, came back and he was hesitant about everything. He said he could not leave her after all these years. He said that he would try and see if he could mend the relationship with her. The next day we met and I insisted on being friends, he was upset, held my hand and kissed me. It upset me even more. He said he wants to be with me but wants to make sure he is making the right moves. Today, I came to the conclusion that I wanted out because I could not be the second best to her, because the situation could go on forever and that I do deserve better. he was upset but understood where I was coming from, he said we met too early and that if we were meant to be we would be together later down the road. I just said it was not worth it. I do care for him loads but I feel like it's going to remain the same forever.

What do you all think?

I'm amazed you didn't follow up with "and then for some reason we stumbled into having sex and then I felt upset again".

I think you're a fan of cliches so maybe you will meet in another life when you're both cats. Meanwhile you should try for some integrity and respect for fellow women, one of whom has a boyfriend you keep seeking out.

I said I did not want him anymore! He kept on pushing it. I just want him to stop coming to me whenever he is going through something with her

Besides I don't think I am a fan of cliches. I just hate it when people are not clear about their intentions. I wanted him, now I just want to be cool with him.

That's why I left this time! I don't feel like pursuing something in vain. I deserve better, I do, I am always the kind girl who gets cheated on

I do love him, I do, but I just can't take it no more. I want him to be happy, I really do! I've said it times and times and times again, I do want to be his FRIENDS only but he did not get it

Speaking from experience and currently going through shit with a Pisces man... They are indecisive TBH it's like they can't stick to one way of thinking or feeling for very long and nothing's ever consistent... All is good until they don't get their own way. If he's still indecisive then he's just stringing you along... Your basically a back up plan hunny or someone to stroke his ego when things fuck up with her or he's needing an escape. If he could keep secret the fact he was with her from you for 3 months then this guy can't be trusted and he will never change... Think yourself lucky and cut him off COMPLETELY but be prepared for him chasing... They hate you making the decisions calling the shots.

P.s you can't be friends with someone you have feelings for it never works do save yourself anymore heartache and move on ?

Why would you even want him as a friend? He's a liar and a cheat. I don't see anything worth being friends with.

I am friends with all my ex. Whenever they need a crying shoulder I am there. We don't sleep together anylonger but I do listen to each and everyone of them. In this case, I told him to go and make it work out with her! He said at first no, then he did not want to stay, no he does know, now maybe later but from the get go, I was like go with her. But that baby thing got him fuckedup! But he needs to get over it!

You are right. I mean. I am not his ex. I am nothing to him and honestly I don't know if I care at all. Maybe I am too young to understand that better things are to come!

Just turned 21 a few weeks ago. I mean it's not young but there are certain things that I don't understand now. I know it's bad what I did and I need to be mature but sometimes I just don't understand why would people play with others' feelings.

If she dumps him, you're next in line.

My Pisces had girl on the side, and when

I dumped him they became an item and he

started cheating on her instead ... from day 1.

Good move dropping him. 😉

Some of them fall in and out of love easily and unfortunately you found one of them. Count yourself lucky you are only 21 and ridding yourself of this kind of toxicity early. Seek out healthier relationships in the future and try to use this experience to grow from.

Thank you all for the words. I will reflect upon the lesson and next time, it'll my time to be someone's gf. I will grow from this

Punch him in the face.

Posted by Montgomery
If she dumps him, you're next in line.

My Pisces had girl on the side, and when

I dumped him they became an item and he

started cheating on her instead ... from day 1.

Good move dropping him. 😉

Ugh it's like a manual they all get when they pop out of Mom.

Pisces are hell. Run far from them. They go back and forth between reality and dreams and that'd tiring. Just move on and if he comes back, because he will, run for the hills

Ummmmm you do know how you got him is how you'll lose him right? If you go ahead with this.

Definitely & That's not the business! All I know is that it'/ bigger than being a Pisces, that guy has issues and the more you get involved with them shenanigans, the longer you'll stay and trust me by the time y'all are 30, he will be married and with kids. You will probably still be his girl on the side. So go ahead and explore the world. You relally seem to love him a whole lot, but it's not meant to be yet, if ever! If it's yours, it's gonna come back to you, even at 80, in the meantime, leave it alone.