A question for all men

Why do men get rude and nasty to put women off and push them away, rather than being straight up about not wanting to stay together/continue to see each other?

Posted by Huldra
There are many different men out there imo

You're right. What I meant was why do *SOME men

Posted by magma
Why don't SOME women get their answers from the men personally involved?

Maybe because they don't want to give an answer? Maybe that's why they use such pathetic tactics? Hence why the post was made.

Posted by RainDancer

Posted by magma
Why don't SOME women get their answers from the men personally involved?

Fair play lol

I'd never want an answer from someone who was that disrespectful. Just.... Poof!

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Precisely. You wouldn't stand around trying to coax anything out of them you would want to move along. This topic was made so that men could give their views and opinions and some insight.

Posted by RainDancer
I'd guess it's a lack of experience/education/humility/class etc.

When a guy even remotely sends this vibe off, I vanish.

You wanted info from men.. And here I am, female trying to help and I'm sorry.

No don't apologise. Views/opinions from both women and men are encouraged

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Posted by LibWman

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Posted by magma
Why don't SOME women get their answers from the men personally involved?

Fair play lol

I'd never want an answer from someone who was that disrespectful. Just.... Poof!

Precisely. You wouldn't stand around trying to coax anything out of them you would want to move along. This topic was made so that men could give their views and opinions and some insight.

Understood. I didnt mean to be disrespectful. I'll stop now.

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No that comment was for magma. I quoted you so that made it confusing

Posted by RainDancer
🙂 then this is truly my last. Just to be sure it shows up on the main feed for you 😉

I wasn't responding to you I was responding to magma about men giving their opinions! Man or woman can post on here everyone is welcome.

Posted by LibWman
Why do men get rude and nasty to put women off and push them away, rather than being straight up about not wanting to stay together/continue to see each other?

That's not a guy thing, that's a dickhead thing

Posted by mysteriousTaurus

Posted by LibWman
Why do men get rude and nasty to put women off and push them away, rather than being straight up about not wanting to stay together/continue to see each other?

That's not a guy thing, that's a dickhead thing

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I don't know why they do it though. What is the psychology or sense behind it? It just makes a situation so much worse when it doesn't have to be that way. Definitely a dickhead thing.

Posted by KsamCancer

Posted by magma
Why don't SOME women get their answers from the men personally involved?

God dam you deserve an award for this

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Oh because men in that frame of mind or displaying that kind of behaviour are willing to reason or give an honest answer to why they're behaving like absolute fucking idiots? The whole POINT is that they aren't willing to be give a straight answer and aren't willing to be straightforward so why the fuck would it help to ask why they are being idiots about it in the first instance? Honestly you're such a fucking troll. Blocked.

Posted by LibWman

Posted by mysteriousTaurus

Posted by LibWman
Why do men get rude and nasty to put women off and push them away, rather than being straight up about not wanting to stay together/continue to see each other?

That's not a guy thing, that's a dickhead thing

I don't know why they do it though. What is the psychology or sense behind it? It just makes a situation so much worse when it doesn't have to be that way. Definitely a dickhead thing.

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who does it get much worse for? not for them. they write you off and if you come at them, they'll call you crazy and laugh about it. it's all good for them.

the thing is, most men tell you in a myriad of ways that they are not interested. it's just many women either don't see it or choose not to acknowledge it.

Posted by jeane

Posted by LibWman

Posted by mysteriousTaurus

Posted by LibWman
Why do men get rude and nasty to put women off and push them away, rather than being straight up about not wanting to stay together/continue to see each other?

That's not a guy thing, that's a dickhead thing

I don't know why they do it though. What is the psychology or sense behind it? It just makes a situation so much worse when it doesn't have to be that way. Definitely a dickhead thing.

who does it get much worse for? not for them. they write you off and if you come at them, they'll call you crazy and laugh about it. it's all good for them.

the thing is, most men tell you in a myriad of ways that they are not interested. it's just many women either don't see it or choose not to acknowledge it.

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Why should women have to actively seek meaning behind subtleties? Why can a man not be straight forward and have to go about it in a round about way? Eg. A woman might have been with her partner for a long time and when he starts acting up or sending off 'signals' she won't know whether it's just a rough patch in the relationship or whether he is actually pushing her away so that she can break up with HIM etc etc. It's just pathetic and immature. And yes it does make it worse I've seen it backfire a few times on men who have been so nasty to the woman they wanted to break up with that they cross a boundary. Then after they break up they regret their actions and want to make amends but there is absolutely no going back and the relationship can no longer be repaired because they chose to behave the way they did and not handle themselves and the situation properly.