Changing your last name after marriage

I’m traditional and want the same last name as my kids, so I’m going to take my husband’s name (if I ever get around to it)

What are your thoughts on this?

Is it important to you?

Would you hyphenate ?

I was reading this article on wedding wire that suggested making a new last name alltogether which I think is just some new age bullshit ...,

https://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-ideas/create-new-last-name-marriage

But—

I'm too old to bother with that. But even when I thought I might get married (after having an established career), I decided I wouldn't do it. I have a recognizable last name and that's how people (in business) know me.

I have kept my married name even though we are living apart....for our son, and because it is a really cool name....

I am going to keep mine as my middle name I think and take his as my last

So I don’t have to drop mine completely but I can use his - his is shorter to sign anyway

I shared the article with him about making a new name and he had less than mature suggestions lol

I would drop Fay in a heartbeat if I were you

Posted by Caramel_Princess
NOPE. I’m keeping my name forever. I’m so proud of my father and who he was as a man and I’ve too much pride to take someone else’s name.

I thought I would take my ex’s name until it was time and I couldn’t do it. So glad I didn’t. It’s 2018, he doesn’t need to brand you.

I’m mars in Scorp - I wouldn’t mind the brand tbh 🤷🏼‍♀️😆

Posted by AfternoonDelights22
I would drop Fay in a heartbeat if I were you

I would drop that attitude if I were you

I always wanted Armstrong as my surname.

I kept my last name when I was married.

I didn't want to be a "Fritts" lol

I would not like to have a different surname to our son...

Posted by AerialView
I always wanted Armstrong as my surname.

So you meet a girl with that name you’re marrying her and taking her name ?

Posted by MyStarsShine
I would not like to have a different surname to our son...

I personally feel the same

I know there are plenty of kids who don’t have the same last name as their mom and that’s fine - not judging either way - I just personally want the same last name

Idk why it matters to me it just does

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Posted by nikkistar
I kept my last name when I was married.

I didn't want to be a "Fritts" lol

Nikki Fritts

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Lmao that’s hilarious but I think it would be cute!!!

I can’t wait to take his last name. I wouldn’t even think of keeping mine

I didn't change my name legally, but socially, I assumed it as an alias, never had a problem with that. My sister did the same - we couldnt change our names.... the great state of Texas still has our adoptions pending 35 years later... hahaha guessing they'll never get around to finalizing our records.

I took his last name. And I could’ve changed it back and really wanted to when we got divorced. My maiden name, my Dad’s side of my family ends with him. Or my sister if she never marries or keeps her last name of she does. That side of my family is really small.

But I decided to keep it because I don’t want a different last name than my kiddos.

Posted by tiziani
I would take the new age bs option myself.

Not doing a "blend" of the two old names or whatever it is, but just take a new name entirely.

You would........



Let’s hear some names

Would you do a celeb matchup like Brangelina ?

Posted by Katana
I like the hyphenated option.

It allows you to keep a part of your identity and I like the idea that children take on both parent's last names and not just one parent.

I don’t want to hyphenate only because I don’t want to sign all that

ain’t nobody got time for that lol

I like it and want to take his last name, essentially I am leaving one family (my fathers name) to start my own family (in his name) I am not a raging feminist though so it bothers me not at all.

My Cap dad didn't want me to change my last name. It has alot of heritage and history associated with it. Our name comes from the plantation of our ancestors, a plantation that still exists and is maintained by a historic society. My family received lots of land and notoriety as descendents.

He was also very proud of me and wanted me to carry on his name for posterity.

I left my name alone for a while, then I hyphenated, then I took my husband's name. Our bound is stronger than history.

Posted by LibraMudra
I was so exhausted from immigration paper work, we took a break from more paperwork lol

And I'm so glad I did. I'd be dying as Mrs. Telford right now.

He’s a giant turd

Is my father's line or my husband's anyways so in that sense idgaf, but I wouldn't do more paperwork convinced by the romantic idea of passing from one man's hand to another's, I'm not a bag of chips.

I'd choose new age bullshit and create something that is ours, or make a contest with a venusian jury so that the most beautiful surname wins.

I got married and didn't take his last name. Both my parents died and I wanted to keep my last name. He understood.

Honestly Bri do what you want.

Feminism is about women having the right to make their own choices. And if your choice is to take his last name then god bless.

Aquanoob is married ?

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Posted by Katana
I like the hyphenated option.

It allows you to keep a part of your identity and I like the idea that children take on both parent's last names and not just one parent.

I don’t want to hyphenate only because I don’t want to sign all that

ain’t nobody got time for that lol

Hyphenated is a royal pain in the ass...I've not legally changed my name back because I'm lazy....

But my drivers license, bank accounts and credit cards all have something different because fucking idiots couldn't fit the whole name and initialed my first and middle names differently.

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That’s what I’ve been told

And I’ve been urged not to just add his name onto the end of mine either because if you don’t sign both names everytime it becomes aliases

Mom and I both moved to another state and married guys with the same last name. Even after I divorced, people that met us later in life, just thought I was my stepdad’s biological kid.

When I remarried, I took the Geordie’s last name, since the Tall One still had our family name through my mom and stepdad. She wouldn’t feel left out. I’ve kept that surname, partially because of the Shorty and partially because it’s what a lot of friends call me, instead of my first name.

Not sure what I’d do if Virgo and I ever tied the knot. He’s more traditional than he lets on, but I’d definitely hafta have a heart to heart with the Shorty before I made a decision.