How to get a Scorpio man to commit?

I'm a sag woman with 5 houses in Scorpio, I felt an instant connection with a Scorpio man I started dating a while back, we were good for two months and he told me he really liked me, we hit it off but he is too afraid to open up and be serious with someone. I said okay and gave him his space, we didn't talk for two months after this happened. He contacted me first the day after Christmas asking how I was and eventually told me he misses me. He then texted me the next morning "good morning" and we chatted for a little and then he went on to ignoring me again. I am confused as to why he told me that and especially if I get the vibes that he is still too scared for a relationship.. I still have strong feelings for him but I didn't let him know ( don't want to run him off again) but what should I do if I want to date this man again? Or am I just some game to him?

Posted by medusax94
I'm a sag woman with 5 houses in Scorpio, I felt an instant connection with a Scorpio man I started dating a while back, we were good for two months and he told me he really liked me, we hit it off but he is too afraid to open up and be serious with someone. I said okay and gave him his space, we didn't talk for two months after this happened. He contacted me first the day after Christmas asking how I was and eventually told me he misses me. He then texted me the next morning "good morning" and we chatted for a little and then he went on to ignoring me again. I am confused as to why he told me that and especially if I get the vibes that he is still too scared for a relationship.. I still have strong feelings for him but I didn't let him know ( don't want to run him off again) but what should I do if I want to date this man again? Or am I just some game to him?

hm what's is chart? he sounds like the disappearing type. maybe he got alot of air planets. i keep hearing/reading that is the indecisive scary ones.

you have alot of fire, you are the chaser girl.

oh never mind. you have alot of air yourself. rising aqua and moon in libra. what's your venus'/mars?

Posted by Koniucha
Well, you can't get someone to commit, unless they want to.

I would tell him how you feel and leave it at that. Wait for his response.

getting a man to do anything is like PULLING TEETH.

if he's not pursuing you and chasing you down, and claiming you,

then he's not interested.

Posted by lisabethur8
oh never mind. you have alot of air yourself. rising aqua and moon in libra. what's your venus'/mars?

I have Venus in Scorpio and Mars in Leo

Posted by Koniucha
Well, you can't get someone to commit, unless they want to.

I would tell him how you feel and leave it at that. Wait for his response.

I told him back in October how I feel and I haven't brought it up since then.. He knows I am very interested. But after that I haven't tried at all because I figure if he wants to come back he will? Then two months later he pulls this and says he misses me but doesn't try to see me. ‘

Posted by METANOIA
wow @medusax94 you look wonderful

Thanks Š

Posted by lisabethur8
if he's not pursuing you and chasing you down, and claiming you,

then he's not interested.

this is why I feel like it's just his little game •

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Posted by medusax94
I'm a sag woman with 5 houses in Scorpio, I felt an instant connection with a Scorpio man I started dating a while back, we were good for two months and he told me he really liked me, we hit it off but he is too afraid to open up and be serious with someone. I said okay and gave him his space, we didn't talk for two months after this happened. He contacted me first the day after Christmas asking how I was and eventually told me he misses me. He then texted me the next morning "good morning" and we chatted for a little and then he went on to ignoring me again. I am confused as to why he told me that and especially if I get the vibes that he is still too scared for a relationship.. I still have strong feelings for him but I didn't let him know ( don't want to run him off again) but what should I do if I want to date this man again? Or am I just some game to him?

hm what's is chart? he sounds like the disappearing type. maybe he got alot of air planets. i keep hearing/reading that is the indecisive scary ones.

you have alot of fire, you are the chaser girl.

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I would agree I am the girl that chases a guy when I want him.
This is his chart:
Sag Rising
Scorpio Sun
Libra Moon
Mercury in Libra
Venus in Sag
Mars in Libra
Jupiter in Cancer
Saturn in Capricorn
Uranus in Capricorn
Neptune in Capricorn
Pluto in Scorpio
N Node in Aquarius

My chart:
Aquarius Rising
Sag Sun
Libra Moon
Mercury in Scorpio
Venus in Scorpio
Mars in Leo
Jupiter in Scorpio
Saturn in Pisces
Uranus in Capricorn
Neptune in Capricorn
Pluto in Scorpio
N Node in Scorpio

Posted by tegony
Take it slowwwwww.... You seem gorgeous, he is for sure interested 😛

Don't rush a thing though

Thank you.. I have been trying to be patient but this is not easy lol. I usually just give up and move on but he seemed genuine when we were close and very kind. He told me he wasn't ignoring me on purpose but he has just been icing everyone else out too.

Posted by tegony
Aw so kind of you 🙂

He should ice her forever then. And he would not even explain the reason. He did explain.

I figured he would have iced me out and never came back if he didn't care

Posted by SensitiveBlues
Scorpios don't ice out people just cause.

I am considering "icing out" not talking to me through text or call but he was on my social media "liking" my activities and pictures. I thought it was weird so he seems engaged but distant.

Posted by medusax94
I'm a sag woman with 5 houses in Scorpio, I felt an instant connection with a Scorpio man I started dating a while back, we were good for two months and he told me he really liked me, we hit it off but he is too afraid to open up and be serious with someone. I said okay and gave him his space, we didn't talk for two months after this happened. He contacted me first the day after Christmas asking how I was and eventually told me he misses me. He then texted me the next morning "good morning" and we chatted for a little and then he went on to ignoring me again. I am confused as to why he told me that and especially if I get the vibes that he is still too scared for a relationship.. I still have strong feelings for him but I didn't let him know ( don't want to run him off again) but what should I do if I want to date this man again? Or am I just some game to him?

You are one of many bitches he's entertaining. Move along.

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Posted by tegony
Take it slowwwwww.... You seem gorgeous, he is for sure interested 😛

Don't rush a thing though

Thank you.. I have been trying to be patient but this is not easy lol. I usually just give up and move on but he seemed genuine when we were close and very kind. He told me he wasn't ignoring me on purpose but he has just been icing everyone else out too.

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I'm sorry, but this advice is total bullshit. Utter, absolute bullshit.

This guy knows you're interested. He clearly isn't. His random text from 2 months of no contact isn't interest, it's sniffing around to see if you'll still entertain him. You responded and he disappeared again. He knows he has you as an option still. Guys do this shit all the time.

My friend just had a Cap come back around after a few years of MIA. They'd dated at some point but ended things and then she realized what a slutty user he was and has no interest regardless. His reputation caught up to him, you know?

So lo and behold, right before Christmas, he texts her out of the blue and asks if she wants to date him again. She was a bit wtf, especially since she thought he had a girlfriend (something he wouldn't answer directly). She told him no and she hasn't heard from him since. He does this ALL the time with so many females in our circle of friends.

If a guy pops up out of the blue, he wants something and it's not something that will benefit you long run.

Do not wait, do not bother with this guy. You go do you. If he comes back around, fine, but HE needs to do the work.

Overall, I don't think he gives a shit about you. He just knows you're in his little black book of potential hook ups. If he was truly interested, he wouldn't be pulling this shit. You'd see more consistency and would be so sure that you wouldn't have to go ask an internet forum if this is some secret behavior. It's not.

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Posted by medusax94
I'm a sag woman with 5 houses in Scorpio, I felt an instant connection with a Scorpio man I started dating a while back, we were good for two months and he told me he really liked me, we hit it off but he is too afraid to open up and be serious with someone. I said okay and gave him his space, we didn't talk for two months after this happened. He contacted me first the day after Christmas asking how I was and eventually told me he misses me. He then texted me the next morning "good morning" and we chatted for a little and then he went on to ignoring me again. I am confused as to why he told me that and especially if I get the vibes that he is still too scared for a relationship.. I still have strong feelings for him but I didn't let him know ( don't want to run him off again) but what should I do if I want to date this man again? Or am I just some game to him?

You are one of many bitches he's entertaining. Move along.

Bitch?

Not cool

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As far as he's concerned? Yep.

Posted by starlover
Women aren't bitches

It's bad enough blokes using that word

Worse when women do

You missed the point entirely.

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Posted by starlover
Women aren't bitches

It's bad enough blokes using that word

Worse when women do

You missed the point entirely.

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explain this term "Cookie Monster"

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Posted by medusax94
I'm a sag woman with 5 houses in Scorpio, I felt an instant connection with a Scorpio man I started dating a while back, we were good for two months and he told me he really liked me, we hit it off but he is too afraid to open up and be serious with someone. I said okay and gave him his space, we didn't talk for two months after this happened. He contacted me first the day after Christmas asking how I was and eventually told me he misses me. He then texted me the next morning "good morning" and we chatted for a little and then he went on to ignoring me again. I am confused as to why he told me that and especially if I get the vibes that he is still too scared for a relationship.. I still have strong feelings for him but I didn't let him know ( don't want to run him off again) but what should I do if I want to date this man again? Or am I just some game to him?

Typical hot and cold behavior. You can't get him to commit...first he needs to be sure of his feelings and that he really wants a relationship. You already told him how you feel, I think it's no use to run after him. I do think he loves you, he's just not sure if he wants to commit to someone (so the problem is not you). I 'm dating a Scorpio who did nearly the same to me (the hot&cold thing), but I was also veeeery slow and careful with my feelings/committing lol

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Did your bf do this as well? I have dated a Scorpio before but he didn't ignore me for two months like this one has. He was never hot and cold, so this behavior is new to me. I have been trying to take it one day at a time and I even said "if you want to date again I am open to it" back in October when we parted ways. I'm hoping that me staying in contact proves to pay off and he actually comes around because they are more than worth it.. I was thinking of texting him happy new year but I don't know if I should just wait for him to text me whenever that is. He is very odd.

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Posted by starlover
Women aren't bitches

It's bad enough blokes using that word

Worse when women do

You missed the point entirely.

explain this term "Cookie Monster"

It's b1tch. You have your profanity filter on. To turn it off, go to Settings and then Manage. Scroll to the bottom of the page and check Turn off Filter under Profanity Filter.

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Thankyou this is great advice he has told me he REALLY likes me when we were cuddling and just hanging out he did all the small stuff that shows it. Then got scared when i mentioned I wanted a relationship which is why he vanished. I am still moving on with my life though and dating other men because I'm not going to be devoted to someone that can't be devoted to me..

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Posted by starlover
Women aren't bitches

It's bad enough blokes using that word

Worse when women do

You missed the point entirely.

explain this term "Cookie Monster"

It's b1tch. You have your profanity filter on. To turn it off, go to Settings and then Manage. Scroll to the bottom of the page and check Turn off Filter under Profanity Filter.

Thankyou this is great advice he has told me he REALLY likes me when we were cuddling and just hanging out he did all the small stuff that shows it. Then got scared when i mentioned I wanted a relationship which is why he vanished. I am still moving on with my life though and dating other men because I'm not going to be devoted to someone that can't be devoted to me..

His Venus is in Sagittarius suggesting freedom in love. He may be a commitment phobe and took off for the hills when he heard you wanting a relationship. I would move on.

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He was engaged in his last relationship and he talked about wanting marriage and that he would only have sex in a committed relationship.. He knew what I wanted from the start and we were in the dad page until it came down to it and he got scared I would hurt him. He turned out to be a pussy really in my book.. He didn't even give it a shot

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Posted by starlover
Women aren't bitches

It's bad enough blokes using that word

Worse when women do

You missed the point entirely.

explain this term "Cookie Monster"

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Your profanity filter is turned on. "Cookie monster" = "bitch"


Dude is treating you like one of his many bitches.

I'm not using that term as a direct insult to you, that's how he's treating the situation.

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Posted by medusax94
I'm a sag woman with 5 houses in Scorpio, I felt an instant connection with a Scorpio man I started dating a while back, we were good for two months and he told me he really liked me, we hit it off but he is too afraid to open up and be serious with someone. I said okay and gave him his space, we didn't talk for two months after this happened. He contacted me first the day after Christmas asking how I was and eventually told me he misses me. He then texted me the next morning "good morning" and we chatted for a little and then he went on to ignoring me again. I am confused as to why he told me that and especially if I get the vibes that he is still too scared for a relationship.. I still have strong feelings for him but I didn't let him know ( don't want to run him off again) but what should I do if I want to date this man again? Or am I just some game to him?

Typical hot and cold behavior. You can't get him to commit...first he needs to be sure of his feelings and that he really wants a relationship. You already told him how you feel, I think it's no use to run after him. I do think he loves you, he's just not sure if he wants to commit to someone (so the problem is not you). I 'm dating a Scorpio who did nearly the same to me (the hot&cold thing), but I was also veeeery slow and careful with my feelings/committing lol

Did your bf do this as well? I have dated a Scorpio before but he didn't ignore me for two months like this one has. He was never hot and cold, so this behavior is new to me. I have been trying to take it one day at a time and I even said "if you want to date again I am open to it" back in October when we parted ways. I'm hoping that me staying in contact proves to pay off and he actually comes around because they are more than worth it.. I was thinking of texting him happy new year but I don't know if I should just wait for him to text me whenever that is. He is very odd.

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You're clearly here for people to tell you what you want hear. Your desperation is clear. You should be embarrassed of yourself tbh.

Any real advice is wasted on you.

Ta.

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Posted by medusax94
I'm a sag woman with 5 houses in Scorpio, I felt an instant connection with a Scorpio man I started dating a while back, we were good for two months and he told me he really liked me, we hit it off but he is too afraid to open up and be serious with someone. I said okay and gave him his space, we didn't talk for two months after this happened. He contacted me first the day after Christmas asking how I was and eventually told me he misses me. He then texted me the next morning "good morning" and we chatted for a little and then he went on to ignoring me again. I am confused as to why he told me that and especially if I get the vibes that he is still too scared for a relationship.. I still have strong feelings for him but I didn't let him know ( don't want to run him off again) but what should I do if I want to date this man again? Or am I just some game to him?

Typical hot and cold behavior. You can't get him to commit...first he needs to be sure of his feelings and that he really wants a relationship. You already told him how you feel, I think it's no use to run after him. I do think he loves you, he's just not sure if he wants to commit to someone (so the problem is not you). I 'm dating a Scorpio who did nearly the same to me (the hot&cold thing), but I was also veeeery slow and careful with my feelings/committing lol

Did your bf do this as well? I have dated a Scorpio before but he didn't ignore me for two months like this one has. He was never hot and cold, so this behavior is new to me. I have been trying to take it one day at a time and I even said "if you want to date again I am open to it" back in October when we parted ways. I'm hoping that me staying in contact proves to pay off and he actually comes around because they are more than worth it.. I was thinking of texting him happy new year but I don't know if I should just wait for him to text me whenever that is. He is very odd.

You're clearly here for people to tell you what you want hear. Your desperation is clear. You should be embarrassed of yourself tbh.

Any real advice is wasted on you.

Ta.

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Now that's an interesting point of view. You're entitled to your opinion but keep it to yourself next time. Thanks.

Posted by starlover
Moon and Mars in Libra?

He will probably take forever to make his mind up, if at all?

omg i saw that too.

my virgo brother in law has venus in libra and libra moon and it took him almost a couple of years to finally decide to "commit" totally with Sagittarius sister.

in between us relatives were telling her to forget him.

but he kept coming back, he has leo mars. like he would go meet her in places where she goes, or where they hang out. So much coincidence. Plus she was secretly "chasing" ....we aren't fooled. She kept talking about him, like obsessed.

then we just realized and threw our hands up....it's up to her!!!

i realize the OPs guy is a Scorpio sun, but still it applies in the "Love department" as venus, moon, mars merc all explain the love styles.

I'm going through this with a female Scorpio. I'm the 12th she is the 14th. We've known each other for a few years, but this year we really got close. She is guarded and keeps things close to herself. I'm the open one. She finally opened up to me and then got cold. Sher knows where I am coming from emotionally now so at least she knows how I feel.. We talk for 4 hrs at a time.. Then go a few days without talking or texting.. That is the way she is. The closer she gets the more she pulls back. She mostly has trust, faith issues with relationships so I have my work cut out for me..

Posted by TerScor67
I'm going through this with a female Scorpio. I'm the 12th she is the 14th. We've known each other for a few years, but this year we really got close. She is guarded and keeps things close to herself. I'm the open one. She finally opened up to me and then got cold. Sher knows where I am coming from emotionally now so at least she knows how I feel.. We talk for 4 hrs at a time.. Then go a few days without talking or texting.. That is the way she is. The closer she gets the more she pulls back. She mostly has trust, faith issues with relationships so I have my work cut out for me..

I know it will be a lot of work but I think it's worth it in the end. He has been texting me everyday for a week and a half now and always says good morning then sometimes after talking for most the day he just stops answering. He recently opened up to me about something he says he has never told anyone, I feel special but then again he may just be telling me because he doesn't care about what I think. He made plans with me and then said he was busy. It feels like this is just a constant waiting game.