Controlling man or am I being unreasonable

So I’ve been dating this guy for about a 5 months now and we’ve faught over rules of a relationship so many times I can’t count.

He tells me he wants to get married and move in and expects me to follow certain rules like:

-12am curfew if I go out

-No guy friends at all even though my best friend is a guy

-I’m never allowed to go on trips without him

I tell him I don’t believe in rules being placed on your partner and we just need trust, honesty, loyalty and commitment.

He’s always checking my phone and telling me he’s a dominant man but I feel being dominant is one thing and this is more controlling behaviour.

I mean even if I’m Ready to get married and have kids why am I subject to rules??

It is me here or him—

Posted by virgo29

So I’ve been dating this guy for about a 5 months now and we’ve faught over rules of a relationship so many times I can’t count.

He tells me he wants to get married and move in and expects me to follow certain rules like:

-12am curfew if I go out

-No guy friends at all even though my best friend is a guy

-I’m never allowed to go on trips without him

I tell him I don’t believe in rules being placed on your partner and we just need trust, honesty, loyalty and commitment.

He’s always checking my phone and telling me he’s a dominant man but I feel being dominant is one thing and this is more controlling behaviour.

I mean even if I’m Ready to get married and have kids why am I subject to rules??

It is me here or him—

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You're like asking is the sky blue or it's just my imagination.

You have different views on how a relationship should be conducted. Thats called incompatibility.

This sounds controlling....it only gets worst.

I'm not telling you what to do but I think you shouldn't marry this guy

Usually people who rush into relationship or marriage (5 months is rushing to me) do so because they are hiding serious character flaws and want to lock you down before you wise up and leave. Ime.

He is controlling. It is not you.

You just have to really decide if you can be with someone like that or if it would make you unhappy before taking the relationship any further

get married but make it a rule that he gets sterilized

Ew. Yeah it's controlling red flag behavior. I mean do you want to marry a husband or a father?

Girl, run. Run fast. These initial "rules" will multiply so many times once you agree to them. Virgos do the right thing, we don't need to be controlled. No way would this fly with me.

Type of dude who will murder you for insurance money when he wants to leave for another chick. Just watch forensic files!

Dude sounds like he is punishing you for someone else's mistakes before you.

HARD PASS.

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Posted by ErenSwoleager

Lmao, a grown ass adult with a curfew? Guy friend thing, I can understand. Let's be real here, there's no such thing as "guy friend" unless the guy is a total bitch made/friendzoned loser. Otherwise 90% of all "guy friends" are really just on the down low trying to find the opportunity to bang you. That is, a 100% indisputable fact. Don't act like it's not, you're allowed to have been oblivious before this point of me telling you. But you have now been informed, my bud.

Knowing this, is it really THAT insane when a guy's intuition tells him he should probably date a chick who never has any guy friends? Knowing that factually speaking, a chick with guys around is automatically surrounded by what is undeniably /competition/? It's either that, or date a chick who nobody wants anyways.

It's cool tho cause. I do understand how restricting that really is. You're cutting off 50% of the entire world's population and this is assuming you're exclusively Heterosexual lol. So I do y'all a favor: I don't date, as simple as that. I know how impossiburu my standards seems to the vast majority of humans. Unlike this guy, I don't come barging in giving orders that seem insane to everybody else. But likewise, he's probably a total hypocrite. Most controlling assholes are perfectly fine with having loads of female friends. Just like most cheaters tend to expect the other person to be loyal, herpity derp.

Personally, I just state it this way: My heart can't take the risk. So if someone really needed to be with /me/ that bad... then, it's a sacrifice you'd have to make. But it's a 2 way street, if I have a lover I will become an extremely private person. Hell that's easy enough, considering I already am. I'm already keeping bitches at the next solar system over's length. So if you want to penetrate that depth of walls, you're making some huge demands yourself in the first place.

I'm seeking something that I full well know, is beyond the unfathomable vast majority. I'm seeking a bond that is invincible. Otherwise, I don't really have time. I'd rather just suffer from loneliness, contrary to popular belief. Loneliness doesn't rip my soul apart, yet cheating does. So cheating is infinitely more painful. We all, already, live independent lives. That is healthy and normal... cheating is not.

nah i'm sure there are guys

who'd totally friendzone a girl

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I guess my gay bestie has been secretly after my pussay for the last 10 years and has been fucking guy booty to throw me off his diabolical plans. Well played sir!!

Posted by Arielle83

Do you not see anything wrong with this situation?

I suspect not everything is like she says... if there is an opening post like this provocative and a bit dumb (edit: I mean so one-sided and "begging" posters to tell her what a marker he is, offering posters to post their very obvious first reaction, one sided again), I am always suspicious.... so I looked up her last post, from 4 month ago.... and I dont know if she is dating someone new? or what

so it goes, by @Virgo29:

"Met him last year we hit it off then he disappeared. Reappears this year in February and we’ve been dating since. He calls me his girlfriend and is very affectionate in public with me but I just don’t get some things about him.

1. We see each other once every three weeks (bothers me a lot as I’d love to see him more)

2. We talk every other day and text every day

3. We’ve been together for almost 5 months yet we haven’t had sex

When I asked him why he is okay with seeing me once every theee weeks he just says he’s not okay with it but he’s ridiculous busy with work and he says he’s also not okay with talking every other day but he gets tired when he gets home.

I don’t have the nerve to bring up the sex topic because as a girl asking a guy it’s embarrassing to ask why we’ve not done it yet, I mean he said the other day he was craving me and the last time we went out he was all over me..I’m soooo confused!!!!!!

Wtf am I doing wrong here!!

Is he gay?

Hidden girlfriend/boyfriend?

What’s my purpose here to him?

I stopped calling and texting so I do not initiate anymore but he always texts me and calls me and deep down I adore him so I answer and I reply but I keep it short answers these days.

I even tried ending it last week with:

So here goes nothing babe, I’m sure you’re already aware that I like you a lot but It just doesn’t really feel like this is something you may want and I just want to avoid getting hurt.

I may be wrong but in all honesty I guess I’m just trying to give you an out here.

I really like spending time with you and laughing. At the end of the day I want you to be happy because you mean a lot to me.

This was his reply:

❓❓❓where is this coming from babe...

Sorry for the late reply I went to watch the game with my buddies & my cousins being that Croatia won the soccer game and then it turned into a drinking celebration which we ended up getting loaded with drinks and I didn’t get up till 1pm today my phone is was in my buddies car chances are I’d end up losing it somewhere,if your mad that I didn’t call you,I’m sorry it has no intention of me not wanting to be with you or anything along those lines. I know I don’t get to see you as often as we should with work and all but I do miss you, and I understand where you’re coming from... I’m sorry and I do want to see you Friday babe if you’re free.

So I’ve tried ending it even though I don’t want to in order to see if he would take the out but he didn’t so I’m just more confused than ever, ughhhh

Sounds like an over protective and overbearing father. Do you have daddy issues?