Scorpio GF broke up with me during covid. She wants to focus on her masters. Will she come back? (Page 2)

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“Scorpios are great but it’s really not advisable to be in a relationship with them."

I don't agree with this statement

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Posted by MyStarsShine

“Scorpios are great but it’s really not advisable to be in a relationship with them."

I don't agree with this statement

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You’re with one?

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Posted by MyStarsShine

“Scorpios are great but it’s really not advisable to be in a relationship with them."

I don't agree with this statement

You’re with one?

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no I don't agree with the part that says scorpios are great

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Posted by MyStarsShine

“Scorpios are great but it’s really not advisable to be in a relationship with them."

I don't agree with this statement

You’re with one?

no I don't agree with the part that says scorpios are great

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Oh right....i remember you having a thing with a Scorp woman here....

Been there, done that?

men want a strong independent woman then start acting the fool because they feel weak next to her

Re: Breaks in a relationship

I think when one person initiates a break he/she is recognizing something in the relationships that is not working for them or something in themselves that is not allowing them to continue (need to focus on themself) or a combination of both.

It is not natural to take breaks in a relationship...this is a break-up.

But someone who wants a break is not sure about the other person and/or the relationship.

This is why it's so important for the person who didn't initiate things to focus on themselves and focus their attention to other relationship possibilities.

If the relationship is meant to be it's mean to be, but you cannot devote your thinking to it coming back into existence.

I would close the door but leave it unlocked.

You guys are right. Thank you for your suggestions.

She just texted me asking me if I was ok and apologizing for being silent and explaining That her schedule has not been ideal. She has another midterm tonight and she starts two more classes this week.

When Covid hit, if you were extra clingy, whiny, demanding her attention, and picking fights with her when she explained to you how busy she was... back off and let her breathe.

Get a hobby. Go volunteer. Anything to fill that void and free time you now suddenly have. Your relationship worked just fine when you had a life of your own separate from hers.

If suffocating her was not the case for this break-up, I think she's interested and/or seeing someone else and keeping you on the back burner : / No one is too busy for love. No one. You make it work.

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Posted by MissScruffs

When Covid hit, if you were extra clingy, whiny, demanding her attention, and picking fights with her when she explained to you how busy she was... back off and let her breathe.

Get a hobby. Go volunteer. Anything to fill that void and free time you now suddenly have. Your relationship worked just fine when you had a life of your own separate from hers.

If suffocating her was not the case for this break-up, I think she's interested and/or seeing someone else and keeping you on the back burner : / No one is too busy for love. No one. You make it work.

But on the flip side, if you don't want to spend time with someone in a life-or-death situation, that's final.

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True.

But on the flip side of that, a suffocated Scorp vs a clingy Virgo can be a more imminent life-or-death situation within the existing worldwide life-or-death situation.

It doesn't end well for the Virgo : /

Scorpios are fixed signs and she is fixed on her masters and career. I think I was annoying indeed during covid.

You don’t say goodbye to people when they have moments of weakness.

All men go thru moments of weakness from time to time. If you are a woman who is looking for a man who is always going to be super strong that doesn’t exist. Humans have signs of weakness. When you are married you can’t say bye bye once your husband is feeling down. You are suppose to be there for him.

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Scorpios are fixed signs and she is fixed on her masters and career. I think I was annoying indeed during covid.

You don’t say goodbye to people when they have moments of weakness.

All men go thru moments of weakness from time to time. If you are a woman who is looking for a man who is always going to be super strong that doesn’t exist. Humans have signs of weakness. When you are married you can’t say bye bye once your husband is feeling down. You are suppose to be there for him.

I agree but you're not married.

Husband > boyfriend

Apologize to her for being a needy emotional leech when nothing personally traumatic is going on in your life.

The whole world is going through Covid. That's not an excuse.

Posted by Chazzy

When you are married you can’t say bye bye once your husband is feeling down.

You can if you're okay with divorce or feeding tigers.

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Posted by Chazzy

Scorpios are fixed signs and she is fixed on her masters and career. I think I was annoying indeed during covid.

You don’t say goodbye to people when they have moments of weakness.

All men go thru moments of weakness from time to time. If you are a woman who is looking for a man who is always going to be super strong that doesn’t exist. Humans have signs of weakness. When you are married you can’t say bye bye once your husband is feeling down. You are suppose to be there for him.

I agree but you're not married.

Husband > boyfriend

Apologize to her for being a needy emotional leech when nothing personally traumatic is going on in your life.

The whole world is going through Covid. That's not an excuse.

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I did apologize and admit my mistake. I was not even that bad. I was just trying to paint the picture for you guys on this forum.

There's someone else.

No there isn’t. You guys are haters man

she's stringing you along. She doesn't want the drama of dumping you rn.

You're too much of a wimp. You don't even know if you have your own needs and desires, you're her toy

Are you going to write her that love letter?

We have some ideas in the Comments section. High quality content there.

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Are you going to write her that love letter?

We have some ideas in the Comments section. High quality content there.

to be fair, if we can’t help OP write a letter to bag a Scorpio Woman after all these years, then what are we even good for?

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My thoughts exactly.

Posted by Chazzy

She just texted me asking me if I was ok and apologizing for being silent and explaining That her schedule has not been ideal. She has another midterm tonight and she starts two more classes this week.

Try to filter through some of the negativity on here. Sometimes you'll find good advice if you do too. Some people are making good points, and being blunt about it, which doesn't come across well through text, especially when they don't know you, her, or your entire situation.

That being said, try not to ready too much into her contacting you. It's not a bad sign but it's not necessarily a great sign. If she didn't want you in her life she would have cut you free. Perhaps she's so overwhelmed that she simply needed to push you away. Seems she cares about you too, so she wants what's best for you and perhaps can't give you what you want, now or ever.

Try to match her communication. Let her come to you. You have spent a lot of time together. She will undoubtedly miss having you there as much as she can't have you there. She will turn to you when she needs you. You can be there for her. You care for her. That's OK.

What you need to do is keep both feet on the ground. She needs to wonder about you. She needs to worry that she might lose you.

It could be that she doesn't want a relationship with you in the future. She can still care for you. She can still miss you.

Stay the course, and continue to focus on yourself and keeping your feet on the ground.

I think she is very busy with midterms and overwhelmed plus her stressful job I will work on my self and not reach out until she reaches out.

Thanks for your advice.

If she doesn't, I'll marry you.

What should I say when my ex Scorpio texts me? Should I call her sweetie? Should I ignore her? This is what I txted her back:

“Hi it’s great to hear from you. I am well, thank you. I am hoping you are as well and that you will get off to a good start in your new classes. Good luck on your midterm. You are focused on ur studies and I think it’s amazing. I’m here to support you.”

Should I be less formal? Will this make her wonder?

Thanks in advance guys

Would u like us to guide u through the sex too

way too much ass kissing there. Do you really care about her midterm?

Posted by Chazzy

What should I say when my ex Scorpio texts me? Should I call her sweetie? Should I ignore her? This is what I txted her back:

“Hi it’s great to hear from you. I am well, thank you. I am hoping you are as well and that you will get off to a good start in your new classes. Good luck on your midterm. You are focused on ur studies and I think it’s amazing. I’m here to support you.”

Should I be less formal? Will this make her wonder?

Thanks in advance guys

please don't call anyone sweetie.

if she texts you and you want to respond then respond. keep it friendly. let the boss lady work.

and relax. focus on your own stuff.

FYI this was not an online relationship or long distance relationship. Yes she has tunnel vision. She thinks I’m not going to marry her because I am younger then her. I am not needy or petty. She told me to marry her within 6 month and that she would leave after 1 year if I didn’t. You make it sound like I am pathetic and I am not. I know I am secondary and I told her I would wait it. It’s not like I am going knocki Ng on her door unannounced.

I don’t want to be forgotten which is why I am reaching on this forum for help. I want to marry her and start a family with her. I am an asset to her because I am 32 and she is 47. I have youth and true love for her and she knows it.

Yes I was a bit dramatic during covid but she was already giving me the cold shoulder.

She is scared I leave her when she is old and I am 45... but that is not the case. I would give her my kidney for a transplant if I had to.

I will relax and focus on my life until she is ready to see me in person. I don’t want to be forgotten...

If she wanted to forget about me and never see me again she would have shipped me my clothesfrom her place like I asked her 3 weeks ago. She didn’t for a reason... she has a bad case of tunnel vision.

Because her whole life man wasted her time and rejected the idea of marrying her. At least that’s what she told me but I know she had been proposed too at least twice. She always said no. Her last boyfriend was with the her for 10 years and never married her. She said she will not be my girlfriend for 10 years.

We had great sex and good dynamics but the age difference bother her. The dynamics went south during covid bc I was smoking weed at my place while she was at her place but I didn’t tell her, so she didn’t know but it affected my behavior and made me sad and depressed more then anything during quarantine.

Covid is affecting everyone in different ways. Perhaps she really wants to focus on herself. Perhaps she's confused. Perhaps both.

Maybe she started falling for you more deeply than she wanted to and she's scared. She perhaps prepared herself that you were going to tire of her and leave, but you didn't.

You're not going to win her back by sending her letters are too much.

I think it could be a good sign that she didn't send your things, but try not to read into it too much.

The reality is, even if she is scared to be with you long-term because you will leave her, that is how she feels. That can't vanish by anything you do. She already knows you love her and want to be with her. Let her sort through things in her mind. She might also eventually give the chance for both of you to talk about it.

If it is the fear that is causing her to do this...it is hers to deal with...you might be able to help her if she wants it....

...but in the end, she will have to take a leap of faith...there is nothing guaranteed in love...anyone who enters into a commitment like marriage is taking a chance....

...we all know if couples who we thought were going to be together forever but end up getting divorced...

...it's a chance that everyone takes when they get married...she needs to be able to meet you with this commitment, and any smothering, like a letter, or a long text, etc... ...while not give her that time to think...she also needs time and clarity to miss you if she's going to miss you.

Ok.

Thank you bro

So going to see her in person for an eye to eye conversation is not a good idea either?

I have been putting it off to not pressure her And to give her time. But I would like to see her in person and show her I have changed. It would be a positive conversation and I would make her love to her again and that would help us reconnect for sure. I was thinking to go there Next weekend after work or after July 4th weekend should I refrain from doing that and keep on waiting? She would be in the middle of 4 classes. Classes last 7 weeks and I am starting my MBA aug 12th... I have others girls showing me interest trying to sweep me off my feet but i want to stay respectful and faithful in her absence although she broke up with me..

She has not asked to meet up yet. I asked her two weeks ago and she said she needed more time and did not want to feel pressured.,

I’m not thinking about it I am just saying

I don’t know my moon sign. Her moon sign is Virgo.

I would never say that to her

FDB

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Posted by bawlikestogomoo

If she doesn't, I'll marry you.

Baw is that you—??

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I am baw. ASL check

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If she doesn't, I'll marry you.

Baw is that you—??

I am baw. ASL check

Looooool

It’s me Twinks!!

How are you, dude?

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I'm scared of covid. Can you hold me 6ft away 8(

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If she doesn't, I'll marry you.

Baw is that you—??

I am baw. ASL check

Looooool

It’s me Twinks!!

How are you, dude?

I'm scared of covid. Can you hold me 6ft away 8(

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Oh thank you. I needed that 8)

Yes I have been transparent. She knows I wanted to marry her. She is the type to get married after 6 month. I am a Virgo and more practical and I wanted to wait like one year or 1.5 years .

Her masters end in a month on aug 15th.

We speak once every 3 weeks but she says she doesn’t know and she needs to figure out her next steps after her masters. Should I go see her on aug 16th?

Her masters end in a month on aug 15th.

We speak once every 3 weeks but she says she doesn’t know and she needs to figure out her next steps after her masters. Should I go see her on aug 16th?

hey simpy! I missed that thread! aha

I’m not a believer in ‘being too busy’ for a relationship. That’s an excuse people use to extract themselves from a situation they no longer wish to be in.

It’s when your stressed and have your hands full is when you should be leaning on your partner, not pushing them away. So no, I don’t buy it.

Life is busy. Point blank period.

I understand asking for a break. But she ended things with you. A break up holds some finality.

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Her masters end in a month on aug 15th.

We speak once every 3 weeks but she says she doesn’t know and she needs to figure out her next steps after her masters. Should I go see her on aug 16th?

let her initiate.