Will you leave quietly or confront them about it?

if you had irrefutable evidence that someone is cheating on you (this has been continuously going on for years unbeknownst to you until only recently), will you just leave quietly/disappear/ghost from the cheater's life or will you confront the cheater about it? and does the latter choice mean that you're going to try to still make it work? what will the latter change anyway?

what's your venus and mars?

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if you had irrefutable evidence that someone is cheating on you (this has been continuously going on for years unbeknownst to you until only recently), will you just leave quietly/disappear/ghost from the cheater's life or will you confront the cheater about it? and does the latter choice mean that you're going to try to still make it work? what will the latter change anyway?

what's your venus and mars?

Leave quietly

*Whisper*

Venus Aquarius

Mars Gemini

Posted by ClairDeLune

How long were you with this person and is it worth your energy for the drama?

no this did not happen for real

but if it did, what would you do?

Posted by VenusAquarius

Posted by virgoOPPP

if you had irrefutable evidence that someone is cheating on you (this has been continuously going on for years unbeknownst to you until only recently), will you just leave quietly/disappear/ghost from the cheater's life or will you confront the cheater about it? and does the latter choice mean that you're going to try to still make it work? what will the latter change anyway?

what's your venus and mars?

Leave quietly

*Whisper*

Venus Aquarius

Mars Gemini

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*whispers back

"whyyy?"

only reason for me to do this is coz of my ego and i think it's a waste of time to confront someone when you're absolutely sure

Leo venus, Libra mars

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Posted by virgoOPPP

if you had irrefutable evidence that someone is cheating on you (this has been continuously going on for years unbeknownst to you until only recently), will you just leave quietly/disappear/ghost from the cheater's life or will you confront the cheater about it? and does the latter choice mean that you're going to try to still make it work? what will the latter change anyway?

what's your venus and mars?

No. I have been in the position where i thought a guy was or at least interested in someone else. He was with someone and when he was he was refusing to answer his phone in front of her when i rang.

I didnt say why but i just broke it off. They were an item officially like a week later after I did.

They are only just going to give you arguments as to why you are wrong or crazy. So why engage?

I had no evidence i just knew ....and i knew what type of girl SHE was. And i was right.

Obviously if you are with someone a week later and everyone knows after you break up with someone you have been together with for 4 months then there was something.

I just refuse to acknowledge him in my head now.

Thing is ...she cheated on him....and with his best friend....then married his best friend ..then cheated on him and divorced him.

I knew she was a psycho. Very unbalanced person.

I am not going to have some crazy argument where someone gaslights me. Nor do i want to make someone feel really guilty or embarrassed about a mistake. Or give them the satisfaction of them knowing i know.

So that is what i did. If i had confronted him ....he would deny it ..i had already said i felt he was taking her side and paying her too much attention ....he denied it. So he started to go out with her alone without the rest of his friends ....and wouldn't answer the phone when he was with her. She sent me and my friend really weird texts.

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wow he's a dumbass

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if you had irrefutable evidence that someone is cheating on you (this has been continuously going on for years unbeknownst to you until only recently), will you just leave quietly/disappear/ghost from the cheater's life or will you confront the cheater about it? and does the latter choice mean that you're going to try to still make it work? what will the latter change anyway?

what's your venus and mars?

Leave quietly

*Whisper*

Venus Aquarius

Mars Gemini

*whispers back

"whyyy?"

only reason for me to do this is coz of my ego and i think it's a waste of time to confront someone when you're absolutely sure

Leo venus, Libra mars

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I don't know if l've ever been cheated on so... but, I did have a love affair where I saw him out with his ex while supposedly wanting so badly to be with me. I kept him as a lover but refused every attempt at commitment for over a year. I never said anything and made sure he saw me that night by laughing outloud as ex say's "why are we leaving so fast. Wait up." (it was 4-6 months in). He didn't say nothin and I didn't either. I mean, we weren't

"together" so.

But, we were very intimate emotionally, mentally, and very much physically. He continued to be in love with me do stuff for me... he jus got pussy whipped at the end. He eventually started dating others and me too. But, in between relationships, he'd called all raspy begging for time together and he didn't care if either of us were in relationships or not. Plus, my daddy couldn't stand his ass after we ran a pound on him in spades, Lol.

I agree with ego I guess. I never had to fight for love. Plus, I don't have a jealous bone in my body at all. I like romance more than relationships anyway.

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Posted by virgoOPPP

if you had irrefutable evidence that someone is cheating on you (this has been continuously going on for years unbeknownst to you until only recently), will you just leave quietly/disappear/ghost from the cheater's life or will you confront the cheater about it? and does the latter choice mean that you're going to try to still make it work? what will the latter change anyway?

what's your venus and mars?

Leave quietly

*Whisper*

Venus Aquarius

Mars Gemini

*whispers back

"whyyy?"

only reason for me to do this is coz of my ego and i think it's a waste of time to confront someone when you're absolutely sure

Leo venus, Libra mars

I don't know if l've ever been cheated on so... but, I did have a love affair where I saw him out with his ex while supposedly wanting so badly to be with me. I kept him as a lover but refused every attempt at commitment for over a year. I never said anything and made sure he saw me that night by laughing outloud as ex say's "why are we leaving so fast. Wait up." (it was 4-6 months in). He didn't say nothin and I didn't either. I mean, we weren't

"together" so.

But, we were very intimate emotionally, mentally, and very much physically. He continued to be in love with me do stuff for me... he jus got pussy whipped at the end. He eventually started dating others and me too. But, in between relationships, he'd called all raspy begging for time together and he didn't care if either of us were in relationships or not. Plus, my daddy couldn't stand his ass after we ran a pound on him in spades, Lol.

I agree with ego I guess. I never had to fight for love. Plus, I don't have a jealous bone in my body at all. I like romance more than relationships anyway.

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i have moon square venus as you know

can be jealous but much too in my ego

and yes romance > relationship

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Posted by virgoOPPP

if you had irrefutable evidence that someone is cheating on you (this has been continuously going on for years unbeknownst to you until only recently), will you just leave quietly/disappear/ghost from the cheater's life or will you confront the cheater about it? and does the latter choice mean that you're going to try to still make it work? what will the latter change anyway?

what's your venus and mars?

Leave quietly

*Whisper*

Venus Aquarius

Mars Gemini

*whispers back

"whyyy?"

only reason for me to do this is coz of my ego and i think it's a waste of time to confront someone when you're absolutely sure

Leo venus, Libra mars

I don't know if l've ever been cheated on so... but, I did have a love affair where I saw him out with his ex while supposedly wanting so badly to be with me. I kept him as a lover but refused every attempt at commitment for over a year. I never said anything and made sure he saw me that night by laughing outloud as ex say's "why are we leaving so fast. Wait up." (it was 4-6 months in). He didn't say nothin and I didn't either. I mean, we weren't

"together" so.

But, we were very intimate emotionally, mentally, and very much physically. He continued to be in love with me do stuff for me... he jus got pussy whipped at the end. He eventually started dating others and me too. But, in between relationships, he'd called all raspy begging for time together and he didn't care if either of us were in relationships or not. Plus, my daddy couldn't stand his ass after we ran a pound on him in spades, Lol.

I agree with ego I guess. I never had to fight for love. Plus, I don't have a jealous bone in my body at all. I like romance more than relationships anyway.

i have moon square venus as you know

can be jealous but much too in my ego

and yes romance > relationship

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As he kept making plays for a relationship, to include living together and me not having to pay bills, I got to know him very deeply and ultimately he wanted more than I could offer. I kept that to myself to but.... but, I loved the shit outta his romance. Our first time together was a threesome like none other. Hawt.

I have many trines to my Venus including moon. I'm a bit compersious. The idea of my mate fucking someone else turns me on but, I don't tell nobody. Scared. I jus keep it to myself. When I let it leak, it hurts feelings. Like asking alot sex questions about there lovers and touching myself, lol. Plus, I'm bi.

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How long were you with this person and is it worth your energy for the drama?

no this did not happen for real

but if it did, what would you do?

If it were a long term relationship I had full faith in, my scorp moon will be stinging the life out of him. I had an ex cheated on me and I threw every rage I had while my virgo in mars was listing everything I kept under the rug to keep peace. It was brutal and I didnt stop until he actually got on his knees and begged for forgiveness. It was my longest relationship, so I had very very very high hopes.

If it were a short fling, just throw double birdies and leave.

Virgo in Mars and Venus

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This is very true for Virgo Venus and Mars

I would confront (happened to me, eventhough if cheating was by words/flirting, if it hurt me bad, they see my rage)

Aries Venus

Pisces Mars

Posted by virgoOPPP

if you had irrefutable evidence that someone is cheating on you (this has been continuously going on for years unbeknownst to you until only recently), will you just leave quietly/disappear/ghost from the cheater's life or will you confront the cheater about it? and does the latter choice mean that you're going to try to still make it work? what will the latter change anyway?

what's your venus and mars?

I don’t think I would last a second with my mouth shut 😂

Aries Venus, Taurus Mars

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Posted by ClairDeLune

How long were you with this person and is it worth your energy for the drama?

no this did not happen for real

but if it did, what would you do?

If it were a long term relationship I had full faith in, my scorp moon will be stinging the life out of him. I had an ex cheated on me and I threw every rage I had while my virgo in mars was listing everything I kept under the rug to keep peace. It was brutal and I didnt stop until he actually got on his knees and begged for forgiveness. It was my longest relationship, so I had very very very high hopes.

If it were a short fling, just throw double birdies and leave.

Virgo in Mars and Venus

This is very true for Virgo Venus and Mars

Are you also a virgo venus and Mars?

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no my ex leo bf is

Venus Scorpio

Mars Taurus

Rising Aries

Confront....big time, probably with a 🔪

😆

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Posted by virgoOPPP

Posted by ClairDeLune

How long were you with this person and is it worth your energy for the drama?

no this did not happen for real

but if it did, what would you do?

If it were a long term relationship I had full faith in, my scorp moon will be stinging the life out of him. I had an ex cheated on me and I threw every rage I had while my virgo in mars was listing everything I kept under the rug to keep peace. It was brutal and I didnt stop until he actually got on his knees and begged for forgiveness. It was my longest relationship, so I had very very very high hopes.

If it were a short fling, just throw double birdies and leave.

Virgo in Mars and Venus

This is very true for Virgo Venus and Mars

Are you also a virgo venus and Mars?

no my ex leo bf is

Lol did you suffer that rage?

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yes I did. He was very snappy and eventhough we had that argument over the phone, I felt he was pointing his finger in my face lol

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Posted by ClairDeLune

How long were you with this person and is it worth your energy for the drama?

no this did not happen for real

but if it did, what would you do?

If it were a long term relationship I had full faith in, my scorp moon will be stinging the life out of him. I had an ex cheated on me and I threw every rage I had while my virgo in mars was listing everything I kept under the rug to keep peace. It was brutal and I didnt stop until he actually got on his knees and begged for forgiveness. It was my longest relationship, so I had very very very high hopes.

If it were a short fling, just throw double birdies and leave.

Virgo in Mars and Venus

This is very true for Virgo Venus and Mars

Are you also a virgo venus and Mars?

no my ex leo bf is

Lol did you suffer that rage?

yes I did. He was very snappy and eventhough we had that argument over the phone, I felt he was pointing his finger in my face lol

As a Virgo Mars and Venus, I apologize on his behalf. I *try* to hold off on that because I hate how accusational it feels, I only really let it out when I'm betrayed to that extent or if I'm cornered. What's his sun sign if you dont mind my asking?

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aw this is nice of you.. he still checks on me every few months, you got good hearts.

Leo sun, Cancer ASC

State my piece in a very matter-of-fact tone, sans emotional exchanges of any sort. It wouldn’t be a discussion and a feedback/response wouldn’t be wanted, needed, or allowed.

I would state the logistics/financial details of the arrangement I’ve planned post-dissolution...and bid them farewell.

Traumatic pasts need to stop being used as crutches for being shitty people. We all have choices. We all have free will. And this is coming from someone with a very, very traumatic childhood and background.

Mars and Venus: Pisces

It depends on how long we were a thing. Majority of the time...I'm gonna confront. They ain't getting away with shit that easily.

I would confront then leave. I don’t do take backs. And it secretly would give me immense pleasure for them to think of me over the years because I was a pretty solid, loyal person to them.

I love being cold and blunt telling someone no that I would never get back with them. Lol. I don’t know why they don’t believe me, but they still try. 😁

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I would confront then leave. I don’t do take backs. And it secretly would give me immense pleasure for them to think of me over the years because I was a pretty solid, loyal person to them.

I love being cold and blunt telling someone no that I would never get back with them. Lol. I don’t know why they don’t believe me, but they still try. 😁

This...and i notice they always crawl back begging for your forgiveness, Or years later phone you and say they were "stupid and letting you go was the biggest mistake of their lives"

Haha, i eat that shit up...

I always get the last laugh.

I always assumed that I would have been confrontational in a situation like that. But when it happened to me in my 5-year relationship with my ex, I quietly packed my things up and just left. What he phoned and questioned where I went... I simply said to him "you cheated". Of course he denied it, and in actuality he hadn't cheated yet. But he was talking to someone . Not even a month later they were dating.

Posted by peachy06

Confront then leave.

With or without weapons? 😈