Sexual Deal Breakers (Page 2)

The biggest sexual deal breaker that I can think of is a lady asking for a threesome. I have a strict no third party requirement on any relationship of mine. If my girlfriend actually asks for a threesome, or asks to be open, or asks to be swingers - she gets removed from my life, no questions asked. As far as I'm concerned asking such a thing is a huge red flag.

Posted by DMV

Posted by PhoenixRising

Posted by Nicrobliz

Posted by David13
Most of the deal-breakers mentioned here... seem to have more to do with lack of chemical compatibility... which is a deal-breaker for me. It is something difficult to find, but when one finds it, sex becomes surreal and intoxicating. It is found in the first whiff of the perfume on her skin... some perfumes are unrecognizable on another... it is her pheromones coming through. With chemical compatibility her body odor is arousing... and the taste of her wet skin taunting. Every piece of her bidding to be seduced... to be inhaled... her entire body becomes the pleasure... the desire to be saturated by her... the drinking of her dew.... the insatiable hunger... hungering for more.

Doesn't anyone here know what the hell I'm talking about ??!!!

Completely and utterly! That's why many of the demands made by the posters on this thread would be deemed as deal breakers in themselves.

Sex is carnal and involves a lot of exertion (usually from the male) but some of you wouldn't tolerate sweating?!!! What fucking planet do you lot live on? The 50th grey moon in the Shade Galaxy?! As long as the body is relatively clean (and let's face it, no body can ever be 100% clean at any one point in time), what's the issue? Sweating is a natural bodily function and various factors will affect the possibility of any body odour (diet being one of them). When you meet the right person, such neuroses should not come into play. Fucking sort it out. Sheez!

All your points are valid, but I believe the distinction between sweating and excessive sweating was made. You know what the difference is. |Like the difference between a nice wet kiss and someone leaving a gallon of spit in your mouth.

yes. the shit is just gross. sweat dripping like rain droplets on my face is a turn off

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The wetter her long hair is, the more her face glistens with parted lips... all the better ! The right woman can sweat and drip all over me ! CHEMICAL COMPATIBILITY !!!

Posted by DMV

interesting, your sun and moon doesnt strike me as the submissive type. even how you wrote this post doesnt seem very submissive like. you wrote this as a BOSS chick.

I've noticed in several other threads that her description of her actions don't match her words ... as if she is attempting to make herself look amazing, and then failing to back it up with realness.

The first time is just about synchronization to me.

I'm too mutable. I love sex for sex sake.... I have no deal-breakers. I feel really good after sex. I'm more calm and productive at work.

I will wash you, bathe you, brush your teeth, shave you, wipe your sweat, etc. Strap on a dildo, use you finger, tongue, it's all good. I cum really easy. You'll think I'm in love.

Sun: Aries
Moon: Gemini
Mars Gemini

It is my ascendant that makes me resist... immorality. No, no, no... I can't.




25th Decan's list of placements are the same as my husband - nice.

Posted by David13
Ahhh... PhoenixRising... I just realized you are a Scorpio. All of what you have said here adds up now.

An ex of mine had a Scorpio father... the man drove me crazy !!! Going to her parents house was like visiting a hospital. If you ate cake at his house without a plate, for example, he required it to be eaten over the sink ! He had anti-bacterial soap anywhere that water could flow... he'd remind people to use it after eating said cake ! The guy had a rule for everything. I imagine he would be the founder of the full-body condom... if there really is a such a thing. Maybe he didn't need it though... apparently he went to the doctor about having some prostate trouble. The doctor asked him how often he was having sex ! His answer was 'once every month or two'. The doctor prescribed him to have sex 3 times a week. I'm sure he had rules in the bedroom too !

Lord have mercy. Scorpio, yes. Struggle with control issues--often, yes. Neurotic? No. I wonder, how are you equating this dads control issues with food/organization to a Scorpios overall and their sexual behaviour? A stretch me thinks. Yes, he sounds a little anal and for him, it seemed to show up in *his* bedroom behaviour. I can be quite concerned about the spread of germs as well, but have little to no restrictions in the bedroom. And *this* is why poor hygiene, poor health (sexual and physical) are deal breakers. I don't like restrictions when it comes to sex. I like to fully explore every inch, make you blush. So tell me, if you smell and taste like rotting garbage, how is that a turn on exactly? Is this chemical incompatibility or a indication that something isn't going too right inside and I should stay clear?

I was entertained by your story about the dad though .

Oh, and you will notice that I didn't actually list sweat as a deal breaker for me. I was engaging in some banter with DMV.

Posted by PhoenixRising

So tell me, if you smell and taste like rotting garbage, how is that a turn on exactly? Is this chemical incompatibility or a indication that something isn't going too right inside and I should stay clear?

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I think that I have not been clear here... maybe I didn't understand the direction that the thread has gone. I was not considering a LONG-term relationship... where the couple has reached a point of not being able to stand anything about the other anyway. MY impression of the original post is that it was about the possibility of having sex with someone for the first time, talking about it, only to discover that one should probably not have sex with this person in the first place... a deal-breaker having been put into play. So... with THAT in mind...

"If [someone] smell[s] and taste[s] like rotting garbage, how is that a turn on exactly?"
It's NOT. If upon a couple's first meeting, one should determine that the other 'smells like rotting garbage', I would hope that this would be enough to discourage any tasting of the one in question.

"Is this chemical incompatibility or an indication that something isn't going too right inside and [one] should stay clear?"
In either case, one should stay clear... something is not compatible chemically with this somebody. Pheromones that may not be compatible for one, might be completely agreable to another. Best to push him or her along and humor the prospect no further.

Posted by David13

Posted by DMV

Posted by PhoenixRising

Posted by Nicrobliz

Posted by David13
Most of the deal-breakers mentioned here... seem to have more to do with lack of chemical compatibility... which is a deal-breaker for me. It is something difficult to find, but when one finds it, sex becomes surreal and intoxicating. It is found in the first whiff of the perfume on her skin... some perfumes are unrecognizable on another... it is her pheromones coming through. With chemical compatibility her body odor is arousing... and the taste of her wet skin taunting. Every piece of her bidding to be seduced... to be inhaled... her entire body becomes the pleasure... the desire to be saturated by her... the drinking of her dew.... the insatiable hunger... hungering for more.

Doesn't anyone here know what the hell I'm talking about ??!!!

Completely and utterly! That's why many of the demands made by the posters on this thread would be deemed as deal breakers in themselves.

Sex is carnal and involves a lot of exertion (usually from the male) but some of you wouldn't tolerate sweating?!!! What fucking planet do you lot live on? The 50th grey moon in the Shade Galaxy?! As long as the body is relatively clean (and let's face it, no body can ever be 100% clean at any one point in time), what's the issue? Sweating is a natural bodily function and various factors will affect the possibility of any body odour (diet being one of them). When you meet the right person, such neuroses should not come into play. Fucking sort it out. Sheez!

All your points are valid, but I believe the distinction between sweating and excessive sweating was made. You know what the difference is. |Like the difference between a nice wet kiss and someone leaving a gallon of spit in your mouth.

yes. the shit is just gross. sweat dripping like rain droplets on my face is a turn off

The wetter her long hair is, the more her face glistens with parted lips... all the better ! The right woman can sweat and drip all over me ! CHEMICAL COMPATIBILITY !!!

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you make a good point David, the right man can sweat on me all day. i will cringe here and there.

Posted by msmarilynmanson
you dont suck my toes, you're out the door.

+1
-1

it all depends on whose doing the sucky sucky

Posted by Nicrobliz

Posted by David13
Most of the deal-breakers mentioned here... seem to have more to do with lack of chemical compatibility... which is a deal-breaker for me. It is something difficult to find, but when one finds it, sex becomes surreal and intoxicating. It is found in the first whiff of the perfume on her skin... some perfumes are unrecognizable on another... it is her pheromones coming through. With chemical compatibility her body odor is arousing... and the taste of her wet skin taunting. Every piece of her bidding to be seduced... to be inhaled... her entire body becomes the pleasure... the desire to be saturated by her... the drinking of her dew.... the insatiable hunger... hungering for more.

Doesn't anyone here know what the hell I'm talking about ??!!!

Completely and utterly! That's why many of the demands made by the posters on this thread would be deemed as deal breakers in themselves.

Sex is carnal and involves a lot of exertion (usually from the male) but some of you wouldn't tolerate sweating?!!! What fucking planet do you lot live on? The 50th grey moon in the Shade Galaxy?! As long as the body is relatively clean (and let's face it, no body can ever be 100% clean at any one point in time), what's the issue? Sweating is a natural bodily function and various factors will affect the possibility of any body odour (diet being one of them). When you meet the right person, such neuroses should not come into play. Fucking sort it out. Sheez!

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haha +1 to both of you

Posted by P-Angel

Posted by DMV

interesting, your sun and moon doesnt strike me as the submissive type. even how you wrote this post doesnt seem very submissive like. you wrote this as a BOSS chick.

I've noticed in several other threads that her description of her actions don't match her words ... as if she is attempting to make herself look amazing, and then failing to back it up with realness.

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Interestingly, my moon and sun is reversed with Jynjas, but anyway let me say Most people who meet me irl would tell you I am dominant/alpha. I am submissive in the bedroom. The fact that she writes LIKE A BOSS is actually telling of her desire for submission in the bedroom. Well, to me 🙂 Sine I relate.

as for attempting to make ourselves look amazing, Everyone should be doing that. It would seem a little odd to try and convince those around you that youre crap!

Deal Breakers

- Too forward/ overtly sexual, to soon.
- Not forward or overtly sexual enough after time
- I will NOT do anal and it makes me wonder if you're gay, if you really want to.
- Circumcision (I'm sorry, but it makes me sad to look at your dried out cut up wang and I just keep thinking about how something should have been done to prevent such an unnecessary mutilation being inflicted on infant you. it's a real buzzkill.
- Casual sex
- Effeminate voice
- Not funny (I'm serious, if you're not really clever, it's a deal breaker. Your lack of humour just dried me up)
- Shaved body (ew really?)
- A beard (ew don't touch me with that)
- Submissive (you, not me)
- Active in the bdsm scene as a dom (wtf, really? like this has to be your LIFE style ?? grow up)
- You want to call me names. I like to be dominated in bed and I feel like, if you need to call me names to feel like a man, you're probably actually a huge cunt. Yuck.
- Slut (keep your AIDS to yourself)
- Virgin/inexperienced and or under the age of 35


Sun: Cancer/leo cusp
Moon: Leo
Rising: Aquarius
Mars: Libra

ive read about mars in scorpio and from a few of the members here, the sign does indeed WANT to be subdued but it rarely occurs.

There is an Aries woman that Ive been dating and so far things are great. We get along and I like her alot. But Im really feeling like calling it off because of the sex. Its just not good enough for me.

Most guys would be happy to get it but thats not the case. I feel empty while doing the act with her. I get no response, other than her initial release then its just nothing. I contemplated faking it and stopping but couldn't pull it off. Im not sure how to approach her about what I like sexually, and I am afraid that its not gonna get better.

What should I do?

ditch her

Posted by DMV
ditch her

+1...easy. If you like her as a person then try to figure out if it's psychological.

Ive never really tried having "casual sex" with a woman. Its never really happened for me. I bet the opportunity is there and I am unaware of how to obtain it. I have only shared intimacy with someone that I was currently in a relationship with. Now, I dont see how having "casual sex" for just the plain act of having sex and getting your rocks off a problem at any means. I am sure that I could differentiate physical and emotional attachment when sex is involved. Maybe, I'll have to experiment with this idea to see if it works.

As far as the previous comments, Ive already made up my mind about her, just havent told her yet. Im sure she will be upset, but better now than months from now.

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Posted by Poisson
All that... and not once did I see "Must shower and put on deodorant daily"

To be perfectly frank, I don't mind if there's a bit of funk. But, I won't even consider being with a man unless I like his natural scent. If I do, though, it's actually a turn on if that scent is a little ...thick.

I'm chalking that up to all the earth in my chart, especially my Taurus rising.

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There it is ! Chemical Compatability !

Speaking from experience and also from my own requirements:

Low/dead libido
Limp dick (I mean limp all the damn time)
Bad hygiene (in general)
Having an attitude of "MeMeMeMe"
No sense of adventure

Prespiring, seriousely? C'mon ... if you're not breaking a sweat you're doing it wrong!

Posted by SweetLibra
I noticed a few men mention that casual sex was a deal breaker for them. What exactly is your idea of "casual sex"? Are you guys speaking about sex outside of a serious relationship/commitment or a one night stand? What's the definition of casual sex for you guys?

Can women answer this question as well?

Posted by PhoenixRising

Posted by SweetLibra
I noticed a few men mention that casual sex was a deal breaker for them. What exactly is your idea of "casual sex"? Are you guys speaking about sex outside of a serious relationship/commitment or a one night stand? What's the definition of casual sex for you guys?

Can women answer this question as well?

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For me it is more of a one night stand or having three-some and orgies all the time... even once can make me look at you differently. I dunno... maybe that is the Taurus moon and venus in me.

Posted by Poisson
All that... and not once did I see "Must shower and put on deodorant daily"

Lmao!!

Posted by Jynja
Which is why you can only get me if you can top me. I only submit to a bigger BOSS.

Hahah! Me Too!!! I agree with all that you posted and Ninjmu as well... must be our Leo Suns!

Leo Sun, Moon AND Venus!