The Merits of Astrology

God, I know I'm probably going to catch hell here for this, BUT I have to give major props to the merits of astrology. Scorp done (he keeps trying to get me to change my mind). I hope he really understands this, because ummm....

I'm marrying a Pisces man that I just met...like, next week. LMBO!!!

I'll tell the WHOLE story another day, but it's more than clicking and not for love. We're insanely compatible on a spiritual and practical level and so we're going to go ahead and get married. He doesn't believe in giving up on relationships and neither do I....like despite difficulties, etc. We both are kind of "meh" at the thought of waiting, dating, spending time together for x amount of time before saying yes to one another. Here's the thing. I'm super comfortable with him already and things just seem right. So, I decided to do an astro analysis. The one thing that I've ALWAYS read in astrology and thought was absolutely true is that if two people have conj angles and have an attraction for one another, some type of serious commitment is most likely to happen. Some sites have used the word "unavoidable". I don't like terms that exact or extreme, so I'm not going there for the sake of my own sanity. lol

I ask him today to find out his birth time, because by now I'm just like...this is friggin bananas...I have to know, I have to know..,there HAS to be astro data to support this craziness.

His Chart
Pisces Sun, Taurus Moon, Aries Mercury, Aries Venus, Cancer Mars, Gemini Jupiter, Leo Saturn, Scorpio Uranus, Sagittarius Neptune, Libra Pluto, Libra North Node, Taurus Rising

My Chart
Pisces Sun, Pisces Moon, Pisces Mercury, Capricorn Venus, Taurus Mars, Aquarius Jupiter, Gemini Saturn, Libra Uranus, Sagittarius Neptune, Libra Pluto, Sagittarius North Node, Taurus Rising

Prominent Aspects by closest degrees in Order:
my jupiter trine his jupiter
his venus opp my pluto
my sun sextile his ascendant
his jupiter trine my uranus
my nnode conj his saturn
his jupiter conj my saturn
my moon trine his mars
his sun conj my moon
his moon trine my venus

All of these are tighter than 2 dgrees...that's why I only mentioned them. There are other important prominent synastry factors though. Anywho...just thought I'd break the news before coming back to the platform a married woman. Take care and Happy New Year y'all!!

We had sex AFTER deciding to get married...it is off the charts filled with passion. So no lack there! lol

Posted by MlleFisk
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Good luck, bruh.

Lol...Thanks Hun.

TAURUS Mars v. Cancer Mars.

That coupled with the scary airy thing

you both have ought to be one hell of a show

on Venus opposite Pluto Night.


😄


KEEP US POSTED.

Posted by Montgomery
TAURUS Mars v. Cancer Mars.

That coupled with the scary airy thing

you both have ought to be one hell of a show

on Venus opposite Pluto Night.


😄


KEEP US POSTED.

Well, it looks like we'll find out. lol We did have a night of playing dominoes and drinking...if that is any indicator....this should be a hell of a marriage filled with fun.

"not for love"...

i totally agree that marriage needs practical, intellectual, emotional and spiritual compatibilities to work. but imho love is the glue. real love gives the couple the strength and desire to fight through the ups and downs together and love/cuddle up at the end of the day.

Posted by MlleFisk
I'm going to withhold my opinions. Though i dont agree with some of the decisions youve made with your previous relationship, ultimately i do think you are a good person. And i hope that you either...

a) you think this a little more thoroughly

or

b) that if you do go through with it, that it works out.

I appreciate your concern and kind words. I don't take either lightly and usually something like this would be so off the map for me. I've been approached by guys moving rather quickly and it's always turned me off or something inside of me would...feel really scared. I would feel like something was not right with the guy, etc.

This is weird, but in a good way. Fortunately, I haven't been in the past couple of relationships due to the love feelings...well, that alone. I've been wanting a practical foundation to build a relationship on. When it wasn't quite right, I've felt like I had to be the one to extend myself to fill in the gaps...on a practical level. Now, that means money spent, patience, waiting for whatever, initiating lots of practical communication, etc. I haven't been all about that...oh my God..I feel like I'll be connected to you FOREVER stuff. It's not important when it comes to relationship functionality.

I've already spoken with one of his exes and he's talked to two of mine. So far, it seems like everything is good to go. Like, i'm not expecting perfection or anything along those lines...just a good ole fashioned "Let's build a life together" marriage. All of our kids are older teens so in a matter of a few years, we'll be able to completely focus on ourselves. His kids have already started aging out and mine are almost done aging out. Just seems very practical...for what it is. Not based on the amount of time we haven't known each other.

I feel like as long as he's willing to put in effort overall...how can you end up hating someone who is trying? That's where my relationships go wrong. The guys quit trying, I'm still fighting for the relationship and finally I give up too. The weird thing is that when I give up...all of the sudden they spark and don't want me to go anywhere. By that time, I've already walked away from a dead relationship. That's pretty much what happened with me and the Scorp. He allowed the relationship to die and I waited for him to put the effort in with me...to bring it back. He expressed that he had other fun things that he'd rather do, so I shut the door for good. Now, he's talking about he's sad and doesn't understand, etc. No..he understands...he just didn't think it was going to happen. Oh well.

Posted by iCloud9
"not for love"...

i totally agree that marriage needs practical, intellectual, emotional and spiritual compatibilities to work. but imho love is the glue. real love gives the couple the strength and desire to fight through the ups and downs together and love/cuddle up at the end of the day.

I can't say that I agree with this...for myself. What keeps me in a relationship and is the glue is responsibility. If I love, but feel no obligation to the relationship, it's easy for me to get distracted and even just let things float away. I have to have some kind of relationship agreement or some kind of relationship understanding for me to put in all that work. I've loved people who I had no intent on marrying and still til this day wouldn't marry them.

Now, it's not to say that I don't feel attracted to this guy. I DO like him...lol. It's not like I don't feel anything at all. I just know that it's not a "love at first sight" type of thing. Like, I'm not infatuated out of my head about this guy. That happened with one person, so I know what that feels like. lol This is not that kind of thing.

Posted by KinglyCrab
I wish you well. Maybe even a little more so it isn't boring. 😄

Thank you...we did already discuss ways to keep the marriage from being boring since this is a little different. lol ha ha ha ha

Posted by LadyOfRebirth
I get the not wanting to wait. I'm also an Aries Venus. But it's a detriment Venus for a reason too.

I just hope he doesn't fall out of infatuation with you and gets bored.

Lol...I hear you. I totally do. The thing is...it didn't start OUT that way, but now that we've decided to get married...he's starting to amp up on that BS and I'm like...Whoa Whoa Whoa...don't activate your emo tendency to fall in love quickly just yet. lol I'm trying my best to keep him grounded instead of getting all up in his feels and then plummeting quickly. However, I've been with Venus in Aries before and it took him a LONG time to quit being infatuated with me. lol Well, and come to find out, it wasn't infatuation. We're best friends and the love is STILL there when we communicate. It's platonic, but still has a tiny bit of...attraction to it...just a tiny bit. I make sure that we don't go there though.

He's actually one of the guys that the man I'm marrying talked to. Seems like they hit it off. lol

You're older, he's older. The issue of practicality and commonality IMO, is much more important in mature relationships.

You've both experienced the drama, passion, and lust so now it's time to build a contented life with somwone stable.

I agree with you there and can't comment about this *particular* relationship but for me it would still be too soon to know whether what I said above is what's happening with you.

I hooe so, and yes--id you respect and like someone love *can* come later. Happens a lot in arranged marriages so I'm not going to knock that idea down.

Posted by sultrykitty
You're older, he's older. The issue of practicality and commonality IMO, is much more important in mature relationships.

You've both experienced the drama, passion, and lust so now it's time to build a contented life with somwone stable.

I agree with you there and can't comment about this *particular* relationship but for me it would still be too soon to know whether what I said above is what's happening with you.

I hooe so, and yes--id you respect and like someone love *can* come later. Happens a lot in arranged marriages so I'm not going to knock that idea down.

This....this is exactly what it is. However, the compatibility that is there is based more on values and personality. Like, he's been honest about what weaknesses he brings to the marriage and his ex confirmed it. I was honest about what weaknesses I bring to the relationship and my exes confirmed that for him. It really does help that we've spoken to ex significant others. Tremendously. His family though...OMG...they are some of the sweetest people on this side of heaven...from his mom, to the sister, AND her kids. Like, one big happy family and they are very supportive of each other. That is something important to me that the previous two partners did lack.

It was like...they wanted it to be there, because it was important to me, but come to find out, that's not how they really live. They're very comfortable not communicating with or integrating with their family members. For the Aries ex he replaced that support with romantic connections and romantic love. My most recent ex depending on nice things for comfort and hanging out with the "boys". He didn't hang out with his family as much as he put it out there that he did...AFTER he went back to work. Of course it was easy to when he had nothing else to do. You know? So for me, that's an indicator. I was fooled though, because when we first got together, he was always calling his family and putting me on the phone with them. Sadly, as soon as he went back to work, within the first 2 months I had to say something to him about not calling his mom. smh

It takes a while to truly get to know a person. Hopefully you don't realize down the road that he's not what you expected, or vice versa.

I also agree with what ladyofrebirth said.

I can't see this turning out well, but I'll wish you luck anyway. You live your own life and live it at your own pace.

Best of luck.

We all roll dice on choices in the end anyway.

wow MsTeeq, well congratulations!
and yes happy new year. it sounds like it's starting off great for you.

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Posted by Damnata
Best of luck.

We all roll dice on choices in the end anyway.

I agree with this. I do hope the best for you.

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Congrats and best of luck!

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Posted by iCloud9
"not for love"...

i totally agree that marriage needs practical, intellectual, emotional and spiritual compatibilities to work. but imho love is the glue. real love gives the couple the strength and desire to fight through the ups and downs together and love/cuddle up at the end of the day.

I can't say that I agree with this...for myself. What keeps me in a relationship and is the glue is responsibility. If I love, but feel no obligation to the relationship, it's easy for me to get distracted and even just let things float away. I have to have some kind of relationship agreement or some kind of relationship understanding for me to put in all that work. I've loved people who I had no intent on marrying and still til this day wouldn't marry them.

Now, it's not to say that I don't feel attracted to this guy. I DO like him...lol. It's not like I don't feel anything at all. I just know that it's not a "love at first sight" type of thing. Like, I'm not infatuated out of my head about this guy. That happened with one person, so I know what that feels like. lol This is not that kind of thing.

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i'd not define "love at first sight" as real love. real love takes time. it's not uncommon that "love at first sight" can become infatuation or obsession that brings emotional pain and insanity (in my humble experience lol). sounds like you have a good start with this guy. only time can tell. i wish you a happy marriage and congrats!