HELP !!!

I met this guy on a dating site... we just zinged from day 1. i knew he was the one for me even before i could get his name. i kept giving him subtle hints and he would keep coxing me to say more. finally i started sharing my plans of have a family and babies and life in general. a few days back he cornered me into confessing...

he says he likes me too.. cos he finds that connect as well, but does not want to settle down. he started getting rude and said its for my own good that i stay away from him. i tried to reason with him to a point but i was not able to beg him and finally agreed to part ways.

he is a cancer born on 1st july. i am a leo-virgo cusp born on 22 aug.

from the time iv said goodbye to him.. iv become a total wreck. im not able to concentrate on work, im not able to eat or sleep. its killing me and i have no clue on what to do.

Hm whats a zinged from day 1?

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
Hm whats a zinged from day 1?

i dont know how to explain that, but we just knew what the other person would reply with. its a different feeling where u just know the other person so well when u have just met each other

Posted by richierich
I met this guy on a dating site... we just zinged from day 1. i knew he was the one for me even before i could get his name. i kept giving him subtle hints and he would keep coxing me to say more. finally i started sharing my plans of have a family and babies and life in general. a few days back he cornered me into confessing...

he says he likes me too.. cos he finds that connect as well, but does not want to settle down. he started getting rude and said its for my own good that i stay away from him. i tried to reason with him to a point but i was not able to beg him and finally agreed to part ways.

he is a cancer born on 1st july. i am a leo-virgo cusp born on 22 aug.

from the time iv said goodbye to him.. iv become a total wreck. im not able to concentrate on work, im not able to eat or sleep. its killing me and i have no clue on what to do.

Ehh, forget him. He was only looking for a hook up.

Don't put so much emotion and energy into you've never even met.

He might be a serial killer and you want him why? In your life. You don't even know him like that. You have to be careful out there and online.

i dont know. maybe all of you are right. im being a fool in wanting him so much.

but i just dont understand why would he go to this length of getting me to confess and then back off

Posted by MiZLeo
Dating rule #1: Don't discuss wanting to get married and have kids on the first date, especially if you haven't even met b4. He probably thinks your desperate now.

no.. its not that i was acting a despo there... he kept asking on what my future plans are and what do i look forward to ....

Did you ever even actually meet him? You cannot, I repeat CANNOT actually believe you have real feelings toward someone after only seeing their pictures or reading a couple sentences about someone. What reality are people living in? I mean no offense, you must be quite young, but don't trick yourself into thinking you know someone from such a short time talking.

Posted by ashley1734
Did you ever even actually meet him? You cannot, I repeat CANNOT actually believe you have real feelings toward someone after only seeing their pictures or reading a couple sentences about someone. What reality are people living in? I mean no offense, you must be quite young, but don't trick yourself into thinking you know someone from such a short time talking.

hmmm... maybe im being a fool to have believed he was the one. i have never met him. we live in different cities. i was planning to move so that we could be closer

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Posted by ashley1734
Did you ever even actually meet him? You cannot, I repeat CANNOT actually believe you have real feelings toward someone after only seeing their pictures or reading a couple sentences about someone. What reality are people living in? I mean no offense, you must be quite young, but don't trick yourself into thinking you know someone from such a short time talking.

hmmm... maybe im being a fool to have believed he was the one. i have never met him. we live in different cities. i was planning to move so that we could be closer

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"Fool" seems a bit harsh, maybe just naive.

You just have some growing up to do, that's all. If you continue doing online dating, keep your expectations grounded and realistic before you meet the person (and even once you do), that way there will not be such a high fall from grace if you end up disappointed. It takes years to truly get to know someone, remember that.

I agree with others, let it go.

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Posted by ashley1734
Did you ever even actually meet him? You cannot, I repeat CANNOT actually believe you have real feelings toward someone after only seeing their pictures or reading a couple sentences about someone. What reality are people living in? I mean no offense, you must be quite young, but don't trick yourself into thinking you know someone from such a short time talking.

hmmm... maybe im being a fool to have believed he was the one. i have never met him. we live in different cities. i was planning to move so that we could be closer

You haven't even met the guy and you were planning on moving closer to be with him??

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😢 yes

he just seamed to be the one. the first few weeks we were inseparable. we could not get enough of each other. i would know what he means even before he would say it and he would just know whats going on at my end with just a hello from my side.

i am a die hard romantic at heart, so i dont debate that maybe i was being taken for a ride. but at that time, it was just perfect.

Posted by kalin
Cancer guys are dangerous. They flirt, give you butterflies, then back off. Watch out for them next time.

u r so right. he just pushed me and cornered me into accepting and confessing and then backed off saying its for my own good. im too sweet and honest and loving to be with someone like him

Oh i wish all this were true for me too. That he'd come back telling me how much he missed me

Posted by richierich
i dont know. maybe all of you are right. im being a fool in wanting him so much.

but i just dont understand why would he go to this length of getting me to confess and then back off

He was trying to find out if you were looking for a hook up or a real relationship. He got his answer and since he was only looking for a hookup, he's outta there before things get messy.

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Posted by ashley1734
Did you ever even actually meet him? You cannot, I repeat CANNOT actually believe you have real feelings toward someone after only seeing their pictures or reading a couple sentences about someone. What reality are people living in? I mean no offense, you must be quite young, but don't trick yourself into thinking you know someone from such a short time talking.

hmmm... maybe im being a fool to have believed he was the one. i have never met him. we live in different cities. i was planning to move so that we could be closer

You haven't even met the guy and you were planning on moving closer to be with him??

😢 yes

he just seamed to be the one. the first few weeks we were inseparable. we could not get enough of each other. i would know what he means even before he would say it and he would just know whats going on at my end with just a hello from my side.

i am a die hard romantic at heart, so i dont debate that maybe i was being taken for a ride. but at that time, it was just perfect.

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I'm confused. How can you be inseparable when you've not even met in real life?

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Posted by kalin
Cancer guys are dangerous. They flirt, give you butterflies, then back off. Watch out for them next time.

u r so right. he just pushed me and cornered me into accepting and confessing and then backed off saying its for my own good. im too sweet and honest and loving to be with someone like him

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When a guy tells you that believe him!!! He's a cad and he knows he's a cad.

And there's nothing wrong with being sweet and honest and loving. I wish more people were like you.

it sounds like what you are infatuated with (and now grieving over) is the loss of the fantasy. it's not about him. it's what he represented. you thought you found your one. you say you are romantic. you speak like a romantic. what you found in him was the projection of the hallmark cards and the chic flicks you've seen in your life.

don't believe them. they lead you down the wrong path and have you chasing an illusion.

When meeting someone online make sure they are only an hour away..

Make sure you both have your own money and vehicle and make sure the picture matches with the person. And always make sure they are single..Lol

I believe I have experienced this. Actually I have in a few cases.. different guys had major deal breakers. Bad ones and I still kept an open mind and went out only thing there was I was fixed on not going any further ever, and when your gut says time to go. Go. ... So is why I am warning you alittle..

How old are you?

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
How old are you?

Im 32. Both of us have stable careers and doing well. He is a doctor and so am i. The thing is that although its true iv not met him yet, but there was a connect that i felt with him.

But as of now iv taken the advice given by all of you and iv stopped thing about him and keeping myself busy with work.

Cool just go with the flow and take care of yourself . Anyways there's plenty of other guys who aren't wishy washy and are consistent ready for whatever you need.